Marriage and Severed Ties of Kinship

Ustadha Raidah Shah Idil advises on mending relations with estranged parents and marrying with their blessing. Question: Assalam alaykum wa rahmat Allah wa barakatuh. My parents got divorced when I was 3 and I ended up with my father who raised me. I didn’t see my mother for almost 19 years, until I finally decided […]

How Do We Maintain Family Ties With Bloodthirsty Relatives?

Answered by Ustadha Raidah Shah Idil Question: I have an extremely difficult relationship with my sister. Not only has she argued with me via phone and social media,but she also flirted with my husband. I stopped talking to her. After that, she went around telling everyone that I called her an indecent woman. What should […]

Can I See My Non Muslim Family Without the Permission of My Husband?

Answered by Ustadha Raidah Shah Idil Question: I have entered Islam a few years ago, alhamdulillah, and have been married for 2 years. My husband doesn’t like my family because they aren’t Muslim despite the fact they are happy for me to practice my religion. My husband does not want me to see them often […]

What is the Minimum Amount of Relationship I Have to Keep with a Relative I Hate?

Answered by Ustadha Raidah Shah Idil Question: I have a cousin who has always provoked negative feelings in me whenever I found myself around her. The breaking point for me was when she questioned me loudly and openly on a personal matter in a room full of people. My natural response is to cut off […]

Worried About Sister’s Bad Influence on my Child

Answered by Ustadha Raidah Shah Idil Question: Assalamualaikum. My sister is currently living with me. She has adopted a lot of the Christian ways. She claims she is Muslim but she doesn’t practice it. I’m worried my forthcoming child will adopt her ways. Would it be best if I tell her to move out or […]

Should I Maintain Ties With Family Who Openly Sin or Shun Them?

Answered by  Ustadh Tariq Abdul-Rasheed Question: Assalamu alaikum, I have read and heard in many places that one should love everyone, be merciful with everyone, have good opinion of everyone, and deal in a good way with everyone. But on the other hand, I have also read in books to avoid bad company. In one […]

Should I Let My Daughter Spend Time With Her Non-Muslim Father?

Answered by Dr. Bano Murtaja Question: I am a woman who embraced Islam when my daughter was 4 yrs old. She is now 14yrs old and wants attention from her non-Muslim father. She lacks understanding of being a Muslim but accepts our decision and devotion for Islam. Should I allow her to spend time more […]

Obeying One’s Parents and Maintaining Ties of Kinship

Answered by Ustadh Tabraze Azam Question: My question is what if a mother is telling you to cut of ties with her as the daughter will not leave her husband on her say so. The daughter does by force sometimes go to see them but mother does not speak with her. Is the daughter at […]

Can We Break Family Ties With Siblings Who Treat Us Badly?

Answered by Ustadha Rukayat Yakub Question: Asalaamu alaikum, We come from a broken family that lacks agreement on anything.  Our brothers generally only notice the sisters when they want something from them.  But when the sisters need something – they make excuses to the sisters.  We try hard to be there in times of hardship […]

Maintaining Family Ties & Obeying Parents

Answered by Ustadh Faraz A. Khan Question: My sister was having relations with a non-Muslim boy. When told to stop because it was not allowed, she decided to leave Islam, go away from home with this boy, and have a restraining order placed against the parents. We’ve now discovered that she has been communicating with […]