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Which Days Are Recommended for One to Move into a New House?

Answered by Shaykh Farid Dingle

Question: Assalamu alaykum

Which days are recommended in Islam for one to move into a new house?

Answer: Wa alaykum assalam wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh,

After quite some searching, I am personally not aware of any hadith or principle that would suggest that any day is better for moving house than any other. That said, the most mubarak (blessed) time of one’s life is the day or moment in which one genuinely decides to repent to Allah from one’s sins and lack of total slavehood to Him. In light of this, my advise would be to choose a day that practically works out well, make wudu and pray two rakas with the intention of seeking forgiveness from Allah and making a new start in one’s life. ‘Ask forgiveness of your Lord. Indeed, He is ever a Perpetual Forgiver; He will send [rain from] the sky upon you in [continuing] showers; And give you increase in wealth and children and provide for you gardens and provide for you rivers.’ [71:10-12]

It would also be advised to have a good look at the following link containing supplications to make upon moving to a new home.

And Allah knows best.

Wassalam,
[Shaykh] Farid Dingle

Shaykh Farid Dingle grew up in a convert family in Herefordshire, UK. In 2007, he moved to Jordan to pursue traditional studies. Shaykh Farid continues to live in Amman, Jordan with his wife and kids. In addition to continuing his studies he teaches Arabic and several of the Islamic sciences.

Shaykh Farid began his journey in sacred knowledge with intensives in the UK and Jordan (2004) in Shafi’i fiqh and Arabic. After years of studying Arabic grammar, Shafi’i fiqh, hadith, legal methodology (usul al-fiqh) and tafsir, Sh. Farid began specializing in Arabic language and literature. Sh. Farid studied Pre-Islamic poetry, Umayyad, Abbasid, Fatimid, and Andalusian literature. He holds a BA in Arabic Language and Literature and continues exploring the language of the Islamic tradition.

In addition to his interest in the Arabic language Shaykh Farid actively researches matters related to jurisprudence (fiqh) which he studied with Shaykh Hamza Karamali, Shaykh Ahmad Hasanat, and continues with Shaykh Amjad Rasheed.

Would Scratching or Stretching My Hand Invalidate My Prayer?

Answered by Shaykh Faraz Rabbani

Question: Assalam alaykum

Would scratching or stretching my hand invalidate my prayer?

Would pulling up my trousers using two hands invalidate my prayer?

Answer: Wa alaykum assalam,

I hope you’re doing well, insha’Allah.

In the Hanafi school, excessive movement invalidates prayer. Excessive movement is defined as movement that an onlooker would clearly consider the person not to be praying. [Ala’ al-Din Abidin, al-Hadiyya al-Ala’iyya; Shurunbulali, Maraqi al-Falah]

Slight, unnecessary movement is somewhat disliked, but doesn’t invalidate the prayer.

Wassalam,
[Shaykh] Faraz Rabbani

Shaykh Faraz Rabbani is a scholar and researcher of Islamic law and translator of several Arabic works to the English language. After ten years overseas, Shaykh Faraz returned to Canada in the Summer of 2007. In May 2008 he founded SeekersGuidance to deal with the urgent need to spread Islamic knowledge—both online and on the ground—in a reliable, relevant, inspiring, and accessible manner.

My Wife Does Not Want to Move in With My Elderly Mother and Disabled Brother. What Do I Do?

Answered by Ustadha Raidah Shah Idil

Question: My elderly mother lives alone at home. I am her youngest child, and I live with my wife and children in our own home. I would like to move back in with my mother but my wife is does not want to because of the neighbourhood and my brothers are often present at my mother’s house.

I feel if I say to my wife, “I want to move in and you have to come with me,” it will cause issues among us. What can I do?

Answer: Assalam alaykum wa rahmatuLlahi wa barakatuh,

I pray this finds you well. May Allah reward you for seeking out an answer to this dilemma.

Balance

This is a very challenging situation. On one hand, you want to keep your mother company in her old age, and bring happiness to her heart. On the other hand, your wife does not want to give up her right to private quarters.

I encourage you to perform the Prayer of Guidance up til 7 times about moving in with your mother. Watch how events unfold to help you ascertain the best way to move forward.

Logistics

Asking your wife to move in with her elderly mother-in-law and disabled brother-in-law is asking her to go above and beyond the call of duty. Please acknowledge that and express that to your wife. Explain that you know that this situation is not ideal, but you’d like to figure out a compromise. Don’t make the mistake of demanding this from her. See her perspective, and do your best to win her over. Please perform the Prayer of Need every day, especially in the last third of the night, and beseech Allah for help.

It is common for marriages to fall apart because of the stress of living with in-laws. Please seek protection from that. On the other hand, living with your mother is an excellent way of being of service to her in her old age. insha Allah your wife will be able to be on board and secure her place in Jannah through her sacrifice.

Repentance

The Messenger of Allah (upon him be blessings and peace) said: “Whoever persists in asking for forgiveness, Allah will grant him relief from every worry, and a way out from every hardship, and will grant him provision from (sources) he could never imagine.” [Ibn Majah]

Make constant istighfar every day and trust Allah will make a way out for you.

Alternatives

What are some alternatives you can both come up with? An option is for all of you to spend the weekends at your mother’s home, and weekdays in your own home. At least this way, she gets some company. Perhaps start with this first, and see how it goes.

Another option is for you to make the effort to spend more time with your mother during the week. Try to see if you can have dinner with her at least on Mondays and Wednesdays.

Based on your wife’s concerns, would your mother be willing to sell her home and move to a different neighborhood? I know that is probably unlikely. Most elderly people do not fare well with big life changes, so it would be more realistic for your wife to accept that nosy neighbors are part of life, and a means of refining her character.

Moving in

If there is no other option other than moving in, then I encourage you to please refer to this website, Contented In-Laws, for some excellent tips. This rule is especially useful—Rule #8 Try to Buy a House with a Living Room and Bathroom for Each Party.

Even though your mother and your wife have a good relationship right now, it is extremely challenging for both of them to share the same living space, every single day. Allah knows this about His creation, hence the wisdom behind the ruling of a wife’s rights to her own separate quarters. However, for many families around the world, moving in is the only option. This is why having a separate kitchen, living room, bedroom and bathroom makes a world of a difference.

If you do move in with you mother, then ensure that you set firm boundaries with your brothers when they come to visit.

Balance

I cannot state this enough: please do your best to strike a healthy balance between your mother and your wife. You may be torn with feelings of guilt because you are not living with your mother, and you may also be feeling frustrated with your wife. Both of them have valid perspectives, and your role is to give both their due, to the best of your ability. You will juggle this role for as long as you, your mother, and your wife are alive. I pray that Allah grants you the wisdom and compassion to fulfill this role, and reward you immensely for your struggles.

When registration reopens, I strongly encourage you to do The Rights of Parents course and the Islamic Marriage: Guidance for Successful Marriage and Married Life course. In the meantime, you can download the free lesson sets on Getting Married.

Please learn what the rights of your mother and your wife are, in order to help you fulfill them. Don’t rely on cultural norms or expectations—rely on what Allah demands of you.

Please see:

What Are Some Prophetic Supplications That Can Help Me Deal With Trials in My Life?
A Reader on Patience and Reliance on Allah

Wassalam,
[Ustadha] Raidah Shah Idil

Checked and Approved by Shaykh Faraz Rabbani

Ustadha Raidah Shah Idil has spent almost two years in Amman, Jordan, where she learned Shafi‘i fiqh, Arabic, Sirah, Aqidah, Tasawwuf, Tafsir and Tajwid. She continues to study with her Teachers through Qibla Academy and SeekersHub Global. She also graduated with a Psychology and English degree from University of New South Wales.

What Are the Rulings Related to Fidgeting in Prayer?

Answered by Ustadh Tabraze Azam

Question: As salam alaykum,

What are the rulings related to moving (fidgeting) in prayer?

For example, are slight tremors a problem?

Also, at what points in prayer is tranquillity required and what is the level of the requirement?

Answer: Assalamu alaikum wa rahmatullah,

I pray that this message finds you well, insha’Allah.

The basis is that it is prohibitively disliked (makruh tahriman) to fidget (`abath) during the prayer. This isn’t conditioned by being in a particular state of the prayer— whether bowing, prostration or standing.

Further, it is necessary (wajib) to remain motionless for a moment during the obligatory acts of the prayer due to the tradition (hadith) on the matter in which the Prophet (Allah bless him and give him peace) said, “Go and back and pray. You have not prayed.” [Bukhari]

What is Fidgeting and What is Excessive Movement?

Fidgeting is defined as repeated, unnecessary [slight] movements during the prayer. Essentially, it is unnecessarily doing that which is not from the prayer.

If such movement becomes excessive, it would actually invalidate the prayer. Excessive movement being that by which an onlooker, seeing you performing such an action, would not deem you to be in a state of prayer.

Stillness and Focus

The prayer is supposed to be some moments of intimate discourse with the Divine. As such, we strive to remain still to the extent possible, avoiding actions foreign to the prayer, because this is the sign of being humbly worshipful (khushu`) which is the basis for a transformative prayer. The general principle is that a busied mind is a busied heart.

[Shurunbulali, Maraqi al-Falah, with Tahtawi’s gloss]

Please also see: Is Prayer Valid Behind Someone Who Doesn’t Remain Still? and: Is My Prayer Valid if I Move a Child in Front of Me?

And Allah Most High knows best.

wassalam,

Tabraze Azam

Checked & Approved by Shaykh Faraz Rabbani

Is It Impermissible to Move Back and Forth While Reciting Qur’an?

Answered by Ustadh Tabraze Azam

Question: Assalamalaikum,

I was visiting Saudi Arabia once and an arab lady over there told me that we should not move back and forth while reciting Quran because it imitates the jews, and she told me some hadith related to this.
Is it impermissible for us to move back and forth while reciting Quran or doing zikr or tasbih?

Answer: Wa alaikum assalam wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh,

I pray that you are in the best of health and faith, insha’Allah.

No, it is not impermissible nor sinful to move, rock, or sway whilst reciting the Qur’an or doing any other form of remembrance (dhikr).

The Proof for Permissibility of Movement during Remembrance (dhikr)

Anas (May Allah be pleased with him) reported that the Messenger of Allah (Allah bless him and give him peace) said, “Once, the Abyssinians were dancing in front of the Messenger of Allah (Allah bless him and give him peace), saying in their language: ‘Muhammad is a righteous servant.’ He (Allah bless him and give him peace) asked: ‘What are they saying?’ It was said: ‘[They are saying]: ‘Muhammad is a righteous servant.’’”

Shaykh Shu`ayb al-Arna’ut noted that its chain of transmission is rigorously authentic (sahih).

Shaykh `Abd al-Qadir `Isa writes in his Haqa’iq `an al-Tasawwuf, “When he saw them in that state, he did not censure them. Rather, he approved of their act. It is known that rulings in the Sacred Law are taken from his (Allah bless him and give him peace) statements, actions, and tacit approvals. Since he approved of their action and did not censure them, it is clear that it is permissible.” [`Isa, Haqa’iq `an al-Tasawwuf]

He continues, “This hadith contains evidence that it is permissible to gather between permissible movement and exaltation of the Messenger of Allah (Allah bless him and give him peace). It also proves that movement during remembrance is not described as forbidden dance, rather it is permissible because it energises the body for remembrance and assists one in having presence of heart with Allah- if one’s intention is sound.” [ibid.]

The Swaying & Movement of the Companions (sahaba)

Our Master Ali (may Allah ennoble his face) reported regarding the Companions (sahaba), “If Allah was mentioned they swayed the way trees sway on a windy day…” [Abu Nu`aym, al-Hilya]

This report was used as evidence by Shaykh `Abd al-Ghani al-Nablusi in one of his treatises on the permissibility of movement during remembrance.

Sheikh Nuh Keller translates a lengthier passage from Imam Suyuti’s al-Hawi li al-Fatawi in which he mentions the incident of Imam Ja`far, “…and the hadith exists [in many sources, such as Musnad al-Imam Ahmad, 1.108, with a sound (hasan) chain of transmission] that Ja‘far ibn Abi Talib danced in front of the Prophet (Allah bless him and give him peace) when the Prophet told him, “You resemble me in looks and in character,” dancing from the happiness he felt from being thus addressed, and the Prophet did not condemn him for doing so, this being a basis for the legal acceptability of the Sufis dancing from the joys of the ecstasies they experience.” [Keller, Sea without Shore]

Imitation of the Non-Muslims

Impermissible imitation is when a person does something that is (a) a distinguishing sign of disbelief or corruption, such as wearing a cross, or (b) out of simply copying non-Muslims and wanting to be ‘like them’.

Hence, mere movements in and of themselves, whilst remembering Allah— Qur’an or otherwise— are not impermissible.

Allah Most High says, “[those] who remember God standing, sitting, and lying down…” [3.191]

The master exegete Abu al-Su`ud Effendi comments here, “the specification of these states is not exclusionary; rather, it is due to their being the states that a person is normally found in.” [Abu al-Su`ud , Irshad al-`Aql al-Salim]

This is why Shaykh `Abd al-Qadir `Isa concludes his section on remembrance by saying, “Whoever remembers Allah, while sitting or standing, resting or walking, or moving or staying still, is carrying out that which is sought from him and is complying with the Divine command.”

See also: Is Group Dhikr With Swaying Permissible?

And Allah alone gives success.
wassalam,

Tabraze Azam

Checked & Approved by Shaykh Faraz Rabbani