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Am I a Kafir for Not loving Allah?

Ustadh Farid Dingle advises on feeling no love for Allah and how to rectify this.

I used to love Allah but my iman got weaker and now I feel indifferent to Allah. I don’t love or hate Him. Partly because I used to blame Allah for things. This is a real lack of love, not just waswasa or a dip in iman.

Is it kufr to truly not love Allah? Please answer me immediately.

Belief in Allah means that you know He exists and accept it as a fact. This is called iman. If you do this, you are a believer.

Whether one fears, loves, reveres, or hopes in Him as you really should, is another issue. Worshipping Allah as you really should is called ihsan.

Please see Ibn Rajab al-Hanbali’s Commentary on the Hadith of Gibril for more detail.

It is not disbelief (kufr) to not love Allah, but it is sin and lack of ihsan that one must strive to work on. If you don’t feel like you fear or love Allah, at least act like you do, because the hand teaches the heart.

I pray this helps.

Farid

Checked and approved by Shaykh Faraz Rabbani.

Is it Impermissible (Haram) to Love Someone?

Answered by Shaykh Faraz Rabbani

Question: I am a female teenager who dresses Islamically and follows the Sharia to the best
of my ability. I do not take part in stuff that other teenagers my age do. I would like to
know what the Qur’an and Sunnah say about falling in love with a Muslim boy, who also
practices Islam. Is it impermissible (haram)? I am not asking about dating this boy, just
whether it is haram to fall in love with him and talk to him whenever I see him.

Answer: In the Name of Allah, Most Merciful

Walaikum assalam wa rahmatullah,

Love itself is an emotion that you have little direct control over. What you think about and what
you do are things you can control, and are morally responsible for before Allah.

When any worldly love impinges on the purity of one’s love for Allah and His Messenger (peace
and blessings be upon him), then we chose lasting love over love that does not last.

The Beloved Messenger of Allah (Allah bless him and give him peace) said, “None of you
[truly] believes until I am more beloved to them than their parents, children, and all people.”
[Related by Bukhari and Muslim]

Mawlana Rumi (Allah have mercy on him) said, “The Divine love turns copper into gold and
makes the bitter sweet. It humbles a king and gives life to the dead.”

And Allah alone gives success.

Wassalam.
Faraz Rabbani

Attracting the Youth to the Religion

Answered by Sidi Abdullah Anik Misra

Question: Can you give some advice on how to attract youth to practicing Islam?

Answer: Wa alaikum salam,

May Allah Most High reward you for the concern you have for Muslim youth.  The youth of our societies are a treasure-trove of potential: they can be harnessed to benefit society and beautifully exemplify Islam, or they can be left to spiritually wither away when untapped, or even steered in the wrong direction by those who don’t guide them to a holistic approach to Islam.

Focus on the Love of Allah

If you want to attract youth to practicing Islam, inspire them towards the Greatest: Allah Most High.  Call them to rediscover their primordial relationship with Him- to feel and understand that when they do come closer them, it is Allah who is lovingly bringing them back to Himself.  There should be no other worldly or personal goal beyond this, nor any temporal issue nor slogan nor controversy to rally around.

Only when someone loves Allah Most High, can they truly obey Him.  Otherwise, without this love, youth are following a set of rules, or wearing an identity on their sleeves, or engaging in blind protest, without a deeper context of what their true purpose should be, and hence, their practice seems hollow to outsiders, and their character seems sorely and obviously deficient, and they burn out after some time.

Shaykh Abu’l Hasan said, “Whoever calls you to the world has deceived you. Whoever calls you to actions has tired you. Whoever calls you to Allah has given sincere counsel.”

Build Their Love for the Messenger (peace be upon him) and His Example

Youth today, other than an increasingly-marginalized minority, are generally sick of polemics and debate, and of being defined only in opposition to an “other”, or of having to prove themselves to someone or group.  The way of the Prophet (peace be upon him) was one of mercy, of uniting the hearts and attracting people through a beautiful example.  Similarly, youth must be taught to love the Messenger (peace be upon him), so that they can fully embody his Message.

Give encouragement to everyone, especially those who are down or beginners.  Overlook minor faults.  Assume sincerity of people and think well of them.  Gently correct misunderstandings.  I can’t sum it up better than the Prophet (peace be upon him), when he advised his Companions who were going out to attract others towards Islam:

“Make things easy [for people], and don’t bear down hard [on them].  Give good news [about the religion], and don’t chase [people] away.  Agree with each other, and don’t [constantly] differ with one another.”  [al-Bukhari, Saheeh]

This narration alone speaks volumes and volumes.  Combine this with relevant advice from qualified scholars and leaders, circles of teaching and learning appropriate to the youths’ level of understanding, wise counsel and encouragement in worldly affairs, and interesting and spirit-building activities and – Allah-willing – the youth of your community will be attracted towards practicing Islam in a wholesome and balanced way that will be a light for the entire society around them.  And Allah knows best.

Wassalam,
Abdullah Anik Misra

Checked & Approved by Faraz Rabbani

The Evil Eye: A Reality?

Answered by Shaykh Faraz Rabbani

Question: Is the evil eye real? How does one avoid it?

Answer: Walaikum assalam,

The evil eye is a reality. It can be powerful. Qadi Abu Bakr Ibn al-Arabi al-Maliki and others explain that it is from Allah s Will that sometimes He creates harmful effects from the evil or jealous glances and looks of others.

However, one can ward off normal problems if one protects oneself with the medicines of the sunna of the Prophet (Allah bless him and give him peace).

1. One should always recite the 3 Quls (Qul Huwa Allahu Ahad, Falaq, and Naas) every morning and every night, ideally 3 times. It is also ideal to say them once after every prayer. This should be done with presence of heart and mind.

2. One should do likewise with Ayat al-Kursi: recite it every morning and night, and ideally after every prayer. With that, one should reflect on the tremendous meanings of this verse.

3. Both of the above should be done before sleep, as well.

4. One should constantly supplicate (dua) to Allah to protect one from the evil eye. There have been prophetic supplications transmitted by Bukhari, Tirmidhi, Abu Dawud, Ahmad, and others, such as:

أَعُوذُ بِكَلِمَاتِ اللَّهِ التَّامَّةِ مِنْ كُلِّ شَيْطَانٍ وَهَامَّةٍ وَمِنْ كُلِّ عَيْنٍ لَامَّةٍ

a`udhu bi kalimaatillahi ttaammati min kulli shaytaanin wa haamma wa min kulli `aynin laamma

(I seek refuge in Allah most perfect words from every devil, harmful thing, and accusing eye. )

5. One should try to supplicate before all major acts, asking Allah to give one success (tawfiq), sincerity (ikhlas), and make the action a means of attaining unto the love and good pleasure (rida) of Allah Most High.

Sayyidi Abd al-Ghani al-Nabulsi said:

كُنْ مَعَ الله *** تَرَ اللهَ مَعَك

Be with Allah
You will find Allah with you.

Be with Allah by turning to Him in all your affairs, by obeying His commands out of love, thankfulness and true servanthood, You will find Allah with you, for He is “closer to you than your jugular vein,” and He does not let the efforts of those who seek Him go to waste.

Wassalam,
Faraz Rabbani