My Father Doesn’t Pray and Drinks Alcohol. Can I Use the Money He Gives Me?

Answered by Ustadh Tabraze Azam

Question: Assalam alaykum

My father is a distributor of a well-known company. He does not pray, uses alcohol and rarely fasts. My dad uses credit cards (so he pays interest). Since I have no income, and am a full-time student in a private school, I have no way to pay my own tuition nor feed myself.

I have tried to restrict myself to eat less, to not give in charity with the money my dad gives us, but to no avail. Is my father’s money haram for me to use, or spend in charity?

Answer: Wa alaikum assalam wa rahmatullah,

No, it is not unlawful for you to use the money your father provides you.

If he has a lawful line of income, you can make a general assumption that the money which comes into your possession is from the lawful portion of his wealth. Otherwise, ask Allah Most High for an independent, lawful means of livelihood, and pray that your father changes his ways.

[al-Fatawa al-Hindiyya]

Please also see: What is the Ruling on Receiving Things From Others That Were Acquired With Unlawful Money? and: Accepting Wealth from a Person Whose Wealth is Predominantly Unlawful

And Allah Most High alone knows best.


[Ustadh] Tabraze Azam

Checked and Approved by Shaykh Faraz Rabbani

Ustadh Tabraze Azam holds a BSc in Computer Science from the University of Leicester, where he also served as the President of the Islamic Society. He memorised the entire Qur’an in his hometown of Ipswich at the tender age of sixteen, and has since studied the Islamic Sciences in traditional settings in the UK, Jordan and Turkey. He is currently pursuing advanced studies in Jordan, where he is presently based with his family.

Is It Impermissible to Marry a Daughter of an Alcohol Trader? (Shafi’i)

Answered by Shaykh Jamir Meah

Question: Assalamu alaykum

I expressed my interest to marry a girl but my father was concerned about the fact that she is the daughter of an alcohol trader. Is it impermissible to marry her or even to think about marrying her?

Answer: Assalam alaykum. I pray this finds you in the best of states.

It is not impermissible to think about marrying the daughter of such a person, nor is the daughter herself impermissible to marry. The disobedience of a parent does not negate the piety of the child, and the child should not be judged just because of the parent’s behaviour, especially if she is against her father’s work

Nevertheless, consideration should still be taken when considering marriage, as the parents will become your in-laws, and your future children’s grandparents, and from this angle, your father’s concern is valid.

Considerations when marrying

Marriage is potentially more than just two individuals getting together, it is two families forming kinship, and it is the beginning of a new family coming into being. The most important aspect to the success of marriages and family life is piety.

The Prophet ﷺ said, A woman is married for four things: for her wealth, for her lineage, for her beauty or for her piety. Select the pious.’ [Al Bukhari, Muslim].

One should look for a spouse that is pious and has good character, and ideally from a good and religious family. For these reasons, I would suggest you work with your parents in making the right decision.

May Allah grant you every good.

Warmest salams,
[Shaykh] Jamir Meah

Shaykh Jamir Meah grew up in Hampstead, London. In 2007, he traveled to Tarim, Yemen, where he spent nine years studying the Islamic sciences on a one-to-one basis under the foremost scholars of the Ribaat, Tarim, with a main specialization and focus on Shafi’i fiqh. In early 2016, he moved to Amman, Jordan, where he continues advanced studies in a range of Islamic sciences, as well as teaching. Jamir is a qualified homeopath.