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Marriage With a Minor.

Answered by Shaykh Abdurragmaan Khan Question: Assalam alaykum, An individual shared the following opinions with me (see below). I had been taught that the minimum conditions for intercourse were (i) menstruation, (ii) being 9 years of age, and (iii) having a valid marriage contract.Is it permissible for a pre-menstruating individual to engage in intercourse simply […]

Arranged Marriage Setting.

Answered by Shaykh Farid Dingle Question: Assalamu alaykum Muslims are expected to take the means to assess whether someone is suitable for marriage and in that limited interaction make what seems like the biggest commitment or contract in our life. In an arranged marriage setting, this usually means meeting the person 3 or 4 times, […]

Husband Asking About My Past.

Answered by Shaykh Farid Dingle Question: Assalamu alaykum I have recently gotten married to a wonderful man. The only thing that has been bothering me is that he asks me questions of my past. A few years ago I used to smoke marijuana to help with my depression. I have since quit and it’s not […]

I Want to Marry Someone but He Wants Me to Wait Three Years.

Answered by Ustadha Raidah Shah Idil Question: Assalam aleykum, In my first marriage, my husband treated me like a slave and so I got khula. I live with my parents now. I know someone very pious. A nice guy who prays 5 times a day and is also involved in Islamic activities. I always wondered […]

Can a Husband Prevent His Wife From Working?

Shaykh Farid Dingle responds to the question if husbands can prevent their wives from working.   Question: Assalaamu alaikum wa rahmatullah Does a husband having the final say over the rights of the home mean that he has the right to refuse his wife to work at any time during the marriage? Is it okay […]

25 Years’ Worth of Marriage Advice: Hina Khan-Mukhtar

In celebration of her jubilee anniversary, Hina Khan-Mukhtar shares some marriage advice gathered over the years. Have you ever set foot inside a couple’s home and immediately felt a sense of sakinah, or peace, wash over you? Whether it was a modestly-furnished apartment in a neighborhood where people struggle to make ends meet or a […]

Being a Daughter, a Woman, and Living This Life

Ustadha Raidah Shah Idil counsels on the role and duty of daughter toward parents, being a woman, feeling isolated overwhelmed by expectations.   Question: Assalam alaykum wa rahmat Allah wa barakatuh. I am tired. I don’t feel like I understand my purpose anymore. Especially when I see so many of my sisters in Islam living […]

Marriage and Severed Ties of Kinship

Ustadha Raidah Shah Idil advises on mending relations with estranged parents and marrying with their blessing.   Question: Assalam alaykum wa rahmat Allah wa barakatuh. My parents got divorced when I was 3 and I ended up with my father who raised me. I didn’t see my mother for almost 19 years, until I finally […]

Unfaithful Husband Working Overseas

Ustadh Farid Dingle untangles the difficulties a wife faces when her husband who works overseas decides to marry a second wife but wishes to divorce his first on no grounds. Question: Assalam alaykum wa rahmat Allah wa barakatuh. I am married for six years. I have two kids. My son is five years old and […]

Husband in Conflict with In-Laws

Ustadh Farid Dingle gives advice on how to heal relations between a husband and his in-laws, improve communication, and how the Fatiha is an excellent dua. Question: Assalam alaykum wa rahmat Allah wa barakatuh. I have been married for 7 yrs. Masha Allah everything has been fine but suddenly my husband’s behavior towards my family […]