Raising Muslim Children In An Age Of Disbelief

Shaykh Walead Mosaad is father to two exceptional young men, MashaAllah. How did he and his wife get it so right? In this brief interview, SeekersHub blogger Aashif Sacha gets Shaykh Walead talking about why he made the choice to commit years of his life to learning the Islamic sciences (hint: for his kids), who his role models are and what tips he has for those fearful of raising children in an age of widespread disbelief.

Finally, if you are worried that you have left it too late to begin studying your religion, Shaykh Walead has some very reassuring words for you.

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Clarity Amidst Turmoil – A Response to the Paris Shootings by Shaykh Walead Mosaad

Shaykh Walead Mosaad

Shaykh Walead Mosaad

Following the recent terrorist attacks in Paris, many Muslims around the globe have been left angered with a small group of people for hijacking their religion (killing others in the name of their religion). Muslims have also felt anger towards the cartoonists for publishing unnecessary degrading photos of the Final Messenger (peace be upon him) when asked not to. Others have been left victimised following backlashes within their communities, workplaces, schools, etc. and are generally in a state of confusion on how to understand and address the issue as a whole.

Shaykh Walead Mosaad provides beautiful nasiha and clarity, using Prophetic traditions to determine how Muslims of today can use the examples and lessons learned through the Seerah of the best of creation Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) to deal with this situation along with the modern challenges we face.

May Allah bless Shaykh Walead and his family, and allow the Ummah to benefit immensely from him. Ameen. Al-Fatiha!

This was originally published by the Ha Meem Foundation. Jazak Allahu Khairan!


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Making Ramadan a Time for Young Hearts to Grow

by Nour Merza

Girl-Reading-Quran.pngA crackling fireplace. Cookies and milk on the table. A brightly-lit tree crowned with a star and surrounded by gifts. Few of us have grown up without these images of Christmas. Similarly, few of us have grown up with such warm images of Muslim holidays. In fact, in today’s environment, Muslim children are repeatedly faced with a stern, intolerant Islam that has no room for such frivolities.

This is no fertile ground in which young, believing hearts can grow.

How can we, as Muslim parents, create an environment that does? One way is through a thoughtful approach to Muslim holidays – particularly Ramadan. Below, Shaykh Walead Mosaad, SeekersHub teacher and scholar-in-residence at Sakina Collective, explores how we can build our children’s love for Islam through participation in this blessed month.

Fasting is perhaps the first thing that comes to mind when considering participation in Ramadan. Although scholars differ on if and how children should practice fasting before puberty, Shaykh Walead said it is important to do so in a way that encourages participation in the month without making it too difficult on them.

“Do a half-day, or just one day [periodically],” said Shaykh Walead, if full-time fasting is too difficult. “At the very least you can delay their dinner, so they feel that they are participating.”

Giving fasting a social aspect also helps make it enjoyable for children who don’t have an appreciation for the higher meanings of this form of worship. Traditionally, Ramadan brought communities together – it was not practised in isolation. Many of our societies today have lost the sense of community that brings warmth and joy to the month. Taking time out of our busy schedules to plan and go to periodic gatherings with friends and family to break the fast helps make the month a memorable one for children.                              

Engaging children in activities traditionally associated with Ramadan in one’s culture is also helpful. Offering them special sweets or engaging in special dhikrs usually reserved for this month – which differ from culture to culture – highlight Ramadan as a unique time. Moreover, they help make Islam a living tradition that they can relate to, rather than a set of abstract ideas divorced from everyday life.

“Islamic practice is steeped in culture, you can’t practice Islam outside of culture,” said Shaykh Walead. “One of things that extremists try to convince you of is all that is insignificant, or it corrupts the deen. But when you leave the deen as a set of ideas that you implement any way you want, it leads to a form of extremism.”

For those living in the West, where authentic local expressions of Islam are still being formed, this is an issue that religious and community leaders must work diligently to address, said Shaykh Walead.

Some people have welcomed the moves of  stores such as Macy’s in the U.S., to do Ramadan promotions and advertisements as a way of making Ramadan an accepted part of Western culture. But in making Ramadan relevant to young Muslims, our communities must be careful about moving in the direction many other holidays – such as Christmas and Easter – have gone in the West: that of commercialization.

“Highly commercial activities are a celebration of the self, while Ramadan traditionally is a celebration of Allah,” said Shaykh Walead. Commercially-driven campaigns relating to Ramadan often promote a self-indulgence that rubs uncomfortably against the virtue of restraint that the month is all about.

Some ways of making the month enjoyable for children without the negative impacts of commercialization include engaging them in arts and crafts, such as teaching them calligraphy or making the brightly colored Ramadan lamps known as fawanees.

While striving to make the month an enjoyable one for our children, it is important to remember that, ultimately, this is a month of moving closer to God through learning self-control and self-restraint. The lamp-building activity mentioned above, for example, could be coupled with less screen time on various electronic devices. Some of the time spent normally in play could be used to begin a habit of daily interaction with the Quran.

Finally, focusing on the universal meanings of love and service to others, as exemplified by the Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him), has great benefit during this month. Islam, when practiced properly, is ultimately an expression of good character, and making that clear to children gives them a confidence in the moral calling of this faith that nothing else can.

“Islam is not just the sum of religious practices,” said Shaykh Walead. “It is not just the five pillars – it is built on the five pillars. They are the anchors that bring out all of the beautiful things about Islam.”

Through these individual and community efforts, we as Muslim parents can teach our children to appreciate the spiritual rigors that Ramadan brings, as well as the joys it offers – helping them build a strong, healthy bond with this religion of love, mercy and light.


Resources for Seekers:

Raising a Muslim with Manners
Planting the seeds of prayer in our young ones

Prophetic Advice For Raising Righteous Children
Raising Your Children with Deen & Dunya
The Prophet Muhammad’s Love, Concern, & Kindness for Children
On Parents Showing Righteousness to Children