Is It Permissible to Jokingly Call Someone a Khariji?

Answered by Shaykh Farid Dingle

Question: Assalamu alaykum

I had a question regarding what is considered “mocking” and what isn’t.

Is it haram if someone were to jokingly call someone a ‘khariji’? Is this considered istihza (mocking)?

Answer: Wa alaykum assalam,

It is halal as long as it is clear, and not condescending. There is a well-known hadith in which Aisha (Allah well-pleased with her) calls a lady a Kharijite for asking that seemed odd. It is clear that she making the point that such a question is extreme and has no basis in the Sunna:

Mudha al-Adawiyya asked Aisha why it was that a woman makes up fasts she missed while menstruating, but she doesn’t make up prayers. ‘Are you a Haruriyya [Kharijite]?!’ asked Aisha.
‘I am not a Haruriyya [Kharijite]. I am just asking.’
‘We used have that and we were told to make up our fasts, and not make up our prayers.’ [Bukhari and Muslim]

So we can say that calling someone a name like Kharijite is acceptable if it has a Sharia-countenanced interest, and the message is clear, and not condescending.

I pray this helps.

[Shaykh] Farid Dingle

Shaykh Farid Dingle grew up in a convert family in Herefordshire, UK. In 2007, he moved to Jordan to pursue traditional studies. Shaykh Farid continues to live in Amman, Jordan with his wife and kids. In addition to continuing his studies he teaches Arabic and several of the Islamic sciences.

Shaykh Farid began his journey in sacred knowledge with intensives in the UK and Jordan (2004) in Shafi’i fiqh and Arabic. After years of studying Arabic grammar, Shafi’i fiqh, hadith, legal methodology (usul al-fiqh) and tafsir, Sh. Farid began specializing in Arabic language and literature. Sh. Farid studied Pre-Islamic poetry, Umayyad, Abbasid, Fatimid, and Andalusian literature. He holds a BA in Arabic Language and Literature and continues exploring the language of the Islamic tradition.

In addition to his interest in the Arabic language Shaykh Farid actively researches matters related to jurisprudence (fiqh) which he studied with Shaykh Hamza Karamali, Shaykh Ahmad Hasanat, and continues with Shaykh Amjad Rasheed.

Has My Father’s Joke Made Him a Disbeliever?

Answered by Ustadh Salman Younas

Question: Once I was leading my father in prayer and I accidentally said something in English. I have since repeated the prayer but when I asked him about it he jokingly told me not to worry as Allah does not speak English. Is my father Muslim after this joke?

Answer: assalamu `alakum

Your father is certainly a Muslim. Alhamdulilah. His statement is not one that renders him a disbeliever, nor one that is disbelief.

Islam is not something that individuals can be “removed” from so casually. When someone enters Islam, that person becomes inviolable; his/her person, his/her honor, his/her wealth etc.. This inviolability is magnanimous in the eyes of God, His Prophet (God bless him), and the early Muslims. Indeed, as the Prophet, Ibn Umar and others gazed upon the Ka’aba they would state, “the inviolability of a believer is greater with God than your inviolability.” [Sunan al-Tirmidhi; Sunan Ibn Majah]

Those who are quick to engage in throwing people outside the fold do not understand this inviolability. Given the various prophetic traditions in explicit condemnation of anathema (takfir), such as, “accusing a believer of disbelief is akin to killing him,” it is often surprising to see how individuals can entertain it so easily

This manner of thinking is not only contrary to the religion of Islam because it fails to recognize the rank of the believer, but it it also involves ill-opinion, false testimony, suspicion, causing division, and much more that the religion warns against. This is why we must always be cautious and circumspect when it comes to such judgments, which, for the most part, do not concern us as laymen.

For some more details on this issue, please refer too:
What Takes a Person Out of the Fold of Islam?

What Are the Consequences of an Oath of Disbelief?

Please also not that the reproachful nature of the answer is not meant to be directed at you as an individual but simply to get across the seriousness of engaging in takfir.


Checked & Approved by Shaykh Faraz Rabbani

Making Fun of Friends and Educational Material with Foul Language

Answered by Ustadh Tabraze Azam
Question: Salamu alaikum
1.Is it permitted to make jokes about a friend’s weight or the way a person eats if this person is not hurt by this kind of humor?
The Prophet (peace be upon him) said:
“The believer can do no worse than belittle his brother”.

Does it mean that if the brother is hurt by the jokes then it is “belittling”?
2. In class we watch short clips with bad language during the lesson. Is it obligatory for me to leave the room? What is the general rule for bad language?
Answer: Wa alaikum assalam wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh,
I pray that you are in the best of health and faith, insha’Allah.
Contempt of a Fellow Believer
The Messenger of Allah (Allah bless him and give him peace) said, “Do not envy one another, do not bid against on another, bidding in order to raise the price, do not hate one another, do not turn your backs on one another, and none of you should sell against the sale of anyone else. Be slaves of Allah, brothers. A Muslim is the brother of another Muslim: he should not wrong him nor scorn him nor disappoint him. Godfearing is here,” and he pointed to his breast three times. “It is enough evil for man to scorn his Muslim brother. The blood, property and honour of a Muslim is unlawful to another Muslim.”
Belittling another believer would be humiliating them, disgracing them,​ ​or ​holding them in contempt, ​​and​ the like ​​.
As for joking, there are conditions for ​their​ permissibility. Please refer to the following: Is It Impermissible to Tell Inappropriate Jokes? and: Lying When Joking
​​Bad Language
In general, it is impermissible to swear. ​However, such rulings don’t apply to non-Muslims.
Please see: The Ruling on Swearing
And Allah alone gives success.
Tabraze Azam
Checked & Approved by Faraz Rabbani