Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question Last year, I married and relocated to California from New York. I’m struggling so much with this that I don’t want to continue this marriage, and I can’t easily end it. I adore my husband, but he prioritizes his family, particularly his mother, over me. We discussed it, but nothing […]

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question I’m a mother of two children, and after I gave birth to my second child, I gained about 30 kgs. I tried dieting, but I gained more each time. I started getting depressed and crying all the time, and my husband lost interest in me. It is even getting […]

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question I am not in a good state as I suffer from waswasa. I am currently awaiting therapy. My father has constantly mistreated me compared to my brother and other siblings. He never raised his voice much at my brother but always at me. My family has seen how hard […]

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question I am married to a man who seeks the akhirah and prays five times a day. But I have cheated on him continuously, not knowing it was Zina. I even became very serious about another man once. My husband found out and supported me in stopping this and showed […]

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question Can a wife stay with her parents without the husband’s permission? A wife is staying with her parents as she is studying at a university near her parent’s house and also has two part-time jobs to pay tuition. Her husband wants her to move in with him so she […]

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question I have had a series of panic attacks which have left me with a depersonalization/derealization disorder. I feel detached from myself and my surroundings. All of my emotions have changed, and nothing feels real. I doubt all existence, including myself. I have even started questioning God. That was my […]

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question I want to say I’m extremely thankful to you for your kind answers. Everything’s explained in such kind words that I’m overwhelmed by this, but also I feel bad because, in most cases, my questions are the same. I do this to remove my doubt. I think it’ll take […]

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question I read that If one is not sure whether the impurity got onto his clothes or not, the basic principle is that they remain pure. Is it true? Answer Thank you for your question.  May Allah guide you in making your worship easy and simple. Yes, certainty is not […]

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question In your previous answer you said that one “may” perform ghusl for janaba while she’s in a state of menstruation, so in this case, during menstruation, that dried-up discharge, when dried up, is clearly visible because it becomes somewhat brown due to blood. Do I have to remove this […]

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question I read that a small amount of impurity can be overlooked if ordinary people consider it to be small. Is it true? Does this apply to both body and clothes? Answer Thank you for your question.  May Allah guide you in making your worship easy and simple. Yes, a […]

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question I just learned that ghusl is invalid if one doesn’t rinse the mouth and nose, whether done intentionally or not. I never knew this.  I rinse my mouth and nose during the wudu before the ghusl. Then I just perform the ghusl. Water just flows over the body. And […]

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question Today I performed ghusl. I was just thinking a few days ago that when I perform ghusl, I’d make the niyya that I’d be performing it for all reasons that require ghusl, not knowing which ones. But when I was performing the ghusl, I was so focused on doing […]

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question I’m a Muslim woman who lives with her parents and was raised by a toxic and abusive mother. My parents have been fighting for as long as I can remember. I’ve tried to swallow my pain and tolerate her, simply because she is my mother, but I can’t take […]

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question I’m a married Muslim woman. I have sexually chatted online with two random men. It happened twice. I deeply regret what I have done, and I can’t believe that I have done this. I feel so guilty I can’t sleep properly. I think about it daily. I cry during […]

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question I’ve been married for nine years, alhamdulillah. For the first eight years, I was not very sexually active, but later in the ninth year, I developed so much desire that I needed it daily. However, my husband married a second wife, meaning he cannot satisfy me daily, and I […]

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question I want to get to Paradise with my parents. I love them very much even though they have faults. I want to help my mom improve her relationships. It’s hard for her to forgive someone until they apologize. When she’s upset with someone, she uses mean facial expressions or […]

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question What are the sunnah prayers of Juma according to the Shafi’i madhhab? And can I also ask if I have to make up the prayers I used to pray with following the Salafi position? I used to say duas in English during the salah without knowing that it made […]

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question Things have been difficult for months with my fiancé and her family. They are trying to take complete control over my decisions and life, my job, the time I spend, daily decisions, etc. I never disrespect or harm them, but I don’t want to be their toy either, so […]

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question I get attacked and persecuted by Arab ethnic nationalists here in Germany and on the internet. I’m a Muslim Arab from an Arab family with relatives who see themselves as Berbers, which is quite normal for an Arab. Due to Islam, we, in the Arab world, mixed with other […]

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question I have been in a relationship for two years and then got engaged. Weeks before, he canceled the wedding. I was devastated, and I had a nervous breakdown. I love him and can’t see myself with anyone else. He contacted me after a while to apologize. He told me […]

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question For a few months, I went through waswasa, but now I cannot distinguish between my thoughts and Satanic whispers. My connection with Allah Most High is constantly wavering; I don’t feel connected and cannot concentrate on prayer due to bad thoughts. I get evil thoughts about people when I […]

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question I am a repentant Muslima that has committed Zina in the past, and I have kept it secret. Now everyone seems to think highly of me and sees me as someone righteous, including the brother that’s going to marry me soon. I know disclosing a sin is not encouraged […]

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question My father has always been emotionally abusive. Our family always waited patiently for him to change, especially since he had a heart attack. We believed that it was a sign from Allah to make him realize he needs to change, but he isn’t seeing and listening to obvious signs. […]

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question I know a Muslim must be good to parents, but what if, for over 15 years, on and off, your mother curses you? My mother taunts my work and my looks and calls me incompetent. This has caused psychological problems and low self-esteem. I sometimes reply, but this only […]