Is It Permissible for Me To Take Off My Hijab Since I Have Reached Menopause as a Teenager?

Question: I am a teenage girl who has reached early menopause, so is it compulsory for me to still wear a hijab? In the Qur’an, it is said that women can stop wearing hijab when they reach menopause.

Answer:

Assalamu alaykum,

Thank you for your question. Dear questioner, your circumstance is infrequent; about one in a thousand ladies encounter menopause in their teens. I pray that you recover swiftly if this was from an illness or if not, then I pray that you have good health and relief in the future.

The ruling

Your question is answered in full detail here, by Mufti Muhammad ibn Adam:
https://seekersguidance.org/answers/hanafi-fiqh/women-wear-hijab-menopause-elderly/

Modesty

Please know that, as a young woman in the prime of your youth and beauty, there would be no exception made for you because of your health issue. You would be required to cover yourself and carry yourself modestly, following the rules of gender interaction. Please see more details below:

Resources

https://seekersguidance.org/podcast-feeds/worship-spirituality/beyond-hijab-2/
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wIQd0bGYfiU
https://seekersguidance.org/answers/general-counsel/gender-interaction/

May Allah give you the best of this world and the next and facilitate your matters for you.

[Ustadha] Shazia Ahmad

Checked and Approved by Shaykh Faraz Rabbani

Ustadha Shazia Ahmad lived in Damascus, Syria, for two years, where she studied aqidah, fiqh, tajweed, Tafseer, and Arabic. She then attended the University of Texas at Austin, where she completed her Master’s in Arabic. Afterward, she moved to Amman, Jordan, where she studied fiqh, Arabic, and other sciences. She recently moved back to Mississauga, Canada, where she lives with her family.

 

 

 

Can I Send a Picture Of Myself Without Hijab To a Potential Suitor’s Mother?

Question: Can I send a picture of myself without hijab to my suitor’s mom?

Answer:

Assalamu alaykum,

Thank you for your question. Although it is permissible to send a picture of a girl without her hijab to a potential suitor’s mother or sister, nowadays, images can be leaked and shared even unintentionally.  Instead of wondering if his mother and sister are trustworthy, it would be less stressful and easier for everyone not to send it.

The Prophet, Allah bless him and give him peace, encouraged men to look at the face and hands of a woman, to get an indication of her beauty and robustness. It is commonly understood that women are more beautiful with their hijabs off, so there really is no reason to see the hair before the wedding.

Instead, ask the mother and sister to come over and meet the girl uncovered. This is what is done all over the Middle East, as the first step of approval before the suitor comes to see her. If the family does not even want to give you this much of their time, I dare say, they might not be right for you.
May Allah give you the best in this world and the next.

[Ustadha] Shazia Ahmad

Checked and Approved by Shaykh Faraz Rabbani

Ustadha Shazia Ahmad lived in Damascus, Syria for two years where she studied aqidah, fiqh, tajweed, tafseer, and Arabic. She then attended the University of Texas at Austin, where she completed her Masters in Arabic. Afterward, she moved to Amman, Jordan where she studied fiqh, Arabic, and other sciences. She recently moved back to Mississauga, Canada, where she lives with her family.

Is It Incumbent On Women In Their Post-Marriage Waiting Period To Cover?

Question: Is it incumbent on women in their post-marriage waiting period to cover her face from non-mahrams? Can she speak to her non-mahram? Are there cultural factors that cause women to only wear niqab during the idda period, or to abstain from talking to their family members?

Answer:

In the Name of Allah, the Most Merciful and Compassionate,

It is not incumbent for a woman in her waiting period (idda) to keep her face covered before marriageable people (non-mahram). [Maydani, al-Lubab fi Sharh al-Kitab]

 

Mourning (Ihdad)

A mourning period is necessary for a woman who was divorced thrice or whose husband passed away if she is an adult Muslim. In this mourning period, she must refrain from adorning and beautifying herself without excuse. She does not wear clothing dyed with provocative colors. [Ibid.]

There is no obligation for her to cover her face.

 

Purpose Of Mourning (Ihdad)

Marriage is seen as a blessing from Allah Most High. When the marriage is terminated, either by death or divorce, the woman is obliged to show a sense of loss for losing that blessing. [Ibid.]

This is echoed in the following Prophetic narration:

The Prophet (Allah bless him and give him peace) said, “The most odious of the permissible to Allah Most High is divorce.” [Abu Dawud]

 

Socializing During the Idda

During the post-marriage waiting period (idda) a woman is obligated to remain in her home for a specified period of time. In this time, she can communicate with her family and entertain them as guests. [Maydani, al-Lubab fi Sharh al-Kitab]

As for marriageable kin (non-mahram), the basic rule applies. The basic rule with non-relative inter-gender interactions is to keep the interaction to a minimum and only when there is a need or clear worldly or religious benefit that could not be obtained from a woman.

If such a case arises, she can interact/communicate with them.

 

Remaining At Home

It is necessary for the woman in her post-marriage waiting period to remain in her home. If her marriage ended due to the death of her husband, she can leave the house by day if the need arises. [Maydani, al-Lubab fi Sharh al-Kitab]

Due to modern circumstances, the lack of strong extended family structures, and the other practical implications, scholars have given legal verdicts giving more expansive practicality regarding the waiting period. Thus if one has peculiar circumstances in which remaining at home would become unduly difficult – one should consult the scholars regarding the specifics of their situation.

 

Summary

The purpose of mourning is to show a sense of loss. That is manifested by remaining home (with the aforementioned conditions and exceptions) and abstaining from those things that are clear shows of provocative behavior. Covering the face is not entailed in this meaning.

She may continue to engage in family relations without exiting the home. Thus you will find that certain cultural aspects are congruous to the Islamic guidelines whereas others don’t.

I hope this helps,
Allah knows best.
[Shaykh] Yusuf Weltch

Checked and Approved by Shaykh Faraz Rabbani

Shaykh Yusuf Weltch is a graduate from Tarim; a student of Habib Umar and other luminaries; and authorized teachers of the Qur’an and the Islamic sciences

Can a Married Man Have Close Female Friends?

Question: What is classed as adultery, and is it ok for a husband to have close female friends, even if the wife disapproves? How should I deal with this situation?

Answer:

Assalamu alaykum,

Thank you for your question. This sounds like a very frustrating and annoying experience for the wife, and I pray that you can come to an agreement with your husband.

 

Gender Interaction

Allah has placed rules of gender interaction for a good purpose. A man is never encouraged to become close to a marriageable member of the opposite sex for obvious reasons. This is especially inappropriate for a married man who has a wife waiting to spend his free time with her.

As for family members or colleagues, one should treat them cordially, politely, and keep a respectful distance. Close friendships, beyond the scope of work and family, with the opposite gender, are frowned upon, and exceptions are not made for old school friends or Facebook friends.

Please see the rules of gender interaction in these excellent answers:
https://seekersguidance.org/answers/general-counsel/guidelines-for-interacting-with-the-opposite-sex/
https://seekersguidance.org/answers/general-counsel/can-a-young-man-and-women-be-platonic-friends/
https://seekersguidance.org/answers/general-counsel/dealing-with-my-husband-having-female-facebook-friends/

 

Communicate

My advice to you is not to nag, get angry, or to give ultimatums because men do not respond well to this kind of behavior. You should openly tell him how you feel in a very brief way and then wait a few days to expand on the conversation. Let him think about and even if he does not agree with you, base your argument on emotion. Do not tell him that it is wrong or haram, but tell him that it hurts you and that is why you want him to stop.

 

Steps

-With any problem in life, ask Allah, Most High, to help you first. Turn to Him wholeheartedly with excellence in your worship, your own repentance, and sincere dua.
-Pray the Prayer of Need and ask Him to change your husband’s heart and make him understand how you feel.
-Bond with your husband when you are able so he enjoys spending time with you and craves it more often.
-If worse comes to worst, and you absolutely cannot change his mind, I suggest that you befriend all of his female friends, so they hear from you both as a couple and communicate with you both. Your voice (or messages) should always be in their ear, too, and they should know that you both come as a package, not just his friendship alone. This will make you feel a little better.
-Generally speaking, my advice is that you not let jealousy get the better of you. Fighting with your husband over jealousy is wrong and you should convey your disapproval without it turning into a fight. In one case, I have seen a woman get angry with her husband for being hit on. It was not his fault!

May Allah reward you for your patience and may He help you in guiding your husband to what is best for his marriage and his worldly and other-worldly affairs.

[Ustadha] Shazia Ahmad

Checked and Approved by Shaykh Faraz Rabbani

Ustadha Shazia Ahmad lived in Damascus, Syria for two years where she studied aqidah, fiqh, tajweed, tafseer, and Arabic. She then attended the University of Texas at Austin, where she completed her Masters in Arabic. Afterward, she moved to Amman, Jordan where she studied fiqh, Arabic, and other sciences. She recently moved back to Mississauga, Canada, where she lives with her family.

When Does Fornication Obligate a Hadd Punishment?

Question: What extent of fornication obligates the hadd punishment? What if one is not sure it occurred?

Answer:

In the Name of Allah, the Most Merciful and Compassionate

 

Short Answer

There is no legal punishment due in this circumstance due to the following reasons:

 

Detailed Answer

When it comes to legal punishments (hudud), the Messenger of Allah (Allah bless him and give him peace) gave us the following principle:

He (Allah bless him and give him peace) said, “Avert legal punishments (hudud) from the Muslims as best as you can…” [Tirmidhi]

With that being said, you need not worry over legal punishments; your concern should be with repenting to Allah Most High. [Ibn ‘Abidin, Radd al-Muhtar]

Conditions of a Sound Repentance
However, in order for the repentance to be sincere and sound one must fulfill the following conditions:
(1) Sincere remorse for the sin
(2) Immediately leaving the sin
(3) Firm resolve never to repeat the sin

[Nawawi, Riyadh al-Salihin]

 

All Sound Repentance is Accepted

Know that if one makes sincere repentance there remains no doubt of its acceptance. Just as no thirst remains after taking a drink of water. [Ghazzali, Ihya ‘Ulum al-Din]

The Messenger of Allah (Allah bless him and give him peace) said, “The one who repents (sincerely) from a sin is like one with no sin.” [Ibn Majah, Tabarani in al-M’ujam al-Kabir, and Bayhaqi in Sh’ib al-Iman]

I hope this helps,
Allah knows best.
[Shaykh] Yusuf Weltch

Checked and Approved by Shaykh Faraz Rabbani

Shaykh Yusuf Weltch is a graduate from Tarim; a student of Habib Umar and other luminaries; and authorized teachers of the Qur’an and the Islamic sciences

 

End of the Menstrual Cycle

Purification
Question:  When my menses are about to end I get this discharge that is white on my hands but when I put it on something white it looks yellow. Does that mean my menses have ended? Should I make ghusl or wait? Is it pure and does it break wudu if I get it on normal days? 
Answer:
Assalāmu ‘alaykum Dear Sister in Faith,
The maximum duration of menses in the Hanafi School is ten days. Thus, any discolored discharge that is seen within that duration is to be considered menstrual flow [Quduri].
Leukorrhea, more commonly know as vaginal discharge, is the substance you are seeing at the end of your menses.  It is whitish but also turns yellowish when exposed to air.  So long as the color is not clearly distinct from that of your normal daily discharge (on pure days),  then it’s not considered part of your menstrual flow.  This would be the sign that you should perform ghusl.

To determine the actual color of the discharge (before oxidation), a woman should place a small piece of cloth or toilet paper (kursuf) at the opening of the vagina.  She should not insert it, but rather allow it to be held by the labial lips [Birgivi, Dhukhr al Muta’ahilin].

The female companions used to send these pieces of cloth to our Lady Aisha (may Allah be pleased with her) to determine the end of their menses, much the way you are inquiring now.  She instructed them that a woman must not hasten to perform ghusl until she sees whiteness (Bukhari, Book of Menstruation).

The regular whitish discharge that a woman experiences on a daily basis is pure in accordance with the sounder view in the Hanafi School [Tahtawi, Hashiya on Maraqi al Falah].
It is not necessary to remove it from one’s clothing before prayer. Its release would not necessitate ghusl nor wudu.
Our worship to Allah is an offering we make to Him, in hopes it is accepted and raised to the Heavens. Practicing the rulings associated with purity, even those related to menses, is part of that worship and should be followed with that purpose in mind.  Then, it will be a cause for gaining nearness to Him.
Allah did not legislate anything to place a hardship on us.

“He laid upon you no hardship in the Religion” (Quran 22:78).

And Allah, Most High, knows best.

[Ustahda] Iman Badawi

Checked and Approved by Shaykh Faraz Rabbani

Completely Naked During Intercourse?

Question: Can one have intercourse by removing all of one’s clothing?

Answer: Assalamu alaykum,

Yes, it is permissible for a couple to fully remove their clothing for intercourse. It is not prohibited nor disliked.

Shaykh Faraz Rabbani mentions, in the link below, that it is superior if some nakedness is generally covered because the Prophet, may Allah bless him and give him peace, said, “Allah is more deserving of one’s shyness than people are” [Tirmidhi].  Perhaps a couple could use a blanket or sheet.

Is It Allowed to Be Completely Naked During Intercourse?

[Ustadha] Shazia Ahmad

Checked and Approved by Shaykh Faraz Rabbani

Ustadha Shazia Ahmad lived in Damascus, Syria for two years where she studied Aqidah, Fiqh, Tajweed, Tafsir, and Arabic. She then attended the University of Texas at Austin, where she completed her Masters in Arabic. Afterward, she moved to Amman, Jordan where she studied fiqh, Arabic, and other sciences. She recently moved back to Mississauga, Canada, where she lives with her family.

Can I Pray With Rolled-Up Sleeves?

Question: Can I pray with rolled-up sleeves with a long-sleeved top underneath so no awrah is exposed? Sometimes the sleeves are rolled and sewn that way into the shirt or I roll up the sleeves myself. I read somewhere that men cannot do this.

Answer: Assalamu alaykum,

It is permissible for you to pray with your sleeves rolled up (whether sewn in or not) as long as you have a long-sleeved shirt underneath that is not tight or transparent. See the following link about a woman’s attire when she prays and otherwise:

What Is Proper Prayer Attire for Women?
What Are the Requirements of Hijab?

Please see the following link about a man’s proper attire:

Short Sleeves in Public for Men [Shafi’i School]

JazakAllahu khayran

[Ustadha] Shazia Ahmad

Checked and Approved by Shaykh Faraz Rabbani

Ustadha Shazia Ahmad lived in Damascus, Syria for two years where she studied Aqidah, fiqh, tajweed, Tafseer, and Arabic. She then attended the University of Texas at Austin, where she completed her Masters in Arabic. Afterward, she moved to Amman, Jordan where she studied Fiqh, Arabic, and other sciences. She recently moved back to Mississauga, Canada, where she lives with her family.

Is It Sinful to Feel That One Has Good in Them?

Question: Assalamu alaikum, Sometimes we feel insecure due to certain people and circumstances, and knowing that there is some good in us, makes us feel happy during those times. Is it allowed to think that it is good for us? Is self-esteem sinful?

Answer: In the Name of Allah, the Most Merciful and Compassionate

May Allah bless you for your question

Praiseworthy Pride (Fakhr)

It is not sinful to feel a sense of good about oneself or a sense of dignity with the condition that one does not ascribe those virtues to themselves independent of the blessing of Allah.

Allah Most High says, “And whatever of favor is (bestowed) on you, it is from Allah; then whenever any calamity afflicts upon you, unto Him you cry (for assistance)” [Qur’an, 16:53].

If one feels that they have good qualities and ascribes the credit of those qualities to Allah Most High, as is right to do, then they have fulfilled the primary conditions of gratitude.

And Allah Most High says, “Nay! But worship Allah alone and be among the grateful” [Qur’an, 39:66].

Self-Conceit

If one, on the other hand, ascribes the credit for any blessing or virtue to themselves, without perceiving it to be a blessing from Allah Most High, they have fallen into self-conceit (‘Ujb), which is one of the destructive sins.

This is the sin that Qarun fell into. Allah Most High mentions the story of Qarun in the Qur’an.

“Verily Qarun was of the people of Moses, but he oppressed them; and We had given him of the treasures so much that its keys would have been a burden to a company of men endowed with strength. Once his people said to him: ‘Do not exult, for Allah does not love the exultant’. * And seek by means of what Allah has given you, the abode of the Hereafter, and do not forget your portion in this world, and be good (to others) just as Allah has been good to you, and do not seek to make mischief in the land, verily Allah does not love the mischief-makers. * Said he (Qarun): ‘I have been given this (wealth) only because of a knowledge that is in me.’ Did he not know that Allah had destroyed before him of the generations that were mightier in strength than he and greater in amassing (wealth)? And (then even) the guilty shall not be asked about their sins” [Qur’an, 28:76-9].

Thus Qarun did not ascribe the blessing he had (in this case wealth) to Allah rather to himself. This applies to all blessings from Allah, big and small.

Pride in Allah

As Believers, we should feel a sense of pride and honor in the fact that Allah has guided us and made us servants of His.

Allah Most High says, “Verily for Allah is all honor and for His messenger and for the Believers, rather the Hypocrites do not know.” [Qur’an, 63:8]

’Umar bin al-Khattab (may Allah bless him) said, “We are such a people (who) Allah has honored with Islam. Thus if we were to seek honor by other than Islam, Allah would have abased us” [Tabarani, Tafsir al-Tabarani].

Hopes this helps
Allahu A’alam

[Shaykh] Yusuf Weltch

Checked and Approved by Shaykh Faraz Rabbani

Shaykh Yusuf Weltch is a graduate from Tarim; a student of Habib Umar and other luminaries; and authorized teachers of the Qur’an and the Islamic sciences.

If Good Deeds Expiate Sins, Does That Mean I Can Commit Sins?

Question: If good deeds expiate sins, does that mean I can commit sins, as long as the good deeds are more?

Answer: In the Name of Allah, the Most Merciful and Compassionate

Expiation Refers to Minor Sins

While it is true that there are many Hadith regarding the expiation of sins by doing good deeds, it must be understood that the sins intended in these narrations are minor sins, also know as slip-ups (lamam). This concept is clearly mentioned in the Qur’an in the following verse.

Allah Most High says, “Those who avoid great sins and vices except the inadvertently committed sins (lamam), indeed your Lord is of Great Forgiveness. He knows you well when He created you from the earth and when you were fetuses in your mothers’ wombs. Therefore, ascribe not purity to yourselves. He knows best him who fears Allah” [Qur’an, 53:32].

The Messenger of Allah (may Allah bless him and give him peace) said, “The five prayers, Jumu’a till Jumu’a, and Ramdhan till Ramadhan are expiations for what was committed between them, as long as major sins were avoided” [Muslim].

The Ruling of Keeping a Dog

In the Hanafi School, it is prohibitively disliked (makruh tahriman) to keep a dog as a pet. It is however allowed if the dog is kept for hunting or protection [Ala’ al-Din Abidin, al-Hadiyya al-`Ala’iyya].

Thus it is more than just a slip up to intentionally keep a dog. Also, we should not look at sins as a game of numbers. Rather we should understand that our purpose in this life, as Believers in Allah, is to strive to attain His good pleasure and mercy.

Sins are Barriers to Attaining the Divine Pleasure of Allah

We should see sins as an impediment to our life’s purpose. We should never lose hope in the mercy of Allah but we should not allow ourselves to knowingly disobey Allah.

Never Belittle Any Sin

Just as the Messenger (may Allah bless him) said, “Do not belittle any good deed, even if meeting your fellow believer with a smiling face” [Muslim].

This concept of not belittling also applies to sins. For we never know what good deed it is that Allah accepts and grants us His mercy for nor do we know which sin it is that earns His wrath.

Punished Due to a Cat

The Messenger of Allah (may Allah bless him and give him peace) said, “Then the Hell-Fire was presented to me and I saw therein a woman from Bani Isra’il. She was being punished due to a cat of hers. She confined it and never fed it nor did she let it free to eat from the land…” [Muslim].

Thus this woman, regardless of her lifetime of good deeds, was cast to the Hell-Fire because of one sin, which she may not have perceived to be that bad.

Likewise, you should not perceive disobeying the command of Allah regarding the dog, as something small or not that bad.

Hope this helps
Allahu A’alam

[Shaykh] Yusuf Weltch

Checked and Approved by Shaykh Faraz Rabbani

Shaykh Yusuf Weltch is a graduate from Tarim; student of Habib Umar and other luminaries; and authorized teachers of Qur’an and the Islamic sciences.