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Thinking “The Almighty Has Children” and Rejecting It

Shaykh Abdurragmaan Khan makes clear the rulings on thinking thoughts unbefitting of Allah.

If someone were to bring to his mind the sentence “the Almighty has children.” At the same time he hates it and is disgusted by it, and doesn’t believe it or doesn’t hold that thought to be true because he is a Muslim by birth.

Don’t confuse with waswasa in the sense that it is not an unsolicited or unbidden thought, but with his own will he brings it to mind just like with his own will he imagines a green tree.

Would that be considered deliberately bringing kufr thoughts to mind and thus nullify his Islam?

Thank you for your question.

Intentionally drawing these thoughts to mind, while detesting them does not tantamount to disbelief. If your intention by drawing such thoughts to mind is to develop responses for them, or to break them down, then it may be praiseworthy. However, if this is not the case, it’s best that you refrain from doing so.

And Allah knows best.

Abdurragmaan Khan

Checked and approved by Shaykh Faraz Rabbani.

Fantacizing About Schoolmates

Answered by Ustadha Zaynab Ansari

Question: Assalam Alaikum. Is it allowed to fantasize about a boy you like in the school?

 

Answer: In the Name of Allah, the Gracious, the Merciful

Dear Seeker,

Assalamu alaikum wa rahmatullah,

Generally, we are not held accountable for our thoughts. It is our actions that will count for us or against us. Nonetheless, it is part of Islamic adab to not entertain thoughts of impermissible actions.

However, given the fact that you are young and probably have not had much exposure to members of the opposite sex, you probably find this young man interesting and even fascinating. In a sense, these feelings can be healthy because they might induce you to consider what sort of person you’d find attractive as a marriage partner.

If anything, try to direct your thoughts and feelings in productive ways. Ask yourself why you find this person more interesting than others. Also consider how these fantasies are affecting your spiritual and psychosocial well-being. For example, are you still diligent about praying? Are you still functioning productively?

Finally, ask yourself if you are ready for marriage. Although we live in a culture that encourages people to put marriage off until almost midlife, it is important to respect the feelings you’re experiencing and perhaps begin to lay the ground for life as a married adult.

May Allah reward you,

Zaynab Ansari

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Fantasizing About the Opposite Sex

Getting Therapy for Irreligious Thoughts

Answered by Shaykh Faraz A. Khan

Question: I have recently started therapy for my ocd and self esteem/anxiety issues. These things have been affecting me greatly and through therapy etc i hope to get better soon.

One of my ocd behaviors is to do with getting persistent intrusive thoughts which are of a religious nature. These thoughts tend to be blasphemous type of thoughts and they truly disgust me and lead me to be very sad/stressed.

I am at a point where i really need the therapy so i can function and enjoy my life, but i greatly fear getting sin when it comes to dealing with thoughts of a religious nature or blasphemous nature.

1) I wanted to ask you if it would be allowed from a religious perspective for me to continue with my therapy so that i can get better. Would i be allowed to take part in therapeutic exercises and techniques, which may for example involve me writing down these horrible and blasphemous thoughts (in the exact way they appear in my head) or to let them rest in my mind and not say or do anything in response to them?

2) Would i be allowed to implement the techniques and strategies i am taught day to day when it involves religious thoughts e.g. regarding religious figures and God etc.
I fear so much for the sin i would get for actively allowing these thoughts to be in my head/writing them etc, but I feel like I need therapy to function in day to day life.  Please help.

Answer: Assalamu alaikum wa rahmatullah,

I pray this finds you in the best of health states.

This would be permissible in your situation. Writing down such things is actually prescribed by spiritual guides as a means of ridding oneself from them. And keeping them in your mind is fine if it is part of your therapy, since you by no means accept them in your heart.

Your disgust and hatred for these thoughts is a sign that you are a true believer, by Allah’s grace. Show gratitude to Him for your faith and the fact that you hate such thoughts. The devil doesn’t bother whispering such notions to people of no faith, but rather goes after the people of true faith.

Some of the Companions once came to the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) and said, “We find within ourselves such notions that overwhelm any of us from speaking about it.” The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) asked: “Do you also experience it?” The Companions replied, “Yes.” The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) replied “That is real faith.” [Sahih Muslim]

That is, the fact that you deem it abominable and blasphemous, and that you fear it and fear vocalizing (or writing) it — let alone believing in it — is a sign of your absolute true faith (iman) and that you are free of doubts. [Nawawi, Sharh Sahih Muslim]

Take the therapy as prescribed by your doctor, and give no weight or importance to the thoughts, as their source is an accursed creature of no weight or importance.

Also, try to renew your wudu often and be in a pure state, and incorporate a daily routine of dhikr, Qur’an, and salutations upon the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him). Good company is also essential.

And Allah knows best.
wassalam
Faraz A. Khan

Checked & Approved by Faraz Rabbani

Moments of Bad Thoughts About Allah and the Prophet

Answered by Shaykh Faraz Rabbani

Question: Of late I have been suffering from one strange problem. Its like for a flash of a second something very unimaginable about Allah (SWT) or his prophet comes in my mind and goes away

Answer: In the Name of Allah, Most Merciful and Compassionate. May His blessings and peace be on His Beloved Prophet, the best of creation, and his family, companions, and followers

Walaikum assalam wa rahmatullah,

Your warding off such thoughts is a sign of sure faith, as the Prophet (Allah bless him and give him peace) termed it in an authentic (sahih) hadith.

The way to block such thoughts is to become realized in your love and slavehood to Allah, which is through fulfilling your obligations and leaving all sin with sincerity and devotion in matters of worship, personal practice, and worldly dealings.

With this, one should seek to illuminate one’s life with the light of the guidance of the Beloved Messenger of Allah (Allah bless him and give him peace) in a meaningful and systematic yet gradual way. The keys to this are seeking beneficial knowledge from living righteous scholars, keeping the company of the righteous, and being frequent in repentance and remembrance of Allah.

And Allah alone gives success.

Wassalam,
Faraz Rabbani