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My pictures are on the internet before I wore the hijab

Question: I started wearing the hijab when I was 18, but there are pictures of me on the internet without the hijab, and people have pictures of me without the hijab, and I feel powerless. I don’t have social media anymore, but my photos are in a yearbook for 8th grade, right before I hit puberty, and many people have yearbooks. I was also in a short film in high school that will stay on the internet. I pleaded with the producer not to post the film, but I had signed a release form. I feel regret and sadness. Should I tell a future spouse about this? How to move on? Is asking for Allah’s forgiveness and regret enough? Should I move on with my life? HIjab has become part of my identity now.

Answer:

Assalamu alaykum,

Thank you for your question. May Allah reward you for wearing the hijab and making it a part of your identity; this is an immeasurable blessing.

If you have removed pictures of yourself from the internet; images when you were uncovered and pubescent, then you have done the right thing:
https://seekersguidance.org/answers/shafii-fiqh/should-i-remove-photos-online-of-me-without-hijab/
https://seekersguidance.org/answers/shafii-fiqh/hijab-and-covering/

As for pictures circulating in yearbooks and on the internet that you have no power over, your repentance and istighfar are enough. It would help if you moved on with your life and not thought of something that you can do nothing about now.

As for your future spouse, no, you should not tell him that your picture is on the internet. It is not permissible to mention one’s previous sins:
https://seekersguidance.org/answers/hanafi-fiqh/are-there-valid-reasons-to-reveal-sins/

https://seekersguidance.org/answers/general-counsel/can-we-deny-having-committed-sins-after-weve-repented-from-them/
https://seekersguidance.org/articles/audio/beyond-hijab/

[Ustadha] Shazia Ahmad

Checked and Approved by Shaykh Faraz Rabbani

Ustadha Shazia Ahmad lived in Damascus, Syria, for two years, where she studied aqidah, fiqh, tajweed, Tafseer, and Arabic. She then attended the University of Texas at Austin, where she completed her Master’s in Arabic. Afterward, she moved to Amman, Jordan, where she studied fiqh, Arabic, and other sciences. She recently moved back to Mississauga, Canada, where she lives with her family.

Should I Wear the Hijab? – My Parents Don’t Agree

Question: I have always wanted to wear hijab but my parents do not want me to. When I bring it up to them they tell me that I am being too extreme and that the environment we live in is too dangerous. My father tells me that I should just wear a nice hat but that doesn’t feel right. Can we compromise? I live in a colder climate, would it be permissible to wear the hijab but to wear a hat on top of that? What should I do?

Answer:

Assalamu alaykum,

Thank you for your question. I commend you for wanting to wear the hijab and for striving to fulfill Allah’s command. This takes a great measure of courage and dedication and I pray that Allah facilitates it for you.

The ruling and resources

Despite your parent’s fears, it remains obligatory for you to wear hijab.  The Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, said, “There is no obedience to any human being if it involves disobedience to Allah.“ [Musnad of Ahmad]

Please see these links for the best advice for a girl in your situation:
https://seekersguidance.org/answers/general-counsel/how-do-i-cope-with-my-parents-fear-and-disapproval-of-hijab/
https://seekersguidance.org/answers/hanafi-fiqh/can-i-obey-my-parents-if-they-forbid-me-to-wear-the-hijab/
https://seekersguidance.org/answers/general-counsel/i-am-struggling-to-wear-hijab-is-it-better-for-me-to-not-wear-it-at-all/

Compromise

It is possible, as you mentioned in your question, to wear a hat on top of your hijab, that is not a problem at all. Even wearing a hat with a scarf around the neck strategically, could be your first step to wear hijab, until you are able to wear one fully. Consider wearing a hat when you leave the house, but when you are far enough away, you can pull out your hijab and put that on under the hat.

Generally speaking, transitioning to wearing hijab is difficult at first, but people get used to it very quickly. You will be surprised at what seems impossible now will actually change and soften your parent’s hearts with time. Trust in Allah and know that everyone’s fitra (innate tendency to faith) guides them to do and accept the right thing.
https://dev.seekersguidance.org/answers/islamic-belief/how-should-we-understand-the-fitra-of-non-muslims/

May Allah give you bountiful good and ease in your situation and bless you in your decision and guide your parents to join you as well.

[Ustadha] Shazia Ahmad

Checked and Approved by Shaykh Faraz Rabbani

 

Ustadha Shazia Ahmad lived in Damascus, Syria for two years where she studied aqida, fiqh, tajweed, tafseer, and Arabic. She then attended the University of Texas at Austin, where she completed her Masters in Arabic. Afterward, she moved to Amman, Jordan where she studied fiqh, Arabic, and other sciences. She recently moved back to Mississauga, Canada, where she lives with her family.

Hijab Clothing: Desi-style, Arab-style, or Western-style?

Question:  If you found a secluded area in a public place like the beach, wearing a hijab is a requirement, correct? What kind of hijab would be safe to swim in at the ocean? Is it halal to wear a burkini with loose pants in public? I noticed there’s a difference of opinion on the hijab. I’ve seen some opinions that jilbab is the obligation because of the verse that references it. What about abayas, or regular clothes, like a long-sleeved blouse, tunic, blazer, and long skirt or baggy pants? Or other non-Arab clothing? Are these allowed, or must it be jilbab and abaya? Must the sleeves be super loose or can they be somewhat fitting for practical purposes of being able to use my arms? What colors, designs, prints, or patterns are allowed or not allowed? How am I to gauge what attracts attention, when every man is attracted differently? Can I wear a floral skirt or is that haram? Can the clothing have beads, sequins, or prints or must it be solid colors only? Is wearing red allowed?

Answer:

Assalamu alaykum,

Thank you for your question. I empathize with your confusion because the fashion industry has taken on a life of its own and has given women too many options to be able to choose, let alone across cultures.

Here is the general ruling about modest clothing and hijab:
https://seekersguidance.org/answers/hanafi-fiqh/is-wearing-a-jilbab-obligatory/
https://seekersguidance.org/answers/general-counsel/what-are-the-requirements-of-hijab/

Swimming

One can only remove the hijab in a secluded public place if it is sure that a man will not be able to see her without hijab. If she feels that she has privacy, but she is at the beach, a man could probably appear out of nowhere, so she should keep her hijab on. As for the type of hijab, she should probably go with a polyester hijab.

Burkini

A burkini can cover most of the body modestly if worn in a larger size and especially if the top goes to the knees. I have seen this personally, but it certainly doesn’t conceal in the same way that a skirt or jilbab does. If a woman was to wear a burkini, I would recommend that she still take measures to distance herself from male crowds and wrap a towel around her as soon as she leaves the water. Loose pants are fine to wear in public as long as the top is long; to the knees at least. Of course, `urf must be taken into account.

Jilbab, Abaya, Skirt, Tunic, Blazer, etc.

As you have seen in the link above, it is obligatory to cover oneself with loose, modest, and non-transparent clothing that covers the awrah. This fulfills the command of jilbab. The `urf would be taken into account, and you are the best judge of that.

Sleeves

Sleeves don’t need to be super-loose, as this oftentimes, causes the sleeves to slip down and reveal the whole forearm. The fashion industry in Dubai usually makes abayas with sleeves that taper at the wrist, and they are well-known not to fall down at all even if a woman raises her arms up. Of course, they should not be too tight.

Prints, embroidery, sequins, beads, and floral patterns

I would say that since a woman cannot gauge what is attractive to every man, she should play it safe and stay away from these. I asked my own teacher this question, and he recommended staying away from sequins and sparkles. Slight plain embroidery or print that is not “busy“ or loud should be fine. One does not have to confine oneself to solid colors. Once again, `urf must be taken into account. Red seems to be internationally known as a loud color, so I would personally choose something darker, even a maroon could work.

`Urf

The concept that concerns us here the most is “`Urf“, the customs of one’s land and locality. One’s concept of how to dress is usually guided by this, as one can look at what is considered modest in their society and follow that. See this link for more information.
https://seekersguidance.org/answers/general-counsel/wearing-western-style-womens-clothing-and-dressing-modestly/

Check your own heart

You are the best judge of knowing if your clothes are modest or not. Ask Allah to guide you in your clothing, and when you marry, ask your husband for his opinion too. You know very well if you are choosing something that cinches your waist, has a little extra embroidery, or makes heads turn. If you choose Allah’s pleasure and simplify your dress, I guarantee you that you will feel more comfortable, free, and liberated. This is the reason that millions of women have chosen to invest in their beautiful indoor clothing and kept the utmost simplicity for their outdoor clothing. And Allah knows best.

[Ustahd] Shazia Ahmad

 

Ustadha Shazia Ahmad lived in Damascus, Syria for two years where she studied aqidah, fiqh, tajweed, tafseer, and Arabic. She then attended the University of Texas at Austin, where she completed her Masters in Arabic. Afterward, she moved to Amman, Jordan where she studied fiqh, Arabic, and other sciences. She recently moved back to Mississauga, Canada, where she lives with her family.

Hijab and Abaya In Hot Weather

Question: In hot weather being fully covered in abaya and scarf gets too hot. It is difficult to find thin material sometimes, and sometimes thin material may be thin but isn’t cool. So what can we Muslim sisters wear? Can we reveal forearms or dip our legs up to our calves at the beach and then lower our garments again? Can we expose our ankles so we can go in the water?

Answer:

Assalamu alaykum,

Keeping cool in the summer

Sister, thank you for your important question.  The best advice that I can offer you on keeping cool is here:
https://medium.com/modern-hijab-life/8-ways-to-survive-summer-in-hijab-8f16359d2a0b

Exposing nakedness

As for your other questions, it is not permissible for a woman to expose her ankles, calves, or forearms where a non-mahram can see her. As such, most women I know would walk straight into the ocean at the beach and let their clothes get wet up to the knees, whether in abaya or in loose pants. Wet clothing cools one better than simply wetting the skin. Also, a handful of water poured on the top of your head and forehead does wonders to catch a breeze.

I pray that you can find the right method to keep cool. Also, be mindful of the time of day that you go out. A woman covered in thick clothing at midday in the summer at the beach will probably get dehydrated or unwell, so choose an evening stroll or a day activity where there is shelter from the sun.

Please see these links on modest clothing:
https://seekersguidance.org/podcast-feeds/family-society/modest-clothing-for-men-and-women/
https://seekersguidance.org/tag/dressing-modestly/

May Allah reward you for your efforts.

[Ustadha] Shazia Ahmad

Ustadha Shazia Ahmad lived in Damascus, Syria for two years where she studied aqidah, fiqh, tajweed, tafseer, and Arabic. She then attended the University of Texas at Austin, where she completed her Masters in Arabic. Afterward, she moved to Amman, Jordan where she studied fiqh, Arabic, and other sciences. She recently moved back to Mississauga, Canada, where she lives with her family.

 

Are Good Deeds Unaccepted If You Don’t Wear Hijab?

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad

Question: Assalamu alaykum

I have been struggling with my OCD regarding religion. Alhamdulillah, I am almost recovered completely. However, one question that is taking a toll on me is whether Allah loves me because I do not wear the hijab. This question has made me want to forget everything I have accomplished in my religion because I feel unworthy for not covering my hair. I have stopped wearing skirts and bikinis. I hope to wear the hijab one day. Are any of my good deeds accepted despite not wearing a hijab?

Answer: Assalamu alaykum sister,

Thank you for your question. Allah, Most High, says in His book, “Say, ‘If you love God, follow me, and God will love you and forgive you your sins; God is most forgiving, most merciful.’“ [Qur`an, 3:31]

Also, in a hadith Qudsi, it has been related that the Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and give him peace, said, “Allah, the Almighty, and Sublime, said, ‘Whosoever shows enmity to someone devoted to Me, I shall be at war with him. My servant draws not near to Me with anything more loved by Me than the religious duties I have enjoined upon him, and My servant continues to draw near to Me with supererogatory works so that I shall love him. When I love him I am his hearing with which he hears, his seeing with which he sees, his hand with which he strikes and his foot with which he walks. Were he to ask [something] of Me, I would surely give it to him and were he to ask Me for refuge, I would surely grant him it. I do not hesitate about anything as much as I hesitate about [seizing] the soul of My faithful servant: he hates death and I hate hurting him.‘“ [Bukhari]

Allah’s Messenger, may Allah bless him and give him peace, said, “If Allah loves a person, He calls Gabriel, saying, ‘Allah loves so and so, O Gabriel love him‘. So Gabriel would love him and then would make an announcement in the Heavens, ‘Allah has loved so and so, therefore, you should love him also.‘ So all the dwellers of the Heavens would love him, and then he is granted the pleasure of the people on the earth.“ [Bukhari]

As you can see from the above, Allah, Most High, loves his servants if they take steps towards Him and follow the way of the Prophet, may Allah bless him and give him peace. Allah even declares war on the person who is at enmity with the one He loves!

You have done an outstanding job by putting away your skirts and bikinis and I am positive that you will be rewarded for it. Every single good deed counts unconditionally and if done for the sake of Allah, it will serve you for all eternity in sha Allah. It seems to me that your effort to change is a clear sign in itself that Allah loves you. If Allah has deemed you worthy to be Muslim, trust Him and thank Him for it.

Keep up your good work, don’t ever despair, keep up your good intention to wear hijab and always seek to improve yourself, your knowledge and your application of it. Ask Allah to guide and strengthen you every step of the way.

Wassalam,
[Ustadha] Shazia Ahmad

Ustadha Shazia Ahmad lived in Damascus, Syria for two years where she studied aqidah, fiqh, tajweed, tafseer and Arabic. She then attended the University of Texas at Austin, where she completed her Masters in Arabic. Afterwards, she moved to Amman, Jordan where she studied fiqh, Arabic and other sciences. She recently moved back to Mississauga, Canada, where she lives with her family.

Can I Make a Bun under My Hijab?

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad

Question: Assalamu alaykum

What does a camel hump hairstyle look like as reported in the hadith? Many people from India and Pakistan say that making hair buns is not allowed under hijab. Is it true? If someone has long hair, a bun is the most convenient thing to make. What should be done in this case?

Answer: Assalamu alaykum sister,

Thank you for this question. You will find the legal ruling to your question in the following link: Is My Volumised Hijab Like A Camel Hump and Therefore, Cursed?

The short answer is that there are various interpretations to the hadith of the Prophet, may Allah bless him and give him peace. Some scholars said he meant those who wrap a turban or the like around the head under the hijab. Others said he meant those who gather the hair on the top of the head. Other interpretations didn’t take the hadith literally at all. In conclusion, the scholars have not deemed a certain way of wearing the hijab as prohibited.

Most importantly, a woman needs to ask herself whether she is donning her hijab in a way that will attract attention or not. Know full well that Allah knows her intention. I recommend that when one wants her hijab to be the talk of the town, she should instead tone it down.

The Prophet, may Allah bless him and give him peace, said, “Verily, you will never leave anything for the sake of Allah, Mighty and Majestic, but that Allah will replace it with something better.” [Musnad Ahmad]

If one wants to try something different with one’s hair underneath, they could braid it or use a jaw clip. This is also more comfortable than having a bun because she can rest the back of her head on the headrest of her car seat, for example. And Allah knows best.

Shazia Ahmad

Wassalam,
[Ustadha] Shazia Ahmad

Ustadha Shazia Ahmad lived in Damascus, Syria for two years where she studied aqidah, fiqh, tajweed, tafseer and Arabic. She then attended the University of Texas at Austin, where she completed her Masters in Arabic. Afterwards, she moved to Amman, Jordan where she studied fiqh, Arabic and other sciences. She recently moved back to Mississauga, Canada, where she lives with her family.

Hijab and Covering

Answered by Shaykh Farid Dingle

Question: Assalamu alaykum

(1) One should take down any photos not wearing hijab. How should I go
about this in the case of my non-muslim mother who has photos of me not
wearing the hijab on her social media and will most likely not comply
with taking them down?

(2) Not many women seem to bother about showing the shape of their
shoulders which most clothes do. Would this be considered acceptable?

Answer: Wa alaykum assalam wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh,

Dear questioner,

Pictures without hijab

The Prophet of Allah said, ‘None is more jealous than Allah, and for that He has forbidden indecencies.’ [Muslim] It is of Allah’s jealous for his slaves that he has forbidden that which is wrong, and has commanded believing men and women to cover that which must be covered in public.

You should calmly explain to your mother that you really don’t want these pictures up, that you find it religiously and personally embarrassing, and that she should respect your rights and remove them.

If she doesn’t, then I would take steps with the Facebook etc. themselves. For example, see this.

A proper hijab

A proper hijab means that the main shape of the woman’s body is not showing. One does not have to go to ridiculous measures to hide things like height, width of shoulders or the like of which cannot normally be concealed by a good-sized hijab and loose clothes.

For more detail, please see this.

I pray this helps,

Wassalam,
[Shaykh] Farid Dingle

Shaykh Farid Dingle grew up in a convert family in Herefordshire, UK. In 2007, he moved to Jordan to pursue traditional studies. Shaykh Farid continues to live in Amman, Jordan with his wife and kids. In addition to continuing his studies he teaches Arabic and several of the Islamic sciences.

Shaykh Farid began his journey in sacred knowledge with intensives in the UK and Jordan (2004) in Shafi’i fiqh and Arabic. After years of studying Arabic grammar, Shafi’i fiqh, hadith, legal methodology (usul al-fiqh) and tafsir, Sh. Farid began specializing in Arabic language and literature. Sh. Farid studied Pre-Islamic poetry, Umayyad, Abbasid, Fatimid, and Andalusian literature. He holds a BA in Arabic Language and Literature and continues exploring the language of the Islamic tradition.

In addition to his interest in the Arabic language Shaykh Farid actively researches matters related to jurisprudence (fiqh) which he studied with Shaykh Hamza Karamali, Shaykh Ahmad Hasanat, and continues with Shaykh Amjad Rasheed. 

How Can Hijab Be Relevant in a Xenophobic Society If It Is Meant to Protect Us?

Answered by Ustadha Raidah Shah Idil

Question: Assalam aleykum,

It has been increasingly bothering me that I do not wear a hijab. I think it is fair to assume that covering a woman’s adornments is for protecting herself and the honour of her husband – am I right in saying this?

Following that, given today’s world and especially living in a xenophobic generation where there is so much conflict, scrutiny and violence against women who wear hijab/niqab etc. Doesn’t it go completely against the idea of protection for a woman in the first place? For example at airports while passing through security, while walking around in a town where Muslim women wearing hijabs are stared at as opposed to being left alone.

I guess my question really is, is it not better for a woman to protect herself by not wearing a hijab and therefore protecting herself by not being scrutinised or stared at, than her wearing one blindly without thinking about its repercussions, especially and limited to the western world and not Middle Eastern countries, where I believe it is absolutely better for a woman to wear her hijab ie. cover her adornments, than not.

Answer: Assalamualaykum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh,

I pray this finds you well. May Allah reward you for reaching out to us.

Difficulties wearing hijab

Dear sister, you raise many very good points about the real tribulation faced by many women who wear hijab. None of it is easy, nor is any of it lost on Allah.

Please know that despite these real hardships, hijab remains an obligation in today’s world.

We observe hijab because Allah commanded us to, just like He commanded us to pray, fast, perform Hajj if one is able to, and so on.

Please refer to this link: Is Hijab Obligatory?

Priorities

Those whose souls the angels take while they had wronged themselves, the angels say (to them), “In what business were you (involved)?” They say, “We were oppressed in the earth.” They say, “Was not the earth of Allah wide enough for you to emigrate to it?” Those people are such that their refuge is Jahannam . It is an evil place to return.” [Qur’an, 4:97]

If you are living in a deeply Islamaphobic part of the world, and this is preventing you from wearing hijab – then please set the intention to move somewhere else. InshaAllah Allah will place barakah in your decision, because you have chosen to prioritise what pleases Him.

I realise, of course, than it is no easy matter to just pack up and leave one’s livelihood. The alternative would be for you to put your trust in Allah, wear hijab, and adjust to your new reality. No change is easy at first, but anything is possible through Allah.

Internal shifts

I strongly suggest that you perform the Prayer of Need, and ask Allah to help you come to hijab. With great difficulty comes great reward, inshaAllah.

Conflict Over Hijab

It is not your responsibility to explain or advocate for hijab. Keep it simple. Your responsibility is to wear it, while also upholding the inner aspect of hijab. Take each day as it comes, instead of catastrophising about the worst possible outcome. InshaAllah with dua and commitment, Allah will keep you safe.

Please see:

Can I Remove My Hijab for My Safety?
Am I a ‘Dayyuth’ If I Let My Wife Go out Without Hijab and How Do I Maintain Protective Jealousy (Ghayrah)?

[Ustadha] Raidah Shah Idil

Checked & Approved by Shaykh Faraz Rabbani

Ustadha Raidah Shah Idil has spent almost two years in Amman, Jordan, where she learned Shafi’i’ fiqh, Arabic, Seerah, Aqeedah, Tasawwuf, Tafsir and Tajweed. She continues to study with her Teachers in Malaysia and online through SeekersHub Global. She graduated with a Psychology and English degree from University of New South Wales, was a volunteer hospital chaplain for 5 years and has completed a Diploma of Counselling from the Australian Institute of Professional Counsellors. She lives in Kuala Lumpur, Malaysia, with her husband, daughter, and mother-in-law.

Hijab in the Workplace.

Answered by Shaykh Farid Dingle

Question: Assalamu alaykum

Would it be acceptable to put on a scarf which covers my hair only (not my neck) when going to work and then using a scarf that covers my head and neck when I am not at work?

Answer: Wa alaykum assalam wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh,

Dear questioner,

That would not be permissible, and will not help you in your life. The way of Allah’s pleasure and the way of happiness in this life and the next, you should where a hijab as described here.

Being at work is not an excuse to not wear a hijab, unless your life is at risk.

I pray Allah gives you success and ease.

Wassalam,
[Shaykh] Farid Dingle

Shaykh Farid Dingle grew up in a convert family in Herefordshire, UK. In 2007, he moved to Jordan to pursue traditional studies. Shaykh Farid continues to live in Amman, Jordan with his wife and kids. In addition to continuing his studies he teaches Arabic and several of the Islamic sciences.

Shaykh Farid began his journey in sacred knowledge with intensives in the UK and Jordan (2004) in Shafi’i fiqh and Arabic. After years of studying Arabic grammar, Shafi’i fiqh, hadith, legal methodology (usul al-fiqh) and tafsir, Sh. Farid began specializing in Arabic language and literature. Sh. Farid studied Pre-Islamic poetry, Umayyad, Abbasid, Fatimid, and Andalusian literature. He holds a BA in Arabic Language and Literature and continues exploring the language of the Islamic tradition.

In addition to his interest in the Arabic language Shaykh Farid actively researches matters related to jurisprudence (fiqh) which he studied with Shaykh Hamza Karamali, Shaykh Ahmad Hasanat, and continues with Shaykh Amjad Rasheed.

Will Allah Hold Me Accountable for My Wife and Sister Not Observing Hijab?

Answered by Ustadha Raidah Shah Idil

Question: Assalam aleykum,

My wife says her prayer regularly, but she is not serious about maintaining her hijab while going outside or meeting with non-mahrams, or her cousins. I continuously order/request/advise her to maintain hijab properly, but she does not do so. Shall I be held accountable for this on the Day of Judgement although I always ask her to do so? Also, shall I be held accountable for my sister who is married and is not maintaining hijab properly?

Answer: Assalamualaykum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh,

I pray this finds you well. May Allah reward you for reaching out to us.

Individual Accountability

“And each soul is paid in full for what it did. And He is Best Aware of what they do.” [Qur’an, 39:70]

Dear questioner, please rest assured that you will not be held to account for the sins of your wife and your sister. You will be held to account for your own deeds. May Allah have mercy on us all.

I sincerely advise you to drop the topic of hijab altogether. Work on cultivating a deeper connection with your wife. Romance her, appreciate her, help her feel loved and supported. Learn how to play with her, just like the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) did with his wives.

It is possible to deeply love someone and hate their sins. We all sin. Nagging your wife or sister about their hijab may end up driving them further away. Find ways to inspire them instead, and the best inspiration is your own excellent character.

Improving your own character

I encourage you to look inwards. How can you better your own practice of Islam? How can you be more patient? How can you be more charitable? How can you increase in your love for the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him)? The list is endless. Instead of focusing on what your wife’s shortcomings, focus on your own.

Influencing your wife

Please read this article and reflect on it. Husbands Can Only Be Influential if They Accept Influence. Ask yourself – how can you be a better husband? How can you be of more service to her? How can you show your appreciation for her?

May Allah guide your wife and sister to hijab, soothe your troubled heart, and may He give you the wisdom to choose your battles.

Please see:

Love, Marriage and Relationships in Islam: All Your Questions Answered

[Ustadha] Raidah Shah Idil

Checked & Approved by Shaykh Faraz Rabbani

Ustadha Raidah Shah Idil has spent almost two years in Amman, Jordan, where she learned Shafi’i’ fiqh, Arabic, Seerah, Aqeedah, Tasawwuf, Tafsir and Tajweed. She continues to study with her Teachers in Malaysia and online through SeekersGuidance Global. She graduated with a Psychology and English degree from University of New South Wales, was a volunteer hospital chaplain for 5 years and has completed a Diploma of Counselling from the Australian Institute of Professional Counsellors. She lives in Kuala Lumpur, Malaysia, with her husband, daughter, and mother-in-law.