Does Leakage After Sex Necessitate a Ritual Bath?

Question:
Does leakage after sex necessitate ghusl?
Answer:
Dear questioner,
Thank you for your important question.
May Allah, Most High reward you for your desire to increase in knowledge.
It is not necessary for a woman who finds her husband’s semen leak out of her vagina to repeat the major ablution (ghusl). However, she is required to make a new ablution (wudu).
Any prayer she prayed between intercourse and when she spotted her husband’s semen does not need to be made up. [Ibn Abideen, al-Hashiya]
In the Hanafi school of law, semen is considered impure. The semen that leaks onto a piece of clothing must be cleaned. It is not necessary to clean any liquid impurity below 5cm in diameter.
[Shurunbulali, Nur al-Idah]
If one finds that they often have this issue and are going out of the house, they should consider using the restroom before leaving or carrying a change of clothes.
And Allah alone knows best,
[Ustadh] Omar Popal
Checked and Approved by Shaykh Faraz Rabbani

Why Do People Encourage the Marriage of Young People When They Are Not Mature Enough?

Question:

Why is marrying off a child halal just after they hit puberty?

Answer:

Assalamu alaykum,

Thank you for your question. I believe that there is no right answer to this question, and I know for a fact that many a young person is ready for marriage while many an older person is not.

 

Halal To Marry Young

It is permissible for a pubescent person to marry because it would not be fair to tell a teenager that he is not allowed to marry when sexual desires come with puberty. Allah has decreed an outlet for the way that He created us; this is the very core of justice and wisdom. A young person is certainly not forced to marry, but if a young girl’s father was to do so, it is because Allah gave him the right for a good reason. I am sure you can fathom many good reasons for a man to want his daughter taken care of, reasons that span all times and places.

 

Science

Islam does not reject science for the advances and explanations that it gives us, but it certainly does not base its rulings on it. Rulings are based on primary texts; Qur’an and Hadith. The job of the mujtahid imams was to take these into consideration, along with ‘urf, the customs of the land, to best summarize how our Creator and His messenger, Allah bless him and grant him peace, wanted us to live. We know from the Qu’ran that our religion is complete and perfect, and we must trust in this and believe it even if we don’t fully understand it.

Allah, Most High, says, “Today I have perfected your religion for you, completed My blessing upon you, and chosen as your religion Islam: [total devotion to God]“ [Qu’ran, 5:3]

Please see this link as well:
https://seekersguidance.org/show/80-how-do-we-view-science-in-light-of-the-quran-islam-faq-shaykh-faraz-rabbani/

 

Customs

As for deciding what is the right age for marriage, it is not possible. Everyone is created differently, each one of us from a different era, culture, family, and upbringing. I have seen ten-year-olds in the East that know how to fully run a home and work in their parent’s shop all day, while I have seen other ten-year-olds who know nothing but how to rot in front of a screen.

The permissibility of marriage at a young age is a mercy, not a mistake. However, I encourage all people, old and young, to learn their religion, get a good education or skill set that will help them in the world, fulfill their obligations towards others, purify their hearts, and refine their character, with which they can serve the Ummah of Muhammad, Allah bless him and grant him peace. May Allah give you the best of this world and the next.

[Ustadha] Shazia Ahmad

 

Checked and Approved by Shaykh Faraz Rabbani

Ustadha Shazia Ahmad lived in Damascus, Syria for two years where she studied aqidah, fiqh, tajweed, tafseer, and Arabic. She then attended the University of Texas at Austin, where she completed her Masters in Arabic. Afterward, she moved to Amman, Jordan where she studied fiqh, Arabic, and other sciences. She recently moved back to Mississauga, Canada, where she lives with her family.

Is It Sinful To Avoid Marrying a Westerner Because I Do Not Want To Live in the West?

Question:

I have received marriage proposals from men in the US and Canada, but I am not keen on moving to these countries as I have been brought up in a Muslim country and practice shar’i hijab. The common things in these countries such as open LGBTQ make me feel depressed to think of moving there. My iman remains at its best when I am in an Islamic environment. Am I sinful for omitting these countries in my search for a pious spouse? Should I not limit myself?

Answer:

Assalamu alaykum,

Thank you for your question. May Allah reward you for wanting, first, what is best for your religion and making that your priority. If everyone did this before they marry, there would be much fewer problems in the world.

It is absolutely not sinful for you to only consider suitors who want to stay in the East. Having lived in the East myself I can agree that it is wonderful for one’s faith and that you will find certain aspects of the Islamic lifestyle that just cannot be found in the West. That being said, I also respect and understand those Muslims who say that their faith and identity is stronger in the West because of da’wah (calling others to Islam), etc.

You should get in the habit to pray istikhara about any serious suitor and if Allah really wants you to live in the West, he will make it plain to you, through whichever means He chooses. The most important thing is that you submit to what comes your way and accept what is written for you. May Allah give you the best of this world and the next and bless your union with whomever it may be.

https://islamqa.org/hanafi/askimam/29360

[Ustadha] Shazia Ahmad

 

Checked and Approved by Shaykh Faraz Rabbani

Ustadha Shazia Ahmad lived in Damascus, Syria for two years where she studied aqidah, fiqh, tajweed, tafseer, and Arabic. She then attended the University of Texas at Austin, where she completed her Masters in Arabic. Afterward, she moved to Amman, Jordan where she studied fiqh, Arabic, and other sciences. She recently moved back to Mississauga, Canada, where she lives with her family.

Was My Prayer Valid After I Woke Up Recalling a Dream but Did Not Shower?

Question:

I slept for an hour after maghrib, and I had a strange dream as I usually do. I remember an intimate moment after waking up. I do not remember feeling anything. I was wearing patterned underwear so I could not make out any discharge. I checked myself and found normal vaginal wetness. So, I did not make a ghusl, but I made wudu and prayed as there was no extra wetness and any feelings involved. Is my prayer valid?

Answer:

Assalamu alaykum,

Thank you for your question.

Your prayer was valid because you did not see any wetness beyond the usual, therefore you did not require a ritual bath (ghusl). I encourage you to enroll in a free course here at Seekers to learn your personally obligatory knowledge so that you will know answers to questions like this. Also, please see these links about the ritual bath:

Please See:

https://seekersguidance.org/answers/general-counsel/wet-dreams-and-ghusl/
https://seekersguidance.org/answers/hanafi-fiqh/rules-regarding-ghusl-and-wet-dreams-for-men-and-women/
https://islamqa.org/hanafi/seekersguidance-hanafi/107483

May Allah give you the best of this world and the next.

[Ustadha] Shazia Ahmad

 

Checked and Approved by Shaykh Faraz Rabbani

Ustadha Shazia Ahmad lived in Damascus, Syria for two years where she studied aqidah, fiqh, tajweed, tafseer, and Arabic. She then attended the University of Texas at Austin, where she completed her Masters in Arabic. Afterward, she moved to Amman, Jordan where she studied fiqh, Arabic, and other sciences. She recently moved back to Mississauga, Canada, where she lives with her family.

How Do I Deal With a Stingy Aunt Who Takes My Father’s Money?

Question:

My aunt lives in her own apartment below ours. She has two sons and a husband who earns sufficient money, but as far as I know, she does not even pay her own taxes. My father pays all the taxes on the house. I feel like my father is being taken advantage of, and I feel bad for him. She is very stingy. Even after my father helps her so much, she is very jealous of me and my siblings. How do we deal with this type of people?

Answer:

Assalamu alaykum,

Thank you for your question. It can be very frustrating to see a beloved family member taken for granted. Remember that Allah sees all, and your father’s reward will be eternal, by His grace.

 

Giving Money

Generally speaking, elders discuss who will pay what and they come to an agreement on it. Have you asked your father if this was decided and agreed upon by both parties? Is your father upset about this or only you? If your father is upset, he should sit down with your aunt’s husband and have a mature discussion about splitting the bills. It is not really your place to bring it up with them. It is important to balance between giving and not being a doormat.

However, if your father has chosen to pay the taxes and wholeheartedly does it for the sake of Allah, he will be amply rewarded eternally for this by His Lord, and he is helping his own afterlife. This is nothing to feel remorse or regret about and I would say that his outlook on money is commendable, ma sha Allah.

 

Jealous Relatives

As for the problem of jealous relatives, one can do very little about it. You should read the last 3 surahs of the Qur’an before you sleep every night and not miss any prayers. Read some Qu’ran every day with the meaning and learn your personally obligatory knowledge. Take Allah as your protector and guardian, and trust in Him. Keep a minimal contact of politeness and greetings, and do not mention too much of your personal life to them. Be generous with them, be cheerful, and smile with them. Usually showing good character rectifies the other party’s character and people end up getting along, by His grace.

 

Du’a

Please consider this hadith and recite the supplications in the link regularly:
The Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace,  said, “The best dinar that a man can spend is a dinar that he spends on his family, a dinar that he spends on a horse in the cause of Allah, and a dinar that a man spends on his companions in the cause of Allah.” [Ibn Majah]
https://seekersguidance.org/articles/general-artices/selected-prophetic-prayers-for-spiritual-physical-and-emotional-wellbeing-by-chaplain-ibrahim-long/

[Ustadha] Shazia Ahmad

 

Checked and Approved by Shaykh Faraz Rabbani

Ustadha Shazia Ahmad lived in Damascus, Syria for two years where she studied aqidah, fiqh, tajweed, tafseer, and Arabic. She then attended the University of Texas at Austin, where she completed her Masters in Arabic. Afterward, she moved to Amman, Jordan where she studied fiqh, Arabic, and other sciences. She recently moved back to Mississauga, Canada, where she lives with her family.

Is It Shirk To Read Lord of the Flies?

Question: 

Is it shirk to read Lord of the Flies?

Answer:

Wa alaykum assalam wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh,

Dear questioner,

Thank you for your important question.

Literature is a subject we learn in school in order to understand how language works. It is also a very important means of learning about human life, human emotions, and experiences.

Sometimes we have to read about things that are bad. Sometimes even we have to read about issues that are actually disbelief. We do need to be selective about what we read. Once we decide that what we are reading or studying is genuinely important, we have to make sure we leave with the benefit that we were searching for in the get-go.

So, looking at a book like Lord of the Flights, when studying it we are exposed to immoral behavior. However, we should not be looking at it from that angle alone. Rather, we should be looking at it as a literary work: how does the author use language to convey his ideas, how does he develop the plot, how do the characters develop, what are the deeper messages that he is conveying and how does he do this? This is what we look for when studying literature.

Similarly, we can greatly broaden our understanding of man as a social being by reading the book. What happens when you leave people without strong leadership? What happens to their morals? How do people try to govern themselves? The book sheds a lot of light on these issues, and there is a lot we can benefit from it.

To give another example, one film that I studied at school was La Haine. We studied it in my French course. Left to my own devices, as a practicing Muslim, I would not normally sit down and watch a film about violence, drugs, and riots in some European country. There would be no particular benefit in it.

However, given that it was a mandatory part of the course, we watched it, and it greatly helps us as students understand the social and economic stress that marginalized sections of French society were going through. The film captured with great dexterity the meaninglessness, the hopelessness, the misery, and the pain of 24 hours in the life of subalterns in the slums of France. There was a clear educational benefit in watching the film, and it was not just an hour or so of watching people sin.

So, we as Muslims do hate sin, we do hate disbelief, and we do not enjoy reading about sin and disbelief. But sometimes, there is more benefit than harm in reading certain books because the literary skill and indeed the message carried by the book is of greater benefit.

I pray this helps.

[Ustadh] Farid Dingle

 

Checked and Approved by Shaykh Faraz Rabbani

Ustadh Farid Dingle has completed extensive years of study in the sciences of the Arabic language and the various Islamic Sciences. During his studies, he also earned a CIFE Certificate in Islamic Finance. Over the years he has developed a masterful ability to craft lessons that help non-Arabic speakers gain a deep understanding of the language. He currently teaches courses in the Arabic Language.

Is It Permissible To Wear a Watch That Has Engravings of Animate Life on It?

Question:

Is it permissible to wear a watch that has engravings of animate life on it?

Answer:

Wa alaykum assalam wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh,

Dear questioner,

Thank you for your important question.

It is forbidden to wear clothes that have pictures of animate life on them in the Shafi’i school. [Sharh Muslim, Nawawi] Wearing a watch is one and the same thing, even if the image is turned towards one’s wrist.

The issue is, How clear is the image? Is it just a silhouette? Does it have all the body parts needed to survive if it were actually alive? If not, then it is not sinful to wear.

If the watch is expensive or of sentimental value, you could always take it to someone to file off or spray over the engraving.

I pray this helps.

[Ustadh] Farid Dingle

 

Checked and Approved by Shaykh Faraz Rabbani

Ustadh Farid Dingle has completed extensive years of study in the sciences of the Arabic language and the various Islamic Sciences. During his studies, he also earned a CIFE Certificate in Islamic Finance. Over the years he has developed a masterful ability to craft lessons that help non-Arabic speakers gain a deep understanding of the language. He currently teaches courses in the Arabic Language.

What Can I Do During the Crowded Tawaf?

Question:
What can I do during the crowded tawaf?
Answer:
Dear questioner,
Thank you for your important question.
May Allah, Most High reward you for your desire to increase in knowledge.
Undoubtedly, The Masjid al-Haram in Mecca is quite crowded during the Hajj season. The area around the Ka’ba where the majority of Muslims desire to make tawaf is most crowded.
Our advice is to not focus on the creation during tawaf but rather on our Creator. Tawaf is a time to focus all of one’s mind, heart, and body in the remembrance of Allah, Most High. Invoking, supplicating, and seeking his forgiveness.
It is a time of absolute humility, as the opportunity of Hajj is in fact an invitation from Allah, Most High.
Allah, Most High says: “And We entrusted Abraham and Ishmael to purify My House for those who circle it, who meditate in it, and who bow and prostrate themselves in prayer.” [Qur’an, 2:125]
When making tawaf, we are those very individuals who Allah, Most High commanded his Prophets to prepare the house for!
It is the job of the Masjid al-Haram security to ensure that nothing prohibited takes place during tawaf. If one notices something prohibited going on, they should immediately point it out to the guards.

If one cannot focus and still feels nervous making tawaf near the Ka’ba, they should instead perform tawaf on the upper levels where it is less crowded.

Remember that everyone making tawaf desires the same thing: The Absolute Mercy of Allah, Most High.
And Allah alone knows best,
[Ustadh] Omar Popal
Checked and Approved by Shaykh Faraz Rabbani

Does Islam Give Non-Muslims Freedom of Speech?

Question:

Does Islam give non-Muslims freedom of speech? Does Islam force non-Muslims to become Muslim? Are they punished for expressing their own religious views?

Answer:

Wa alaykum assalam wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh,

Dear questioner,

Thank you for your important question.

Non-Muslims in an Islamic country are free to practice their own religion and express their religious views. However, just like Muslims, they are also bound by blasphemy laws.

I personally was not able to find the reference quoted by the questioner in Qadi Iyad’s Shifa mentioning that a non-Muslim cannot publically state that they do not believe in Islam. Rather, the author does cite numerous positions that they cannot openly use words of disrespect against Allah or His Messenger (Allah bless him and give him peace).

The debate that Qadi Iyad cites revolves around the death penalty for openly cursing the Prophet (Allah bless him and give him peace), and whether or not repentance is accepted from someone who is guilty of it and whether or not the rule applies to non-Muslim citizens of the Islamic country (dhimmi). [Al-Shifa, Qadi Iyad]

Thus, the issue is not about freedom of religion, but rather about freedom of speech and whether or not it allows one to publicly commit blasphemy. It has nothing to do with the freedom of religion.

Non-Muslims were never forced to become Muslims. That is a historical fact and something that is clear from the books of Islamic law. However, non-Muslims, just like Muslims, are forbidden to openly express words of disrespect about Allah or His Messenger (Allah bless him and give him peace). Contrary to the sense of the question, the rulers are harder on Muslims than non-Muslims. [Al-Shifa, Qadi Iyad]

This is a very important point and a clear departure from many modern Western views of freedom of speech. Listen, if you will, to Rowan Atkinson spell out his views on free speech. (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BiqDZlAZygU). We as Muslims would unfortunately not agree. We do not believe that people have a right to say anything, and under Islamic law, impertinent and disdainful language about Allah or His Messenger (Allah bless him and give him peace) is illegal.

To give a modern example of blasphemy laws in modern Islamic countries, the Jordanian Penal Code (Article 273), states, “Whoever summons the audacity to publicly speak out against the heads of religion — the Prophets — is imprisoned from 1 to 3 years.” Notice how this not specific to Islam, but rather the prophets in general — people held sacred by Muslims, Jews, and Christians alike. It is also worth bringing to mind that Jordan, like many other Muslim countries, has respected and protected non-Muslim minorities since the dawn of Islam itself, and they never tried to forcefully convert them. At the same time, even today the country demands a certain level of (even merely public) respect to those people and things that the country holds sacred.

So to repeat, the whole discussion has nothing to do with forcing people to become Muslim. Rather, it reflects the conservative and traditional laws of a conservative and traditional system (Islam) that do not condone blasphemy as a natural product of the freedom of speech.

We Western Muslims as proactive and expressive members of the countries we live in have to voice Islam and its teachings as a better alternative. It is okay, and indeed it is healthy, to disagree with the current trends in the West. We need to use the rights and privileges that the West grants us to try to direct Western society in the right direction. We cannot simply follow whatever the new trend is, and we certainly cannot demand that Islam follows suit.

“Thus We have made you a just nation that you be witnesses against mankind, and that the Messenger be a witness against you.” [Qur’an, 2: 143]

I pray this helps.

[Ustadh] Farid Dingle

 

Checked and Approved by Shaykh Faraz Rabbani

Ustadh Farid Dingle has completed extensive years of study in the sciences of the Arabic language and the various Islamic Sciences. During his studies, he also earned a CIFE Certificate in Islamic Finance. Over the years he has developed a masterful ability to craft lessons that help non-Arabic speakers gain a deep understanding of the language. He currently teaches courses in the Arabic Language.

How Do I Deal With a Mother Who Only Shows Me Affection When She Wants Something From Me?

Question:

The only time my mother talks to me nicely is when I do housework. I do respect her and treat her well, and I help out around the house as the eldest daughter, caring for my siblings, and run errands for her, but never once have I felt that she was ever grateful or even cared about me. She would only touch me to get me to do chores. When I cry in front of her out of stress or anxiety, she scolds me and backs away from me. Please give me advice.

Answer:

Assalamu alaykum,

Thank you for your question. I am so sorry that your mother is not affectionate and gives you the cold shoulder when you are upset.

 

A Person’s Experiences

Please understand that her life experiences made her into the person she is now. It may be that her parents were not loving, or it may be that they did not know how to show their love. She may have always been encouraged to suppress her emotions and show a tough shell. I am certain that your mother loves you, and I am certain that she is proud of the young lady that you have become.

 

Affection

The advice I am going to give you is what I learned from books on marital advice. As an adult, if you want affection, you must give it first. Start hugging your mother every morning when you wake up. Do it every day, and make it a habit without fail. She will be taken aback at first, but she will come to love it and expect it. If your mother is sitting down somewhere, do not hesitate to sit next to her or put your head in her lap. As the eldest, you will be averse to this, but these habits will change the course of your relationship, by the grace of Allah.

 

Time

Generally speaking, mother-daughter relationships improve with time, especially if you start good habits. When you are older, married or not, you will start being an example for her, and you can communicate to her that it is OK to be more loving and open with her feelings. This will benefit your siblings as well. Your test, for now, is to treat her in the way that is best for both of you. Show patience, encourage emotions, and try to bond with her by going out alone with her, doing her favorite activities with her, praying with her, or listening to her stories.

 

Turn to Allah

In the meanwhile, turn to Allah with supplication, for He sees and appreciates everything that you do. Give in regular charity, even if only a little, be the best Muslimah that you can be, and build your relationship with your Lord. There is no problem that Allah sends down that He cannot solve, so ask for mercy and kindness to be put between your hearts. Make the intention to be a loving and affectionate parent yourself. See the extent of Allah’s mercy below. May Allah give you the best of this world and the next.

The Prophet, Allah bless him and grant him peace, said, “Verily, Allah created, on the same very day when He created the heavens and the earth, one hundred parts of mercy. Every part of mercy is coextensive with the space between the heavens and the earth, and He out of this mercy endowed one part to the earth. It is because of this that the mother shows affection to her child and even the beasts and birds show kindness to one another, and when there would be the Day of Resurrection, Allah would make full (use of Mercy).” [Muslim]

[Ustadha] Shazia Ahmad

 

Checked and Approved by Shaykh Faraz Rabbani

Ustadha Shazia Ahmad lived in Damascus, Syria for two years where she studied aqidah, fiqh, tajweed, tafseer, and Arabic. She then attended the University of Texas at Austin, where she completed her Masters in Arabic. Afterward, she moved to Amman, Jordan where she studied fiqh, Arabic, and other sciences. She recently moved back to Mississauga, Canada, where she lives with her family.