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What Is the Ruling Regarding Sharing Food or Water With Non-Mahrams?

Answered by Ustadh Salman Younas

Question: Could you share the ruling regarding sharing food or water with non-mahrams? I study at a co-educational university and my friends and I face instances where boys ask for water.

Answer: assalamu `alaykum

This would be permitted although it would be better to avoid when possible.

It goes without saying that our religion has particular guidelines when it comes to interacting with the opposite gender the details of which can be found in the links below:

A Reader On Gender Interaction

Salman

Checked & Approved by Shaykh Faraz Rabbani

How Should I Deal with a Husband Who Gets Emotionally Involved with Other Women?

Answered by Ustadh Tabraze Azam

Question: How do you deal with your husband who when dealing with women (when I am not there) is free, and takes their problems as his own? He just feels when women tell their situations to him, that he needs to solve them. I am very uncomfortable with this.

Please give me some advice on how to go about this. Should I mention this to him?

Answer: Assalamu alaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh,

I pray that you are in the best of health and faith, insha’Allah.

Spouses talking to the opposite sex without need or restraint can have damaging effects on relationships.

Seek out ways to strengthen your relationship, and ways to bond and spend more time together. Be tactful and see if you can indirectly get your point across.

If the problem persists, you need to have a frank discussion with him, and if need be, get some professional or religious assistance.

Pray the Prayer of Need (salat al-hajah), and ask Allah to facilitate that which is best. [see: How Does One Perform The Prayer Of Need (salat al-haja)? and: Struggling to Have Children: Ten Key Etiquettes of Du’a

Please also see: What Are the Principles of Gender Interaction in Islam? and: A Reader On Gender Interaction

And Allah alone gives success.

wassalam,

Tabraze Azam

Checked & Approved by Shaykh Faraz Rabbani

Can I Call Others of the opposite Gender to Islam?

Answered by Ustadh Shuaib Ally

Question: As-salāmu ‘aleykum,

Can I call others of the opposite gender to Islam?

Answer: Yes, you can call others of the opposite gender to Islam.
You should at the same time keep in mind general guidelines related to what is considered appropriate interaction between the genders.

Please see this: A Reader On Gender Interaction

With that in mind, do what is good, and stay away from anything that falls outside the scope of your work, or does not sit well with you.
May Allah reward you for your effort and bless your work.

Shuaib Ally

How Can I Get Married If I Can’t Look at the Opposite Sex?

Answered by Ustadha Zaynab Ansari

Question: Hi, I am a new convert. I’ve been studying & I see a man is not suppose to look at a woman. How do they date if since you can’t see a woman? How can you marry someone if you can’t look at them? I’m just a little confused. I’m not looking to date or marry right now but wanted to make sure I do things the sunnah way or if I am ever asked I can be able to explain the right way.

Answer: In the Name of Allah, the Compassionate the Merciful

Dear Brother,

Assalamu alaikum,

I hope this message finds you well.

Actually, a man is permitted to look at a woman he is seeking for marriage (and vice versa). The Prophet, Allah bless him and give him peace, said, “When one of you seeks a woman in marriage, if he is able to look at what will induce him to marry her, he should do so.” (Abu Dawud)

Scholars of Sacred Law interpret this to mean it is lawful for prospective spouses to look at each other, within limits, to aid in their decision. Therefore, a man is permitted to look at a woman’s face and hands, the condition being this occurs in the presence of her mahram or male guardian.

Dating in the Western sense is not permitted; however, couples are encouraged to meet as often as necessary, while chaperoned, to get to know each other. Among Arab Muslims, a common practice is to sign the marriage contract after preliminary discussions but before the marriage is consummated, allowing the couple to date in unchaperoned environments. This is lawful because the couple are, technically, married; they just haven’t set up house together.

Please let me know if further clarification is required.

Regards,

Zaynab Ansari
July 30, 2011
Sha’ban 28, 1432

A Reader On Gender Interaction

gender-interaction

General Guidance

Guidelines for Interacting With the Opposite Sex

A Detailed Exposition of the Fiqh of Covering One’s Nakedness (awra)

Hadith About Seclusion (khalwa) and Unmarriageable Kin (mahram)

Breaking Family Relations Due To Adulterous Acts

Limits of Relationship between Males and Females

How Do We Bring About An Islamic Environment To Our MSA?

Lower Your Gaze – Shaykh AbdulKarim Yahya

Guidance for Men (Relevant for women also)

I Like a Girl: Controlling One’s Interactions & Feelings

Approaching a Potential Spouse

Guidance for Women
(Relevant for men also)

How Should I Interact With Non-Mahram (Marriageable) Males?

What do I do if I Develop Strong Feelings For a Brother I am Friends With?

Women, Unlawful Gazes, and Leaving the House

Women & the Workplace: Is it Impermissible for Me to Work Even If I Observe Proper Limits?

Love for a Non-Muslim Man & Inviting Him to Islam