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Adab 10: The Proprieties of Food and Sleep

Ustadh Tabraze Azam gives a detailed account of the adab or proprieties of eating and sleeping according to the Sunna.

 

Imam Sha‘rani, the masterful gnostic of the inward sciences, noted that it may well be that the eternal divine pleasure of Allah Most High is found in an act of worship which most people are unconcerned with because of its relative insignificance; and on the other hand, the divine wrath may encircle a relatively meager sin, namely, in the eyes of people. The sunna in its entirety is important, as indicated in the words of the lawgiver, “And don’t deem anything of the good to be insignificant.” (Muslim) Allah Most High cares about the details, especially occasions where heedlessness is normally rife, and when you strive to be gratefully and gracefully prophetic, in whatever capacity you are able, He increases you in wondrous degrees.

One of the great blessings of life is food, so much so, that it serves as a reminder of one of the joys of the hereafter. Allah Most High says, “They will also be served any fruit they choose and meat from any bird they desire.” (Sura al-Waqi‘a 56:20-21) And the gift of rest is not lost on any of us! “And one of His signs is your sleep by night.” (Sura al-Rum 30:23) It is worth noting that food and sleep are mere means, and do not intrinsically cause satiation nor rest. Rather, it is Allah Most High’s creative act at work. But He has commanded that you take the means, as exemplified by His Beloved Emissary, Allah bless him and give him peace, so we strive to do so as servants seeking to attain unto the divine good pleasure in this life before the next.

1. Eating with Mindfulness

The first thing to keep in mind is the magnitude of the blessing that is food. To be fortunate enough to simply sit with a bowl of food in front of you is sufficient enough as a divine favor. Intend Allah Most High therein, by making His worship your primary aim in eating from the sustenance He has bestowed upon you. Clearly, there are many secondary intentions which may be made at this point, such as gaining strength to fulfill your obligations, to assist those in need, to increase in gratitude, and so on and so forth.

The Beloved Prophet, Allah bless him and give him peace, instructed us to wash our hands before eating because it brings about “blessings” (Tirmidhi), and to recite the basmala, ideally with the aforementioned presence of mind, heart and soul, “In the Name of Allah, Most Merciful and Compassionate (bismi Llahi Rahmani Rahim).” Some of the righteous would encourage the pronouncement of the short form of the basmala (bismi Llah) with each bite! Proceed to eat with your right hand, unless you have an excuse, as the right is used for noble matters. But there’s no harm in using your left to assist with eating and drinking whenever there is a need.

Once you’re done, you should end with a supplication of praise and wash your hands thereafter. It is reported that the Noble Messenger of Allah, Allah bless him and give him peace, said, “Praise be to Allah who has fed us, given us to drink, and made us Muslims (alhamdu li Llahi ‘lladhi at‘amana wa saqana wa ja‘alana min al-muslimin).” (Abu Dawud)

2. Eating in Moderation

The Messenger of Allah, Allah bless him and give him peace, informed us that the worst container a human being can fill is his stomach. (Tirmidhi) Accordingly, the sunna is to eat with restraint, and not out of mere desire or fulfillment. The prophetic encouragement was to reserve, “A third for your food, a third for your drink, and a third for your breath.” (ibid.) And as some of the righteous point out, everybody knows their own third! Nevertheless, it is permitted to eat until you are full, and praiseworthy if coupled with genuine, righteous intentions.

It’s also proper to eat when you’re hungry, and not to delay a meal until you are starving. The latter, more often than not, will be a distraction and lead to the kind of covetousness and heedlessness the lawgiver was seeking to direct us away from. It’s important to eat slowly and with dignity. You were created to worship, not eat, but this doesn’t mean that you cannot enjoy food. On the contrary, we actually know some of the favored foods of the Beloved Prophet, Allah bless him and give him peace, and on occasion, he would praise food too.

3. Eating with Sunna

From the guidance of the Beloved Prophet, Allah bless him and give him peace, was to eat from the side of the plate “and not from its middle” (Abu Dawud) because the “blessing descends in the middle.” (ibid.) This is of particular importance when eating from a shared platter, but equally, may also be implemented in your own, individual plate so that the blessing can continue to descend throughout your meal. Of course, if there are multiple types of food, or parts to the dish, this is excusable, as the recommendation is in the case that the food is of the same type.

One should avoid any form of disrespect toward the food, or any wastage of it whatsoever. This is considered to be a form of ingratitude (kufran al-ni‘ma), and showing such disregard for a tremendous blessing makes one liable to losing it altogether. Further, it is imperative to ensure that you do not use any utensils made of gold or silver. Note that the gold and silver in question is that which is comprised of more than fifty percent of those metals. Otherwise, cutlery or dishes would take the ruling of the preponderating metal used in the alloy.

Blowing on hot food in order to cool it down is acceptable, if without sound, but best avoided unless there is a need because it is indicative of haste and blameworthy covetousness. Moreover, it is reported that eating uncomfortably hot food is a means of its blessing leaving. So what’s proper, then, is to allow the food to cool, and eat when it’s comfortable to do so.

Licking your fingers after eating is also from the sunna because you “don’t know in which part of your food the blessing lies.” (Muslim) Again, remember there is a sunna, or an adab, of the sunna itself. If this isn’t realized, people can often conflate strange or unbecoming behaviour with sunna merely because the words match up. It is important to learn and appreciate true adab lest you ascribe something ugly to the Noble Messenger of Allah, Allah bless him and give him peace. Finally, using a toothpick or the like is also established prophetic practice, if there is a need for it.

4. Sunna Drinking

The sunna is to begin drinking with the basmala, namely, the same manner in which you begin eating, holding the glass in your right hand. Our Master ‘Abdullah ibn ‘Abbas (may Allah be well-pleased with him) reported that the Prophet, Allah bless him and give him peace, said, “Don’t drink in one [breath] like a camel, but drink [in pauses] twice or thrice.” (Tirmidhi) Try to drink with pauses, thanking Allah Most High each time you move the vessel away from your mouth. Further, it is proper to drink in sips and not gulps, which incidentally, facilitates pausing. Gulping is contrary to dignity and it is thus a mannerism disapproved of by the Beloved Prophet, Allah bless him and give him peace.

Sitting to drink is a recommended sunna, and it is improper, yet not religiously wrong nor sinful, to stand without excuse. There are two notable exceptions, however. When drinking the blessed water of ZamZam, the practice of the Noble Messenger of Allah, Allah bless him and give him peace, was to stand in order to drink as much as possible. As a matter of fact, the sunnas of drinking ZamZam are generally the opposite of regular water, perhaps in order to distinguish it for its blessed nature. The same actually applies to the leftover water of the ritual ablution (wudu), for it contains a blessing by virtue of the act of worship which was performed with it.

Importantly, men and women should avoid drinking each others’ leftover water, unless they are spouses or unmarriageable kin (mahram) to one another, as it is something which can arouse sexual desire. This is why the jurists deem it to be generally disliked (makruh).

5. Sleeping with Mindfulness

Just as with food, and in fact, just as with anything, you should make an intention before sleeping. The secret to success in intentions is to direct them to Allah Most High. After that, make secondary intentions which will help you attain unto that one, central point. Thus, intend to strengthen your body for worship, for example, and to give the body its right. “Indeed, your eye has a right over you,” (Bukhari) remarked the Messenger of Allah, Allah bless him and give him peace, when he was informed of somebody who was regularly staying up through the night in devoted worship.

Before sleep, you should perform the ritual ablution (wudu), and spend a few moments reciting the prophetic supplications and remembrances (adhkar). There are numerous supplicatory utterances established in the sunna, but a simple formulation is: “O Allah, by Your name I die and I live (allahumma bismika amutu wa ahya).” (Bukhari) Similarly, it is recommended to recite Suras: Ikhlas, Falaq and Nas, and to also recite the tasbih (Subhan Allah), tahmid (Alhamdu li Llah) and takbir (Allahu akbar), thirty-three, thirty-three and thirty-four times respectively.

Then, repent for your missteps and erroneous ways so that if your soul is taken that night, your slate will be clean. Repentance takes only a moment of sincerity. And also try to sleep without anything in your heart against your fellow believers, a trait that famously astounded our Master ‘Abdullah ibn ‘Amr ibn al-‘As, may Allah be well-pleased with him, when he diligently observed one of the Companions who was prophetically singled out as a person of Paradise.

Next, lie on your right side, on a bed that is not too hard nor too soft, with your right hand under your cheek, facing the qibla. If it’s not comfortable for you, do it for a few moments, and ask Allah Most High to bless you with an increase in sunna in your life. Avoid sleeping on the stomach as it is a posture disliked by Allah Most High, the posture of the inhabitants of the Fire – may Allah protect us all. Of course, if you have an excuse or a reason to do so, then it would be fine, but the basis is that when you have a choice, you don’t choose this posture over others.

6. Sunna Sleep

One of the wonders of the prophetic sunna is the encouragement to take a midday nap (qaylula), ideally at some point between the Islamic midday (al-dahwa al-kubra) and the entry of the noon prayer (zuhr). The exception to this would be Fridays, where the scholars recommend doing so after the Friday prayer (salat al-jumu‘a). Our Master Sahl ibn Sa‘d, may Allah be well-pleased with him, commented, “We didn’t used to take midday naps nor eat our morning meals, except after the Friday prayer.” (Bukhari) If you cannot do anything more due to work or other commitments, laying down with your eyes closed for a few moments would minimally suffice.

You should also keep in mind that propriety in sleeping entails avoiding the disliked times, usually the kind of times which could lead a person to miss the congregation, or worse, the prayer entirely. According to some scholars, sleep after the mid-afternoon prayer (‘asr) is disliked, but Imam Tahawi explained that the soundest traditions (ahadith) actually permit sleep at this time. Sleep after the sunset prayer (maghrib) is particularly cautioned against, and the same principle applies to sleep after the entry of dawn (fajr). Generally, once the prayer time enters, a concerned believer would first pray, as he cannot rest with ease otherwise, and then consider sleeping.

If you experience something frightening in a dream, you should keep it to yourself, seek refuge in Allah Most High from the accursed devil, and then blow thrice to your left side. (Bukhari) If you see something noble, you may tell others about it, but it isn’t ideal to be distracted by dreams from the reality of your life. Dreams are only normally meaningful when godfearingness (taqwa) and piety (birr) permeates your being. Of course, there is a place for dreams, but the most important thing is the whereabouts of the Sacred Law (shari‘a) in your life. Good dreams don’t take people to Paradise.

We ask Allah Most High to increase us in love and following, that we be genuine in our concern, sincere and true in our emulation, and that we be joined with the Greatest Emissary, Allah bless him and give him peace, in the next life, for eternity.

And Allah alone gives success.

 


Is It Sinful to Eat With the Left Hand?

Answered by Ustadh Tabraze Azam

Question: Assalam’aleykum,

Is it sinful to eat with the left hand?

One of our children is left-handed and he finds it very difficult to eat, and perform other functions, with the right hand.

Answer: Wa alaikum assalam wa rahmatullah,

No, it is not sinful to eat or drink with the left hand. Rather, it is contrary to what is superior, recommended, and the way of Islam, as instructed to us by our beloved Prophet (Allah bless him and give him peace), because the right hand is used for noble matters.

A man ate with the Messenger of Allah (Allah bless him and give him peace) using his left hand, and he (Allah bless him and give him peace) said, “Eat with your right hand.” He said, “I cannot.” He (Allah bless him and give him peace) said, “Then you cannot.” Only pride had stopped him and he could not raise it to his mouth. [Muslim]

This is explained by the scholars to be a command of recommendation and propriety, and not of necessity as understood from Imam Nawawi’s comments in Sharh Sahih Muslim and elsewhere. As for the supplication made against him, it was due to his dishonesty, arrogance and acting contrary to the prophetic sunna and command.

In any case, there is no disapproval or impropriety in eating with the left when there is a need to do so due to some kind of inability, such as injury. Moreover, there is also no harm in assisting with the left hand as we have prophetic precedence in this.

Nevertheless, gentle encouragements towards the good will help, as well as the realisation that children (and adults) can be trained to use a different hand to do something. Ask Allah Most High for facilitation, and show him how to eat in a manner which is in greater correspondence to the sunna.

Please also see: What Are Some of the Sunnahs of Eating? and: Riyad al-Salihin: Book on the Adab Related to Food and: Is It Sinful to Eat With the Left Hand? (Maliki)

[Ibn `Allan, Dalil al-Falihin; Qari, Mirqat al-Mafatih; Nahlawi, al-Durar al-Mubaha]

And Allah Most High alone knows best.

wassalam,

Tabraze Azam

Checked & Approved by Shaykh Faraz Rabbani

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What Are Some of the Sunnahs of Eating?

Answered by Shaykh Faraz Rabbani

Question: What are some of the sunnahs of eating?

Answer: Walaikum assalam wa rahmatullah,

I pray this finds you in the best of health and spirits.

The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) gave us much specific sunna guidance on eating. Among this guidance is that:

[1] Your body is a trust, and it has rights over you. It is not permitted to reduce one’s eating such that it leads to weakening oneself or harming one’s health.

[2] One must eat enough and properly to have the physical strength and wellbeing to be able to fulfill one’s religious obligations (including praying while standing and fasting Ramadan). Not doing so is sinful–though one is not responsible for circumstances beyond one’s control (such as sickness and disease).

[3] One should not overeat. Eating more than one’s fill is disliked, and prohibited when harmful.

[4] The sunna is to limit one’s eating to the extent needed to have the strength and wellbeing to fulfill one’s duties.

[5] It is from the sunna to eat well–within the abovementioned limits–and to thank Allah for His blessings.

[6] It is from the sunna to eat with others, and to invite others to share one’s food. There is great reward in hosting others and feeding them, as well.

[7] Dignified restraint is one of the central elements of the Prophetic sunna. In food, it means that one doesn’t eat one’s food hastily. Rather, one should chew one’s food well, wait to swallow one’s food before taking lifting more food, and to maintain the proper manners of eating, even (and especially) when very hungry.

[8] One should learn the sunnas of eating–such as beginning in the name of Allah, eating with one’s right hand, praising good food but not criticizing any food, observing restraint in one’s eating, finishing eating before one’s fill, praising Allah after eating, and so on–and bring them into one’s life.

[9] To have high intentions in one’s eating–such as giving one’s body its right, to have the strength to fulfill one’s duties and to do the good, to thank Allah for His blessings (for this is a bridge to loving Allah), and to follow the sunna of the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him)–and to make one’s eating a means and not an end in itself.

[10] To learn what specific foods the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) particularly praised, and to grow to love them, and to incorporate them–with balance–into one’s diet. These foods include dates, honey, wholesome meat (in moderation), and so on.

Related Resource:

Riyad al-Salihin: Book on the Adab Related to Food

And Allah Alone Gives Success.

Faraz Rabbani

Riyad al-Salihin: Book on the Adab Related to Food

100. Chapter: On saying the basmala when starting to eat and praising Allah afterwards

 728. ‘Umar ibn Abu Salama said, “The Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, said to me, ‘Say the name of Allah and eat with your right hand and eat what is in front of you.” [Agreed upon]

729. ‘A’isha said, “The Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, said, ‘When one of you eats, he should mention the name of Allah Almighty. If he forgets to mention the name of Allah Almighty at the beginning, he should say, “In the name of Allah, the first of it and the last of it.”‘” [Abu Dawud and at-Tirmidhi]

730. Jabir said, “I heard the Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, say, ‘When a man enters his house and mentions the name of Allah Almighty both when he enters and when he eats, Shaytan says to his companions, “You have no lodging and no meal.” When he enters and does not mention Allah Almighty when he enters, Shaytan says, “You have lodging.” When he does not mention Allah Almighty when he eats, he says, “You have lodging and a meal.”‘” [Muslim]

731. Hudhayfa said, “When we went to eat with the Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, we did not put our hands in until the Messenger of Allah had first put in his hand. Once we went for food with him and a slavegirl came as if driven [by hunger] and began to put her hand in the food. the Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, took hold of her hand. then a bedouin came as if driven [by hunger] and he also took hold of his hand. The Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, said, “Shaytan tries to make food lawful for himself by not having the name of Allah Almighty mentioned over it. He brought this slavegirl to make it lawful for himself and so I took hold of her hand. Then he brought this bedouin to make it lawful for himself and I took hold of his hand. By the One in whose name my soul is, his hand is in my hand with their hands.” Then he mentioned the name of Allah Almighty and ate.'” [Muslim]

732. Umayya ibn Makhshi said, “The Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, was sitting with a man while he was eating. He did not say ‘In the name of Allah’ until one morsel of his food remained. When he lifted it to his mouth, he said, ‘In the name of Allah, the first of it and the last of it.’ The Messenger of Allah laughed and then said, ‘Shaytan continued to eat with him. When he mentioned the name of Allah, he vomited what was in his stomach.'” [Abu Dawud and an-Nasa’i]

733. ‘A’isha said, “The Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, was eating some food along with six of his Companions when a desert Arab came and ate it up in two mouthfuls. The Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, said, ‘If he had said the name of Allah, it would have been enough for all of you.'” [at-Tirmidhi]

734. Abu Umama reported that when the Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, finished his meal, he would say, ‘Much praise be to Allah, pure [free of self seeking] and blessed praise, for food which is not final or conclusive and of which our Lord has no need.'” [al-Bukhari]

735. Mu’adh ibn Anas reported that the Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, said, “Whoever eats food and says, ‘Praise be to Allah who gave me this and provided me with it without any strength or power on my part,’ will be forgiven his previous wrong actions.” [Abu Dawud and at-Tirmidhi] 

101. Chapter: On not criticising food and the recommendation to praise it

 736. Abu Hurayra said, “The Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, never criticised food. If he liked it, he ate it, and if he disliked it, he left it.” [Agreed upon]

737. Jabir reported that the Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, asked his family for a condiment and they said, “We only have vinegar.” He asked for it and began to eat, saying, “Vinegar is an excellent condiment. Vinegar is an excellent condiment.” [Muslim]

 102. Chapter: On what someone says when food is brought when he is fasting and he does not break his fast

 738. Abu Hurayra reported that the Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, said, “When one of you is invited he should respond to the invitation. If he is fasting, he should make a supplication, and if he is not fasting, he should eat.” [Muslim]

 103. Chapter: On what someone says when invited to eat and is followed by someone

 739. Abu Mas’ud al-Badri said, “A man invited the Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, to a meal he had prepared for him and four others. A man followed them. When he reached the door, the Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, said, ‘This man has followed us. If you like, you can give him permission, and if you like, he will go back.’ He said, ‘I give him permission, Messenger of Allah.'” [Agreed upon]

 104. Chapter: On eating from in front of one and instructing someone who eats badly

740. ‘Amr ibn Salama said, “I was a boy in the care of the Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, and my hand used to go all around in the plate. The Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, said to me, ‘Boy, say the name of Allah and eat with your right hand and eat from what is in front of you.'” [Agreed upon]

741. Salama ibn ‘Amr ibn al-Akwa’ related that a man ate with the Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, using his left hand, and he said, “Eat with your right hand.” He said, “I cannot.” He said, “Then you cannot.” Only pride had stopped him and he could not raise it to his mouth. [Muslim]

 105. Chapter: On the prohibition against joining two dates or the like together when a group eat without his companions’ permission

742. Jabala ibn Suhaym said, “We were afflicted by a year of drought while we were with Ibn az-Zubayr and were given some dates. ‘Abdullah ibn ‘Umar passed by us while we were eating and said, ‘Do not eat two at once. The Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, forbade eating two once. Then he said, ‘unless a man asks his brother for permission.'” [Agreed upon]

 106. Chapter: What one says and does when he eats without becoming full

 743. Wahshi ibn Harb related that the Companions of the Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, said, “Messenger of Allah, we eat and do not become full.” He said, “Perhaps you eat separately?” They said, “Yes, we do.” He said, “Gather together for your food and mention the name of Allah and you will find blessing in it.” {Abu Dawud]

 107. Chapter: On the command to eat from the side of the dish and the prohibition against eating from the middle

 It contains the words of the Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, “Eat from it front of you,” which was already given.

744. Ibn ‘Abbas reported that the Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, said, “Blessing descends in the middle of the food, so eat from the sides and do not eat from the middle.” [Abu Dawud and at-Tirmidhi]

745. ‘Abdullah ibn Busr said, “The Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, had a bowl called al-Gharra’ which had four legs. When it was mid-morning and they had prayed Duha, he was brought that bowl, i.e. there was tharid [stew] in it, and they gathered around it. When there were a lot of people, the Messenger of Allah sat in a kneeling position. A desert Arab said, ‘What is this way of sitting?’ The Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, said, ‘Allah has made me a noble slave. He did not make me a stubborn tyrant.’ Then the Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, said, ‘Eat from its sides and leave the top in which the blessing lies.'” [Abu Dawud]

 108. Chapter: On it being disliked to eat reclining

 746. Abu Juhayfa Wahb ibn ‘Abdullah said, “The Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, said, ‘I do not eat reclining.'” [al-Bukhari

747. Anas said, “I saw the Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, sitting with his legs drawn up eating dates.” [Muslim] 

109: Chapter: On the Recommendation to eat with three fingers and the recommendation to lick the fingers. It being disliked to wipe them before licking them. The recommendation to lick the plate and pick up the morsel which has fallen and eat it. Permission to wipe the hand on the arm, foot, etc. after licking it

 748. Ibn ‘Abbas reported that the Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, said, “When one of you eats, he should not wipe his fingers until he has licked them or had them licked.” [Agreed upon]

749. Ka’b ibn Malik said, “I saw the Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, eating with three fingers. When he finished, he licked them.” [Muslim]

750. Jabir reported that the Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, commanded that both the fingers and the plate should be licked. He said, “You do not know in what part of the food the blessing lies.” [Muslim]

751. Jabir reported that the Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, said, “If one of you drops a morsel, he should pick it up and wipe off any dirt on it and eat it and not leave it for Shaytan. He should not wipe his hand with a cloth until he has licked his fingers. He does not know in what part of the food the blessing lies.” [Muslim]

752. Jabir reported that the Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, said, “Shaytan is present with each one of you in everything he does, even when he is eating. If you drop a morsel, you should pick it up and wipe off any dirt on it and then eat it and not leave it for Shaytan. When you finish, you should wipe your fingers. You do not know in what part of food the blessing lies.” [Muslim]

753. Anas said, “When he ate, the Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, would lick his three fingers, and he said, ‘If one of you drops a morsel, he should pick it up and wipe off any dirt on it and then eat it and not leave it for Shaytan.’ He commanded us to wipe the plate and said, ‘You do not know in what part of the food the blessing lies.'” [Muslim]

754. Sa’id ibn al-Harith said that he asked Jabir about doing wudu’ on account of eating something that had been touched by fire (i.e. cooked). He said, ‘No. In the time of the Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, we only had such food on rare occasions. When we had it, we did not have napkins, and would wipe our fingers on our palms, forearms and feet. Then we would pray without doing wudu’.” [al-Bukhari] 

110. Chapter: On a lot of hands for the food

 755. Abu Hurayra reported that the Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, said, “Food for two is enough for three, and food for three is enough for four.” [Agreed upon]

756. Jabir said, “I heard the Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, say, “The food of one person is enough for two, food for two is enough for four, and food for four is enough for eight.” [Muslim] 

111. Chapter: On the proper manner of drinking and the recommendation to take three breaths outside the vessel and it being disliked to breathe into the vessel. The recommendation to pass the vessel around to the right

 757. Anas reported that the Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, used to take three breaths while drinking. [Agreed upon]

758. Ibn ‘Abbas reported that the Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, said, “Do not drink at one go like the camel, rather drink taking two or three breaths. Say the name of Allah when you drink and praise Him when you finish.” [at-Tirmidhi]

759. Abu Qatada reported that the Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, forbade blowing into the drinking vessel.” [Agreed upon]

760. Anas reported that the Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, was brought some milk mixed with water. On his right was a bedouin and on his left was Abu Bakr. He drank and then gave it to the bedouin, saying, “The right and then the right.” [Agreed upon]

761. Sahl ibn Sa’d reported that the Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, was brought a drink and drank some of it, and there was a boy on his right and old men on his left. He said to the boy, “Will you give me permission to give it to them?” The boy said, “No, by Allah, Messenger of Allah! I will not give anyone else preference where my share from you is concerned!” and the Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, placed it in his hand. [Agreed upon] 

112. Chapter: On it being disliked to drink from the mouth of the vessel, and the clarification that the dislike is not a prohibition

 762. Abu Sa’id al-Khudri said, “The Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, forbade folding the mouths of waterskins inside out, i.e. folding back their mouths and drinking directly from them.” [Agreed upon]

763. Abu Hurayra said, “The Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, forbade drinking from the mouth of a waterskin.” [Agreed upon]

764. Umm Thabit Kabsha bint Thabit, the sister of Hassan ibn Thabit said, “The Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, visited us and drank from the mouth of a hanging water-skin. I went to its mouth and cut it off.” [at-Tirmidhi]

She cut it off in order to preserve the place which the mouth of the Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, had touched and to seek its blessing and to protect it from being soiled. This hadith can be applied to make the permission clear. The first two hadiths clarify the best and most perfect way to act, and Allah knows best. 

113. Chapter: On it being disliked to blow on drinks

 765. Abu Sa’id al-Khudri reported that the Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, forbade blowing into drink. A man said, “What if I see some impurity in the vessel?” He said, “Pour it out.” He said, “My thirst is not quenched in one breath.” He said, “Then take the vessel away from your mouth.” [at-Tirmidhi]

766. Ibn ‘Abbas reported that the Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, forbade breathing into a vessel or blowing into it.” [at-Tirmidhi] 

114. Chapter: On the permission to drink while standing and clarification that it is better and more perfect to drink sitting

 767. Ibn ‘Abbas said, “I gave the Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, water from Zamzam and he drank while standing.” [Agreed upon]

768. an-Nazzal ibn Sabra said, “‘Ali came to Bab ar-Rahba and drank standing. He said, ‘I saw the Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, do as you saw me doing.'” [al-Bukhari]

769. Ibn ‘Umar said, “In the time of the Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, we used to eat while we were walking along and we would drink while standing.” [at-Tirmidhi]

770. ‘Amr ibn Shu’ayb from his father from his grandfather said, “I saw the Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, drink both standing and sitting.” [at-Tirmidhi]

771. Anas reported that the Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, is that he forbade a man to drink standing. Qatada said, “We said to Anas, ‘And eating?’ He said, ‘That is worse.'” [Muslim]

In a variant of Muslim is that the Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, disapproved of drinking while standing.

772. Abu Hurayra reported that the Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, said, “None of you should drink standing and anyone who forgets, should make himself vomit.” [Muslim] 

115. Chapter: On The recommendation for the one providing the drink to be the last to drink

 773. Abu Qatada reported that the Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, said, “Someone who provides people with something to drink should be the last to drink.” [at-Tirmidhi] 

116. Chapter: On the permission to drink from all pure vessels except those made of gold and silver; the permissibility of drinking straight from rivers with the mouth without vessel or hand. The prohibition against using gold and silver vessels for eating and drinking, purification and other uses

 774. Anas said, “It was the time of the prayer. Those who lived nearby went to their houses and some people remained. The Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, was brought a stone basin which was so small that he could cover it with his hand. All the people did wudu’.” They said, “How many were there?” He said, “Eighty or more.” [Agreed upon]

In a variant of al-Bukhari and Muslim is that the Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, called for a vessel of water and was brought a wide goblet containing some water into which put his fingers. Anas said, “I began to see water springing from between his fingers and I reckon that from seventy to eighty did wudu’.”

775. ‘Abdullah ibn Zayd said, “The Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, came and we brought out some water for him in a brass vessel and he did wudu’.” [al-Bukhari]

776. Jabir reported that the Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, visited one of the men of the Ansar with one of his Companions. The Messenger of Allah said, ‘If you have some of last night’s water in a skin, [we will drink that]. Otherwise, we will drink straight from the source.'” [al-Bukhari]

777. Hudhayfa said, “The Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, forbade silk and silk brocade, and drinking from gold and silver vessels.” He said, “They are for them in this world and they are for you in the Next world.” [Agreed upon]

778. Umm Salama reported that the Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, said, “Anyone who drinks from a silver vessel is gulping down the fire of Jahannam into his belly.” [Agreed upon]

In a variant of Muslim, “Anyone who eats or drinks from gold or silver vessels…”

In another variant of Muslim, “Anyone who drinks from a gold or silver vessel is gulping down fire from Jahannam into his belly.”

Source:
Translation of Riyad al-Salihin, Ayesha Bewley
http://bewley.virtualave.net/riyad5.html#food

Chapter on the Supplication for the One Invited and the Guest to the Hosts when finished eating’

From Imam an-Nawwawi’s al-Adhkar:

Question: Chapter on the Supplication for the One Invited and the Guest to the Hosts when finished eating


Answer : اللهم بارك لهم فيما رزقتهم ، واغفر لهم وارحمهم

Allahumma baarik lahum fima razaqtahum wagfir lahum warhamhum

‘Oh Allah, bless them in what You provided for them and forgive them and bestow mercy upon them.’