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How to Deal with Abusive In-Laws?

Answered by Ustadha Raidah Shah Idil Question: Assalam aleykum, For many years now, my husband, children and I have been living with my disabled and depressed parents-in-law. Now that we have a newborn and one of my children is scheduled to have surgery soon, I am finding it hard to cope. I myself have also […]

Am I Obligated to Look After My Difficult Grandchildren If I Cannot Manage?

Answered by Ustadha Raidah Shah Idil Question: Assalam aleykum, My daughter is married and lives on the same street as me. I have said that I can’t look after the children whenever they have had enough, or when they want to go out child-free. Her husband forces her to send them to me when she […]

My Mother in Law Hates Me. What Can I Do?

Answered by Shaykh Abdurragmaan Khan Question: Assalam alaykum, My mother in law doesn’t like me. When I am not around she will talk bad about me to my husband. When she came to know about my pregnancy she asked my husband to choose between me and his family. What should I do? Answer: Wa alaykum […]

What Do I Do About My Provocative Sister-In-Law, Whom I Live With?

Answered by Ustadha Raidah Shah Idil Question: Assalam aleykum, My sister-in-law behaves in deliberately provocative ways in front of my husband. She does not cover herself in front of him. On one occasion, she tried to feed her infant child in the presence of my husband – she didn’t cover herself up. On another occasion, […]

What Can We Do When Our Efforts to Amend Relationships Fail Invariably?

Answered by Ustadha Raidah Shah Idil Question: What do we do when we give gifts to amend relationships but they are rejected? My sister of my husband refuses to forgive him for something that happened over 5 years ago. He has given her gifts, tried to make amends and even asked to talk to which […]