Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question What are my rights and responsibilities as a daughter and single woman caring for my elderly father, and what are my siblings’ obligations toward him? How can I ensure my future security, especially with inheritance concerns and no will in place? Answer Thank you for your question. Parents What […]

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question As a recent convert, I worry about severing family ties and its impact on my Hereafter. Fifteen years ago, I fathered a child out of wedlock and legally accepted responsibility, though the child’s family did not want a relationship with me. Am I obligated to check in and offer […]

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question Why is marriage so emphasized in Islam? I did istikhara, and my husband is kind and a strong believer, but I hate being married. I also struggle with motherhood and feel my life was better when I was single. I regret my decision and don’t see any benefits. How […]

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question Is my prayer valid if my baby hair shows due to my prayer gown’s fit? I feel frustrated and embarrassed when praying—how should I handle this? Answer Thank you for your question. You should look inwards and figure out why you feel frustrated and embarrassed during prayer and strive […]

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question How should a child experiencing same-sex attractions handle their feelings, especially if they are pre-pubescent or going through puberty? Should they inform their parents? How should parents respond? Can an adult struggling with these urges confide in trusted individuals for support? Is it appropriate to share their experiences (even […]

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question After eight years of marriage, my husband recently learned about my past related to my purity before we met. Although I had repented, he is now fixated on it, and our marriage has lost its happiness. I love him deeply, but he is distant and struggling to cope. How […]

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question My in-laws insulted my family twice, and my husband did not intervene, only apologizing to me afterward. I struggle to forget the disrespect, and seeing them reminds me of the incident. How can I continue living with them while maintaining peace, without separating my husband from his parents? Answer […]

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question My son has Marfan Syndrome and has undergone several major surgeries, impacting his confidence and ability to integrate into the community. He also lacks a strong paternal presence. We found escapism in online gaming, but while I turned to faith, he is struggling with gaming addiction. How can I […]

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question I struggle with my father’s neglect and feel it’s making me bitter. Seeing my mother in pain and my sister’s divorce adds to my distress. I fear I’ll never marry and often feel hopeless and lost. Is Allah punishing me or teaching me? How can I cope with these […]

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question As a mother of young children, I often face challenges in prayer. If my child with a soiled diaper touches me, does it invalidate my prayer? How can I manage distractions from concern for their safety? Is it permissible to watch them through a monitoring app while praying? If […]

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question What is the best non-violent way to discipline a child who hits their parents, considering differing views on punishment and its effectiveness? Answer Thank you for your question. A child who hits their parents should be dealt with kindness, patience, and Islamic guidance. Mercy and Gentleness The Prophet (Allah […]

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question How can we proceed with our nikah if I cannot announce my reversion or involve family and mutual friends as witnesses? Answer Thank you for your question. Having a nikah without involving family or friends contradicts the sunna of the Prophet (Allah bless him and give him peace) and […]

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question How do I balance obedience to my parents while avoiding participation in a school event with prohibited activities? Answer Thank you for your question. Goodness to parents without contravening Islamic law is tricky but doable if you maintain adab and respect and ask Allah to guide you through it. […]

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question I study law in the Netherlands to help those vulnerable due to a lack of legal knowledge. Before specializing in a field or choosing a role, is there anything I must avoid, regardless of my intention? Answer Thank you for your question. Yes, regardless of your intention, there are […]

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question Can I remain friends with those who swear, backbite, or engage in sinful entertainment if leaving them would harm my mental health? I’ve done istikhara and feel inclined to keep them for da’wah, but making new friends is difficult. Answer Thank you for your question. I empathize with your […]

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question I am a 15-year-old girl in a serious relationship who plans to marry at 19. I know dating is haram, and my parents are strict and won’t consider marriage for me now. We feel guilty but struggle to let go. Is there any ruling that permits staying in contact […]

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question Is it permissible in Islam to take my 2-year-old daughter to a church for family stay-and-play activities? Answer Thank you for your question. No, this would be impermissible and goes against Islamic principles and the proper upbringing of your daughter in the eyes of your Lord. Entering a Church […]

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question I discovered that my husband secretly saved a private image of my sister from my phone, and this is the second time he has done so. He also appears to view indecent images online despite praying regularly and being otherwise kind. I have not confronted him because he will […]

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question How can we guide our teenage daughter back to Islam when she lives a double life, breaks family rules, and engages in harmful activities despite our efforts? Answer Thank you for your question. I empathize with your pain, and you are not alone in this. Patience, bonding, dua, and […]

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question I am a recent revert to Islam, and my family is Christian and Islamophobic; they recently found out about me accepting Islam. A couple of months ago, when I was still new to everything and didn’t have much knowledge, a relative asked me to become the Christian godmother of […]

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question Why do important moments in my life keep getting sabotaged despite me praying and fasting? How can I break this cycle and move forward? Answer Thank you for your question. Allah’s wisdom is greater than our understanding, and these moments of sabotage may carry hidden blessings. Test It was […]

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question Can a daughter permanently cut ties with a father who sexually abused her and caused severe trauma? Under what conditions is breaking ties with kinship permissible? Answer Thank you for your question. You can and should cut ties with your father for now, but please focus on your healing […]

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question Should a wife prioritize obeying her husband or caring for her sick and poor mother, who has no one else to help her, when she cannot provide financial support but wishes to serve her? Answer Thank you for your question. Obedience to the husband and caring for your mother […]

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question How should children be taught to balance respect for their personal space while still honoring elders in an Islamic manner? Does allowing them to refuse physical greetings, such as hugs from grandparents, encourage disrespect? Answer Thank you for your question. Yes, it is generally unIslamic and disrespectful to encourage […]