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Are Good Deeds Unaccepted If You Don’t Wear Hijab?

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad

Question: Assalamu alaykum

I have been struggling with my OCD regarding religion. Alhamdulillah, I am almost recovered completely. However, one question that is taking a toll on me is whether Allah loves me because I do not wear the hijab. This question has made me want to forget everything I have accomplished in my religion because I feel unworthy for not covering my hair. I have stopped wearing skirts and bikinis. I hope to wear the hijab one day. Are any of my good deeds accepted despite not wearing a hijab?

Answer: Assalamu alaykum sister,

Thank you for your question. Allah, Most High, says in His book, “Say, ‘If you love God, follow me, and God will love you and forgive you your sins; God is most forgiving, most merciful.’“ [Qur`an, 3:31]

Also, in a hadith Qudsi, it has been related that the Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and give him peace, said, “Allah, the Almighty, and Sublime, said, ‘Whosoever shows enmity to someone devoted to Me, I shall be at war with him. My servant draws not near to Me with anything more loved by Me than the religious duties I have enjoined upon him, and My servant continues to draw near to Me with supererogatory works so that I shall love him. When I love him I am his hearing with which he hears, his seeing with which he sees, his hand with which he strikes and his foot with which he walks. Were he to ask [something] of Me, I would surely give it to him and were he to ask Me for refuge, I would surely grant him it. I do not hesitate about anything as much as I hesitate about [seizing] the soul of My faithful servant: he hates death and I hate hurting him.‘“ [Bukhari]

Allah’s Messenger, may Allah bless him and give him peace, said, “If Allah loves a person, He calls Gabriel, saying, ‘Allah loves so and so, O Gabriel love him‘. So Gabriel would love him and then would make an announcement in the Heavens, ‘Allah has loved so and so, therefore, you should love him also.‘ So all the dwellers of the Heavens would love him, and then he is granted the pleasure of the people on the earth.“ [Bukhari]

As you can see from the above, Allah, Most High, loves his servants if they take steps towards Him and follow the way of the Prophet, may Allah bless him and give him peace. Allah even declares war on the person who is at enmity with the one He loves!

You have done an outstanding job by putting away your skirts and bikinis and I am positive that you will be rewarded for it. Every single good deed counts unconditionally and if done for the sake of Allah, it will serve you for all eternity in sha Allah. It seems to me that your effort to change is a clear sign in itself that Allah loves you. If Allah has deemed you worthy to be Muslim, trust Him and thank Him for it.

Keep up your good work, don’t ever despair, keep up your good intention to wear hijab and always seek to improve yourself, your knowledge and your application of it. Ask Allah to guide and strengthen you every step of the way.

Wassalam,
[Ustadha] Shazia Ahmad

Ustadha Shazia Ahmad lived in Damascus, Syria for two years where she studied aqidah, fiqh, tajweed, tafseer and Arabic. She then attended the University of Texas at Austin, where she completed her Masters in Arabic. Afterwards, she moved to Amman, Jordan where she studied fiqh, Arabic and other sciences. She recently moved back to Mississauga, Canada, where she lives with her family.

Can I Make a Bun under My Hijab?

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad

Question: Assalamu alaykum

What does a camel hump hairstyle look like as reported in the hadith? Many people from India and Pakistan say that making hair buns is not allowed under hijab. Is it true? If someone has long hair, a bun is the most convenient thing to make. What should be done in this case?

Answer: Assalamu alaykum sister,

Thank you for this question. You will find the legal ruling to your question in the following link: Is My Volumised Hijab Like A Camel Hump and Therefore, Cursed?

The short answer is that there are various interpretations to the hadith of the Prophet, may Allah bless him and give him peace. Some scholars said he meant those who wrap a turban or the like around the head under the hijab. Others said he meant those who gather the hair on the top of the head. Other interpretations didn’t take the hadith literally at all. In conclusion, the scholars have not deemed a certain way of wearing the hijab as prohibited.

Most importantly, a woman needs to ask herself whether she is donning her hijab in a way that will attract attention or not. Know full well that Allah knows her intention. I recommend that when one wants her hijab to be the talk of the town, she should instead tone it down.

The Prophet, may Allah bless him and give him peace, said, “Verily, you will never leave anything for the sake of Allah, Mighty and Majestic, but that Allah will replace it with something better.” [Musnad Ahmad]

If one wants to try something different with one’s hair underneath, they could braid it or use a jaw clip. This is also more comfortable than having a bun because she can rest the back of her head on the headrest of her car seat, for example. And Allah knows best.

Shazia Ahmad

Wassalam,
[Ustadha] Shazia Ahmad

Ustadha Shazia Ahmad lived in Damascus, Syria for two years where she studied aqidah, fiqh, tajweed, tafseer and Arabic. She then attended the University of Texas at Austin, where she completed her Masters in Arabic. Afterwards, she moved to Amman, Jordan where she studied fiqh, Arabic and other sciences. She recently moved back to Mississauga, Canada, where she lives with her family.

Hijab and Covering

Answered by Shaykh Farid Dingle

Question: Assalamu alaykum

(1) One should take down any photos not wearing hijab. How should I go
about this in the case of my non-muslim mother who has photos of me not
wearing the hijab on her social media and will most likely not comply
with taking them down?

(2) Not many women seem to bother about showing the shape of their
shoulders which most clothes do. Would this be considered acceptable?

Answer: Wa alaykum assalam wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh,

Dear questioner,

Pictures without hijab

The Prophet of Allah said, ‘None is more jealous than Allah, and for that He has forbidden indecencies.’ [Muslim] It is of Allah’s jealous for his slaves that he has forbidden that which is wrong, and has commanded believing men and women to cover that which must be covered in public.

You should calmly explain to your mother that you really don’t want these pictures up, that you find it religiously and personally embarrassing, and that she should respect your rights and remove them.

If she doesn’t, then I would take steps with the Facebook etc. themselves. For example, see this.

A proper hijab

A proper hijab means that the main shape of the woman’s body is not showing. One does not have to go to ridiculous measures to hide things like height, width of shoulders or the like of which cannot normally be concealed by a good-sized hijab and loose clothes.

For more detail, please see this.

I pray this helps,

Wassalam,
[Shaykh] Farid Dingle

Shaykh Farid Dingle grew up in a convert family in Herefordshire, UK. In 2007, he moved to Jordan to pursue traditional studies. Shaykh Farid continues to live in Amman, Jordan with his wife and kids. In addition to continuing his studies he teaches Arabic and several of the Islamic sciences.

Shaykh Farid began his journey in sacred knowledge with intensives in the UK and Jordan (2004) in Shafi’i fiqh and Arabic. After years of studying Arabic grammar, Shafi’i fiqh, hadith, legal methodology (usul al-fiqh) and tafsir, Sh. Farid began specializing in Arabic language and literature. Sh. Farid studied Pre-Islamic poetry, Umayyad, Abbasid, Fatimid, and Andalusian literature. He holds a BA in Arabic Language and Literature and continues exploring the language of the Islamic tradition.

In addition to his interest in the Arabic language Shaykh Farid actively researches matters related to jurisprudence (fiqh) which he studied with Shaykh Hamza Karamali, Shaykh Ahmad Hasanat, and continues with Shaykh Amjad Rasheed. 

How Can Hijab Be Relevant in a Xenophobic Society If It Is Meant to Protect Us?

Answered by Ustadha Raidah Shah Idil

Question: Assalam aleykum,

It has been increasingly bothering me that I do not wear a hijab. I think it is fair to assume that covering a woman’s adornments is for protecting herself and the honour of her husband – am I right in saying this?

Following that, given today’s world and especially living in a xenophobic generation where there is so much conflict, scrutiny and violence against women who wear hijab/niqab etc. Doesn’t it go completely against the idea of protection for a woman in the first place? For example at airports while passing through security, while walking around in a town where Muslim women wearing hijabs are stared at as opposed to being left alone.

I guess my question really is, is it not better for a woman to protect herself by not wearing a hijab and therefore protecting herself by not being scrutinised or stared at, than her wearing one blindly without thinking about its repercussions, especially and limited to the western world and not Middle Eastern countries, where I believe it is absolutely better for a woman to wear her hijab ie. cover her adornments, than not.

Answer: Assalamualaykum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh,

I pray this finds you well. May Allah reward you for reaching out to us.

Difficulties wearing hijab

Dear sister, you raise many very good points about the real tribulation faced by many women who wear hijab. None of it is easy, nor is any of it lost on Allah.

Please know that despite these real hardships, hijab remains an obligation in today’s world.

We observe hijab because Allah commanded us to, just like He commanded us to pray, fast, perform Hajj if one is able to, and so on.

Please refer to this link: Is Hijab Obligatory?

Priorities

Those whose souls the angels take while they had wronged themselves, the angels say (to them), “In what business were you (involved)?” They say, “We were oppressed in the earth.” They say, “Was not the earth of Allah wide enough for you to emigrate to it?” Those people are such that their refuge is Jahannam . It is an evil place to return.” [Qur’an, 4:97]

If you are living in a deeply Islamaphobic part of the world, and this is preventing you from wearing hijab – then please set the intention to move somewhere else. InshaAllah Allah will place barakah in your decision, because you have chosen to prioritise what pleases Him.

I realise, of course, than it is no easy matter to just pack up and leave one’s livelihood. The alternative would be for you to put your trust in Allah, wear hijab, and adjust to your new reality. No change is easy at first, but anything is possible through Allah.

Internal shifts

I strongly suggest that you perform the Prayer of Need, and ask Allah to help you come to hijab. With great difficulty comes great reward, inshaAllah.

Conflict Over Hijab

It is not your responsibility to explain or advocate for hijab. Keep it simple. Your responsibility is to wear it, while also upholding the inner aspect of hijab. Take each day as it comes, instead of catastrophising about the worst possible outcome. InshaAllah with dua and commitment, Allah will keep you safe.

Please see:

Can I Remove My Hijab for My Safety?
Am I a ‘Dayyuth’ If I Let My Wife Go out Without Hijab and How Do I Maintain Protective Jealousy (Ghayrah)?

[Ustadha] Raidah Shah Idil

Checked & Approved by Shaykh Faraz Rabbani

Ustadha Raidah Shah Idil has spent almost two years in Amman, Jordan, where she learned Shafi’i’ fiqh, Arabic, Seerah, Aqeedah, Tasawwuf, Tafsir and Tajweed. She continues to study with her Teachers in Malaysia and online through SeekersHub Global. She graduated with a Psychology and English degree from University of New South Wales, was a volunteer hospital chaplain for 5 years and has completed a Diploma of Counselling from the Australian Institute of Professional Counsellors. She lives in Kuala Lumpur, Malaysia, with her husband, daughter, and mother-in-law.

Hijab in the Workplace.

Answered by Shaykh Farid Dingle

Question: Assalamu alaykum

Would it be acceptable to put on a scarf which covers my hair only (not my neck) when going to work and then using a scarf that covers my head and neck when I am not at work?

Answer: Wa alaykum assalam wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh,

Dear questioner,

That would not be permissible, and will not help you in your life. The way of Allah’s pleasure and the way of happiness in this life and the next, you should where a hijab as described here.

Being at work is not an excuse to not wear a hijab, unless your life is at risk.

I pray Allah gives you success and ease.

Wassalam,
[Shaykh] Farid Dingle

Shaykh Farid Dingle grew up in a convert family in Herefordshire, UK. In 2007, he moved to Jordan to pursue traditional studies. Shaykh Farid continues to live in Amman, Jordan with his wife and kids. In addition to continuing his studies he teaches Arabic and several of the Islamic sciences.

Shaykh Farid began his journey in sacred knowledge with intensives in the UK and Jordan (2004) in Shafi’i fiqh and Arabic. After years of studying Arabic grammar, Shafi’i fiqh, hadith, legal methodology (usul al-fiqh) and tafsir, Sh. Farid began specializing in Arabic language and literature. Sh. Farid studied Pre-Islamic poetry, Umayyad, Abbasid, Fatimid, and Andalusian literature. He holds a BA in Arabic Language and Literature and continues exploring the language of the Islamic tradition.

In addition to his interest in the Arabic language Shaykh Farid actively researches matters related to jurisprudence (fiqh) which he studied with Shaykh Hamza Karamali, Shaykh Ahmad Hasanat, and continues with Shaykh Amjad Rasheed.

Will Allah Hold Me Accountable for My Wife and Sister Not Observing Hijab?

Answered by Ustadha Raidah Shah Idil

Question: Assalam aleykum,

My wife says her prayer regularly, but she is not serious about maintaining her hijab while going outside or meeting with non-mahrams, or her cousins. I continuously order/request/advise her to maintain hijab properly, but she does not do so. Shall I be held accountable for this on the Day of Judgement although I always ask her to do so? Also, shall I be held accountable for my sister who is married and is not maintaining hijab properly?

Answer: Assalamualaykum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh,

I pray this finds you well. May Allah reward you for reaching out to us.

Individual Accountability

“And each soul is paid in full for what it did. And He is Best Aware of what they do.” [Qur’an, 39:70]

Dear questioner, please rest assured that you will not be held to account for the sins of your wife and your sister. You will be held to account for your own deeds. May Allah have mercy on us all.

I sincerely advise you to drop the topic of hijab altogether. Work on cultivating a deeper connection with your wife. Romance her, appreciate her, help her feel loved and supported. Learn how to play with her, just like the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) did with his wives.

It is possible to deeply love someone and hate their sins. We all sin. Nagging your wife or sister about their hijab may end up driving them further away. Find ways to inspire them instead, and the best inspiration is your own excellent character.

Improving your own character

I encourage you to look inwards. How can you better your own practice of Islam? How can you be more patient? How can you be more charitable? How can you increase in your love for the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him)? The list is endless. Instead of focusing on what your wife’s shortcomings, focus on your own.

Influencing your wife

Please read this article and reflect on it. Husbands Can Only Be Influential if They Accept Influence. Ask yourself – how can you be a better husband? How can you be of more service to her? How can you show your appreciation for her?

May Allah guide your wife and sister to hijab, soothe your troubled heart, and may He give you the wisdom to choose your battles.

Please see:

Love, Marriage and Relationships in Islam: All Your Questions Answered

[Ustadha] Raidah Shah Idil

Checked & Approved by Shaykh Faraz Rabbani

Ustadha Raidah Shah Idil has spent almost two years in Amman, Jordan, where she learned Shafi’i’ fiqh, Arabic, Seerah, Aqeedah, Tasawwuf, Tafsir and Tajweed. She continues to study with her Teachers in Malaysia and online through SeekersHub Global. She graduated with a Psychology and English degree from University of New South Wales, was a volunteer hospital chaplain for 5 years and has completed a Diploma of Counselling from the Australian Institute of Professional Counsellors. She lives in Kuala Lumpur, Malaysia, with her husband, daughter, and mother-in-law.

Difficulties with Hijab in the West

Ustadah Raidah Shah Idil is asked if it is better not to observe hijab when living in the West due to possible harassment and conflict.

 

Question:

Assalam alaykum wa rahmat Allah wa barakatuh.

It has been increasingly bothering me that I do not wear a hijab. I think it is fair to assume that covering a woman’s adornments is for protecting herself and the honor of her husband – am I right in saying this?

Following that, given today’s world and especially living in a xenophobic generation where there is so much conflict, scrutiny and violence against women who wear hijab/niqab etc. Doesn’t it go completely against the idea of protection for a woman in the first place? For example at airports while passing through security, while walking around in a town where Muslim women wearing hijabs are stared at as opposed to being left alone.

I guess my question really is, is it not better for a woman to protect herself by not wearing a hijab and therefore protecting herself by not being scrutinized or stared at, than her wearing one blindly without thinking about its repercussions, especially and limited to the western world and not Middle Eastern countries, where I believe it is absolutely better for a woman to wear her hijab i.e. cover her adornments, than not.

I’ve tried so much to find the right answer regarding this topic and I really need someone to help me out. Since I believe in the hijab and women generally covering their adornments, however I also believe in being sensible and doing their best to be aware at all time and safeguard ones self and their family and avoid any kind of conflict, but I also believe in speaking the truth always and standing up for what is right, but I also want to avoid as much unnecessary conflict from people who simply will not understand and if anything, it is valuable time best spent doing something good in this world that will actually have good results.

 

Answer:

Wa alaykum assaalam wa rahmat Allah wa barakatuh.

I pray this finds you well. May Allah reward you for reaching out to us.

Difficulties Wearing Hijab

Dear sister, you raise many very good points about the real tribulation faced by many women who wear hijab. None of it is easy, nor is any of it lost on Allah.

Please know that despite these real hardships, hijab remains an obligation in today’s world.

We observe hijab because Allah commanded us to, just like He commanded us to pray, fast, perform Hajj if one is able to, and so on.

Please refer to this link: Is Hijab Obligatory?

Priorities

Those whose souls the angels take while they had wronged themselves, the angels say (to them), “In what business were you (involved)?” They say, “We were oppressed in the earth.” They say, “Was not the earth of Allah wide enough for you to emigrate to it?” Those people are such that their refuge is Jahannam. It is an evil place to return.” [Qur’an, 4:97]

If you are living in a deeply Islamaphobic part of the world, and this is preventing you from wearing hijab – then please set the intention to move somewhere else. InshaAllah Allah will place barakah in your decision, because you have chosen to prioritize what pleases Him.

I realize, of course, than it is no easy matter to just pack up and leave one’s livelihood. The alternative would be for you to put your trust in Allah, wear hijab, and adjust to your new reality. No change is easy at first, but anything is possible through Allah.

Internal Shifts

I strongly suggest that you perform the Prayer of Need, and ask Allah to help you come to hijab. With great difficulty comes great reward, inshaAllah.

Conflict over Hijab

It is not your responsibility to explain or advocate for hijab. Keep it simple. Your responsibility is to wear it, while also upholding the inner aspect of hijab. Take each day as it comes, instead of catastrophising about the worst possible outcome. InshaAllah with dua and commitment, Allah will keep you safe.

Please see Can I Remove My Hijab for My Safety? and Am I a ‘Dayyuth’ If I Let My Wife Go out Without Hijab and How Do I Maintain Protective Jealousy (Ghayrah)?

 

Checked and approved by Shaykh Faraz Rabbani.


 

Marrying a Practicing Non-Hijabi

Ustada Raidah Shah Idil is asked if marrying a practicing sister who does not wear hijab is permissible.

Question:

Assalam alaykum wa rahmat Allah wa barakatuh.

Where I come from, there are many Muslims that practice Islam without their parents’ consent. I belong to such a family, but alhamduliLlah things have changed a lot for me. I can join prayers in the mosque, and have permission from my family to do that.

But I have lots of friends who can not, for example, join prayers with jama‘a, or join Khalaqas given in Mosques, generally because of the fear of falling into the extremism of the religion. For these families, praying, reading Qur’an, joining Jumu‘as are things that put their kids in extremism, as well as the fear that their kids will leave the dunya altogether, and will leave science to seek knowledge for the deen. Anything along the lines of Islam is fearful for them.

There are sisters in my hometown who are religious. They pray, read the Qur’an, listen to khutbas through the web, and fast every Ramadan. Headscarf is another point that is risky to put on unless they’re praying. Families don’t give permission to wear the hijab outside, because it is a way of backwardness.

My question is, is it allowed for me to marry a non-hijabi sister who is religious, a good person, and a practicing Muslima? Do I get any share in the sin she does because of not wearing the hijab (if married to such person)?

Answer:

Assalamualaykum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh,

I pray this finds you well. May Allah reward you for reaching out to us.

Permissibility

“And each soul is paid in full for what it did. And He is Best Aware of what they do.” (Sura al-Zumar 39:70)

In short, yes, it is permissible for you to marry a non-hijabi sister. Her sins are on her, just like your sins are on you. As spouses, it is better for both of you to encourage one another to whatever pleases Allah, even if it may displease everyone else.

Marriage as Growth

Spouses, especially in the first year of marriage, often trigger old wounds from childhood e.g. fearing practising the din openly, feeling chronically unworthy etc. Use these uncomfortable feelings as opportunities to work on dismantling these patterns, together. For example, once she is married to you, then your future wife can rest easy knowing that you are supportive of her decision to wear hijab. Her family will still be unhappy, but when a married daughter leaves her family home, it is understood that her husband will have the greater influence, moving forward.

I pray that marriage will be beneficial for both of you, and increase you both in inward and outward observance of the din.

Please complete this course Marriage in Islam: Practical Guidance for Successful Marriages.

Please also see Love, Marriage and Relationships in Islam: All Your Questions Answered.

Checked and approved by Shaykh Faraz Rabbani.

 


Context for the Hadith: Whoever Imitates a People Is of Them

Ustadh Farid Dingle is asked if wearing clothes that are not traditionally Muslim in itself puts one beyond the pale.

 

Question:

Assalam alaykum wa rahmat Allah wa barakatuh.

May Allah reward you for your great answer service. I was wondering if there is a specific historical context for the hadith: “Whoever resembles a people is one of them”? Is it a literal, self-constrained, all encompassing statement, or is it part of a longer hadith? Also, if you live in Canada and dress like everyone in Canada why is that bad? What are the Islamic limits that prevent racism and the forming of ethnic ghettos? Is saying Merry Christmas or sending your kids out to Halloween going to make you a kafir as they tell us in Khutbahs locally?

Answer:

Wa alaykum assalam wa rahmat Allah wa barakatuh.

Mimicking non-Muslims or the morally corrupt is only sinful when:

  1. It is done out of veneration and esteem for their non-Islamic beliefs or practices.
  2. It is in something bad in itself.
  3. It is in something religiously idiosyncratic to them.

So, if for example you have a certain haircut or wear certain clothes because you like them, not because you want to be identified with a certain group of non-Muslims or morally corrupt people, then it is fine.

However, if you just feel like dressing like a Buddhist monk, or just feel like taking off your hijab in front of men, then regardless of your intention, you are doing something wrong, either because it is something obviously specific to that non-Muslim group, or because it is forbidden or offensive in itself.

Please also see Clothes of the People of the Land.

I pray this helps.

Farid

Checked and approved by Shaykh Faraz Rabbani.

 


Prayer, Past Sins, and the Hijab

Shaykh Abdul-Rahim Reasat gives valuable advice on how to make up prayers and not burn out.

I’m sorry. I sent a question through earlier about making up missed prayers. I also wanted to ask, if I should be including the nafl prayers for dhuhr, maghrib and isha in my makeup prayers, or can these be left out without any further sin?

As I have years of prayers to make up, would it be sinful for me to do anything outside this in my spare time. For instance, would reading a fictional book, watching a film, going out with family, be sinful for me? Should I only be using spare time to make up prayers? I’m feeling overwhelmed because I feel like I will not be able to do anything else without sin or guilt.

Also, I am trying to learn the prayer as I go along if this takes me some time and I miss a current prayer in the process am I making my situation worse?

I am also trying to work towards wearing the hijab, but again I feel overwhelmed. I initially thought covering my hair and wearing loose clothing that fully covers me would be sufficient. I was going to stick to wearing long skirts and loose tops, dresses that fall below my knees with leggings, jeans–trousers with loose tops that fall to my knees or below my knees. But now after reading some things I’m doubting if I’d still be sinning as I’m not wearing a jilbab, and trousers may not be modest enough or even leggings with dresses below the knees.

I’m starting to get depressed, as I feel like I’m going to have to make loads of changes at once. Everything I read makes me find another obstacle. I’ve always kept my hair shorter as I find it easier to manage, and I’ve now read it’s also haram for me to cut it. If my hair is going to be covered by a scarf, can I not keep it short for ease and comfort, as no one will see it?

In the past I had the bad habit, and I think I may have broken some fasts due to this. How do I figure out how many I may have broken, and do I need to fast 60 days as well as making the individual fasts up? If I can’t remember exactly when I started puberty, how do I calculate how many prayers I need to make up?

I work. If I delay a prayer and have to do qada due to this am I digging a deeper hole for myself?

Please advise me on what I need to do. Does the fact I have sinned in the past mean I have to give up all my free time for prayer. I don’t know if that’s something I’ll be able to do.

Jazak Allah khayran.

I pray you are well.

Leaving nafl prayers is not sinful. If you have fard and wajib (witr, for example) prayers to make up it is be best to leave the nafl and focus on the fard and wajib.

It’s best to ask Allah for help, make a routine which you can practically manage daily, and make up your missed prayers methodically. A constant drip of water over time can split a rock; whereas a big splash of the same amount just makes it wet.

May Allah grant you the best of both worlds.

Abdul-Rahim

Checked and approved by Shaykh Faraz Rabbani.