Does Writing Abusive or Sexual Words Make a Screen Impure?

Question: Does writing abusive or sexual words on the keyboard of a computer or smartphone, make the keyboard or screen impure?

Answer:

In the Name of Allah, the Most Merciful and Compassionate,

No, the screen and/or keyboard are not impure due to writing foul language with or on them. [Tahtawi/Shurunbulali, Hashiyat Maraqi al-Falah]

 

What is Physical Impurity (Najasa)?

The Sacred Law has delineated certain tangible things under the category of physical impurities (najasa). Those things are as follows:

(1) Anything that comes out from the private parts. Semen, pre-sexual fluid, urine, feces, etc… fall into this category.
(2) Flowing blood
(3) A mouthful of vomit
(4) Wine
(5) Pork
and more…
[Ibid.]

 

Shameful Language

Despite the fact that writing foul language does not result in the spread of impurity, such shameful language is not befitting for a Muslim.

The Messenger of Allah (Allah bless him and give him peace) said, “The believer does not criticize, nor condemn, nor speak shamefully, nor speak obscenely. [Tirmidhi]

The Muslims should carry themselves with dignity, in action, and in speech. The is the way of our Prophet (may Allah bless him and give him peace). He is the greatest example for us. The best of this life and the next is in the following of the Prophet (may Allah bless him and give him peace).

I hope this helps,
Allah knows best.
[Shaykh] Yusuf Weltch

Checked and Approved by Shaykh Faraz Rabbani

Shaykh Yusuf Weltch is a graduate from Tarim; a student of Habib Umar, other luminaries, and authorized teachers of the Qur’an and the Islamic sciences

Is Everything In My House Impure?


Question: I was careless in the preventing of spreading impurity, i.e. prostatic fluid. Now it has spread to almost all things in my house. Now on rainy days people come to our house with wet clothes and sit down, so their clothes become soiled. Also, our family goes to masjid, which makes the carpet of masjid impure. What should I do?
Answer:Assalamu alaykum,

Thank you for your question. I pray that you can resolve this issue without any waswasa (baseless misgivings) and that you feel comfortable in your home again.

 

Certainty

A legal principle that you should know is that certainty is not removed by doubt. If you simply doubt that there is filth in some areas, you should ignore it, and you are not responsible to purify it.

If you are certain that there was prostatic fluid in a certain area, simply remove the color and smell of the spot, and then pour clean water over it. The spot is pure. Or if it is small, toss it in the washing machine.
Do not worry at all about the masjid carpet or other areas of your home where filth is not perceptible.

 

Pure

Also, semen is not considered filth in the Shafi’i school but is pure. I only recommended purification because it is considered filth in the Hanafi school.  Please see the links below.

https://seekersguidance.org/answers/purity/spreading-filth-while-asleep/
https://seekersguidance.org/answers/hanafi-fiqh/people-may-have-walked-on-filth-in-my-room-has-it-spread-all-over-my-house/
https://seekersguidance.org/answers/shafii-fiqh/clean-pre-sexual-fluid-floor-shafii/

[Ustadha] Shazia Ahmad

Checked and Approved by Shaykh Faraz Rabbani

Ustadha Shazia Ahmad lived in Damascus, Syria for two years where she studied aqidah, fiqh, tajweed, tafseer, and Arabic. She then attended the University of Texas at Austin, where she completed her Master’s in Arabic. Afterward, she moved to Amman, Jordan where she studied fiqh, Arabic, and other sciences. She recently moved back to Mississauga, Canada, where she lives with her family.

Can I Help Others Get Elected To Political Posts At University?

Question: Assalamu ‘alaykum.  My friends and I had an idea of increasing awareness of individuals who are standing for different political posts at our university, by using software to provide a platform for them. Before starting on the project, we were approached by some friends of ours who told us it was haram. She backed her message with a hadith forbidding seeking positions of authority. Is this true?

Answer:

Wa ‘alaykum assaalm wa rahmatulllah wa barakatuh.

I pray you are well.

 

Aid Others In Facilitating the Good

You can continue to help these people get elected. This would be something recommended if it facilitates the general good and if they are best qualified for it. If there is any religious element to it remind yourselves and them about the centrality of sincere intention and that the success of religious matters depends on it.

 

Not Seeking Leadership

The narrations that forbid seeking leadership generally refer to political authority, where one will be in charge of governing people and distributing finances. Some people may have inherent weaknesses that may cause them to slip in such a situation. They would be liable to strict scrutiny on the Day of Judgement.

Therefore, it is better for them to not seek it. It could be personally obligatory for others if they are the best candidate for it. Organizing the ISOC activities is not something that is of the same magnitude. Ask Allah for sincerity and help, pray an istikhara, and proceed.

May Allah grant you every success.
[Shaykh] Abdul-Rahim

Checked and Approved by Shaykh Faraz Rabbani

Shaykh Abdul-Rahim Reasat began his studies in Arabic Grammar and Morphology in 2005. After graduating with a degree in English and History he moved to Damascus in 2007 where, for 18 months, he studied with many erudite scholars. In late 2008 he moved to Amman, Jordan, where he continued his studies for the next six years in Sacred Law (fiqh), legal theory (Usul al-fiqh), theology, hadith methodology, hadith commentary, and Logic. He was also given licenses of mastery in the science of Quranic recital and he was able to study an extensive curriculum of Quranic sciences, tafsir, Arabic grammar, and Arabic eloquence.

What Did the Prophet Say About Skin Color?

Question: Why did the Messenger of Allah (Allah bless him and give him peace) suggest to the bedouin that his child had just inherited his skin color from a distant grandfather instead of stating the obvious that his wife had committed adultery?

Answer:

Wa alaykum assalam wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh,

Dear questioner,

Thank you for your important question.

Once a bedouin came to the Messenger of Allah (Allah bless him and give him peace) complaining that his wife had given birth to a child that did not look like him. ‘Do you have any camels?’ asked the Messenger of Allah (Allah bless him and grant him peace).
‘Yes,’ the bedouin replied.
‘What color are they?’
‘Chestnut.’
‘Are any of them grey?’
‘Yes, some of them are indeed grey.’
‘How does that happen?’
‘O Messenger of Allah, that is just in their genes!’
‘Perhaps this was just in his genes!’ [Bukhari]

The point that Messenger of Allah (Allah bless him and give him peace) was making was that lack of resemblance to his father did not warrant an accusation of adultery (li’an). Rather, that would have to be based on certainty or very clear signs seen by the husband along with a formal accusation of adultery (li’an) on his part. [Mughni al-Muhtaj, al-Khatib al-Shirbini]

The idea is that a child is always considered to be ascribed to his legal father (the legal husband of the mother) unless it is physically impossible. Given that it is not physically impossible that the child looks significantly different from his father, he is still assumed to be the son of his legal father. It is not an issue of suggesting something likely but rather of preserving lineage which is one of the greatest goals of Islam. [al-Qawai’d al-Kubra, al-Izz ibn Abd al-Salam]

I pray this helps.

[Ustadh] Farid Dingle
Checked and Approved by Shaykh Faraz Rabbani

Ustadh Farid Dingle has completed extensive years of study in the sciences of the Arabic language and the various Islamic Sciences. During his studies, he also earned a CIFE Certificate in Islamic Finance. Over the years he has developed a masterful ability to craft lessons that help non-Arabic speakers gain a deep understanding of the language. He currently teaches courses in the Arabic Language.

Are There Cures To Stop My Fear Of Wet Dreams?

Question: Assalamu ‘alaykum. I fear to sleep every time because I fear that I might have a wet dream and discharge. Are there any cures/remedies to stop having wet dreams that will lead to discharge?  Are wet dreams a sign of Jinn possession? If so, what are the cures of it?

Answer:

Wa ‘alaykum assalam wa rahmatullah wa barakatuh.

I pray you are well.

There is no need to be afraid of having a discharge after a wet dream. It is something natural, and it is not harmful nor blameworthy. It is, also, not a sign of jinn possession.

Relax. Enjoy the rest you get from your sleep. See it as a gift from God. As for the wet dream, see it as an opportunity to get closer to Allah. Performing a ghusl is obligatory after a wet dream, and “Indeed Allah loves those who repeatedly repent and those who purify themselves.” (Qur’an, 2:222)

When you feel afraid, see the wet dream as an opportunity to purify yourself, and to get one step closer to being loved by Allah. May Allah remove your anxieties.

[Shaykh] Abdul-Rahim

Checked and Approved by Shaykh Faraz Rabbani

Shaykh Abdul-Rahim Reasat began his studies in Arabic Grammar and Morphology in 2005. After graduating with a degree in English and History he moved to Damascus in 2007 where, for 18 months, he studied with many erudite scholars. In late 2008 he moved to Amman, Jordan, where he continued his studies for the next six years in Sacred Law (fiqh), legal theory (Usul al-fiqh), theology, hadith methodology, hadith commentary, and Logic. He was also given licenses of mastery in the science of Quranic recital and he was able to study an extensive curriculum of Quranic sciences, tafsir, Arabic grammar, and Arabic eloquence.

Will Allah Forgive Me For Fighting With My Husband?

Question:  I fought often with my husband, and many times he slept away from me. I never refused intercourse, but he says I never encourage it. He says he is not happy with me. We have four children: two are mine, and two are step-children from his second wife. I was the third wife, but then he divorced the other two. I am 20 years younger than him, and now he is marrying again. I feel guilt and regret sinning by disobeying him. This is why he is after another girl. I cry daily, but I did stop fighting with him, even if I did not get my rights. Will Allah forgive me?

Answer:

Assalamu alaykum,

Thank you for your question. I commend you for not fighting with your husband anymore and for deciding to improve yourself. This is important for you as a Muslimah, for your relationship with Allah and not just for your husband.

 

Forgiveness

You ask if Allah will forgive you for fighting with your husband. The Prophet, Allah bless him and give him peace, said, “When half of the night or two-third of it is over. Allah, the Blessed and the Exalted, descends to the lowest heaven and says: Is there any beggar so that he be given? Is there any supplicator so that he be answered? Is there any beggar of forgiveness so that he be forgiven? (And Allah continues it saying) till it is daybreak.“ [Muslim]

And he said, Allah bless him and give him peace, “Allah, Blessed is He and Most High, said: ‘O son of Adam! Verily as long as you called upon Me and hoped in Me, I forgave you, despite whatever may have occurred from you, and I did not mind. O son of Adam! Were your sins to reach the clouds of the sky, then you sought forgiveness from Me, I would forgive you, and I would not mind. O son of Adam! If you came to Me with sins nearly as great as the earth, and then you met Me not associating anything with Me, I would come to you with forgiveness nearly as great as it.’” [Tirmidhi]

Can there be any doubt in your heart that Allah does not forgive the one who is sincere in his repentance?

 

Be the Best Wife That You Can Be

Consider this Prophetic hadith: It was said, “O Messenger of Allah, what type of wife is best? He said, ‘The one who makes (her husband) happy when he looks at her, and she obeys him if he instructs her to do something, and she does not do anything with regard to herself or his wealth in a manner of which he does not approve.'” [Musnad of Ahmad]

What your husband is doing requires a tremendous amount of patience and communication from you. You should clear the air with your husband before he marries her and try not to hate him for it. Considering that he has divorced twice before, he will probably marry again and again, until old age sets in. This is the pattern that I see.

 

Beautify Your Character and Learn

I pray that you remain on this path of transforming yourself, communicating better with your husband, and having beautiful patience. A Muslimah is strong, devoted, loving, and patient, but also she is firm and does not accept abuse. Please take the course linked below on marriage with your husband and apply the knowledge and tips that are taught. May Allah bless you and your family with the best in this world and the next.

https://seekersguidance.org/courses/marriage-in-islam-practical-guidance-for-successful-marriage/
https://seekersguidance.org/answers/i-no-longer-love-my-husband-after-he-married-a-second-wife/

[Ustadha] Shazia Ahmad

Checked and Approved by Shaykh Faraz Rabbani

Ustadha Shazia Ahmad lived in Damascus, Syria for two years where she studied aqidah, fiqh, tajweed, tafseer, and Arabic. She then attended the University of Texas at Austin, where she completed her Master’s in Arabic. Afterward, she moved to Amman, Jordan where she studied fiqh, Arabic, and other sciences. She recently moved back to Mississauga, Canada, where she lives with her family.

Should I Stay In My Arranged Marriage?

Question: A Muslim friend asked me this, but I did not have an answer. She had an arranged marriage only to make her mother happy as she was averse to the man. She tries to love him but cannot force herself to love. She is thinking of divorcing him, but she feels guilty about hurting her family and that they might hate her. She is lost.

Answer:

Assalamu alaykum,

Thank you for your question. May Allah reward you for being a kind friend whom she can talk to. I pray that she finds peace and happiness and is able to move forward.

 

Istikhara

I cannot tell her whether to go or stay, but I can tell her that istikhara is a formidable means to help to find her way. Tell her to follow her istikhara, she can find the details and etiquettes here:
https://seekersguidance.org/answers/hanafi-fiqh/istikhara-the-prayer-of-seeking-guidance/
https://seekersguidance.org/articles/general-artices/the-reality-of-istikhara/

 

Give It a Shot

Personally, I believe that she should give it a shot. She is already married to him, and she is not miserable-I take this as a good sign. Love comes from two people showing kindness, respect, and doing little things for each other. Please tell her to start being loving cheerful and affectionate on her end, and he will eventually follow suit. She must know that having children will also allow them to bond and love each other more. The more she invests emotionally, the more returns she will have. Love never comes automatically, and she should not expect it to. She must also know that there is no guarantee that she will marry again, or even marry a nice guy again.

 

Walking Away

Walking away is possible and I counsel her to only do this if her istikhara is negative and she has discussed the matter with both families. To be honest, her grounds for requesting a divorce because of not loving him is not valid, so there would have to be something more serious. Is he giving her rights in the bedroom? Is he supporting her well? Please tell her to sit down, communicate with him, and open her heart up.

See this excellent advice as well:
https://seekersguidance.org/answers/general-counsel/dont-feelings-wife-can/

[Ustadha] Shazia Ahmad

Checked and Approved by Shaykh Faraz Rabbani

Ustadha Shazia Ahmad lived in Damascus, Syria for two years where she studied aqidah, fiqh, tajweed, tafseer, and Arabic. She then attended the University of Texas at Austin, where she completed her Master’s in Arabic. Afterward, she moved to Amman, Jordan where she studied fiqh, Arabic, and other sciences. She recently moved back to Mississauga, Canada, where she lives with her family.

Which Child Takes Care Of the Parents?

Question: In a family where there are four children (all adults, two elder sisters, and two younger brothers), and the younger one of the sisters is married with children. Likewise, the younger one of the brothers is married with children. The father is deceased, and the mother is elderly, who is responsible for the financial and general care of the mother?
Answer:Assalamu alaykum,

Thank you for your question. May Allah reward you for asking this important question, and I pray the care of your mother will become easier on all of you and bless you all immeasurably for taking care of her.

 

Who Is Responsible?

The support of a widowed woman falls on her sons, equally, as her primary financial supporters even if one is wealthier than the other. As for the daughters, they must support their parents if they are able to and if their brothers are unable to support the mother. Please see the details here:
https://islamqa.org/hanafi/daruliftaa/7933
https://seekersguidance.org/answers/general-counsel/married-daughters-supporting-elderly-parents/

 

Goodness To Parents

The reward and rank of a person who takes care of his parents are tremendous and should be seen as such. The Righteous Caliph, ‘Ali ibn Abi Talib said, “Goodness towards (one’s) parents is the greatest obligatory act.”

And Allah, Most High, tells us, “Your Lord has commanded that you worship none but Him and that you be kind to your parents. If one or both of them reach old age with you, do not say to them a word of disrespect, or scold them, but say a generous word to them. And act humbly to them in mercy, and say, ‘My Lord, have mercy on them since they cared for me when I was small.’” [Quran, 17:23-24]

The rank of the mother is even higher than the father’s as we know that Paradise lies at her feet. I pray that you and your siblings can share in the blessings of caring for your mother and partake in the reward that will follow, by the grace of Allah. Please remember that Allah will send you someone one day to treat you in the same way that you treated your mother, so please love for her what you love for yourself, may you be blessed! Please see these link as well:
https://seekersguidance.org/articles/beneficial-knowledge/goodness-parents-reader/

[Ustadha] Shazia Ahmad

Checked and Approved by Shaykh Faraz Rabbani

Ustadha Shazia Ahmad lived in Damascus, Syria for two years where she studied aqidah, fiqh, tajweed, tafseer, and Arabic. She then attended the University of Texas at Austin, where she completed her Master’s in Arabic. Afterward, she moved to Amman, Jordan where she studied fiqh, Arabic, and other sciences. She recently moved back to Mississauga, Canada, where she lives with her family.

How Can I Take Care Of My Parents?

Question: I am living with my husband away from my home country where my parents live. My father is ill, and my mother takes care of him. I am always stressed out in leaving them alone. Whom should I stay with, my parents or my husband? I am not able to support them financially unless my husband gives them money once in a while. I make dua for them but still feel like I am sinning.

Answer:

Assalamu alaykum,

Thank you for your question. I empathize with your feelings and I understand the pain of leaving your parents alone when they are unwell and alone. I pray that you can contribute to finding a solution even if you cannot help yourself.

 

Living With Parents or Husband

There is no question that you should live with your husband. He has rights over you, you have rights over him, and you belong under the same roof. The rank of a husband is as great or greater than that of a parent because not only does the Shari’a oblige obeying him, but also society and families meet their demise when women are not supporting and respecting their husbands. See this link:
https://seekersguidance.org/answers/general-counsel/is-it-sinful-to-disobey-to-my-husband/

 

Financial Support Of the Parents

A woman is obliged to financially support her parents if she earns, has her own money, and is able to earn. If you feel that your parents need your financial help, talk to your husband about you working part-time or him contributing regularly to your parents. Please see the details here in this article:
https://islamqa.org/hanafi/daruliftaa/7933

In the meantime, you should do what you can for your parents from afar. Call them regularly as you are already praying for them. Ask some of your friends or relatives who live near your parents to go over and check on them or cook for them. When you do go and visit, try to cook food and freeze it for them and clean the house. Most importantly, ask Allah to help you help them and He will send you a solution, by His grace. May Allah reward you for being concerned about your goodness to them and may He send you a child that will also care for you. Please see these links:

https://seekersguidance.org/articles/beneficial-knowledge/goodness-parents-reader/
https://seekersguidance.org/answers/general-counsel/should-i-listen-to-my-husband-or-my-mother/

[Ustadha] Shazia Ahmad

Checked and Approve By Shaykh Faraz Rabbani

Ustadha Shazia Ahmad lived in Damascus, Syria for two years where she studied aqidah, fiqh, tajweed, tafseer, and Arabic. She then attended the University of Texas at Austin, where she completed her Master’s in Arabic. Afterward, she moved to Amman, Jordan where she studied fiqh, Arabic, and other sciences. She recently moved back to Mississauga, Canada, where she lives with her family.

Does Allah Forgive Shirk?

Question: Assalamu ‘alaykum. I read the verse, “Allah does not forgive associating partners with Him, but forgives anything less than that for whom He wills.” (Qur’an, 4:48) I also read in a hadith that Allah forgives immediately when we ask for forgiveness. How can I reconcile between the two?

Answer:
Wa ‘alaykum assalam wa rahmatullah wa barakatuh.

I pray you are well.

 

Sins Are Forgiven – Not Disbelief

Yes, Allah forgives everything – but, in the Akhira, disbelief will not be forgiven.

We can understand from the name Al-Ghafur that He forgives all sins, no matter how much they are. The name al Ghaffar indicates that He does this time and time again.

This is in this life and the Akhira, for most sins. Disbelief, however, is forgiven in this life – if someone repents and enters into Islam sincerely. However, once the soul reaches the throat on its way out – the point where the veil is lifted and one sees the one’s place in the Akhira – repentance from disbelief is no longer accepted.

 

What Is Not Forgiven

The verse mentions shirk, but all forms of disbelief are implied. It is just that shirk was the most common form of disbelief amongst the Arabs. [Alusi, Ruh al-Ma’ani]

So, in summary, Allah will forgive even disbelief in this life, if someone repents sincerely. Not in the next life. All other sins can be forgiven at any time.

We ask Allah to forgive all our sins, such that we meet Him with Him pleased with us. Amin.

[Shaykh] Abdul-Rahim

Checked and Approved by Shaykh Faraz Rabbani

Shaykh Abdul-Rahim Reasat began his studies in Arabic Grammar and Morphology in 2005. After graduating with a degree in English and History he moved to Damascus in 2007 where, for 18 months, he studied with many erudite scholars. In late 2008 he moved to Amman, Jordan, where he continued his studies for the next six years in Sacred Law (fiqh), legal theory (Usul al-fiqh), theology, hadith methodology, hadith commentary, and Logic. He was also given licenses of mastery in the science of Quranic recital and he was able to study an extensive curriculum of Quranic sciences, tafsir, Arabic grammar, and Arabic eloquence.