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Possible Residual Impurities from Dog Saliva or Marital Relations; Should I Wash Everything?

Answered by Ustadh Tabraze Azam
Question: As salaamu Alaikum waramatullahi wabarakatu
1. My inlaws have dogs in their house and because of this I hardly visit them like I should. When they come to visit, I end up cleaning the floor, beddings and any seating they used. Do I need to do this cleaning? Is it excessive?
2. Whenever I have marital relations with my wife, I wash all the beddings and blankets. Sometimes no fuild will be on the bedding, yet I end up washing  it anyway. Do I need to do this?
Answer: Wa alaikum assalam wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh,
I pray that you are in the best of health and faith, insha’Allah.
[1] If you are sure the dog’s saliva affected something, then you should clean it. Otherwise, the basis is purity. In difficult situations, you can follow the Maliki position which doesn’t consider the saliva of a dog to be filthy. [see: Can I Pray in Clothes That Were Licked by a Dog? and: Dog Saliva, Dog Hair, and How to Purify Impurities]
[2] No, unless there is obvious filth present, you do not need to do anything.
Please see: A Reader on Waswasa (Baseless Misgivings)
And Allah alone gives success.
Checked & Approved by Faraz Rabbani

Which Sexual Fluids Require Ghusl?

Answered by Ustadh Tabraze Azam

Question: If one is awake and he has madhi (pre-sexual fluid) come out of him not mani (ejaculatory fluid) and he wraps toilet paper around himself then sleeps, but when he wakes up he recalls he didn’t wash his private part while awake, is it necessary to wash the entire private parts or just the area where it came out?

Also if one wakes up and remembers madhi came out while awake and he didn’t wash it off before sleeping, is ghusl necessary if the madhi was there whilst awake?

Answer: Assalamu alaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh,

I pray that this finds you in the best of health and spirits, insha’Allah.

[1] You only need to wash the area affected by the filth.

[2] No. Ejaculation (release of mani) requires a ritual bath, not pre-sexual fluid (madhi). See: The Ritual Bath (ghusl): Obligatory, Recommended, and Disliked Acts

And please see related answers in the archives at SeekersGuidance.org

And Allah alone gives success.

wassalam,

Tabraze Azam

Checked & Approved by Faraz Rabbani

Rules Regarding Ghusl and Wet Dreams for Men and Women

Answered by Ustadha Shaista Maqbool

Question: I have learned that if a women who has reached puberty has an erotic dream and sees some discharge afterwards, she has to make ghusl. If she sees discharge alone without remembering a dream, she would also have to take ghusl. But if she remembers only the dream without seeing discharge, she doesn’t have to take ghusl.
What if a women constantly has discharge? How does she know when to take ghusl and when not?

 

Answer: Wa’alaikum assalaam warahmatu Allah,

With regards to wet dreams, men and women have the similar rulings.

So, if a man or woman has a wet dream and he/she sees wetness/discharge they are obliged to make ghusl, even if they are not certain the wetness is from an ejaculation/orgasm. In other words, even if he/she has constant discharge and suspects the wetness not to be sexual discharge, ghusl is still obligatory if he/she recalls seeing a wet dream. The only exception is for a man when he knows that this discharge is wady – a thick white fluid which exits after urinating or carrying something heavy which is only present in men.

If one doesn’t remember a wet dream and sees discharge, there are two rulings:

1- he/she must do ghusl if he/she believes the discharge could be sexual fluid from an ejaculation/orgasm; i.e. the mere possibility of the discharge being sexual fluid is enough to make ghusl necessary.

2- If he/she knows that the fluid is madhy, i.e. that which exists when aroused (or a man knows it is wady), then he/she does not have to do ghusl.

If there is no discharge, even if one remembers a wet dream, he/she is not obliged to do ghusl.

And Allah knows best.

wasalaam,
Shaista Maqbool

Checked & Approved by Faraz Rabbani

Related Answers:

Waking Up with a Spot on Groin and Dealing with Baseless Misgivings (Waswasa)

Making Ghusl After Continual Exiting of Sexual Fluids

Answered by Ustadha Shaista Maqbool

Question: I understand that if one has an orgasm, a ghusl is required each time something exits from one’s private parts after intimate relations. However, because it is normal for most women to have discharge all day long even without any relations, how does one know whether what is coming out is sexual fluid or everyday discharge? When do the ghusls stop?

For example:

Husband and wife are intimate at 2 AM.
Wife experiences exiting of fluids afterwards.
She does ghusl before fajr at 5 AM.
Wife experiences the exiting of fluid all day thereafter.
It could be sexual fluid but it could also be her usual discharge.

Please help clarify this as its becoming a huge source of waswasa and hardship for me.

JazakAllahu khair,
Wasalaam

Answer: Wa’alaikum assalaam warahmatu Allah,

If a woman urinates after intercourse, if semen exits from her thereafter, she is only required to do wudu, not ghusl. Therefore she would only take one ghusl after intercourse.

If she has discharge after this, she does wudu if she is certain or predominantly believes the fluid exiting is semen. If she is uncertain (for example 50/50), she would consider it to be normal female discharge.

And Allah knows best.

Wasalaam,

Shaista Maqbool

Checked & Approved by Faraz Rabbani

The Fiqh Details of Oral Sex

Answered by Shaykh Faraz Rabbani

Question: What is the fiqh ruling of performing oral sex?

Answer: Walaikum assalam wa rahmatullah,

Oral sex takes various rulings depending on the situation:

a) if oral sex entails swallowing or likely swallowing of filthy substances–such as pre-sexual discharge–then it is prohibitively disliked and sinful;

b) if there is fear of this, and this fear is at the level of likelihood, then it would also be impermissible and sinful;

c) if the fear is not at the level of likelihood–such as when all precautions are taken–then it would be disliked and improper;

d) when there is no fear of swallowing any filth, even accidentally, then it would be other than the best thing to do (khilaf al-awla).

And Allah alone gives success.

Wassalam,

Faraz Rabbani

Marital Relations: The Legal Status of Oral and Other Forms of Sexual Gratification

Answered by Mufti Muhammad ibn Adam

Question: I would like to ask a question which people have either shied away or have been afraid to discuss. I tried to look in some Islamic books but there is no clear guidance that I could find.

There are many married couples who are not sure about this but have not had the courage to ask including myself up until now. I would like to know what the Islamic shariah ruling is on the subject of sex between husband and wife. Is it permissible for the husband and wife to take or touch each others private parts in each others mouth?

I do hope that you will help with this.

Answer: In the name of Allah, Most Compassionate, Most Merciful,

Firstly, it should be understood that Islam is a religion of modesty and shame. It encourages its followers to be modest and not have the instincts of animals. Modesty is one of the things which distinguish a human being from an animal.

However, this should not prevent one from learning about matters relating to sexual behaviour. Then Sahaba (Allah be pleased with them) were never shy and ashamed in learning the truth. There are many incidents where the companions came to the Messenger of Allah (Allah bless him and give him peace) and inquired about matters relating to sex. Even the Prophet (Allah bless him & give him peace), despite being very modest and bashful by nature, did not feel ashamed to discuss matters regarding the do’s and don’ts of sexual relations.

To proceed with the answer to your question:

The issue of oral sex is frequently asked. Many people shy away from it, whilst others regard discussing it offensive. However, those people who live in the “real” world will know the importance of mentioning this topic. Therefore, it is important to mention the Islamic perspective on oral sex in detail.

There are certain acts which have been clearly prohibited in Shariah, that are:

1) Anal sex

Anal sex is strictly prohibited in Islam. There are many narrations of the Messenger of Allah (Allah bless him and give him peace) which emphasize this.

In a Hadith recorded by Imam an-Nasa’i and others, the Messenger of Allah (Allah bless him & give him peace) said:

“Allah will not look (with mercy) at the one that has anal sex with his wife” (meaning on the day of Qiyamah). (Sunan Nasa’i)

2) Sex during menstruation (Haidh)

The Qur’an has clearly and explicitly prohibited sexual intercourse during menstruation. Allah Most High says:

“They ask you (O Prophet) regarding menstruation. Say: It his hurtful and impure. So abstain from women (sexually) in menstruation.” (Sura al-Baqarah, V.222)

The above two things are clearly prohibited by the Qur’an and Sunnah. When books of Fiqh talk about what is lawful and what is not, they typically mention that a husband and wife may give pleasure to one another in any way they wish other than the above mentioned things.

Although not specific to sex, we can add the following:

1) Swallowing filth (sexual fluids of the wife or husband)

2) Needlessly getting filthy

These things are obvious as sexual fluids and filth is impure.

There are also certain acts which are disliked, but permissible, for example: Total nudity, excessive sexual intercourse, etc…

Oral sex

As far as oral sex is concerned, there are two aspects to the issue. One being the moral aspect and the other the actual ruling regarding it in Islamic Law (meaning, to state whether it is Haram, Makruh or permissible).

With regards to the first aspect, there is no doubt that the act of oral sex (in its full meaning) is a totally shameful act. The mouth which is used to recite the Dhikr of Allah, send Salutations on the blessed Messenger of Allah (Allah bless him and give him peace), recite the holy Qur’an and other things, can not be used for filthy and dirty things such as oral sex, especially if it includes the filth entering the mouth.

This is more or less what the scholars of the Indo/Pak mention in there Fatawa books and (according to this humble servant), this is the aspect (moral) they are referring to.

As far as the second aspect is concerned, which is the Shariah ruling on oral sex; this actually depends on what you really mean by oral sex. The term “oral sex” covers a wide range of activities, from just kissing the private parts to the actual swallowing of filth.

If “oral sex” means to insert the penis in the wife’s mouth to the extent that she takes in the filth, whether this filth is semen (Mani) or pre-ejaculatory fluid (Madhi), or the man takes the filth of the woman in his mouth, then this is not permissible. Taking the filth with all its forms in the mouth is unlawful. The fluids which come out are impure, thus make it impermissible to take it orally.

However, if the same act is practiced by using a condom (to prevent the sexual fluids entering the mouth) or the wife merely kisses her husband’s penis and the husband kisses her genitals and they avoid any areas where there is pre-ejaculatory fluid, then this should be (according to this humble servant and Allah knows best) permissible, although disliked.

It is mentioned in the famous Hanafi Fiqh reference book, and one regarded as a fundamental source in the school, al-Fatawa al-Hindiyya:

“If a man inserts his penis in his wife’s mouth, it is said that it is disliked (makruh), and others said that it is not disliked.” (al-Fatawa al-Hindiyya, 5/372)

This clear text from one of the major Hanafi books indicates that the scholars differed on the issue of inserting the penis into the wife’s mouth. According to some it was disliked whilst others totally permitted it. But it should be remembered that this is in the case when no sexual fluids enter the spouse’s mouth as mentioned in detail earlier. Due to the act being considered against the proper conduct of a Muslim, most scholars have held this practice to be disliked (even in the situation where one does not orally take the filth).

This is what I have on this particular subject. I thought that there was a genuine need to shed some light on it from an Islamic perspective. I hope I have been able to clear the queries people have had on this topic.

And Allah Knows Best

[Mufti] Muhammad ibn Adam
Darul Iftaa
Leicester , UK
www.daruliftaa.com