Swearing by Allah

Answered by Shaykh Faraz Rabbani

Question : Is there any praise whatsoever if one swears by Allah and it’s a lie but there is room for interpretation where it could be true, so that two (or more parties) can mend their relationship?

Does one have to do kaffarah?

Answer : In generally, the sunna is to avoid swearing by Allah–as it is a serious matter–unless there is good reason or benefit in doing so.

This is especially true when the matter isn’t clearly true.

Thus, when mending relations, one should avoid swearing on “dubious words” unless there is clear likely benefit–and one firmly intended a true, plausible meaning.

And Allah alone gives success.

Faraz Rabbani

Talking About Sins of Others

Answered by Shaykh Faraz Rabbani

Question : Talking about sins to other

Answer : About talking about ones sins to other: if someone says to someone that “I too did this before but it is not the right thing to do, so please be careful” will that be considered disclosing ones sins? cause the aim is to prevent the other from doing the same.

What if someone says that “I didnt wear hijab before” to a non-muslim?

I hope you’re doing well, insha’Allah.

The principle is that one doesn’t talk about one’s sins–past or present–unless there is a genuine reason or specific benefit in doing so, that cannot otherwise be reasonably fulfilled.

When one does mention a sin, for such reason, it would be considered akin to a necessity. The principles of necessity are that:
(1) Necessity can dictate exceptions
(2) Exceptions are limited to the extent of necessity–and conditioned by the Sacred Law, not whim.

And Allah alone gives success.

Faraz Rabbani.

What Is the Definition of a Promise?

Answered by Shaykh Faraz Rabbani

Question : What is the definition of a promise? Does one have to say the word promise for it to be one?

Answer : A promise is an firm affirmation or commitment to do something. The “firmness” can be explictly stated, or understood by context or custom.

The word “promise” doesn’t need to be used for something to be considered a promise.

And Allah alone gives success.

Faraz Rabbani.

Dealing With In-Laws

Answered by Shaykh Faraz Rabbani

Question : Can you give some advice on developing good social relationships with in laws specially when they ( seem to) come with a lot cultural baggage?

Answer : The key is being expressive in one’s husn al-khuluq (excellence of conduct and character), upholding respect and appreciation, and being careful not to correct without consideration of consequence–while upholding what is right and not compromising in respect to one’s own practice in ways impermissible or blameworthy. When unsure, consult. When upset, be silent. When annoyed, change topic.

And Allah alone gives success.

Faraz Rabbani

Temperance

Answered by Shaykh Faraz Rabbani

Question : You mentioned the application of “temperance’ when dealing with people who may become very close and those who are disliked. In regards to the former would temperance be recommended in relationsips such husband and wife too?

Answer : The temperance that is necessary in all relationships is that one:

(1) Not get attached to them in a manner that causes one to do, seek, or approve of something disliked or prohibited by Allah Most High;

(2) Be able to deal with their loss or their turning away from one without falling into despair, depression, or loss of one’s spiritual, emotional, or life dignity.

And Allah alone gives success.

Faraz Rabbani

Gender Interaction

Answered by Shaykh Faraz Rabbani

Question : What does business like mean when one interacts with non marhams of the other gender? Does it mean that one keeps a serious face ( and does not smile)? Is it improper if one’s disposition is to use (modest subtle) humour even in business-like interactions?

Where is the balance in this?

Answer : It is helpful in interaction with the opposite sex to distinguish between social courtesy and unnecessary socializing. The former, when there is need and benefit, is fine; it is the latter that is avoided.

And Allah alone gives success.

Faraz Rabbani

Pictures and Television

Answered by Shaykh Faraz Rabbani

Question : Do the rulings of looking apply to someone looking at people in pictures and television?

Answer : Yes, one cannot deliberately look at that which is impermissible to look at, in print or electronically.

And Allah alone gives success.

Faraz Rabbani

Looking at One’s Spouse

Answered by Shaykh Faraz Rabbani

Question : Looking at one’s spouse

Answer : Each spouse can look at the whole body of their spouse, without any dislike. However, it is inferred from the sunna that it is superior to avoid looking at the other’s private parts directly. It is related by Sayyida A’isha (Allah be pleased with her) that she never looked at the private area of the Prophet (Allah bless him and give him peace), nor he at her’s. This is an expression of modesty, and not an emphasized sunna. A number of Companions themselves mentioned that there is nothing “wrong” with such looking.

And Allah alone gives success.

Faraz Rabbani.

Ruling Regarding Shaking Hands With Members of the Opposite Gender

Answered by Shaykh Faraz Rabbani

Question : Does the ruling regarding shaking hands with members of the opposite gender relate to avoidance of skin contact in particular or the impersibility of shaking hands of the opposite gender in gender? Can one over come this impermissibility if one were to shake the other person’s hand while using a glove(s)? For example, in the case of university convocations when one is confronted with shaking the hand of a university authority who may be someone of the opposite gender.

Also, as a tactic of avoiding shaking hands all together I strategy that came to mind was to present a visiting size shaped card with a message imprinted saying that ” In accordance with my religion I can not shake the hands of women/men who are not my immediate relatives. I mean no offense”. Do you think this approach is that the way of Hikma and Proper Adab? Insh Allah I respectively look forward to your response.

Answer   : It is better to just do the right thing. One way is to inform them beforehand, and to explain why. Then, when the time comes, just to make eye contact, smile, and place one’s hand on one’s chest.

It helps when explaining it to mention that this is also the practice of others. (“Like conservative Jews and persons of some other faith backgrounds, as a conservative Muslim I don’t shake hands with unrelated individuals of the opposite sex, as an expression of respect and modesty.” Or something like that.)

And Allah alone gives success.

Faraz Rabbani.

What is the Dua to Say When Looking at One’s Self in the Mirror?

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Question : What is the Dua to say when looking at one self in the mirror?

Answer: Assalam aleykum,

According to what is in Imam an-Nawwawi’s ‘al-Adhkaar,’ this dua is related in a sahih hadith.

ابن السني عن عليّ رضي الله عنه
أن النبيّ صلى الله عليه و سلّم كان إذا نظر في المرآة قال: الْحَمْدُ لِلَّهِ ، اللَّهُمَّ كَمَا حَسَّنْتَ خَلْقِي فَحَسِّنْ خُلُقِي

AlhamduLlilahi Allahumma kama hassanta khalqi fahassin khuluqi

When the Prophet (Allah bless him and grant him peace) looked in the mirror, he said, “Praise be to Allah. Oh Allah, as you have beautified me, beautify my character.”

Wassalam,

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