VIDEO SERIES: Key Lessons from the Prophet ﷺ as a Parent & Educator

How do we go about nurturing children in a prophetic way? Being effective parents is a challenge for many of us. The Prophet ﷺ  is often called The Teacher. In fact, his entire life is a lesson.

In this seminar video recording given at SeekersHub Toronto, Shaykh Faraz Rabbani, Shaykh Zahir Bacchus and Ustadha Umm Umar explore how the Prophet  taught, nurtured and guided children through compassion, love and modelling right action. They explore how, as parents and educators, we can take this Prophetic advice and use it to nurture children to have good character and also discuss how to overcome common parenting hurdles, and key methods in raising children to embody piety and devotion.

Part 1 of 4 : What Are the Responsibilities of Nurturing Children? – Shaykh Faraz Rabbani

Part 2 of 4: Shepherding as a Parent: Balancing Authority and Compassion with Children – Shaykh Zahir Bacchus

Part 3 of 4: Planting Seeds in Your Children: Rethinking Our Habits and Actions – Ustadha Shireen Ahmed

Part 4 of 4: Key Q&A’s on Parenting and Raising Children – Shaykh Faraz, Shaykh Zahir, & Ustadha Shireen


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Resources for Seekers:

Islamic Parenting: Raising Upright Children (course)
Islamic Parenting: Ten Keys to Raising Righteous Children
Raising a Muslim with Manners

Raising Your Children with Deen & Dunya – Radio Interview with Hina Khan-Mukhtar
Raising Children with Deen and Dunya
Ibn Khaldun on the instruction of children and its different methods
The Prophet Muhammad’s Love, Concern, & Kindness for Children
On Parents Showing Righteousness to Children

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Three Qualities for Being Worthy of Trust – Shaykh Faraz Rabbani

What are the three qualities that make us worthy of trust? What kind of benefit would the companions take from the gatherings with the Prophet  ﷺ?  Shaykh Faraz Rabbani gives answers to these pertinent questions in this short video.

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One Surprising Thing that Will Save Us – Shaykh Faid Said

What will save us? We commit many sins. We make many mistakes. Every day, we think we are increasing in experience and wisdom, but in reality we get closer and closer to death and our own personal Reckoning.

In this inspiring talk, Shaykh Faid Muhammad Said tells us how our connection to Allah and His Messenger ﷺ, is the very thing that will be our salvation in the end.

Quite simply, he says, there is no limit to how close we can be to Allah. He relates two inspiring stories of people who seemed simple and nondescript, but in reality were drawn close to Allah out of His limitless mercy.

They were Companions of the Prophet. One of them is extremely well known; his story is told in almost every Muslim household. Another one is less known; few people know the details about his life. Nonetheless, he was one of the ones who drew indescribably close to Allah, and for that reason, achieved a high rank.

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Embracing Otherness as the Prophetic Sunnah – Imam Khalid Latif

The Prophet’s ﷺ reality and his personal  relationships call to diversity; he was exposed to diverse people of gender, colour, age and ethnicity from a young age; this theme furthers throughout his  lifelong relationships. Imam Khalid Latif  invites us to meet such personages as Umm Ayman Baraka and engage with otherness through the lens of love and empathy.

Imam Khalid urges us to reflect on the nature of identity, he tells us that we go through the steps of self affirmation and we place ourselves in boxes of identity, and once we do that we compare ourselves by that which we are not. The Prophet ﷺ was able to be an individual for all people, and generations for all time; this behooves us to ask ourselves who we are  and what our relationships are really based on.

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Cover photo from flickr. We are grateful to ICNYU for this video.

Disciplining the Soul, by Habib Umar bin Hafiz

The Ihya Ulum al-Din (Revival of the Religious Sciences) is considered to be one of the most widely-read, most reliable  books in the Islamic world, covering various topics from practice to spirituality. In this series, Habib Umar bin Hafiz taught the section “On Disciplining the Soul”, during a trip to Denmark.

We are grateful to Muwasala for these recordings

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The Impact of Our Choices – Shaykh Faid Mohammed Said

Oftentimes we pass the hours away not realizing how many choices we are making. We also don’t realize how many opportunities we are missing out on, says Shaykh Faid Mohammed Said.

Syedina Abu Dharr (radiallah anhu), the great Sahabi of Rasulullah (sallallahu alayhi wasalam), in sharing his wisdom about the choices we make as humans, said:

“Good company is better than being lonely,

And being lonely is better than the corrupted.

The one that spreads khair is better than the one that is quiet,

And the one that is quiet is better than the one devoid of good words. “

The profundity of Abu Dharr’s (radiallah anhu) statement is that it recognizes that we as humans have wants, and as such he is framing those wants as within a set of impactful choices.

Choices that seem as mundane as eating and talking, can at moments be good and at others not be the choicest.

An example of such being when Imam Shafi (rehmatullah alaih) visited Imam Ahmad (rehmatullah alaih), and when the latter’s daughter commented on the amount of food Imam Shafi (rehmatullah alaih) was consuming, he explained that he had done so because of the blessings in the food that was spread before him!

As we tread through the choices that are spread before us, may Allah (subhana wa ta’ala) facilitate the choicest.

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In Peace: The Spread of Islam in Africa

“Islam spread through West Africa through nonviolent means.”

Our ideas of Africa nowadays consist of everything from famines, war, refugees fleeing their homeland, to the recent shootings of black people by police, and the Black Lives Matter movement.spread of Islam in Africa

But this race of beautiful, strong, and intelligent people surely had to have a noble history.

In this illuminating lecture, Dr Rudolph Bilal Ware takes us on a journey through history and gives us some lessons that we can learn from the history of the West African people.

Dr. Ware focuses on two characteristics of these people; firstly, that the spread of Islam through Africa was solely through peaceful means, and secondly, that there was less focus on convincing people and more focus on benefitting all humanity by doing good works.

Whether you’re looking for information on a history project or involved in campus dawah, or just feel the need to know more about the African people, this short talk will provide many answers to the questions in your mind.

Our thanks to Lamppost Education Initiative for this recording.

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Why The World Needs The Prophetic ﷺ Example – Shaykh Seraj Hendricks

The world is imploding on itself and there has never been a time when the Prophetic ﷺ example was more needed to lead humanity down the path of healing – Shaykh Seraj Hendricks, Al-Zawiya Institute of Cape Town, South Africa.

In 2015, SeekersGuidance undertook a tour of South Africa, with Shaykh Faraz Rabbani, Shaykh Yahya Rhodus, Ustadh Amjad Tarsin, Sidi Nader Khan and Sidi Abdul-Rehman Malik. We’re pleased to release the recordings from that tour on the SeekersGuidance YouTube channel and here on the SeekersGuidance blog.

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Opening The Doors Of Khair With Our Words – Shaykh Faid Mohammed Said

“Allah Guides to His Light Whom He Wills.”  (Surah An-Nur)
Bismillah-ir Rahman-ir Raheem.
Allah ﷻ‎ only wanted khair for us, and in Surah Al-Baqarah, Allah ﷻ‎ mentions that He wanted ease for you.  Allah ﷻ‎ did not only tell us this, but He also told us HOW to achieve this ease and khair.  
In this regard, Rasulullah ﷺ said,

“How wondrous are the affairs of the believer!  All his issues are khair:  when something good happens he thanks Allah ﷻ, and his situation becomes even better, and when something bad happens to him, he stays patient, and his situation turns for the better!”

Achieving ease and khair is connected to our gratefulness for the blessings that have been bestowed upon us.
The real mu’min is the one who appreciates the blessing of Allah ﷻ and uses such blessings in the manner that Allah ﷻ wanted these blessings to be used.  Among the blessings that Allah ﷻ has given us is the ability to express ourselves and our feelings, address our issues and communicate with others; the organ that Allah ﷻ by which we achieve this, is a great blessing.  
Allah ﷻ did, however, warn us about not appreciating or misusing this blessing:  

“When you received it with your tongues and said with your mouths that of which you had no knowledge and thought it was insignificant while it was, in the sight of Allah, tremendous.”  (Surah An-Nur, 15)

As such, the purpose of our tongue is to be grateful to Allah ﷻ, to glorify Allah ﷻ and to fulfill our duties towards Allah ﷻ and His creation.  Appreciating and utilizing our tongue in such manner will open the doors of khair, consciousness and piety (taqwa).
Take a moment and think about all the words that we have said; try and comprehend that all words are credited and recorded somewhere where no one can delete or change them; and understand that He knows the intention and motive behind all that we have uttered!  

La ilaha iLLALLAH!

We have said many things that we would not want anyone to know about.  There are many things we said that we would not even want to recall.  This in itself should cause us to question ourselves.
In a Hadith narrated in Bukhari by Abu Hurrairah (radiallah anhu), Rasulullah ﷺ said that whoever believes in Allah ﷻ and the Day of Judgment should say something good or keep quiet.  By this,
Rasulullah ﷺ is telling us to either say what Allah ﷻ encouraged you to say:  glorifying Him, praising Him, praising His Messenger ﷺ, “…And speak to people good [words]” (Surah Al-Baqarah, 83); or, take the remaining option Rasulullah ﷺ mentioned, which is to remain quiet.
Imam At-Tabarani (rehmatullah alaih) narrated that Syedina Al Aswad ibn Asram Al Muharabi (radiallah anhu) said that he asked Rasulullah ﷺ to give him the best advice, to which Rasulullah ﷺ replied:  

“Do you own your tongue (i.e. control it)?

Al Aswad ibn Asram Al Muhrabi (radiallah anhu):  What do I own if I do not own my tongue?  

Rasulullah ﷺ:  Do you own your hands?  

Al Aswad ibn Asram Al Muhrabi (radiallah anhu):  What do I own if I do not own my hands?  

Rasulullah ﷺ:  If you truly own them then do not say anything with your tongue other than that which is khair, and do not open your hands except for that which is khair.”

Let us examine this beautiful conversation.  The Sahabi came to Rasulullah ﷺ to seek advice, and in response Rasulullah ﷺ asked him a question, namely asking if he owned his hands and tongue.  The Sahabi then responded to the question with a question, and in effect, stated that the answer was apparent.  Rasulullah ﷺ then said if you really do own them, then use them for khair!  

A challenge for every responsible human being

In the Musnad of Imam Ahmad (rehmatullah alaih), Syedina Anas (radiallah anhu) narrated that Rasulullah ﷺ said that the iman (faith) of someone cannot be imperviously straight unless his or her heart is imperviously straight, and his or her heart cannot be imperviously straight unless his or her tongue is imperviously straight!
In this Hadith, Rasulullah ﷺ is speaking about the strong bond, connection and correlation between these two close organs, namely the tongue and the heart!
In fact, in another Hadith, narrated by Syedina Muadh (radiallah anhu), Rasulullah ﷺ said that you are safe as far as you remain quiet, but once you speak it is either deemed for you or against you.  (At-Tabarani)
In another Hadith, Syedina Bilal ibn Harith (radiallah anhu) said that he heard Rasulullah ﷺ say that some may say a word that pleases Allah ﷻ and he or she does not think those words will go any further, but Allah ﷻ continues  writing those pleasing words they meet Him!  On the contrary, if someone were to say a word that displeases Allah ﷻ, and they think those words will not go any further, Allah ﷻ will keep writing those words till Yaum ul-Qiyamah!  (Imam Ahmad, Tirmidhi, An-Nisai)
In this regard, we must always remember what Allah ﷻ said in Surah Qaf (17-18) regarding the angels who record our words:  “When the two receivers receive, seated on the right and on the left.  Man does not utter any word except that with him is an observer prepared [to record].”
May Allah ﷻ cause us and give us patience, and may Allah ﷻ make every word  that we a means of dhikr, as Imam at-Tirmidhi (rehmatullah alaih) narrated that Abdullah ibn Omar (radiallah anhu) said that Rasulullah ﷺ said:  “Do not speak much other than remembrance, indeed much speech aside from the remembrance of Allah ﷻ will make the heart like a rock, and those that are the furthest from Allah ﷻ are the hard-hearted.”
May Allah ﷻ make us from the people of khair.  It was narrated that Syedina Abu Bakr (radiallah anhu) used to literally hold his tongue and say:  “This has put me in a difficult position!”; and Syedina Abdullah ibn Masud (radiallah anhu) used to say:  “I swear by Allah ﷻ that there is no one worthy of worship other than Him, and there is no one on earth that deserves a long imprisonment other than the tongue!”
SubhanAllah!  
Mentioning all of this is easy, but to actually control our tongue is difficult, as Fudhail ibn Iyad (rehmatullah alaih) said:  

“It is not Hajj or jihad that is the most difficult of actions, but rather the most difficult is the control of your tongue, and if you were to think carefully about controlling your tongue, you would be consistently distressed with regards to your situation!”

Rasulullah ﷺ  said in a Hadith narrated by Al Barra ibn Azib (radiallah anhu) said that a man asked Rasulullah ﷺ to teach him that which would facilitate is entry into Jannah, to which
Rasulullah ﷺ replied that he should feed the hungry, water the thirsty, command to good, forbid evil and if he were unable to do any of this, to stop his tongue from saying anything other than khair.  (Ahmad, ibn Hibban)
May Rabbi ﷻ forgive us and open the door of khair for us.
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Etiquette of the Seeker According to the Teachings of Shaykh Salih al-Ja’fari

The engaging and eloquent Shaykh Babikr Ahmed Babikr offers this series on the etiquette of the seeker according to the teachings of Shaykh Salih al-Ja’fari, a renowned Sudanese scholar – a must listen.

Who Was Shaykh Salih al-Ja’fari?

The Etiquette of the Seeker: Sincerity

 

The Etiquette of the Seeker: Truthfulness

The Etiquette of the Seeker: God-wariness

The Etiquette of the Seeker: Obedience

The Etiquette of the Seeker: Reliance on God

Our sincere thanks to The Source, the organisers of the retreat where these lessons were delivered and nuruddinzangi for making them available.

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