Moving out and mending the relationship with parents

Question: Is it permissible to live alone as a single woman to get away from a toxic, broken background? My mom and I have been verbally and physically violent with each other. We struggle to communicate and bond due to her cultural mentality. She has always exposed me, lied about me, and embarrassed me publicly because of her PTSD, and she constantly brings up the past. I also have PTSD, and black magic has destroyed our lives. I am in the process of getting help for black magic from a trusted person. Also, my relationship with my father has been broken for 10 years. He remarried & has not been in my life since I was a child.  We have spent 2-3 years on and off with each other due to my sins being wrongfully exposed that dishonored my parents. He has forgiven me, but we don’t have a bond. Will I be forgiven if my parents have forgiven me but don’t have a strong relationship with me? How can I keep them and Allah happy? I don’t want to be denied Paradise because of this. Also, I want to start a business. Is showing your lifestyle & success to the public for marketing reasons acceptable? Or should it be kept as limited?

Answer:

Thank you for your question. I empathize with your frustration and worry. I pray that you gradually get along better with your parents over the years and come to see motherhood yourself, which is a valuable lesson in understanding parents.

Living alone

It is permissible for you to live alone, but not somewhat disliked. Please see these answers for details:
https://seekersguidance.org/answers/hanafi-fiqh/can-woman-live-alone/
https://seekersguidance.org/answers/general-counsel/can-an-unmarried-young-woman-live-alone/
https://seekersguidance.org/articles/prophetic-guidance/harms-of-aloneness-the-prophets-firm-discouragement-of-living-or-travelling-alone/

Building a bond with parents

You don’t need to get stressed out about your relationship with your parents. It is right for you to be duly concerned and not despair or try to achieve perfection because that doesn’t exist.  Please see this link to learn about goodness to your parents:
https://seekersguidance.org/articles/prophetic-guidance/serve-parents-now-late/
https://seekersguidance.org/answers/general-counsel/obeying-ones-parents-and-maintaining-ties-of-kinship/

Anger and communication

Your focus right now should be to dissipate your anger when you are with your mother. It is not permissible for you to get violent or hit her. Learn how to walk away before your anger gets triggered and learn how to communicate effectively and logically without getting emotional. Try to get into a routine with. For example, vacuum on Mondays, make dinner on Tuesdays, take her out to coffee on Wednesdays. Mothers love routine, and they love when they know what to expect from their children. These will actually be set acts of worship for your mother.

As for your father, instead of calculating how strong your relationship is, try your best. You will be rewarded according to your intention, by the grace of Allah. Call him regularly, drop him a text message, and let him know that you are thinking of him. Get together with him as often as is healthy and stress-free for both of you. Please send him a gift at least once a year.

Turn to Allah for everything.

Use the powerful tool of du`a. Allah is there to hear your repentance, and He is there to answer your du`as. Seek proximity and shun anything that doesn’t lead you to His pleasure. Pray the Prayer of Need as often as you wish, and pray Istikhara for your decisions. Learn your obligatory knowledge and fulfill your obligations to Allah first. When you put Allah first, he helps you fulfill your obligations to everyone else easily, and the pieces fall in place.

The Prophet, may Alla bless him and give him peace, said, “Allah descends every night to the lowest heaven when one-third of the first part of the night is over and says: I am the Lord; I am the Lord: who is there to supplicate Me so that I answer him? Who is there to beg of Me so that I grant him? Who is there to beg forgiveness from Me so that I forgive him? He continues like this till the day breaks.“ [Muslim]

May Allah reward you and bless you for trying your best.

[Ustadh] Shazia Ahmad

Checked and Approved by Shaykh Faraz Rabbani

Ustadha Shazia Ahmad lived in Damascus, Syria, for two years, where she studied aqidah, fiqh, tajweed, Tafseer, and Arabic. She then attended the University of Texas at Austin, where she completed her Master’s in Arabic. Afterward, she moved to Amman, Jordan, where she studied fiqh, Arabic, and other sciences. She recently moved back to Mississauga, Canada, where she lives with her family.

I Am a Maliki and My Father Was Not Physically Present When I Remarried My Ex-Husband. Was My Nikah Valid?

Question:

Assalamu ‘alaykum.

I am of Moroccan descent and Maliki by madhhab. I re-married my husband (Pakistani and Hanafi) after a talaq ba’in, without my dad being present, although we called him during the nikah to confirm consent. Is our nikah valid?

Answer:

Wa ‘alaykum assalam wa rahmatullah wa barakatuh.

I pray you are well.

The Father’s Presence at a Nikah is Not Needed

Yes, you are free to marry whoever you want, and your father’s physical presence is not a condition in the Hanafi school. The Father’s approval is important if the groom is not suitable for the lady, but that is not the case.

If all the conditions of the nikah were present, then it is a valid marriage, provided he didn’t divorce you with a triple divorce. Your school of Fiqh does not affect the situation. (Maydani, al Lubab)

May Allah bless you in your marriage. Please take this free course with your husband. It may be the means for many blessings to come into your life.

[Shaykh] Abdul-Rahim

Checked and Approved by Shaykh Faraz Rabbani

Shaykh Abdul-Rahim Reasat began his studies in Arabic Grammar and Morphology in 2005. After graduating with a degree in English and History, he moved to Damascus in 2007, where, for 18 months, he studied with many erudite scholars. In late 2008 he moved to Amman, Jordan, where he continued his studies for the next six years in Sacred Law (fiqh), legal theory (Usul al-fiqh), theology, hadith methodology, hadith commentary, and Logic. He was also given licenses of mastery in the science of Quranic recital. He was able to study an extensive curriculum of Quranic sciences, tafsir, Arabic grammar, and Arabic eloquence.

Parents won’t let me wear hijab until I respect them more

Question: Is it halal for a woman to have a picture of herself as her profile picture? Also, what should a sister do if she wants to wear the hijab, but her parents don’t allow her until she starts showing them kindness, respect, and tolerance (and she indeed isn’t fulfilling those things)? Should she wait with the hijab until she has satisfied those criteria?

Answer:

Assalamu alaykum,

Thank you for your question.

Posting pictures online

The advent of social media makes more and more people believe that it is fine to display oneself to the opposite gender without regard to the Qur’anic injunction of lowering one’s gaze. There is more harm than benefit in posting pictures of oneself online though permissible, but unlawful if she is uncovered or wearing makeup.

The likes of Facebook, Snapchat, and Instagram stoop most communication to the base level of speaking through pictures when more emphasis should be put on words, meanings, and encouraging each other to do good and forbidding evil. Please see this video about social media: https://seekersguidance.org/articles/prophetic-guidance/etiquette-of-social-media-ustadh-amjad-tarsin/

Wearing hijab

Although your parents are correct about getting respect and kindness from you, I am afraid that this is not conditional upon wearing the hijab. They are two separate obligations, and you must fulfill both independently of each other. You will probably respect them more and give them more kindness once you do wear hijab. Pray the Prayer of Need and ask Allah to facilitate both acts of worship for you and guide you to do the right thing. May Allah reward you for making such a big transformation.

https://seekersguidance.org/tag/hijab/

[Ustadha] Shazia Ahmad

Checked and Approved by Shaykh Faraz Rabbani

Ustadha Shazia Ahmad lived in Damascus, Syria, for two years, where she studied aqidah, fiqh, tajweed, Tafseer, and Arabic. She then attended the University of Texas at Austin, where she completed her Master’s in Arabic. Afterward, she moved to Amman, Jordan, where she studied fiqh, Arabic, and other sciences. She recently moved back to Mississauga, Canada, where she lives with her family.

Is it haram to keep secrets from your parents?

Question: Is it haram to keep secrets from your parents?

Answer:

Assalamu alaykum,

Thank you for your question. Secrets vary in nature, so there is no black and white answer for this.

If one has been entrusted with a secret, it is considered an ‘amana, a trust, and one may not betray it. Betraying trust is a characteristic of hypocrites, and one must do one’s duty to fulfill one’s trust and teach one’s children to do this as well. The Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, said, “The signs of a hypocrite are three: Whenever he speaks he tells a lie; whenever he is entrusted he proves dishonest; whenever he promises he breaks his promise.“ [Bukhari]

That being said, there are some secrets that absolutely should not be kept from parents. If one knows about a certain abuse or problem taking place, one must rush to one’s parents or authorities to help the victim, while keeping it a secret could even be impermissible (haram). I pray that Allah blesses us all with such wise judgment and protects all Muslims from harm. May Allah give you the best of this world and the next.

[Ustadha] Shazia Ahmad

Checked and Approved by Shaykh Faraz Rabbani

Ustadha Shazia Ahmad lived in Damascus, Syria, for two years, where she studied aqidah, fiqh, tajweed, Tafseer, and Arabic. She then attended the University of Texas at Austin, where she completed her Master’s in Arabic. Afterward, she moved to Amman, Jordan, where she studied fiqh, Arabic, and other sciences. She recently moved back to Mississauga, Canada, where she lives with her family.

How Should I Handle Abusive Parents?

Question: 

How should I handle abusive parents?

Answer:

Assalamu alaykum,

Thank you for your question. I am very sorry for the stress that you are going through with your parents. Please know that a parent-child relationship should be based on mutual love, mutual respect, and mutual understanding. This is a much more effective parenting method in the long-run, and I pray that you can achieve this with your parents.

 

Resources

First, the best thing I can advise for your situation is to read these excellent and relevant answers,
https://seekersguidance.org/answers/general-counsel/how-do-we-deal-with-parents-who-emotionally-and-spiritually-abuse-their-children/
https://seekersguidance.org/answers/general-counsel/dealing-with-a-dysfunctional-relationship-with-parents/
https://seekersguidance.org/answers/general-counsel/dealing-problems-with-abusive-father/

 

Excellence Towards Parents

It is true that children should show excellence to parents, but this can be done in various ways. Restraining yourself from a mean or disrespectful response is excellence to your parents. Doing what they ask when you have some free time is excellence. May Allah reward you for the restraint and patience that you have shown thus far.

 

Communicate

As you genuinely feel that your parents are harming you, you must find a way to distance yourself gradually and communicate. Explain to them that you need to study or work, and do not bottle up your emotions. Tell them honestly that they are hurting your feelings and that you need some positivity from them. If you feel that you cannot tell them, write a letter to them and have them read it. Remember that the degradation of a child never was and never will be the Prophetic way, and many Eastern parents need to learn this.

 

Temporary

It sounds like you are coming to the age of independence and want to make your own decisions, while your parents want to hold on to you as though you are a child. Rest assured that you will move out one day and marry, perhaps sooner than you think, and things will get easier, in sha Allah. Many a young person does not get along with their parents only to become their best friends after they have their own children. Just be sure not to repeat the cycle of emotional abuse when you have your own children.

 

Steps

-Turn to Allah, learn your personally obligatory knowledge, be the best Muslima that you can be, and build your relationship with your Lord. There is no problem that Allah sends you that He cannot solve, so ask for His Mercy and Kindness and guidance to a solution. He will surely come to your aid.
-Try journaling; once you get your emotions onto paper, it will be easier to process them and pinpoint what is bothering you and what you need.
-Spend time with good friends who are a positive and religious influence on you.
-Exercise, take your supplements and get very fresh air every day. Do not ever let your physical health suffer.

 

Patience

The Prophet, Allah bless him and give him peace, said, “There are three whose supplication is not rejected: The fasting person when he breaks his fast, the just leader, and the supplication of the oppressed person; Allah raises it up above the clouds and opens the gates of heaven to it. And the Lord says: ‘By My might, I shall surely aid you, even if it should be after a while.’” [Tirmidhi] May Allah give you the best of this world and the next and facilitate your matters for you.

[Ustadha] Shazia Ahmad

 

Checked and Approved by Shaykh Faraz Rabbani

Ustadha Shazia Ahmad lived in Damascus, Syria for two years where she studied aqidah, fiqh, tajweed, tafseer, and Arabic. She then attended the University of Texas at Austin, where she completed her Masters in Arabic. Afterwards, she moved to Amman, Jordan where she studied fiqh, Arabic, and other sciences. She recently moved back to Mississauga, Canada, where she lives with her family.

Given the considerations in such cases, please consult reliable local scholars about the specifics of the situation. Jazakum Allah khayr.

When Is a Child Ascribed to the Father in Islam?

Question:

If a woman gets pregnant out of wedlock and then marries the biological father less than 6 months before the delivery of the baby, is the baby deemed the child of the father?

Answer:

Wa alaykum assalam wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh,

Dear questioner,

Thank you for your important question.

No, if the child is conceived out of wedlock and then the marriage happens in less than six lunar months from the time of delivery, the child will be Islamically fatherless. It would not be permissible for the man to claim the child as his. [al-Iqna’, al-Shirbini al-Khatib]

To give an illustration, a man and a woman are in a long-standing relationship, and the woman gets pregnant. Four months into the pregnancy, she informs him, and they decide to get married. The child is born 5 months later. The child will not be considered his child.

The questioner specifically asked about certain dates. January 1st 2020, was 6th Jumada Al-Awwal, 1441. Six lunar months later was 7th Dhul Qadah, 1441, which was  June 27th, 2020. This means that the child cannot Islamically be ascribed to the husband of the child’s mother. The child is however a mahram of the husband of the child’s mother.

This would not apply if the child was initially conceived out of wedlock and then the two married, and the child was born six months after the two got Islamically married and had intercourse. This is because of the theoretical possibility of the child being the product of the marriage and the subsequent intercourse. If the child is born less than six lunar months from that time, there is no possibility that the child is Islamically his. [al-Iqna’, al-Shirbini al-Khatib]

The mother’s husband who is the biological father of the child should still support the mother and child and be a paternal figure. However, it should be clear to the child that his biological father is not the father in Allah’s eyes, and he is merely a step-father.

This is keeping with the words of the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him), “The child shall be ascribed to the mother (lit. the bed) and the fornicator gets the stone!” [Muslim]

Repentance and reparation are always possible. Just because the relationship starting with sin, and just because the child is fatherless, does not mean that the baraka of a new and strong Islamic trajectory cannot mend everything.

“O My servants who have transgressed against themselves [by sinning], do not despair of the mercy of Allah. Indeed, Allah forgives all sins. Indeed, it is He who is the Forgiving, the Merciful.” [Qur’an, 39: 53]

I pray this helps.

[Ustadh] Farid Dingle

 

Checked and Approved by Shaykh Faraz Rabbani

Ustadh Farid Dingle has completed extensive years of study in the sciences of the Arabic language and the various Islamic Sciences. During his studies, he also earned a CIFE Certificate in Islamic Finance. Over the years he has developed a masterful ability to craft lessons that help non-Arabic speakers gain a deep understanding of the language. He currently teaches courses in the Arabic Language.

How Do I Deal With My Toxic Parents Who Give Me Constant Stress?

Question:

I am an 18-year-old girl, who has been physically, emotionally, and mentally abused due to my toxic and overcontrolling parents since I was six. They often play the Muslim parent card, and I find it hard to communicate with them as I fear talking to my dad, and my mom tries to brainwash me with her emotions. It has been tough for me to focus on my studies and other things. I am often forced to do anything they please, and I recently lost my patience to deal with them.

Answer:

Assalamu alaykum,

Thank you for your question. I am very sorry for the stress that you are going through with your parents. Please know that a parent-child relationship should be based on mutual love, mutual respect, and mutual understanding. This is a much more effective parenting method in the long run, and I pray that you can achieve this with your parents.

 

Resources

The best thing I can tell you for your situation is to read these excellent and relevant answers, first:
https://seekersguidance.org/answers/general-counsel/how-do-we-deal-with-parents-who-emotionally-and-spiritually-abuse-their-children/#
https://seekersguidance.org/answers/general-counsel/dealing-with-a-dysfunctional-relationship-with-parents/
https://seekersguidance.org/answers/general-counsel/dealing-problems-with-abusive-father/

 

Excellence towards Parents

It is true that children should show excellence to parents, but this can be done in various ways. Restraining yourself from a mean or disrespectful response is excellence towards your parents. Doing what they ask when you have some free time is excellent. May Allah reward you for the restraint and patience that you have shown thus far.

 

Harm

As you genuinely feel that your parents are harming you, you must find a way to distance yourself gradually. Explain to them that you need to study, and do not bottle up your emotions. Tell them honestly that they are asking too much of you and that you need a bit more free time. Perhaps you can discuss their expectations of you and write them down, so it is clear and agreed upon.

 

Patience

Your age is the most difficult age when it comes to dealing with parents. You are coming to the age of independence and making your own decisions, while your parents have to learn to start letting go of their little girl. Rest assured that you will move out one day, and marry, maybe sooner than later, and things will get easier, by the grace of Allah. Many a young person does not get along with their parents only to become their best friends after they have their own children.

 

Turn to Allah

In the meanwhile, turn to Allah, learn your personally obligatory knowledge, be the best Muslimah that you can be, and build your relationship with your Lord. There is no problem that Allah sends down that He cannot solve, so ask for His Mercy and Kindness. He will surely come to your aid.

The Prophet, Allah bless him and give him peace, said, “There are three whose supplication is not rejected: The fasting person when he breaks his fast, the just leader, and the supplication of the oppressed person; Allah raises it up above the clouds and opens the gates of heaven to it. And the Lord says: ‘By My might, I shall surely aid you, even if it should be after a while.’” [Tirmidhi] May Allah give you the best of this world and the next and facilitate your matters for you.

Given the considerations in such cases, we urge you to please consult reliable local scholars or counselors about the specifics of the situation.

Jazakum Allah khayr. May Allah facilitate all ease and good for you. 

[Ustadha] Shazia Ahmad

 

Checked and Approved by Shaykh Faraz Rabbani

Ustadha Shazia Ahmad lived in Damascus, Syria for two years where she studied aqidah, fiqh, tajweed, tafseer, and Arabic. She then attended the University of Texas at Austin, where she completed her Masters in Arabic. Afterward, she moved to Amman, Jordan where she studied fiqh, Arabic, and other sciences. She recently moved back to Mississauga, Canada, where she lives with her family.

Am I Sinful For Always Making Mistakes That Displease My Parents?

Question:  I have been making my parents displeased with me since I was little. I used to be very rude. Was that a sin? I always seem to get on their nerves. I have tried to do things right, but I figured I will always get things wrong. I stopped making a concerted effort to make them happy. Is that a sin? I have tried again, but I keep on getting things wrong. When I get some things right,  I get other things wrong. I have a reputation for this now, can I change?

Answer:

Assalamu alaykum,

Thank you for your question. I am sorry that you are going through this difficult time, but I urge you not to give up on yourself. The devil has a way of dissuading a person from good, don’t let him.

 

Mistakes

People are not born perfect, and we make mistakes all the time. I, personally, make mistakes every day of my life. Everything that I do, I most certainly could do better. I do not want you to think about your mistakes, but I want you to be grateful to Allah for everything that you have, and I do not want you to feel guilty. Listen to this for more details:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=e9tzjqtSYvA

 

Intentions

Your intention is what matters. If your intention is to please Allah and your parents in everything that you do and if you take a little longer to learn to do things than others do, your reward will be commensurate with your efforts.

The Prophet, Allah bless him and grant him peace, said, “Verily, Allah does not look at your forms or your wealth, rather He looks at your deeds and your hearts.” [Ibn Majah] Please take this hadith to heart and know that Allah is only interested in your sincerity and not how nimble you are.

 

Sin

It is not sinful to “stop trying“ or “to put less effort“ in what you do, but it is sinful to despair in Allah’s mercy. Believe in yourself, do not tire of good works, and leave the rest up to Allah. Please see this excellent answer for more details:
https://seekersguidance.org/answers/general-counsel/everything-going-wrong-life/

May Allah give you the best in this world and the next.
[Ustadha] Shazia Ahmad

Checked and Approved by Shaykh Faraz Rabbani

Ustadha Shazia Ahmad lived in Damascus, Syria for two years where she studied aqidah, fiqh, tajweed, tafseer, and Arabic. She then attended the University of Texas at Austin, where she completed her Masters in Arabic. Afterward, she moved to Amman, Jordan where she studied fiqh, Arabic, and other sciences. She recently moved back to Mississauga, Canada, where she lives with her family.

Am I Right for Cutting Off My Sister’s Family?

Question: My family and I are Muslims alhamdulillah. My younger sister got involved with a non-Muslim man and married him in the US courts. My parents accepted it, but I refused this and tried to convince her otherwise. I asked scholars for their advice on the situation in the beginning, but nothing has worked. It has been 10 years now, and I refuse to talk to her spouse and children, but I do check up on her. Am I doing the right thing?

Answer:

Assalamu alaykum,

Thank you for your question. I am sorry that you are going through so much pain and suffering regarding your sister. What is clear is that your sister has not listened to you and has moved on with her life. Now it is up to you to do the right thing.

 

Cutting Off Family

I am relieved to hear that you have not cut her off completely and that you are in touch with her. It would have been impermissible to cut her off in any case. Islam encourages maintaining ties of kinship even when that person lives in sin because does not encourage hating the individual but rather hating the action.

 

Dealing with Family Members Who Sin

The best answer you can read about keeping in touch with family members who are sinning is here:
https://seekersguidance.org/answers/general-counsel/should-i-maintain-ties-with-family-who-openly-sin-or-shun-them

 

Cutting Off Her Children

Please keep in mind that her children are innocent, and they have nothing to do with their parent’s choice. They are your sister’s children, and honestly, it disgusts me that you do not have a relationship with them. They did not ask to be brought into this world. You are a living Muslim member of their family, and they have basic rights over you.

It is never too late to start a relationship now, and it is well worth it. Do you not want them to have an Islamic perspective in their lives? Do you not you want them to come to you for Islamic advice or learn their deen? You are a powerless person because right now. In other words, you are no one to them, hence you have zero influence.

 

Cutting Off Her Husband

As for the husband, he is not your mahram anyway, so you only need to be cordial and respectfully distant from him. Your goal in life should not be to alienate him but to show him Islam and make him learn to love it so that he converts and their marriage will be halal. Is that not all you ever wanted? So why not contribute something to the solution? I believe your behavior has alienated him and turned him off from Islam, and I highly discourage it.

Please see these links as well:
https://seekersguidance.org/answers/general-counsel/my-son-married-a-non-muslim/
https://seekersguidance.org/answers/marriage-and-divorce/i-have-a-kid-with-a-non-muslim-man-can-i-marry-him/
https://seekersguidance.org/tag/marrying-a-non-muslim/

May Allah facilitate this matter for you and rectify your relationship with your sister, and may she rectify her affairs as well. May Allah reward you all and send you every good.

[Ustadha] Shazia Ahmad

Checked and Approved by Shaykh Faraz Rabbani

Ustadha Shazia Ahmad lived in Damascus, Syria for two years where she studied aqidah, fiqh, tajweed, tafseer, and Arabic. She then attended the University of Texas at Austin, where she completed her Masters in Arabic. Afterward, she moved to Amman, Jordan where she studied fiqh, Arabic, and other sciences. She recently moved back to Mississauga, Canada, where she lives with her family.

What Can I Do if My Parents Do Not Accept the Person I Want to Marry?

Question:  I am really in love with a kind-hearted, pious gentleman whom my parents are not accepting. His parents are divorced and remarried to other partners, and he is not wealthy. What should I do?

Answer:

Assalamu alaykum,

Thank you for your question. I am sorry that you are going through this pain and frustration with your parents. It is never easy to convince your parents when they feel they know what is best for you. I pray that you come to a compromise.

 

Two options

Your options are very simple but difficult. You might wind up hurting someone either way. Your first option is to persist with your parents, even if it takes time. You will have to be patient, kind, maintain good etiquette and character, and pray every step of the way. Ask Allah to facilitate the matter for you and let them get to know the man. You may face rejection, but at least you tried instead of wondering if you tried hard enough.

Your second option is to trust your parents, walk away, and not look back. Moving on will be difficult, but possible, and every day is easier than the last. Know that marriage is an institution that you enter into for the sake of Allah, and it should be easy and blessed from beginning to end. If you are already facing the obstacle of consent, without which you cannot marry, then perhaps you should reconsider the whole thing.

 

The reality of financial constraints

I want to mention that numerous couples that I know have split due to financial problems, so it seems to me that your parents are protecting you from a very big problem in the future that they foresee, but you do not. Living in a situation where there never seems to be enough money for school fees, groceries, and good quality items or services takes a huge toll on health, spirituality, and marriage. Your parents genuinely understand this, so try to see it from their perspective.

Can your suitor go back to school, or can he change his career, or get more training? Can he get higher education in order to better support you? Please consider these options.

 

Istikhara

Before deciding whether to pursue or not, pray the Prayer of Seeking Guidance (istikhara) about what to do. Also, pray the Prayer of Need:
https://seekersguidance.org/answers/hanafi-fiqh/istikhara-the-prayer-of-seeking-guidance/
https://seekersguidance.org/answers/hanafi-fiqh/how-does-one-perform-the-prayer-of-need-salat-al-haja/

 

Prepare yourself

It is very easy to get married but not easy to be a good wife. My advice to all single Muslims, such as yourself, is to take a free course at Seekers on Islamic Marriage so that you can learn your rights and responsibilities and act accordingly. Preparing oneself for marriage is the greatest thing that you can give your spouse, and I hope that Allah sends you what is best for you and that you place your trust in Him.

May Allah give you tawfiq, ease, and happiness in your marriage process, with whomever it may be. Please see this course:
https://seekersguidance.org/courses/marriage-in-islam-practical-guidance-for-successful-marriage/

[Ustadha] Shazia Ahmad

Checked and Approved by Shaykh Faraz Rabbani

 

Ustadha Shazia Ahmad lived in Damascus, Syria for two years where she studied aqidah, fiqh, tajweed, tafseer, and Arabic. She then attended the University of Texas at Austin, where she completed her Masters in Arabic. Afterward, she moved to Amman, Jordan where she studied fiqh, Arabic, and other sciences. She recently moved back to Mississauga, Canada, where she lives with her family.