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Can I Still Speak to My Non-Practising Daughter, Who Chose to Be Artificially Inseminated?

Answered by Ustadha Raidah Shah Idil

Question: My daughter is not a practicing Muslim and does not want to talk about Islam. She chose to be artificially inseminated. Her divorced mother supports her. She did this because she did not find the right man. What is my status, as her father? What can I do?

Answer: Assalamualaykum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh,

I pray this finds you well. May Allah grant you patience and draw you closer to Him through this trial.

Status

Ibn ‘Umar (may Allah be pleased with him) said, “Whoever has taqwa of his Lord and maintains ties of kinship, his term of life will be prolonged, his wealth will be abundant, and his family will love him.” [Al-Adab Al-Mufrad]

Even though your daughter has sinned, the child she bears is innocent. However, this child will be born into a home which is currently far from Islam. This makes it even more important for you, as the child’s grandfather, to keep strong ties with the child as well as her/his mother. InshaAllah, you will be a positive role model for your grandchild.

Wisdom and tact

Abu Hurayra reported that the Prophet (may Allah bless him and grant him peace) said, “Three supplications are answered without a doubt: the supplication of someone who is oppressed, the supplication of someone on a journey, and the supplication of parents for their children.” [Al-Adab Al-Mufrad]

Although it must be extremely heartbreaking to see your own daughter wilfully disobey Allah, please continue to make dua for her. Your duas for her are inshaAllah accepted, even if you do not see them answered immediately.

In addition to that, please spend time with her, and treat her with love and compassion. Do not preach about Islam if this will bring about more harm than good. Show your sincere concern for her in other ways. Support her in her pregnancy, be there for her when she is faced with the reality of caring for a newborn, and do so with an attitude of sincerity and warmth. InshaAllah your good character will soften her heart towards Islam.

Divorce

Please try your best to uphold good character when interacting with your daughter’s mother. The way you treat her will impact on your daughter’s opinion of you. Having divorced parents can be painful even for adult children, and it is even harder when there is still hostility.

Hope

“Or think you that you will enter Paradise without such (trials) as came to those who passed away before you? They were afflicted with severe poverty and ailments and were so shaken that even the Messenger and those who believed along with him said, ‘When (will come) the Help of Allah?’ Yes! Certainly, the Help of Allah is near! “ [2:214]

Please perform the Prayer of Need and beg Allah to grant guidance to your daughter and your unborn grandchild. Never lose hope in the Mercy of Allah. Have a good opinion of Him, and trust that everything happens for a reason. Our role is not to ask why, but to respond in ways which are most pleasing to Him.

Motherhood

Becoming a mother will change your daughter on many levels, inshaAllah. I pray that giving birth and raising a child will bring her closer to Allah.

Please refer to the following links:

What Are Some Prophetic Supplications That Can Help Me Deal With Trials in My Life?
A Reader on Patience and Reliance on Allah
Should I Support Financially the Illegitimate Child of My Deceased Father?
Can I Claim a Child from an Illicit Relationship?

Wassalam,
Raidah

Checked & Approved by Shaykh Faraz Rabbani

Is It Permissible to Artificially Inseminate Female Livestock?

Answered by Shaykh Faraz Rabbani

Question: Assalam alaykum,

What is the ruling regarding artificially inseminating female animals (cows in my case)?

Answer: Walaikum assalam,

I pray this finds you in the best of health and spirits.

While superior to let animals fulfill their right of sexual fulfillment—as the sunna is to deal with animals with consideration of their best interest (maslaha), artificial insemination of animals is not in itself impermissible.

And Allah is the giver of success and facilitation.

wassalam,

Faraz Rabbani

Can a Woman Freeze Her Eggs to Use Later or Donate to Someone?

Answered by Ustadh Salman Younas
Question: I would like to know if it is Islamically permissible for a woman to freeze her ovum/eggs at a medical center with intention to retrieve for conception at another time, for herself or to donate.
Answer: assalamu `alaykum
It would be permissible for a woman to free her eggs with the intention of future retrieval. However, any attempt at conception can only be done with her spouse without the involvement of any third party. For this reason, it would not be permissible for her to donate her eggs to anyone else.
The following is the verdict of the Majma` al-Fiqh al-Islami regarding the issue of artificial insemination:
“Firstly, the following five (5) methods are all Islamically forbidden and absolutely prohibited for its own sake or due to the consequences manifested in employing them of the lineage being confused and loss of motherhood and other Shariah prohibited matters. These methods are:
1. The fertilization taking place between the sperm taken from the husband and the eggs taken from a woman who is not his wife, and then the fertilized ovum being implanted into the womb of his wife.
2. The fertilization taking place between the sperm taken from a man who is not the husband and the eggs taken from the wife, and then the fertilized ovum being implanted into the womb of the wife.
3. The fertilization taking place in-vitro between the sperm and the eggs taken from the spouses, and then the fertilized ovum being implanted into the womb of a volunteer woman (i.e. surrogate motherhood).
4. The fertilization taking place in-vitro between the sperm of a man and eggs of a woman who are both strangers to one another, and then the fertilized ovum being implanted into the womb of another man’s wife.
5. The fertilization taking place in-vitro between the sperm and the eggs taken from the spouses, and then the fertilized ovum is implanted into the womb of the husband’s other wife.
Secondly, there is no problem in resorting to the sixth or seventh method, in case of necessity, provided all required precautions are taken. These two methods are:
7. The sperm of the husband and the eggs of the wife are taken and fertilized in-vitro, and then the fertilized ovum is implanted into the womb of the wife.
8. Artificial insemination, by taking the sperm of the husband and inserting it in the appropriate place of his wife’s womb, for fertilization.” (Qararat wa tawsiyyat Majma` al-Fiqh al-Islami, P. 34-35)
Salman
Checked & Approved by Faraz Rabbani

Is It Permissible to Have a Child Through In Vitro Fertilization?

Answered by Shaykh Faraz A. Khan

Question: I am a carrier of a gene mutation that I have already passed on to one of my children and she died at a young age due to this.  My husband and I would like to have more children, our doctors recommended using a donor egg because the chances of having another ill child is very likely.  Is it haram for us to fertilize a donor egg with my husband’s sperm and implant it in my body?

Answer: Assalamu alaikum wa rahmatullah,

I pray this finds you in the best of health and faith.

The Loss of Your Child

Please accept my warmest condolences for your child’s death. Our Beloved Messenger (peace and blessings be upon him) informed us that when a young child dies before the parents, Allah will allow the child to intercede on behalf of the parents, and be the means for their entrance to Paradise. [Muslim]

In addition, the incredible pain and grief that the parent undergoes due to the child’s death is itself a means by which sins are forgiven, especially if the parents are patient and hope for their reward with Allah.

Our Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) taught us that “Patience is a glowing illumination” [Muslim], and that “No fatigue, illness, anxiety, sorrow, harm or sadness afflicts a Muslim – not even a thorn that pricks him – except that Allah wipes out his sins by it.” [Bukhari, Muslim]

In Vitro Fertilization

The Islamic Fiqh Academy, based in Jeddah, came to a resolution regarding IVF after having thoroughly examined the issue. Their basic conclusion was that artificial insemination – meaning to take the husband’s sperm and place it in the wife’s womb – is permitted, whether before or after fertilization.

However, to use another woman’s egg or womb, or to use another man’s sperm, would be unlawful due to the resultant confusion in lineage, the loss of motherhood, and other matters prohibited by the Sacred Law. Such third party involvement would not be permitted even if the parents were infertile or carriers of gene mutation, disease, etc.

Also, it is important to keep in mind that the sunna is to take the lawful means for any noble endeavor, and then to rely wholeheartedly on Allah, while being cognizant that He alone is the Creator and Sustainer of all that exists. Means have no power in and of themselves, yet we take them out of etiquette to Allah and to the Noble Sunna.

As people of faith, we affirm that nothing exists except that Allah decreed it as such, and His decree for us brings only good, as our Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) taught, “Amazing indeed is the affair of the believer! Allah decrees nothing for him except that it is good for him!” [Musnad Ahmed]

And Allah knows best.

wassalam

Faraz

Checked & Approved by Faraz Rabbani