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Audit Yourself (30 Days, 30 Deeds), by Shaykh Muhammad Adeyinka Mendes

Audit Yourself (30 Days, 30 Deeds), by Shaykh Muhammad Adeyinka Mendes

30 Days, 30 Deeds
Sacred Acts to Transform the Heart

Every night, our scholars in residence explore one simple deed that could have far reaching spiritual impact on our lives – and the lives of others. Every day we’ll make the intention to put that teaching into practice. Whether it’s forgiving someone who’s wronged us or putting service to others at the top of our list of priorities, these powerful lessons will remind us of the great gift the Prophet ﷺ‎  gave us: the best of character.

Daily at 8:10 pm EST. Attend in person at SeekersHub Toronto or watch live. 

Let’s #GiveLight to Millions More

We envision a world in which no one is cut off from the beauty, mercy and light of the Prophetic ﷺ example. A world where the dark ideology of a few is dwarfed by radiant example of the many who follow the way of the Prophet ﷺ. But we can’t do it alone. We need your support. This Ramadan, we need you to help us #GiveLight to millions more. Here’s how.

How is the Prophetic Example (Sunnah) Relevant?

How is the Prophetic example (sunnah) relevant and how do you apply it in your daily life? Shaykh Faraz Rabbani explains over this four-part lesson.

Did you know there are sunnahs of drinking coffee and sunnahs of going shopping? Find out more in this class conducted by Shaykh Faraz Rabbani as part of The Muslim Chaplaincy at the University of Toronto Fall 2014 Semester roster of classes.

  1. What is the Sunnah?
  2. Practical Examples of how the Sunnah can be applied in our everyday lives?
  3. Prophetic Sunna in our critical relationships.
  4. The Sunnah of applying the Sunnah

Listen to them all here.


Sunnah relevant

Resources for seekers

Cover photo by Felix Weizman.

“On Friendship, Brotherhood and Companionship” now online

There are spiritual advantages to our friendship. Alone we may fall prey to depression, loneliness, or temptation, Shaykh Seraj Hendricks explains in the latest installment of the Travelling Light series.

Shaykh Seraj’s exposition of Imam Ghazali’s Book 14 of the Ihya Ulum al-Din, On the Halal and Haram is now online, thanks to Classes | Travelling Light.

Human beings benefit from companionship, and the company that we keep is extremely important. Shaykh Seraj discusses the importance of fellowship for the spiritual wayfarer in the words of Imam Ghazali.

For more Travelling Light videos, please visit Nursari.

Want to develop your understanding of good character and concern for others? Try taking a FREE online course, such as The Prophetic Call: Imam Haddad’s Counsel on Calling to Allah Explained, taught by Ustadh Amjad Tarsin, Canada’s first full-time Muslim university chaplain.

Resources for Seekers

Cover photo by Craig Sunter.

Why Were The Sahaba Dazzled By The Prophet ﷺ?

The companions of the Prophet ﷺ were in absolute awe of him, as documented exhaustively in accounts of their time with him ﷺ. How did a man, known as the unlettered or illiterate Prophet ﷺ capture the hearts of friends and enemies alike?

Shaykh Faraz Rabbani gives us some idea in this brief podcast.

Art by Tom Gowanlock.

An Unwavering Moral Compass

A woman once had something that was more valuable than all her worldly posessions. Imam Khalid Latif reveals what it is, and shows us how, by looking at the world within the heart, we can change the world around us.


Put it in to practice by taking a free course on Ghazali’s book “The Marvels of the Heart.”

Our thanks to the ICNYU for this recording. Cover photo by Andrea Deeley.

Resources on Having An Unwavering Moral Compass

How Can I Purify My Heart? A Reader

“Success is really attained by him
who purifies it”
[Qur’an, 91.9]

The duty to purify the heart

The Place of Tasawwuf in Traditional Islamic Sciences

What Islamic Perspective is Taught at SeekersHub?

How to purify the heart?

How is spiritual excellence attained?

A Reader on Sincerity, Intention, and the Purpose of Spiritual Routines

What is Islamic Spirituality? A Reader

How to Strengthen Faith in Allah and Return to Him? A Reader

Presence of Heart in Prayer: A Reader

A Reader on Anger Management and Good Character

Retweeting Sufism: Appreciating Tasawwuf in the Modern Age by Shaykh Ahmad Saad

We live in a world of advanced technology and a pervasive socal media, yet many people feel emptiness and they experience a vacuum in their hearts. Can Tasawwuf help? Is Sufism still relevant today? Can Tasawwuf bring meaning to our lives? Find out as the speaker, Shaykh Ahmad Saad, shares his knowledge and thoughts on this subject.

Shaykh Hamza Yusuf – Curing The Heart

Purification Of The Heart by Shaykh Sayyid Muhammad Al-Yaqoubi

Shaykh Yahya Rhodus: DISCIPLINING THE SOUL

A lecture series based on two sections in the third quarter of Imam al-Ghazali’s Revival of the Religious Sciences (Ihya’ Ulum al-Din). This course will delve into the foundational principles of disciplining one’s soul, offering a theoretical framework of how this is achieved. Brought to you by, www.zaytunacollege.org

Related courses

Essentials of Spirituality: Ghazali’s Beginning of Guidance Explained (STEP)

The Marvels of the Heart

Recommended readings

Sea Without Shore: A Manual of the Sufi Path

The Beginning of Guidance

Photo: International Rivers

How Do I Deal With Racist Attitudes at Gatherings?

Answered by Ustadha Raidah Shah Idil

Question: I sometimes find people making racist comments regarding people of other backgrounds. How should I respond in the best way in accordance with the sunna of the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him)?

Answer: Assalamualaykum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh,

I pray this finds you well. May Allah reward you for seeking a response which is pleasing to Him.

Good character

Abu Hurayra reported that the Messenger of Allah (may Allah bless him and grant him peace) said, “I was sent to perfect good character.” [Al-Adab Al-Mufrad]

You are right. There is a better way to address your dilemma. Your head-on, confrontational approach probably caused them to become defensive and deny being racist. There is an adab to giving advice, and I strongly urge you to read this excellent article, The Criteria of Enjoining Good and Forbidding Evil, by ShaykhUstadh Faraz Khan.

Arrogance

‘Abdullah bin Mas’ud (May Allah be pleased with him) reported: The Prophet (upon him be blessings and peace) said, “He who has, in his heart, an atom’s weight of arrogance will not enter Jannah.” Someone said: “A man likes to wear beautiful clothes and shoes?” Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) said, “Allah is Beautiful, He loves beauty. Arrogance means denying the Truth and holding people in contempt.” [Muslim]

It is tempting to look down on others who display ugly character traits. This is not the way of Islam. This opens the path to falling into arrogance, which is a major sin. May Allah protect the ummah from this. A better response is to advise others out of sincere concern, instead of irritation or disgust. Before you give advice, check the state of your heart and your intention.

Solutions

1) Send them gifts and apologise for being confrontational. Explain that you would like to come back, and hope that more of their lesson will be beneficial.
2) If they persist in their racist speech, stand up, give salams and leave the gathering. You have done your part by pointing out their problematic behaviour, and the rest is up to them. Be a model of good character.
3) Perform the Prayer of Need and ask Allah to guide these women, and to send you more circles of beneficial knowledge.
4) Seek out better gatherings of people of good character, who increase your love for Allah and His Prophet (upon him be blessings and peace).

Please refer to the following link:

A Reader on Calling to Allah, Giving Advice, and Commanding the Good

Wassalam,
Raidah

Checked & Approved by Shaykh Faraz Rabbani

A Thief Who Changed and Became a Saint

The moment you think you are better than others because of your deen, know for certain that you are not.

How did a thief  change himself such that he became a saint? Shaykh Walead Mosaad speaks of the change in Bayazid Bostami’s life that happened in just one moment. He uses this example and others to explain why we should not be so quick to judge others, as we just don’t know.

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Resources for Seekers

Cover photo by Kevin Chow

Can I Go to My Non-Muslim Sister’s Birthday?

Answered by Shaykh Faraz Rabbani

Question: Assalam alaykum,

My non-Muslim blood sister has invited me to her birthday. Is it allowed for me to go?

Answer: Walaikum assalam,

I pray this finds you in the best of health and spirits.

Birthdays are social—not specifically religious—customs. As such, it is permitted to participate in them, if they are free of fundamentally impermissible activities.

Given that it is your sister, you should also be intended upholding family ties (silat al-rahim), which is one of the great virtues a believer has been commanded to uphold, by Allah and the Messenger (peace and blessings be upon him).

Please see also: Fasting on One’s Birthday and: Innovation (Bid`a) and Celebrating the Prophet’s Birthday (Mawlid) and: Should Converts Break Ties With Non-Muslim Family Members? and: A Reader on Anger Management and Good Character

And Allah is the giver of success and facilitation.

wassalam,

Faraz Rabbani

How Can I Deal With My Difficult Mother in a Respectful Way?

Answered by Ustadha Raidah Shah Idil

Question: My mother has never been good at expressing her love towards me.

Her behaviour has caused me a lot of pain. She forced me to marry a guy just because it would look good in the eyes of people and that marriage ruined my life.

She lies all the time. I have come to a point where I don’t even feel like talking to her. Things are tense with my brother also. What is the right thing to do?

Answer: Assalamualaykum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh,

I pray this finds you well. May Allah reward you for wanting to do things right by your mother.

The rank of your mother

Mu’awiyah ibn Jahima reported: Jahima came to the Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, and he said, “O Messenger of Allah, I intend to join the expedition and I seek your advice.” The Prophet said, “Do you have a mother?” He said yes. The Prophet said, “Stay with her, for Paradise is beneath her feet.” [Sunan An-Nasa’i]

As difficult as it might be to hear this, your mother still has rights over you. Please commit to completing this course, The Rights of Parents, to give you a better idea about the rank your mother has, and your responsibilities towards her. Although she sounds like an extremely difficult person to be around, she still deserves to be treated with respect and kindness. You do not need to agree with or condone what she does, but you do need to fulfil your end of the deal. Allah will not question you on what she did, but He will question you on how you responded to her. May Allah helps us all be patient with our parents, as they have been patient with us.

Dealing with her

Abu Huraira reported: The Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “Give each other gifts and you will love each other.” [Al-Adab Al-Mufrad]

Accept that your mother has a very bad habit of lying. If you don’t expect anything different from her, then you are less likely to be disappointed. If she chronically denies having lied to you, then pushing her to tell the truth will only aggravate both of you and worsen an already strained relationship. She is the way she is, and she is a test of your good character. You can apply this to your brother, too.

Focus on building bridges. Make happier memories with her, if at all possible. Make her tea or coffee. Buy her gifts. Help her with errands. Focus on her positive qualities, especially the fact that she gave birth to you and raised you into who you are today.

Boundaries

Please see a counsellor, psychologist or life coach to help you learn how to stay well despite your mother. It would help to learn coping strategies as well as better communication and conflict resolution methods. A good therapist will help you see your contribution to this problematic interaction with your mother, and help you change things from your end. You cannot change your mother’s behaviour, but you can learn how to better manage your own behaviour.

Tahajjud

Never underestimate the power of dua. If you want lasting change, complain about creation to the Creator. Allah knows the contents of mother’s heart, and He alone can change it. Wake up before Fajr and make heartfelt dua for Allah to help you. Perform the Prayer of Need.

Motherhood

I pray that Allah blesses you with a righteous and loving spouse, and grants you the gift of children. Once you have a child of your own, you will be better able to forgive and appreciate your own mother, despite all the pain she has caused you. I pray that Allah grants you the chance to be a more loving mother to your own children.

Please refer to the following links:

Dealing With a Dysfunctional Relationship With Parents
I Can’t Stop Misbehaving With my Mother. What Can I Do?
What Are Some Prophetic Supplications That Can Help Me Deal With Trials in My Life?

Wassalam,
Raidah

Checked & Approved by Shaykh Faraz Rabbani