What Is an Implicit Divorce?

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Question: What is an implicit divorce?
Answer:
Dear questioner,
Thank you for your important question.
If a husband says “leave me alone” with no intention of divorce, the divorce does not take place.
An implicit divorce (kinaya) is: “the proclamation of a word which signifies divorce (ex. “You are single now”), coupled with the intention of divorce.”
[Quduri, al-Mukhtasar]
Although no divorce has taken place, couples should ensure to watch the language they use when going through any dispute, significant or insignificant.
Allah, Most High says, “That [is so]. And whoever honors the symbols of Allah – indeed, it is from the piety of hearts.” [Quran 22:32]
The symbols of Allah are anything which Allah, Most High has made sacred such as the institution of Marriage. Hence, we should watch our language when discussing these matters.
May Allah, Most High reward you for your desire to learn more about how to honor him.
And Allah knows best,
[Ustadh] Omar Popal
Checked and Approved by Shaykh Faraz Rabbani

Is My Husband’s Divorce Valid Through a Vague Text Message?

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Question: Is my husband divorce valid through vague text message?
Answer:
Wa Alaykum Assalam wa Rahmatullahi Wa Barakatuh,
Dear questioner,
Thank you for your important question.
When a husband writes a text message to his wife saying “I divorce you”, the divorce takes place, regardless of intention. [Ibn Aabideen, al-Hashiyah]
When a husband writes a text message to his wife only saying “divorce”, the divorce takes place only if the husband had the intention of divorce. If no intention was made at all or the husband did not intend divorce, then no divorce occurs. [al-Fatawa al-Hindiyya]
If the husband intends three divorces with one utterance of divorce, then the divorce is binding. The husband and wife are now separated. [Jassas, Sharh Mukhtasar al-Tahawi]
Please reach out to your husband and get clarity on this serious issue. It is necessary that everybody who desires to get married learns the basic rulings of marriage and divorce so they can avoid problematic outcomes.
I pray Allah, Most High brings ease and clarity into your life. Remember that divorce is only a separation that occurs in this life. Protecting ourselves from separation from Allah, Most High is every Muslim’s highest aim.
Given the considerations in such cases, please consult reliable local scholars about the specifics of the situation. Jazakum Allah khayr.
May Allah, Most High reward you for your care in upholding his rights during this difficult time.
And Allah alone knows best.
[Ustadh] Omar Popal
Checked and Approved by Shaykh Faraz Rabbani

Should I Divorce My Husband If All We Do Is Argue?

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Question: I have been married for two and a half years. My married life has been filled with constant arguments. My husband is an angry man and gets in a rage about the tiny things. He refuses to believe that he is ever wrong. We do not understand each other at all, and I have tried so hard but the arguments never stop. I am so tired of always being unhappy. I know Allah hates divorce, but how do we know when we should divorce?

Answer:

Assalamu alaykum,

Thank you for your question. I empathize with the frustration and unhappiness that you are constantly feeling. It looks like you have to make a serious decision and take serious steps. By the grace of Allah, your decision will be clear to you at the end.

 

Work, Work, and More Work

Every marriage takes work, and it sounds like your marriage needs a bit more of it. Please take a free course on marriage, read the books below, and apply the tips and techniques in them. The only way to move forward is to learn, intend to change, and apply. If you remain as you are, you are doomed to be unhappy for a long time. It is true that he needs to change too, but start with yourself as you are willing.
[5 love languages, John Gottman’s Marriage Book, Fascinating Womanhood]

 

Istikhara

Please apply some of the tips in your marriage, and see if you notice an improvement. Give it some time and sincerely ask Allah to help you better your situation. If you do not see any improvement, it might be time to pray istikhara about divorce. Although divorce is the most hated of the permissible things, one cannot live a life of misery where one is behaving un-Islamically from morning to evening.

 

Steps

In the meantime, I recommend that you take these steps:
-Give a little charity regularly, as Allah may bless and accept your good deed and make it a means of success in your problem
-Be the best Muslim that you can be. Pray on time, read some Qu’ran every day, and learn or review your obligatory knowledge. Arguing day in and day out should make your relationship with Allah stronger.
-Try to spend time together with friends and family. One tends to argue less. Entertain as much as you can.
-Try the secret weapon of silence. It takes two to argue, but if you can just listen to what he is saying and not respond, it will keep things calm and cool, and he will have nothing to go on about. Use the silence for contemplation.
-Pray the Prayer of Need in the depth of the night when Allah is ready to forgive and give to whoever is asking.

Please see these link for similar situations and solutions:
https://seekersguidance.org/answers/general-counsel/husband-argue-lot-front-small-daughter-calls-names-tells-shut-scares/
https://seekersguidance.org/answers/general-counsel/the-fiqh-of-anger/

May Allah give you the best in this world and the next and guide you to what is right for you both.

[Ustadha] Shazia Ahmad

Checked and Approved by Shaykh Faraz Rabbani

Ustadha Shazia Ahmad lived in Damascus, Syria for two years where she studied aqidah, fiqh, tajweed, tafseer, and Arabic. She then attended the University of Texas at Austin, where she completed her Masters in Arabic. Afterward, she moved to Amman, Jordan where she studied fiqh, Arabic, and other sciences. She recently moved back to Mississauga, Canada, where she lives with her family.

Is the Ruling Of Cursing For Men Only?

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Question: Why is it that men are allowed li’an but not women? A man can separate from his wife if she commits adultery by this method easily if he chooses even if she commits it once or has repented. Adultery is adultery. Just as a man will feel pain by adultery from his wife. Similarly, a woman will also feel the same pain. Why did Allah not give women this privilege? Or, can I get separated from my husband through khula in case he commits adultery once and even has repented?

Answer:

Wa ‘alaykum assalam wa rahmatullah wa barakatuh.

I pray you are well.

 

What Is Li’an?

It seems that there may be some confusion on what li’an is and why it is done. Li’an means mutual cursing. This is the case when a husband accuses his wife – who, without delving into other rulings, is a lady who could get a court to take penal action against someone who accused her of zina (adultery).

If the husband accuses her of it, yet he cannot provide four witnesses – as per the requirement when accusing someone of zina – then to prevent himself from getting the penal punishment, he must perform the li’an. She also must take part. This ruling also applies if he denies that the child she gave birth to is his.

 

Defending One’s Honour

Li’an is not a tool to enable the husband to exit the marriage. He can do so at any time by divorcing her. Rather, it is a means of defending one’s honor. There is a time when people can be unfaithful. It is a source of pain for both parties.

Just like a lady would feel hurt and betrayed, a man does too; and in some cultures, the stigma is much worse on men whose wives have been unfaithful. This would be worse if she gave birth to a child, and he had to see it as a reminder of that pain.

Humans have emotions. Sometimes they need to feel vindicated, and so they act out of emotion. If a man was to find that his wife was unfaithful, and he declared it, then, to save his honour and himself from being whipped he would have to do this to prevent consequences in this life.

Likewise, it is a huge matter for a lady to be accused of infidelity. To defend her honour, there is a ruling of punishment for those who make the accusation yet cannot prove it. However, if it is her husband – the last person who would, usually, accuse her of that – then she too must have a way of defending her honour. [Maydani, al-Lubab]

 

All Is Revealed In the Akhira

Both must agree to curse each other if the liar does not own up. This way, they can defend their honour – in this life – and no legal consequences will be applied to the husband. Whoever is lying, however, only brings a severe punishment on themselves in the Akhira. Punishments in this life purify one and are lighter than they would be in the Afterlife.

Allah is just, and no injustice will be ignored on that day. All will be revealed.

Clearly, this is something that would be carried out in a court in an Islamic state. We can also see that it is a mutual process: for her to defend her honor and for him to do the same and to prevent another’s child from being ascribed to him.

If a lady’s husband was unfaithful, she could approach a Shari’a court and present a case. In any situation, they may annul the marriage on the grounds of the emotional harm inflicted on her. This would depend on the court and the details. Allah knows best.

I hope that clarifies matters for you.
[Shaykh] Abdul-Rahim

Checked and Approved by Shaykh Faraz Rabbani

Shaykh Abdul-Rahim Reasat began his studies in Arabic Grammar and Morphology in 2005. After graduating with a degree in English and History he moved to Damascus in 2007 where, for 18 months, he studied with many erudite scholars. In late 2008 he moved to Amman, Jordan, where he continued his studies for the next six years in Sacred Law (fiqh), legal theory (Usul al-fiqh), theology, hadith methodology, hadith commentary, and Logic. He was also given licenses of mastery in the science of Quranic recital and he was able to study an extensive curriculum of Quranic sciences, tafsir, Arabic grammar, and Arabic eloquence.

How Can I Help My Husband Who Is Impotent After Surgery?

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Question: I have been married for 17 years with 2 children, and we love each other. Recently my husband got diagnosed with prostate cancer, had prostate removal, and is currently under treatment. He is young, and it is hard for him to accept the fact that he became impotent. I told him I will happily spend the rest of my life with him. But he is not happy and would force me to become intimate with him, even though he is incapable. I hate to excite myself. He kicked me out from home once. What should I do?

Answer:

Assalamu alaykum,

Thank you for your question. I am sorry that you are going through this difficult time with your husband, but this will require patience and tact. Every marriage has its ups and downs but you can get through this, by the grace of Allah.

 

Look For a Medical Solution

Generally speaking, a man usually does recover from his erectile dysfunction after prostate removal. It can take up to two years, but I am not sure if your husband’s surgery was nerve-sparing or not. I would recommend that your husband speaks to his doctor about what possible drugs he can use to help him. 75% of men who use medications are able to achieve erections after prostate removal. Your husband might be in this category so it is very important that he try and learn what he can and see different doctors about this, even if a homeopath, TCM practitioner, or naturopath.

 

If It Is Not Possible

If, after exhausting all options, (and even before) he is unable to recover his erectile function, you should still be intimate with him when he requests it. Although you may not enjoy getting excited without intercourse, he can certainly bring you to climax, and you can make him feel wanted and loved. It will take some getting used to, but you can do it and you must do it.

Communicate with him how you feel, and remember that your reward in this will be great because of the hardship and suffering that you are both enduring. Never get angry, never show dissatisfaction. Be positive, loving, and cheerful. Please see this link for more information:
https://www.health.harvard.edu/newsletter_article/Prostate-cancer-and-relationships-The-partners-story

 

Turn To Allah

There is nothing difficult for Allah, so you should turn to Him and ask Him to help you through this. You and your husband should worship Allah in the best way that you can and ask Him to place tranquility and blessings in your life. Allah is able to remove your suffering, stress, and problems, and He can do this for whomever He wills. Ask him through the Prayer of Need, and read some Qur’an every day with the meaning. By His grace, your situation and improve and you will both be content with His decree. Be sincere and give what you can of yourself. Allah will see every particle of your efforts.

Please see this link as well:
https://seekersguidance.org/answers/general-counsel/husband-impotent-what-to-do/

May Allah reward you, make you patient and give you better that you didn’t think possible. And may Allah reward you for standing by his side and may He send you help always in your time of need.

[Ustadha] Shazia Ahmad

Checked and Approved by Shaykh Faraz Rabbani

Ustadha Shazia Ahmad lived in Damascus, Syria for two years where she studied aqidah, fiqh, tajweed, tafseer, and Arabic. She then attended the University of Texas at Austin, where she completed her Masters in Arabic. Afterward, she moved to Amman, Jordan where she studied fiqh, Arabic, and other sciences. She recently moved back to Mississauga, Canada, where she lives with her family.

Should I Return To My Wife Who Refuses To Admit To Her Mistakes?

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Question: I am not happy with my wife since she is not at all taking care of me. We have been separated for a year now, and she has not shown that it bothers her. Her parents have asked me to forget the past and start a new beginning. But I am not at all happy with her being my wife as she is now, and I fear going forward with the marriage. She has not yet admitted to her mistakes and keeps blaming me, and says that I should not be angry with her about anything.

Answer:

Assalamu alaykum,

Thank you for your question. I pray that Allah allows you both to reconcile, heal, transform yourselves, squash your egos, and move forward.

 

Istikhara

This honestly is a very difficult decision that I cannot make for you. You have been separated a year, but I am not sure how much of your or her mindset has grown since then. Please take the Prayer of Seeking Guidance (Istikhara) as your most valued tool right now and pray it 3-7 times. Ask Allah to guide you to what is best for your religion and dunya, and intend to follow it. See the links here:
https://seekersguidance.org/answers/hanafi-fiqh/istikhara-the-prayer-of-seeking-guidance/
https://seekersguidance.org/articles/general-artices/the-reality-of-istikhara/

 

Apply Effort and Stay In the Marriage

If your istikhara comes out positive, I want you to know that your marriage is going to take lots of effort. You will not get along automatically, and if you do nothing, your marriage will go back exactly to how it was. Your positive istikhara would be telling you to go back and change and work at it, not go back and be exactly the same.

Please start with both of you taking this free course and reading these books:
https://seekersguidance.org/courses/marriage-in-islam-practical-guidance-for-successful-marriage/
https://www.5lovelanguages.com/
https://www.gottman.com/product/the-seven-principles-for-making-marriage-work/

Talk to your wife and tell her that you both have to come up with a plan to make things work, and please consider seeing a marriage counselor. Explain to her that you want to live your life according to a basic Islamic standard and both parties should be fulfilling their responsibilities in that. Also, explain to her that both parties will require patience and emotional effort to improve this marriage. There will be a lot of sacrifices and uncomfortable things required. But things always get better with du’a, time, effort, and sincerity.

 

Or Walk away

You are considering walking away because you do not want the same kind of marriage to continue. Your wife’s parents are wrong to say “forget the past“ because the past repeats itself when behavior is not rectified. There must be some apology by both parties and intention to change.

Follow your istikhara, if it is negative, then you know that you should sit down with both families and explain your reasons for walking away. Talk to her as well and tell her that you feel Allah is telling you to end this. Then follow the etiquettes of divorce and consider a future with someone else. See this link:
https://seekersguidance.org/answers/shafii-fiqh/etiquettes-going-divorce/

May Allah help you through this difficult time and give you a loving family that always supports, helps, and loves each other.

[Ustadha] Shazia Ahmad

Checked and Approved by Shaykh Faraz Rabbani

Ustadha Shazia Ahmad lived in Damascus, Syria for two years where she studied aqidah, fiqh, tajweed, tafseer, and Arabic. She then attended the University of Texas at Austin, where she completed her Masters in Arabic. Afterward, she moved to Amman, Jordan where she studied fiqh, Arabic, and other sciences. She recently moved back to Mississauga, Canada, where she lives with her family.

Is It Incumbent On Women In Their Post-Marriage Waiting Period To Cover?

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Question: Is it incumbent on women in their post-marriage waiting period to cover her face from non-mahrams? Can she speak to her non-mahram? Are there cultural factors that cause women to only wear niqab during the idda period, or to abstain from talking to their family members?

Answer:

In the Name of Allah, the Most Merciful and Compassionate,

It is not incumbent for a woman in her waiting period (idda) to keep her face covered before marriageable people (non-mahram). [Maydani, al-Lubab fi Sharh al-Kitab]

 

Mourning (Ihdad)

A mourning period is necessary for a woman who was divorced thrice or whose husband passed away if she is an adult Muslim. In this mourning period, she must refrain from adorning and beautifying herself without excuse. She does not wear clothing dyed with provocative colors. [Ibid.]

There is no obligation for her to cover her face.

 

Purpose Of Mourning (Ihdad)

Marriage is seen as a blessing from Allah Most High. When the marriage is terminated, either by death or divorce, the woman is obliged to show a sense of loss for losing that blessing. [Ibid.]

This is echoed in the following Prophetic narration:

The Prophet (Allah bless him and give him peace) said, “The most odious of the permissible to Allah Most High is divorce.” [Abu Dawud]

 

Socializing During the Idda

During the post-marriage waiting period (idda) a woman is obligated to remain in her home for a specified period of time. In this time, she can communicate with her family and entertain them as guests. [Maydani, al-Lubab fi Sharh al-Kitab]

As for marriageable kin (non-mahram), the basic rule applies. The basic rule with non-relative inter-gender interactions is to keep the interaction to a minimum and only when there is a need or clear worldly or religious benefit that could not be obtained from a woman.

If such a case arises, she can interact/communicate with them.

 

Remaining At Home

It is necessary for the woman in her post-marriage waiting period to remain in her home. If her marriage ended due to the death of her husband, she can leave the house by day if the need arises. [Maydani, al-Lubab fi Sharh al-Kitab]

Due to modern circumstances, the lack of strong extended family structures, and the other practical implications, scholars have given legal verdicts giving more expansive practicality regarding the waiting period. Thus if one has peculiar circumstances in which remaining at home would become unduly difficult – one should consult the scholars regarding the specifics of their situation.

 

Summary

The purpose of mourning is to show a sense of loss. That is manifested by remaining home (with the aforementioned conditions and exceptions) and abstaining from those things that are clear shows of provocative behavior. Covering the face is not entailed in this meaning.

She may continue to engage in family relations without exiting the home. Thus you will find that certain cultural aspects are congruous to the Islamic guidelines whereas others don’t.

I hope this helps,
Allah knows best.
[Shaykh] Yusuf Weltch

Checked and Approved by Shaykh Faraz Rabbani

Shaykh Yusuf Weltch is a graduate from Tarim; a student of Habib Umar and other luminaries; and authorized teachers of the Qur’an and the Islamic sciences

How Can I Overcome My Traumatic Divorce?

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Question: I have been separated from my husband for 2 years, and we have 3 young children. The divorce happened because of an argument between us, but multiple events happened between my mother and his family which lead to a dramatic divorce. My husband is mad because I did not stand by him, and he does not understand that I was depressed at the time. We got the divorce papers, and now he will not forgive me. How can we reconcile with all his anger and resentment?

Answer:

Assalamu alaykum,

Thank you for your question. I am so sorry that you have gone through such a traumatic divorce with three young children. It is truly heartbreaking, and I pray that Allah sends you the best thing for your life.

 

Separated

Sister, you have already been separated for two years, and it seems to me that you are holding onto your last shred of hope. If he has waited this long and he is satisfied to not come back to you and has sent you divorce papers, it may be that this is not meant to be. He seems determined, and I think you might have to start to accept it. Two years is a long time to try and get someone to forgive you. You do not see it now, but goodness will come from this and Allah wants you to turn to Him.

 

Improve Yourself

The best advice that I can give any person is to read this answer and apply the tips and read the du’as mentioned:
https://seekersguidance.org/answers/general-counsel/my-heart-feels-uneasy-after-divorce-what-can-i-do/

You must take this time for introspection and work on yourself. Make a list of your faults, and ask yourself how you can improve. Make a list of spiritual, physical, emotional and material goals, and start working toward them. You should have a growth mindset about your life and not let this divorce destroy you or throw you sideways. Also, make a gratitude journal and write down in it every day what you are grateful for.

 

Turn to Allah

The best first step for anyone when they are hit by a big test is to turn to Him, wholeheartedly, and worship Him to the best of their ability. Learn the basics of your religion as best as you can (right here with free Seekers courses), read some Qur’an with the meaning every day, even if only a few lines and surround yourself with positive religious people. Spend some time on self-care, eating healthily, exercising and being active, or try to do some charitable work.

 

Children

Your biggest responsibility right now is your children. If he does not want to continue this marriage, I recommend that you focus on getting him to spend time with the children in a regular way, and insist that he be a big part of their lives. A couple who is divorced and co-parenting generally should be talking every day regarding their child’s upbringing, homework, and overall development.

Take this opportunity, when discussing the children, to show him that you are a serious mother and will not falter when it comes to your responsibilities. He may find you gentle, caring, responsible, patient, smart and kind to co-parent with him without fighting, begging, crying, or acting out. Give him a chance to see the real you (or the new you), and perhaps his admiration for you will get you a second chance.

 

“After Difficulty, There Is Ease”

The words of Allah, Most High, above, promise us there is ease after every difficulty. Although you do not see it now, your difficulties are teaching you and blessing you layer after layer, and the end result is that you will be a different person. I pray that Allah facilitates your matters for you and helps you focus now on what you need to do. May Allah give you the best of this world and the next. Please see these links as well.

https://seekersguidance.org/answers/general-counsel/problems-in-my-life/
https://seekersguidance.org/answers/general-counsel/everything-going-wrong-life/

[Ustadha] Shazia Ahmad

Checked and Approved by Shaykh Faraz Rabbani

Ustadha Shazia Ahmad lived in Damascus, Syria for two years where she studied aqidah, fiqh, tajweed, tafseer, and Arabic. She then attended the University of Texas at Austin, where she completed her Masters in Arabic. Afterward, she moved to Amman, Jordan where she studied fiqh, Arabic, and other sciences. She recently moved back to Mississauga, Canada, where she lives with her family.

How Should I Live My Life After Losing Custody of My Children?

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Question: I am a divorcee, I have two boys that are 7 and 8 years old. The government gave custody to my ex-husband, as I was in a bad state financially and psychologically. They are being raised by his wife. She is a good Muslima, but it is heartbreaking for me. I do not understand. Should I work on myself to take them back which will take some time, or should I consider it as the decree of Allah and give my life to seeking knowledge, feeling some calling deep inside of me?

Answer:

Assalamu alaykum,

Thank you for your question. I empathize with your heartbreak and cannot imagine how you must feel being separated from your children and no longer being an integral part of their lives.

 

Do Not Let Your Children Forget You

Right now, you do not need to focus on getting your children back. Instead, pray for them, send them gifts, make small things for them, and try to visit them regularly. You should not disappoint them and keep your appointments with them. Be a good Muslim role model for them and help them as much as you are able. Pray with them when you see them, and never backbite about their father to them. Really, the most important thing is to love them.

 

Get It Together

The most important thing for you is to focus on yourself. If you are struggling financially and psychologically, I want you to get better for your sake, the sake of Allah, for practising your religion, and for being healthy-minded. This is key to any balanced, happy, and healthy lifestyle. You cannot help someone until you help yourself first.

I want you to step back, look at your life, and make a list of goals. I want you to come up with a plan to become financially independent, either by getting a job and/or getting training while you work. Also, look at your religious life and make sure that everything is in order. Start with praying on time and learning your basic fiqh and how to recite the Qur’an correctly. These are all free courses available at SeekerGuidance. All you have to do is place Allah first on your list, and everything in your life with fall in order, even if it takes time.

Please see this link to help you put your problems in the right perspective:
https://seekersguidance.org/answers/general-counsel/everything-going-wrong-life/

 

Du’a and Tawakkul

Never underestimate the power of dua. It is the door through which you speak to Allah and ask from your heart. Use it every day and get rid of bad, old habits one by one. Pray the Prayer of Need when you are down. Also, recite these du’as in particular:
https://seekersguidance.org/articles/general-artices/selected-prophetic-prayers-for-spiritual-physical-and-emotional-wellbeing-by-chaplain-ibrahim-long/

Allah, Most High, says, “And whoever puts their trust in Allah, then He alone is sufficient for them.“ [Qur’an, 65:3]

May Allah facilitate your matters for you and give you the best of this world and the next.

[Ustadha] Shazia Ahmad

Checked and Approved by Shaykh Faraz Rabbani

Ustadha Shazia Ahmad lived in Damascus, Syria for two years where she studied aqidah, fiqh, tajweed, tafseer, and Arabic. She then attended the University of Texas at Austin, where she completed her Masters in Arabic. Afterward, she moved to Amman, Jordan where she studied fiqh, Arabic, and other sciences. She recently moved back to Mississauga, Canada, where she lives with her family.

What Can I Do about a Husband Who Does Not Want Children?

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Question: My husband of six years has finally told me that he does not want to ever have children. I have always wanted children, and he began saying he needed a few years and now has said he does not want children at all. He says he feels guilty for not fulfilling my rights, however, he is too selfish to have children. What advice and guidance can be given before coming to the decision of divorce?

Answer:

Assalamu alaykum,

Thank you for your question. Your husband has indeed robbed you of a basic right and sounds too immature to put your needs and the Prophetic Sunnah before his own desires.

 

Resources

The absolute best advice for your situation is here:
https://seekersguidance.org/answers/hanafi-fiqh/my-husband-doesnt-want-to-have-kids-what-can-i-do/
https://seekersguidance.org/answers/general-counsel/dealing-with-a-husband-who-does-not-want-to-have-children/

 

Istikhara

Six years is a long time to wait, and it sounds like you are inclining to a divorce. This is permissible grounds for a divorce, and you should pray istikhara before you make this decision. Turn to Allah in the last third of the night and ask him to guide you to His pleasure and to facilitate the basic fulfillment of your rights.

 

Communication

If he absolutely refuses, you should put everything openly and honestly on the table and tell him that you are making a plan to spend your future without him. You should consult family and friends on their opinions and perhaps have them try to convince him. This might get him thinking more seriously. If you divorce him, do so with the support of friends and family and turn to Allah at every step. Consider the etiquette of divorce here:
https://seekersguidance.org/answers/shafii-fiqh/etiquettes-going-divorce/

I pray that he changes his mind, and if not, I pray for a happy union for you with someone who can give you a family and dedicate himself to raising them as pious servants of Allah, Most High.

[Ustadha] Shazia Ahmad

Checked and Approved by Shaykh Faraz Rabbani

Ustadha Shazia Ahmad lived in Damascus, Syria for two years where she studied aqidah, fiqh, tajweed, tafseer, and Arabic. She then attended the University of Texas at Austin, where she completed her Masters in Arabic. Afterward, she moved to Amman, Jordan where she studied fiqh, Arabic, and other sciences. She recently moved back to Mississauga, Canada, where she lives with her family.