Am I to Blame for My Chronic Illness?

Answered by Ustadh Tabraze Azam

Question: I was diagnosed with a chronic illness in my teenage years.

1.People tell me I am to blame for my illness. Are they right?

2.It is very difficult for me to lift my feet up to the sink to wash for ablution. How can I make ablution?

3.Does crying invalidate prayer?

Answer: Wa alaikum assalam wa rahmatullah,

1. This life is a test, and each person is afflicted with something different, yet not with that which they cannot bear. Allah Most High says, “Allah does not burden souls with more than they can manage.” [2:286] Remember, the blamers have their own issues to deal with, so take their criticism with a pinch of salt, and work on your relationship with Allah Most High. It helps to find some good company, and to also attend some gatherings of knowledge, wisdom and remembrance.

2. Consider using a bucket and simply placing your foot, up to the ankle, into it every time you need to perform the ablution (wudu). You can also consider wearing footgear (khuffs) so you only need to wash in this manner once daily.

3. No, crying is not disliked in and of itself. But crying for a worldly matter during the prayer is problematic, so you should avoid it.

Please also see: A Reader on Patience and Reliance on Allah and: Things Inconsistent With Accepting Fate- Imam Ghazali and: How Do You Distinguish Between a Test From Allah and Punishment?

And Allah Most High alone knows best.


[Ustadh] Tabraze Azam.

Checked & Approved by Shaykh Faraz Rabbani

Ustadh Tabraze Azam was born and raised in Ipswich, England, a quiet town close to the east coast of England. His journey for seeking sacred knowledge began when he privately memorized the entire Qur’an in his hometown at the age of 16. He also had his first experience in leading the tarawih (nightly-Ramadan) prayers at his local mosque. Year after year he would continue this unique return to reciting the entire Quran in one blessed month both in his homeland, the UK, and also in the blessed lands of Shaam, where he now lives, studies and teaches.

The Unconditional Rejoicing of the Believer, by Shaykh Faraz Rabbani

One of the most important Prophetic traditions of our religion is to always rejoice. A believer isn’t happy because nice things happen, because this life and all that happens in it, is fleeting. We rejoice because of our connection to Allah, the Everlasting. Listen on in this brief reminder from Shaykh Faraz Rabbani.

Did Imam ‘Ali Say “If the Eyes of a Female Cry Over a Man That Oppressed Her, Angels Will Curse Him With Every Step He Walks”?

Answered by Shaykh Shuaib Ally

Question: Assalam alaykum,

Did Imam ‘Ali – God be pleased with him – say “If the eyes of a female cry over a man that oppressed her, angels will curse him with every step he walks”?

Answer: Wa alaikum assalam wa rahmatullah,

I have not found this quote, authentic or otherwise, in any of the available Sunni sources. It is possible that the quote has been attributed to Imam ‘Ali – God be pleased with him – in Shi’i sources.

Because the quote does not appear to be authentically traced back in Sunni sources to Imam ‘Ali – God be pleased with him – it is better to not attribute it to him. There are many other similar verses of the Qur’an, authentic narrations of the Prophet – peace and blessings of God be upon him – or statements attributed to the companions or later scholars that carry a similar meaning of dealing well with one’s spouse, specifically female, and prohibiting oppression in all its forms.

The Qur’an commands us to “Live with them kindly; if you hate them, it might be that you hate something and God has placed in them a lot of good” [Qur’an; 4.19].

The Prophet – peace and blessings of God be upon him – said, “The best of you are the best to their families; I am the best of you towards his family” [Tirmidhi; Ibn Majah]. He also said, “The elect among you are the best to your women” [Ahmad].
He also is reported to have said, “Fear the prayer of the oppressed, for it is answered!” [Abu Dawud]. In the same vein, he is reported to have warned Mu’adh b. Jabal – God be pleased with him – to “fear the prayer of the oppressed, for there is no barrier between it and God!” [Bukhari; Muslim].

God knows best.

Shuaib Ally