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How Do I Calm My Worries?

Answered by Shaykh Jamir Meah

Question: Are there any specific duas or Surahs I can recite to help me with my constant state of anxiousness, depression and paranoia that I have been feeling due to a multitude of heavy things and it’s been weighing me down.I just need a way of easing my difficulties.

Answer: Assalam ‘alaykum. Jazakum Allah khayr for writing into us.

If life gets overwhelming and we find ourselves always worried, then it’s a good time to take stock of what is happening in our lives, looking to see whether things could be done better, and most importantly, assessing where our relationship with Allah is.

Reading the Signs

Everything in life has a language and it takes patient observation and reflection to understand the language of each thing or event. When the physical body starts to become run down and needs a break, it shows signs of fatigue in order that the person may stop and take a break so the body can recover. If it is ignored, the body keeps throwing up other signs, such as ailments, in order to be heard.

Similarly, the mind and the soul throw up symptoms of distress when something is amiss and needs fulfilling. When one has constant stress, anxiety, anguish, or a feeling of emptiness, it is because the mind/soul is yearning for something that it needs. Sometimes the need is to simplify or prioritise one’s lifestyle choices, or one needs fulfilling intellectually, or one needs to connect spiritually, or perhaps all of these. It is because of these feelings that we so often turn to temporary ‘worldly’ solutions, such as food, wealth, entertainment etc. to fill the void.

Relationship with Allah

Of course, there is nothing more important than assessing one’s relationship with Allah Most High, as He is the One who has control of our affairs and the only One to change them.

Ensure the following:

1. That you are fulfilling your duties to Allah, particularly your daily prayers.

2. That you are avoiding sins in private and in public.

3. You have a daily reading of Quran each day, ideally with a translation if it is needed.

If possible, try to:

1. Wake up for Tahajjud, even for 10 minutes, pray two cycles of prayer and supplicate to Allah to lighten your burdens and ease your heart.

2. Depending on the causes of your conditions, seek out beginner courses on Islamic studies such as ‘aqidah, fiqh, seerah, and tafsir. It important to learn the religion properly, as knowledge shapes one thoughts and make one’s heart firm in one’s belief in Allah and the knowledge that he is the sole Doer of everything that happens to us.

Supplications

Recite the following supplications after each prayer and at Tahajjud time:


اللّهُـمَّ رَحْمَتَـكَ أَرْجـوفَلا تَكِلـني إِلى نَفْـسي طَـرْفَةَ عَـيْن، وَأَصْلِـحْ لي شَأْنـي كُلَّـه لَا إِلَهَ إِلَّا أنْـت
O Allah, I hope for Your mercy. Do not leave me to myself even for the blink of an eye. Correct all of my affairs for me. There is none worthy of worship but You.
[Abu Dawud]

اللَّهُمَّ إِنِّي أَعُوذُ بِكَ مِنْ الْهَمِّ وَالْحُزْنِ وَالْعَجْزِ وَالْكَسَلِ وَالْبُخْلِ وَالْجُبْنِ وَضَلَعِ الدَّيْنِ وَغَلَبَةِ الرِّجَالِ

O Allah, I take refuge in You from anxiety and sorrow, weakness and laziness, miserliness and cowardice, the burden of debts and from being overpowered by men. [al Bukhari]

اللَّهُمَّ لَا سَهْلَ إِلَّا مَا جَعَلْتَهُ سَهْلًا ، وَأَنْتَ تَجْعَلُ الْحَزْنَ إِذَا شِئْتَ سَهْلًا
O Allah, there is no ease except in that which You have made easy, and You make the difficulty, if You wish, easy
[Ibn Hibban]

It is reported that Asma’ bint ‘Umays (may Allah be pleased with her) said, ‘The Messenger of Allah ﷺ said to me, “Shall I not teach you some words to say when you feel distressed?
اللهُ اللهُ رَبِّ لا أُشْـرِكُ بِهِ شَيْـئاً
Allah, Allah, my Lord, I do not associate anything with Him
[Abu Dawud]

Action

There are many ways to go about relieving anxiety and stress. I will try to mention the most useful:

Expressing your thoughts:
First, it would be helpful to sit down and get all the thoughts and anxieties expressed outwardly. This is the first step in clarifying what is wrong. Expressing the concerns outwardly distances one from their own thoughts so it is possible to get some perspective on the issues. It also allows one to trace more clearly what is going wrong and what can be done, and to make positive and constructive changes.

One can do this by first writing down all the things that is on one’s mind, in no particular order. Then categorise them into groups e.g. family, work, relationships, personal etc. Then go through each one and try to identify what it is that causes the worry about that particular thing.

Next to it, write down all the possible solutions within your control, including what could be done to simplify the issue. For things out of your control make a separate list and next to these, write down any ideas of people who you can consult regarding the issue for advice, such as parents, close friend, local scholar, or even a therapist.

Once you have done this with all the issues, try to put each in action one by one. Of course it may not be possible to resolve all issues so simply, and the anxieties and paranoia won’t disappear just like that. but it’s a good start and having it all written out means you can refer to it when you feel overwhelmed and remind yourself of the solutions.

Therapies: If the above does not work, it may be useful to seek treatment for a while, as this will again be way to express your thoughts outwardly, and perhaps gain some perspective. Constitutional homeopathy or other holistic therapies should also be very useful, particularly if you suffer from depression and paranoia and natural, valium medication is needed.

Included in therapy is ensuring you are getting adequate exercise and nutrition. You may want to try simple meditation or relaxation techniques (see below for book reference).

Please also seek out the company of good friends, and not spend too much time alone. Joining hobby clubs and other team activity groups may be a good idea, if possible.

Book References

I highly recommend the following books which should help with both understanding anxiety and depression as well as give many practical advice:

1. How to Stop Worrying and Start Living, by Dale Carnegie
2. The Complete System of Self-Healing – Internal Exercises, by Dr. Stephen T, Chang

Insha’Allah these two resources will provide ample use to you. May Allah grant you the very best of states and tranquillity of mind and heart.

Warmest salams,

[Shaykh] Jamir Meah

Checked & Approved by Shaykh Faraz Rabbani

Shaykh Jamir Meah grew up in Hampstead, London. In 2007, he traveled to Tarim, Yemen, where he spent nine years studying the Islamic sciences on a one-to-one basis under the foremost scholars of the Ribaat, Tarim, with a main specialization and focus on Shafi’i fiqh. In early 2016, he moved to Amman, Jordan, where he continues advanced studies in a range of Islamic sciences, as well as teaching. Jamir is a qualified homeopath.

Read this Wird Every Day for Protection, Insha’Allah

Shaykh Haisam Farache recently posted about this wird this on his Facebook page

Habib Kadhim (hafizahullah) during his recent visit to Australia, advised us to maintain the recitation of Wird Al-Habib Abu Bakr bin Abdur Rahman as-Sakran for ourselves and especially our children because we are in the End Times (a point he continually stressed during his visit) and the devils are not hiding anymore, they have become emboldened.

He also mentioned that in the Ahadith it has been related that they will emerge from the oceans and recite the Qur’an back at us mockingly.
A man will enter a Masjid and give an amazing lecture. The people will ask each other who that man was after he disappears without a trace, not knowing it was a shaytan disguised as a man, tricking them. The devils have a hatred for humans, especially those who love and worship God. They have envy towards them so be careful of their Evil Eye.
Maintain your adhkar for protection.
Please share widely.
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Invocations and Supplications: A Comprehensive SeekersGuidance Reader

Invocations and supplications form the ninth chapter of Imam Al-Ghazali’s seminal work, the Ihya, which is widely regarded as the greatest work on Islamic spirituality in the world.

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Can I Make up Supplications and Can I Raise My Hands in Prayer?

Answered by Shaykh Jamir Meah

Question: Assalamu alaykum

As a Hanafi can I make supplications in prayer which are not found in Hadiths and can I raise my haise in prayer in order to follow the sunna of other schools?

Answer: Wa’alaikum assalam.

I hope this finds you in the best of states. Jazakum Allah khayr for your question. May Allah increase you in your striving to be diligent in the religion.

Supplicating in a language other than Arabic during the Prayer

One can make any du’a whether it is from Qu’ran or Sunna or not, though it is best to say those that are found in these two sources. There are two conditions to this,

1. The du’a must be in Arabic

2. The du’a, even in Arabic, must be of a nature which is not normally possible to ask other humans for.

For more details and examples on this, please refer to this Hanafi answer here.

Raising one’s Hands during a Hanafi prayer with the intention to practice the sunnah from the other madhab

It would be advisable to not mix various acts of prayer from different schools, as each school has its valid proofs and arguments for what constitutes as sunna acts or not. In regards the raising of the hands when one goes into and returns from ruku, while it is a sunna in the Shafi’i school, it is disliked (makrouh) in the Hanafi school, though does not nullify the prayer [Maraqi al Falah]. As such there is a contradiction in raising the hands as a Hanafi.

May Allah grant you tawfiq and every good.

Warmest salams,
[Shaykh] Jamir Meah

Shaykh Jamir Meah grew up in Hampstead, London. In 2007, he traveled to Tarim, Yemen, where he spent nine years studying the Islamic sciences on a one-to-one basis under the foremost scholars of the Ribaat, Tarim, with a main specialization and focus on Shafi’i fiqh. In early 2016, he moved to Amman, Jordan, where he continues advanced studies in a range of Islamic sciences, as well as teaching. Jamir is a qualified homeopath.

What is the Point in Supplicating?

Answered by SeekersHub Answers Service

Question: Assalam walaikum,

What is the point in supplications if everything is decreed by Allah in advance? 

Answer: Assalam aleykum,

Firstly, supplications can change relative destiny (al-qadar al-mu`allaq) in a manner that is of great benefit to the oppressed, as well as the entire Muslim community. [see:Can Supplication Change Destiny?]

Secondly, it is established from the Holy Prophet (Allah bless him and give him peace) that he prayed for the believers, specifically when distressful events occurred; an example being the occasion of the martyrdom of tens of reciters (qurra’) of the Qur’an in which he prayed against the killers for a month.

Thirdly, it is also an opportunity to increase in gratitude (shukr) for the blessings that one enjoys, and a reminder of the temporal and fleeting nature of this life.

Please see: What’s the Point in Supplicating?

And Allah alone gives success.

wassalam,

SeekersHub Answers Service

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When Can I Say: “O Allah, You Are Pardoning and You Love Pardon, so Pardon Me.”?

Answered by Ustadh Tabraze Azam

Question: Assalam alaykum,

Is the supplication below only a Ramadan supplication or can it be said at any time?

“Allahumma innaka ‘afuwwun tuhibbul ‘afwa fa a‘fu anni” (O Allah, You are Pardoning and you love pardon, so pardon me.)

Answer: Wa alaykum assalam wa rahmatuLlah,

No, this supplication is not specific to Ramadan and it can be made at any time, as is the basis for all supplication, whether transmitted otherwise. Imam Tahtawi, for instance, states that this is of the best of supplications a person can make on the night of the 15th Sha‘ban.

However, the reason for its particular recital in the month of Ramadan is due to the tradition (hadith) related from the Messenger of Allah (Allah bless him and give him peace) in which he specifically encouraged it for the Night of Power (laylat al-qadr).

Lady ‘A’isha (Allah Most High be well-pleased with her) said, “I said, ‘Messenger of Allah, if I know what night the Night of Power is, what do you think I should say during it?’ He (Allah bless him and give him peace) said, ‘Say: “O Allah, You are Pardoning and you love pardon, so pardon me. (Allahumma innaka ‘afuwwun tuhibbul ‘afwa fa a‘fu ‘anni)”’” [Tirmidhi; Ibn Majah; Nasa’i]

Please also see: The Last Ten Nights of Ramadan and: Worship & Prayer on Laylat al-Qadr

And Allah Most High alone knows best.

اللهم إنّكَ  عَفُوٌ، تُحِبُّ العَفْوَ، فاعْفُ عنّي

Wassalam,
[Ustadh] Tabraze Azam

Checked and approved by Shaykh Faraz Rabbani

Ustadh Tabraze Azam was born and raised in Ipswich, England, a quiet town close to the east coast of England. His journey for seeking sacred knowledge began when he privately memorized the entire Qur’an in his hometown at the age of 16. He also had his first experience in leading the tarawih (nightly-Ramadan) prayers at his local mosque. Year after year he would continue this unique return to reciting the entire Quran in one blessed month both in his homeland, the UK, and also in the blessed lands of Shaam, where he now lives, studies and teaches.

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