Answered by Shaykh Faraz Rabbani
Question : Looking at one’s spouse
Answer : Each spouse can look at the whole body of their spouse, without any dislike. However, it is inferred from the sunna that it is superior to avoid looking at the other’s private parts directly. It is related by Sayyida A’isha (Allah be pleased with her) that she never looked at the private area of the Prophet (Allah bless him and give him peace), nor he at her’s. This is an expression of modesty, and not an emphasized sunna. A number of Companions themselves mentioned that there is nothing “wrong” with such looking.
And Allah alone gives success.