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Marrying a Practicing Non-Hijabi

Ustada Raidah Shah Idil is asked if marrying a practicing sister who does not wear hijab is permissible. Question: Assalam alaykum wa rahmat Allah wa barakatuh. Where I come from, there are many Muslims that practice Islam without their parents’ consent. I belong to such a family, but alhamduliLlah things have changed a lot for […]

Muslim Woman to Marry Christian Man

Ustadha Raidah Shah Idil makes it clear that a Muslim woman cannot marry a Christian man. If a Muslim woman wants to marry a Christian man on the condition that he will allow their children to be practicing Muslims, and their life and all matters will be handled as per Islamic teaching, then is there […]

Feeling Discouraged about Marriage

Ustadha Raidah Shah Idil answers concerns about not feeling acceptable as a potential spouse. I am an American college student trying to finish half my din. I have maintained haya all my life and avoided speaking unnecessarily with men, so I asked my parents to help me search. Unfortunately I’ve been met with rejection before […]

Reading Romance–Erotica with One’s Spouse

Shaykh Abdurragmaan Khan gives the ruling on reading romance–erotica with one’s spouse. Is it halal or makruh to read romance or erotic stories with one’s wife? Thank you. Thank you for your question. The reading of romantic or erotic novels essentially leads one to draw images of romance or sexual relations to mind. If, when […]

A Dua to Make Someone My Spouse

Ustadha Raidah Shah Idil is asked whether there are specific dua one can recite that makes the desired person become one’s spouse. Question: Assalam alaykum wa rahmat Allah wa barakatuh. I am interested in marrying my friend, but the problem is that he does not want to get married right now. He likes me, but […]

Contemplating Suicide Because No One Will Marry Me

Ustadha Raidah Shah Idil answers a question on how to deal with suicidal thoughts and feeling despair about not being able to find a marriage partner. Question: Assalam alaykum wa rahmat Allah wa barakatuh. I pray five times a day but feel like my life is coming to an end. Allah has not given me […]

Is It Valid to Marry in Secret?

Ustadh Salman Younas answers a question about the validity and rightness of wanting to marry someone without the parents’ knowledge and consent. Question: Assalam alaykum wa rahmat Allah wa barakatuh. I love someone and I want that relationship becomes halal. Right now I want to marry her without telling anyone just to make it halal, […]

Father-in-Law Kissed Daughter-in-Law

Ustadh Salman Younas gives general advice on a case of a father-in-law kissing the daughter-in-law by mistake and how one should act in such cases. Question: Assalam alaykum wa rahmat Allah wa barakatuh. A case has arisen in our town that a father in law suddenly and unexpectedly kissed his daughter in law. This all […]

Will Allah Be Displeased With Me?

Ustadha Raidah Shah Idil advises a sister whose husband is addicted to porn on how she best can tackle this sensitive issue. Question: Assalam alaykum wa rahmat Allah wa barakatuh. I have been married for 21 years. My husband has been addicted to porn since before we got married. I did not know this until […]

Must I Marry My Cousin?

Ustadha Raidah Shah Idil is asked about being urged to marry a cousin when one is interested in someone outside the family. Question: Assalam alaykum wa rahmat Allah wa barakatuh. I really like a girl from outside my family and I believe that she will be a good partner for me. My family wants me […]