Posts

My Wife Is Unable to Have Marital Intimacy. I Want to Marry Again. What Do I Do?

Answered by Ustadha Raidah Shah Idil Question: Assalam aleykum, I love my wife, but she is unable to have marital intimacy with me. My desire for marital intimacy is greater than my wife’s. I have tried communicating that to my wife. But recently, she has health issues. Because of this, I want to marry again, […]

Can I Be the Second Wife to an Already Married Man With Children?

Answered by Ustadha Raidah Shah Idil Question: Assalam aleykum, I was in a sinful relationship with a young man. My father found out and told us to end this relationship. I obeyed him, and now my father wants me to get married. I couldn’t stop thinking about the young man, so I got back in […]

I Am Jealous of My Husband’s Other Wife. What Do I Do?

Answered by Ustadha Raidah Shah Idil Question: Assalam aleykum, I am the wife of someone who is married to several women. His other wife does not know about our marriage. I am struggling with issues of jealousy. I am jealous of the physical side that he shares with his first wife. How do I deal […]

Why Are Women Not Permitted to Marry More Than One Husband in Islam?

Answered by Ustadha Raidah Shah Idil Question: Assalam aleykum, I know a lot of Muslim sisters, myself included, who are very confused about the reason why men are allowed to have four wives. Is it because they have such an uncontrollable lust for women? I am confused because many women, myself included, lust for men […]

I Married a Man Whose First Wife Does Not Approve. Do I Divorce Him?

Answered by Ustadha Raidah Shah Idil Question: Assalam aleykum, I met a man, he told me that he is married but nevertheless he proposed to me. I accepted. Since we got married, I have been very unhappy.My husband’s first wife doesn’t accept our marriage and requires him to divorce me. My husband is very kind […]

Can I Marry Someone Who Doesn’t Wear the Hijab as a Second Wife?

Answered by Ustadh Salman Younas Question: Assalam aleykum Can a man marry a non-hijabi woman as a second wife because his first wife refuses to take off her hijab? Is it a valid reason to fulfill a sunnah? Secondly, if he has already married her, will he be a sinner if he divorces his second […]

My Mother Wants Me to Divorce My Husband. What Should I Do?

Answered by Ustadha Raidah Shah Idil Question: Assalam aleykum, I am the second wife of someone and married him without the approval of my parents. My mother wants me to divorce. I am old and I had no other proposals. What should I do? Answer: Assalamualaykum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh dear sister, I pray this […]

My Wife Will Divorce Me If I Take a Second Wife. What Should I Do?

Answered by Ustadha Raidah Shah Idil Question: Assalam aleykum, My friends got married overseas with the blessings of the bride’s family, but not the groom’s family who was not informed. Now they have a small child, but his family has arranged a marriage to his relative in Pakistan. My friend’s wife said she will divorce […]

My Parents Refuse My Choice of Spouse Because He Is Married. What Do I Do?

Answered by Ustadha Raidah Shah Idil Question: Assalam aleykum, I want to marry a married man with 3 children, and have been trying for 4 years to persuade my family to give me their blessings. They refuse to because they say it is dangerous to marry a man who is already married. I don’t want […]

Can I Accept the Proposal of a Married Man?

Answered by Ustadha Raidah Shah Idil Question: Assalam aleykum, A man wants to marry me and keep it a secret from his first wife. He already married the woman of his mother’s choosing, and she lives with his mother back in his home country. I’m in bad financial straits and really need to get married […]