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Goodness to Parents – A Reader

Goodness to parents is one of the greatest character traits one can have. Here are some of SeekersGuidance’s best resources on the subject. The Virtues of Parents The Powerful Dua of a Parent Supplication of Excellence to Parents – Du`a’ Birr al-Walidayn  The Noble Intention of Parents Parents – Your Door to Allah’s Acceptance, by Ustadh Uthman Bally Highest Virtues, […]

Will I Have a Bad Child Because I Was Bad With My Mother?

Answered by Shaykh Abdurragmaan Khan Question: Assalam alaykum, I am a 14 year old girl who has given my mother a very hard time. I was just very cruel to her. She has forgiven me every time and we’ve moved on, however, she said the one thing that will stay forever is the fact that […]

Prepare, Before Your Marriage Goes Belly-Up

So many of the questions Ustadha Raidah Shah Idil sees on SeekersHub Answer service have to do with marriage. By the time the questions reach her, things have already gone badly. An oft-repeated theme I see is this: parents who are deeply unhappy with the cultural background of the person their son or daughter wishes […]

Can the Man I Love Take Me as a Second Wife Despite His Mother’s Disapproval?

Answered by Ustadha Raidah Shah Idil Question: I am in love with a man who is already married to his cousin. His mother is not letting him marry me, because she does not want her son to have two wives. What can we do? Does he have to obey his mother? Answer: Assalamualaykum wa rahmatullahi […]

Can I Attend My Nephew’s First Birthday Party When There Is Alcohol Being Served?

Answered by Ustadha Raidah Shah Idil Question: My non-Muslim family often have events where alcohol is the main feature of parties and get togethers. Most recently my brother is having a first birthday party for his son with alcohol on tap. What should I do? We are often put down for our beliefs and feel […]

How Should I Deal With a Mentally Ill Mother?

Answered by Shaykh Umer Mian Question: As Salam Alaykum, My mother is seriously mentally ill. She fluctuates between emotional extremes. Because of this I have endured a lifetime of severe emotional abuse. I can’t go on living this way with her bullying me. What can I do? Answer: Wa alaikum as-salam wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu […]

Is Christmas Haram? Being Muslim in a Non-Muslim Family

Every year, the Is Christmas haram? debates happen full force. Whether you’re a convert to Islam or not, we hope you find the following resources helpful. Is Christmas Haram? What about Thanksgiving and Other Festivals? Giving & Recieving Christmas Gifts Attending Christmas Festivities of One’s Non-Muslim Family Muslims Having Christmas Trees Partaking in a Thanksgiving […]

Can an Unmarried Young Woman Live Alone?

Answered by Shaykh Rami Nsour Question: My question is regarding whether an unmarried young woman can live alone. If someone is trying very hard to be good to her parents but cannot seem to gain their love and compassion or affection, and is a victim of emotional abuse, what can she do? Can she move […]

Can Parents Force Their Daughter to Wear the Hijab?

Answered by Ustadha Zaynab Ansari Question: Assalamu Alaikum, My teenage cousin does not dress immodestly, but she fails to wear hijab. She is a lovely girl. Initially, her mother had diplomatically spoken to her about the importance of wearing hijab, but my cousin has still refused. Now, her mother has told her non practicing oldest son, […]

Obeying Parents in Matters of Marriage

Answered by Ustadh Tabraze Azam Question: I asked by mother to get married and she told be about a lady. She said I should speak to her and then marry her if I like her. Now she wants me to cut things off because she doesn’t think the lady’s mother is a good person, even […]