Will I Go to Hell for Not Marrying?

Question:
Will I go to Hell for not marrying?
Answer:
Dear questioner,
May Allah bless you and increase you in good.
Going to Hell or Heaven is not merely in one action. It can be, but this is not how we should look at matters.
The Ruling of Marriage 
In general, Marriage is a sunna. Meaning it is our Prophet’s practice (Allah bless him and give him peace); if one intends to follow him in it, this is good and rewarded.

The Prophet Muhammad (Allah bless him and give him peace) said, “Marriage is part of my sunna, and whoever does not follow my sunna has nothing to do with me. Get married, for I will boast of your great numbers before the nations. Whoever has the means, let him get married, and whoever does not, then he should fast for it will diminish his desire.”

 

Sin and Repentance 
Any sin you commit, you must make ask for forgiveness for that wrong. Afterwards, believe that Allah has accepted your repentance. Never look at any sin as being the sole reason you are going to Hell.
“The one who repents from sin is like the one who never committed it.” [Ibn Majah]
Remember that it doesn’t mean you are going to Hell; it means you need to repent and then move on with life.
See this answer on staying single for some more details;
[Imam] Yama Niazi
Checked and Approved by Shaykh Faraz Rabbani

Is It Permissible To Call Off a Wedding (Nikah) After Having Set the Date?

Question:

Is calling off a nikah permissible after choosing a date due to discontentment and lack of love?

Answer:

Assalamu alaykum,

Thank you for your question.

 

Istikhara

It is permissible to call off a nikah, anytime before the wedding, but feelings are very delicate at this time. Pray istikhara always before committing to this big decision, and use the Prophetic standards for choosing a spouse. If you are still unsure, pray istikhara again before finalizing your decision. See the following links to help you take the right steps:
https://seekersguidance.org/answers/marriage-and-divorce/look-marrying-somone-deen/
https://seekersguidance.org/answers/general-counsel/important-traits-to-look-for-in-a-prospective-spouse/

 

Lack of Love

Not feeling love is not really a reason for walking away from a wedding because Allah puts love in the hearts of the couple after a wedding takes place. Before the wedding, you simply base your decision on her beauty, family, wealth, and most importantly, her religion. You should sit and talk with her some in order to learn about her personality, and if you still have a bad feeling, especially after your istikhara, you should leave now before you break her heart any further. May Allah give you the best of this world and the next and bless your union with whomever it may be.

Please See:

https://dev.seekersguidance.org/answers/marriage-and-divorce/can-stop-engagement-unsure/

[Ustadh] Shazia Ahmad

 

Checked and Approved by Shaykh Faraz Rabbani

Ustadha Shazia Ahmad lived in Damascus, Syria for two years where she studied aqidah, fiqh, tajweed, tafseer, and Arabic. She then attended the University of Texas at Austin, where she completed her Masters in Arabic. Afterward, she moved to Amman, Jordan where she studied fiqh, Arabic, and other sciences. She recently moved back to Mississauga, Canada, where she lives with her family.

How Do I Seek Knowledge?

Question:
How do I seek knowledge?
Answer:
Dear questioner,
May Allah bless you and increase you in good.
Seek Knowledge
The best place to start is to seek knowledge for the sake of Allah.
The Prophet (Allah bless him and give him peace) said, “Whoever travels a path seeking knowledge, Allah will make easy for him a path to Paradise.” [Muslim]
The best place I recommend that is free and online with many different teachers to choose from is SeekersGuidance. The best cure for ignorance is to seek knowledge. You will never be truly safe from misguidance until you have a strong understanding of Islam. The history and development of the traditional schools of law, our classical theology and creed, the method and reason why Islam and the traditional understanding is not only sound and accurate but even binding to follow.
In his famous poem on theology, Ibrahim al Laqqani says, “Malik and the other (illustrious) Imams. Likewise, Abu Qasim (Junaid al-Baghdadi) the guides of the Prophetic community. It is incumbent to follow the qualified scholars amongst them.” [Jawharat al-Tawhid, Laqqani]
Start with this course:
It will give you a great understanding and provide absolute clarity.
Sufism
Sufism is the science that deals primarily with the heart and its purification, which is emphasized in the Quran, “Successful is he who purifies it. Failing is he who corrupts it.” [Qur’an 91:9-10]
“The Day when neither wealth nor children will help. Except for him who comes to God with a sound heart.” [Qur’an 26:89-90] Sufism (Tasawwuf) leads us down that road to attaining a sound heart free of corruption and diseases.
Misconceptions about Sufism
I have often experienced misconceptions about Sufism. A quote I would often hear from my teacher about the real Sufis is the following: “Sufism (Tasawwuf) is not wearing clothes that you patched; it is not weeping when the singers sing their songs, and it is not dancing, shouting, experiencing ecstatic states, or passing out as if you have gone mad. Rather, Sufism is to become whole without any impurities; to follow the truth, the Qur’an, and this religion; and to be seen in a state of awe, broken and remorseful about all of your sins.” [attributed to Qadi Abu Bakr al-Maliki]
A class at SeekersGuidance that really will help you in your path of spirituality is the following:
[Imam] Yama Niazi
Checked and Approved by Shaykh Faraz Rabbani

Can I Join My Prayers If I Work in Customer Service?

Question:

I work in customer services. Can I join prayers?

Answer:

Wa alaykum assalam wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh,

Dear questioner,

Thank you for your important question.

Being in customer service does not allow one to join prayers. Just as any employee has a right to a bathroom break or a lunch break, there is no reason why you cannot organize with your employer to take 5 mins to pray your obligatory prayer.

If the issue is that you only have a very, very small time to pray Dhuhr or Asr (say only 30 mins) because it is winter time and you live in a polar region, then there would be some room for that.

Please see:

https://seekersguidance.org/answers/seeking-knowledge/joining-prayers-at-work/

I pray this helps.

[Ustadh] Farid Dingle

 

Checked and Approved by Shaykh Faraz Rabbani

Ustadh Farid Dingle has completed extensive years of study in the sciences of the Arabic language and the various Islamic Sciences. During his studies, he also earned a CIFE Certificate in Islamic Finance. Over the years he has developed a masterful ability to craft lessons that help non-Arabic speakers gain a deep understanding of the language. He currently teaches courses in the Arabic Language.

What Steps Should I Take To Become an Islamic Scholar?

Question:

How does a sister of Islam become a student of knowledge? How can a sister find a scholar to study under, or a school to attend full-time to become a scholar, where the classes are not on-line but in person to achieve the full benefit of learning?

Answer:

Assalamu alaykum,

Thank you for your question. Sister, you will find that 150+ courses right here at SeekersGuidance will bring you far beyond your personally obligatory knowledge, and I encourage you to finish the certificates that we offer. Please see these links in order to find more answers to your question:
https://seekersguidance.org/answers/general-counsel/can-i-become-a-scholar-by-studying-with-seekersguidance/
https://seekersguidance.org/tag/becoming-a-scholar/

Other than what the scholars have mentioned above, I only know of Dar al-Uloom schools, which offer programs of Sacred Knowledge and memorization of the Qur’an. Graduates of these schools are usually sent to different parts of the world to become imams at mosques or to lead tarawih in Ramadan. May Allah give you the best of this world and the next and help bring your sincere intention to learn for the sake of Allah to fruition.

[Ustadha] Shazia Ahmad

 

Checked and Approved by Shaykh Faraz Rabbani

Ustadha Shazia Ahmad lived in Damascus, Syria for two years where she studied aqidah, fiqh, tajweed, tafseer, and Arabic. She then attended the University of Texas at Austin, where she completed her Masters in Arabic. Afterward, she moved to Amman, Jordan where she studied fiqh, Arabic, and other sciences. She recently moved back to Mississauga, Canada, where she lives with her family.

What Should I Do If My Father Will Not Let Me Practice My Religion?

Question:

I am in the twelfth grade, and I have two issues. I want to study in a madrasa and become a scholar, and I want to marry any religious woman who covers properly. My father will not allow either because we are from a modern family.

Answer:

Assalamu alaykum,

Thank you for your question. I am sorry that you are in this predicament and that your father has different standards for you. The bottom line is that your father does not own you, and you should proceed in the way that you desire. Your parents should be obeyed in the permissible, but not in disobedience.

Marrying a woman who is not religious could ruin your life and the religion of your children, so you are making the right choice by choosing a partner for religion. I cannot commend you more for this mindset, ma sha Allah.

As for your career, it is very honorable to study Sacred Knowledge, and scholars are the inheritors of Prophets because of what they convey. As a man, you must have a plan for financial stability as well, and I pray that you can accomplish both. I know Muslim scholars who have engineering degrees, and I know doctors who spend all of their free time studying Islam.

You should pray istikhara and follow your heart. I pray that you can find that balance in order to study your religion and still support a family. Nothing is more deserving of respect than a scholar who supports his family independently and brings benefits to others. May Allah give you the best of this world and the next.

Please see these links for more detail:

https://seekersguidance.org/answers/general-counsel/can-i-pursue-a-career-that-goes-against-my-parents-wishes/

https://seekersguidance.org/answers/general-counsel/i-want-to-study-islam-abroad-but-parents-insist-on-me-staying-at-home/

https://seekersguidance.org/answers/seeking-knowledge/avoid-pursuing-islamic-studies-paying-parents-mortgage/

https://seekersguidance.org/answers/seeking-knowledge/modern-scholars-importance-seeking-knowledge-reader/

[Ustadha] Shazia Ahmad

Checked and Approved by Shaykh Faraz Rabbani

Ustadha Shazia Ahmad lived in Damascus, Syria for two years where she studied aqidah, fiqh, tajweed, tafseer, and Arabic. She then attended the University of Texas at Austin, where she completed her Masters in Arabic. Afterward, she moved to Amman, Jordan where she studied fiqh, Arabic, and other sciences. She recently moved back to Mississauga, Canada, where she lives with her family.

Is It Necessary To Acquire Sacred Knowledge Before Action? 

Question: Do I need to know the ruling of something before doing it?
Answer:
In the Name of Allah, Most Merciful and Compassionate
Assalamu ‘alaykum dear brother/sister in faith,
Allah commands us to worship Him, alone, and to follow the Sunna of His Messenger (Allāh’s peace and blessings be upon him and his folk).  This requires knowledge.
It is an individual obligation (fard ‘ayn) upon every Muslim to acquire the knowledge of :
(a)   The Islamic creed
(b)  The Fiqh of Worship
(c)   The Fiqh of those matters that one encounters in their immediate (or future) dealings
This is to ensure that one does not fall into sin – in belief or action — without realizing it.
Make sincere repentance for any negligence in fulfilling this obligation, then devise a consistent plan on how to rectify based on the priorities mentioned above.
Consider enrolling in the following courses :

https://seekersguidance.org/courses/what-muslims-believe-and-why/

https://seekersguidance.org/courses/living-right-halal-and-haram-and-living-prophetic-excellence-hanafi/

May Allah bless your journey to knowledge, which – like Paradise — has a beginning, but no end.

Allah, Most High, knows best.

[Ustadha] Iman Badawi

Checked and Approved by Shaykh Faraz Rabbani

What Is the Prophetic Manner Of Removing Hair?

Question: How should I remove my pubic hair?
Answer:
Dear questioner,
Thank you for your important question.
The Prophet Muhammad (Allah bless him and give him peace) said: “There are five acts of the Fitrah (natural human disposition): circumcision, removing the pubic hair, plucking the armpit hair, clipping the nails, and trimming the mustache.” [Bukhaari and Muslim]
Removing the pubic hair is permissible with any means such as shaving, waxing, or plucking, as long as it achieves the purpose of cleanliness. [Tahtawi, Hashiya al-Tahtawi]
From the above we understand that:
  1. All pubic hair should be removed
  2. If all of it is not possible, then enough should be removed that fulfills the purpose of cleanliness such as no smell, no itch, etc.
One should remove the pubic hair where it begins to grow (the groin area and around the private parts) and the armpit hair. It is recommended to remove the hair from the buttocks.
Hair that is close to the genital area should not be removed in a manner that would cause cuts. Rather, one should use another method of hair removal or at the very least trim those hairs to achieve cleanliness.
And Allah alone knows best.
[Ustadh]  Omar Popal
Checked and Approved by Shaykh Faraz Rabbani

Can I Accept Scholarships From a Haram Source?

Question: Is it permissible to receive a scholarship from a haram source?

Answer:

Wa alaykum assalam wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh,

Dear questioner,

Thank you for your important question.

Yes, as long as more than 50% of the source of the scholarship is halal, then it is permissible to receive such a scholarship. Please see:
https://seekersguidance.org/answers/hanafi-fiqh/what-is-the-ruling-on-receiving-things-from-others-that-were-acquired-with-unlawful-money/

I pray this helps.

[Ustadh] Farid Dingle

Checked and Approved by Shaykh Faraz Rabbani

Ustadh Farid Dingle has completed extensive years of study in the sciences of the Arabic language and the various Islamic Sciences. During his studies, he also earned a CIFE Certificate in Islamic Finance. Over the years he has developed a masterful ability to craft lessons that help non-Arabic speakers gain a deep understanding of the language. He currently teaches courses in the Arabic Language.

Does Verse 9:73 Abrogate All the Verses Of Peace and Pardon?

Question: Assalamu ‘alaykum. I have read tafsirs on Qur’an 9:73, and it says to kill infidels and be harsh upon them at the same time. According to Qurtubi, Ibn Abbas, and Ata, this verse(9:73) abrogated and cancelled out every single verse of peace and pardon, so Muslims are supposed to be harsh and rude to every disbeliever. So is this the correct interpretation? Is the isnad for Ibn Abbas’s statement and Ata’s authentic? This verse of the Quran is making me lose faith in Islam. Is Islam even a religion? Explain yourself!

Answer:

Wa ‘alaykum assalam wa rahmatullah wa barakatuh.

I pray you are well.

 

Everything Has a Context

There is no need to be distressed about this verse. No, this verse does not call Muslims to be harsh to every disbeliever.

As you know, texts are connected to their historical context. In this situation, the disbelievers in question were those who had broken treaties that had with the Muslims, placing their very lives in danger. The same for the hypocrites; they had repeatedly tried to subvert the safety and security of the Muslim state.

Merely ignoring the problem, or pretending it did not exist would have placed the lives of many people in jeopardy, so the command came in this sura to be firm with them. A declaration was also made by God. In this, there is great wisdom, as all of the tribes who had been threatened because they broke their treaties ended up accepting Islam within a few months of the revelation of this verse.

This meant their salvation in the Next Life, and the safely of many people who could have suffered in a prolonged conflict. The long term safety of the Arabian peninsula was secured through this show of force.

 

Ata’s Position Must Also Be Contextualised

Therefore, the statements of ‘Ata and others were not meant to abrogate every verse calling to kindness and pardon. This is clear when the context is borne in mind in one’s reading of the Qur’an. The verse was meant for a specific group of people in a specific scenario which has passed.

Islam is a religion – and it is the only religion God will accept. Everything about it makes sense and it nourishes the intellect and the soul. However, it must be understood on its own terms, and not through an intellectual filter alien to it.

May Allah bless us with the clarity of certainty.
[Shaykh] Abdul-Rahim Reasat

Checked and Approved by Shaykh Faraz Rabbani

Shaykh Abdul-Rahim Reasat began his studies in Arabic Grammar and Morphology in 2005. After graduating with a degree in English and History he moved to Damascus in 2007 where, for 18 months, he studied with many erudite scholars. In late 2008 he moved to Amman, Jordan, where he continued his studies for the next six years in Sacred Law (fiqh), legal theory (Usul al-fiqh), theology, hadith methodology, hadith commentary, and Logic. He was also given licenses of mastery in the science of Quranic recital and he was able to study an extensive curriculum of Quranic sciences, tafsir, Arabic grammar, and Arabic eloquence.