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What Is the Ruling Regarding Sharing Food or Water With Non-Mahrams?

Answered by Ustadh Salman Younas

Question: Could you share the ruling regarding sharing food or water with non-mahrams? I study at a co-educational university and my friends and I face instances where boys ask for water.

Answer: assalamu `alaykum

This would be permitted although it would be better to avoid when possible.

It goes without saying that our religion has particular guidelines when it comes to interacting with the opposite gender the details of which can be found in the links below:

A Reader On Gender Interaction

Salman

Checked & Approved by Shaykh Faraz Rabbani

How Should I Deal with a Husband Who Gets Emotionally Involved with Other Women?

Answered by Ustadh Tabraze Azam

Question: How do you deal with your husband who when dealing with women (when I am not there) is free, and takes their problems as his own? He just feels when women tell their situations to him, that he needs to solve them. I am very uncomfortable with this.

Please give me some advice on how to go about this. Should I mention this to him?

Answer: Assalamu alaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh,

I pray that you are in the best of health and faith, insha’Allah.

Spouses talking to the opposite sex without need or restraint can have damaging effects on relationships.

Seek out ways to strengthen your relationship, and ways to bond and spend more time together. Be tactful and see if you can indirectly get your point across.

If the problem persists, you need to have a frank discussion with him, and if need be, get some professional or religious assistance.

Pray the Prayer of Need (salat al-hajah), and ask Allah to facilitate that which is best. [see: How Does One Perform The Prayer Of Need (salat al-haja)? and: Struggling to Have Children: Ten Key Etiquettes of Du’a

Please also see: What Are the Principles of Gender Interaction in Islam? and: A Reader On Gender Interaction

And Allah alone gives success.

wassalam,

Tabraze Azam

Checked & Approved by Shaykh Faraz Rabbani

Can I Call Others of the opposite Gender to Islam?

Answered by Ustadh Shuaib Ally

Question: As-salāmu ‘aleykum,

Can I call others of the opposite gender to Islam?

Answer: Yes, you can call others of the opposite gender to Islam.
You should at the same time keep in mind general guidelines related to what is considered appropriate interaction between the genders.

Please see this: A Reader On Gender Interaction

With that in mind, do what is good, and stay away from anything that falls outside the scope of your work, or does not sit well with you.
May Allah reward you for your effort and bless your work.

Shuaib Ally

Is My Stepmother’s Sister from My Unmarriageable Kin (Mahram)?

Answered by Ustadh Tabraze Azam

Question: Assalamu alaikum,

Is my stepmother’s sister from my unmarriageable kin (mahram)?

Answer: Wa alaikum assalam wa rahmatullah,

I pray that this message finds you well, insha’Allah.

No, your stepmother’s sister is not from your unmarriageable kin (mahram).

You should avoid direct contact with her, but do so in a tactful manner.

Please see also: Who is Mahram

And Allah alone gives success.

wassalam,

Tabraze Azam

Checked & Approved by Shaykh Faraz Rabbani

Should I Cover in Front of my Sister’s Husband?

Answered by Ustadh Salman Younas
Question: I have always considered my sister’s husband my non mahram and I have always covered in front of him. However my friends claim othewise.
I am very confused. What is the truth about this issue?
Answer: wa `alaykum assalam
Your sister’s husband is a non-mahram to you. Therefore, you are obliged to cover in front of him. I do not know of any difference of opinion on this issue amongst the scholars.
As for the line of reasoning being employed to state otherwise, it is not sound since the general definition of a ‘mahram’ is one with whom marriage is permanently unlawful.
For further details, please refer to: Who is Mahram
Salman
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Are the Uncles of my Husband Mahram to me and do I have to Cover in Front of my Stepfather?

Answered by Ustadh Tabraze Azam
Question: Asalaam Aleikum
Who is considered mahram to me under the Hanafi madhab as a married woman. I want to know if my husband’s father’s brothers are mahram to me. Also do I have to cover in front of my stepdad as well since my mother remarried about 10 yrs ago and they are in their late 60s?
Answer: Wa alaikum assalam wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh,
I pray that you are in the best of health and faith, insha’Allah.
A mahram is a person with whom marriage is permanently unlawful.
In general, this includes your sons and grandsons, fathers and grandfathers [including in-laws], father’s brothers, and your nephews. Your stepfather too is included here.
Please see: Who is Mahram
And Allah alone gives success.
wassalam,
Tabraze Azam
Checked & Approved by Faraz Rabbani

Must a Woman Cover in Front of Her Parents’ Cousins?

Answered by Ustadh Torab Torabi
Question: Does a Woman have to observe hijab in front of her mother’s and father’s cousins?
Answer: Walaikum Asalaam Wa Rahmatullah Wa Barakatuh.
A woman has to observe the Hijab in front of her mother’s and father’s cousins.
Please refer to this very informative and succinct answer by Mufti Muhammad ibn Adam.

Who is Mahram?

Also, please read this great reminder by Shaykh Faraz on modesty.
Attire Around Non-Mahrams
May Allah grant us modesty, both inwardly and outwardly.
Torab
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Is It Permissible to Walk Around Topless in Front of Unmarriageable Kin?

Question: I am a married woman living with my in-laws i.e. father-in-law, mother in-law and my husband’s sister. My husband says I can merely cover between my navel and knees in front of them because they are unmarriageable to me and there is no sign of lust or fitna. My husband also says that they can also touch those parts if needed as they are unlawful to marry and if there is no lust. Please tell me if this is correct or not.
Answer: Assalamu alaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh,
I pray that you are in the best of health and faith, insha’Allah.
The nakedness (`awra) of a woman in front of her unmarriageable kin (mahram) is from navel to knee, stomach and the back. [see: A Detailed Exposition of the Fiqh of Covering One’s Nakedness (awra)]
Note that the entire back is considered to be from the nakedness, not just the back of the stomach.
Uncovering the chest area would not be prohibited in and of itself, yet would be contrary to the dictates of modesty and what is befitting for a dignified Muslim woman. A sense of bashfulness and covering up are keys to taqwa. The Holy Prophet (Allah bless him and give him peace) said, “Modesty is from faith.”
See: Modesty in Islam – Shaykh Ibrahim Osi-Efa – Video and: IslamCast Daily Hadith – 018 – Modesty is From Faith
And Allah alone gives success.
wassalam,
Ustadh Tabraze Azam
Checked & Approved by Faraz Rabbani

Adoption and Creating a Mahram Relationship Through Nursing

Answered by Ustadha Shaista Maqbool

Question: Please shed some light on adoption and mahram.

My father was adopted and when he was 7yrs old, his mother (the who adopted him) conceived and gave my father some of her breast milk with a spoon.

Would that make my father her mahram? Also would that make our uncle our mahram?

Answer: Wa’alaikum assalaam warahmatu Allah,

I pray this finds you in the best states.

According to the Hanafi school, when a baby under 2 lunar years is fed any breastmilk then he/she becomes the milk son/daughter of the woman who fed him, and she thus becomes his milkmother, etc. After a child is two lunar years, it is not permitted to feed him breastmilk nor does it make the woman his milk mother.

Therefore, for your situation, no, your father’s adopted mother is not his mahram. Likewise, his “brother” from his adopted mother would not be your mahram either.

May Allah ta’ala bless your family.

wasalaam,
Shaista Maqbool

Checked & Approved by Faraz Rabbani

Developing a Mahram Relationship Through Nursing in Maliki Fiqh

Answered by Shaykh Rami Nsour

Question: Assalamualaikum wa Rahmatullah wa Barakatuhu

My father was adopted and when he was about 7 yrs old his mother (who adopted him) conceived and she gave my father some of her breast milk with a spoon.

Does this make him her mahram? Will that also mean my uncle is now my mahram?

JazakaaAllahu Khairan

Answer: According to the verse in the Quran in Sura Baqara (2:233), “Mothers shall nurse their children for two complete years.”  The years here refer to lunar years.  From this verse the scholars have deduced that two years is maximum time that nursing can cause the mahram (non-marriageable) relationship.

Some scholars, such as the Maliki scholars, have added two months to the two years. This is based on the principle that “proximity to something will incur the same ruling.”  Two months were deemed as being close enough to the limit to be given their ruling.
Beyond this, nursing will not cause a mahram relationship to occur.  Thus, your father will not be considered to be the mahram of the caretaker who gave him milk when he was seven years old.  Since the mahram relationship did not occur, your “uncle” who is the caretakers son, will not be your mahram.
As a note, the Maliki scholars do not require that milk reach the child directly from the mother’s breast.  If the milk was given through a bottle, syringe, spoon or the like, that will be sufficient. But again, this would have to be before the 2 year and 2 month limit.
And Allah knows best.
[Mukhtasar Khalil]