My Dawn Prayer Entered Into the Sunrise

Question: If Fajr ends at 7:45 a.m, and I begin praying at 7:43 and finish at 7:45, is my prayer valid?

Answer: Yes, your dawn (fajr) prayer is considered valid as for the current performance, according to the Shafi`i school, although you incurred the sin (haram) of praying it partially during sunrise.

If less than one rak’a of one’s prayer occurs within the proper time (A: meaning that one does not lift one’s head from the second prostration of the rak’a before the time ends) and the remainder takes place after it, then the whole prayer is considered a make-up. If one rak’a or more takes place within the prayer’s time and the remainder is after it, then the prayer is considered a current performance, though it is unlawful to intentionally delay the prayer until part of it occurs after the time is finished. [The Reliance of the Traveller, f2.3]

As for the Hanafi school, this answer indicates that your fajr prayer was invalid and has to be made up. Fajr Prayer and Sunrise

I recommend this du’a to you from the Qur`an,

Lord, grant that I and my offspring may keep up the prayer. Our Lord, accept my request. [Qur`an, 14:40]

[Ustadha] Shazia Ahmad

Checked and Approved by Shaykh Faraz Rabbani

Ustadha Shazia Ahmad lived in Damascus, Syria for two years where she studied aqidah, fiqh, tajweed, tafseer, and Arabic. She then attended the University of Texas at Austin, where she completed her Masters in Arabic. Afterward, she moved to Amman, Jordan where she studied fiqh, Arabic, and other sciences. She recently moved back to Mississauga, Canada, where she lives with her family.

Is Mastopexy Permissible?

Question: I’m 21 years old and my breasts sag and I think it’s because of my natural weight loss or not wearing the proper undergarment. They are a huge source of insecurity for me and they contribute to my lack of self-confidence and psychological distress for me. I’m not married yet but I worry that my future husband won’t find them to be attractive. I don’t want to add any implants, I only want to lift them and give them a natural look. Will it be permissible to get a mastopexy?

Answer:

Assalamu alaykum,

Thank you for your question. Please understand that your desire to lift your breasts and seeing yourself as imperfect only stems from the media and the onslaught of images of dolled-up teenagers who fit a certain size. The media is poisonous, damaging, unrealistic, dishonest, and senseless. Don’t trust it for a minute, let along try to mimic it.

You are already perfect

Please know that as a young woman, you are beautiful and you are exactly as Allah wanted you to be as He is the best of Creators. He makes no mistakes and you should draw strength and comfort in that. Trust Him and know that he gave you this body with a perfect plan and wisdom.

Enhance your inner self

Instead of telling you to get surgery, I will tell you to educate yourself, change the way you carry yourself, love yourself, and ask how you can help and serve others. The most powerful women that I have met in my life are educated, knowledgeable, kind, generous and humble. Their effects on others were far-reaching and they hardly spent time looking in the mirror.

Prepare for marriage in the right way

Focus on your inner qualities instead of anything else because if you give in to this weakness, it will only be followed by another. I guarantee you that your husband will find you attractive. Use your time now to prepare for marriage and refine your character and skills before moving onto the new phase of your life. I pray that Allah gives you success and happiness and utter devotion to Him above all else.

Please see the links below:

https://seekersguidance.org/courses/marriage-in-islam-practical-guidance-for-successful-marriage/
https://seekersguidance.org/answers/hanafi-fiqh/is-cosmetic-surgery-allowed/
https://seekersguidance.org/tag/cosmetic-surgery/

[Ustadha] Shazia Ahmad

Checked and Approved by Shaykh Faraz Rabbani

Ustadha Shazia Ahmad lived in Damascus, Syria for two years where she studied aqidah, fiqh, tajweed, tafseer, and Arabic. She then attended the University of Texas at Austin, where she completed her Masters in Arabic. Afterward, she moved to Amman, Jordan where she studied fiqh, Arabic, and other sciences. She recently moved back to Mississauga, Canada, where she lives with her family.

Understanding the Answer to My Istikhara

Question: A guy proposed to me and I don’t like him because he has an anger issue. But my parents insisted, especially my mother. I was told to obey so I gave my consent and continued praying for khair. I did istikhara countlessly. He sent his father’s cousin and his boss to meet my dad, but not his uncle, whom my father knows very well. When my dad did see the uncle, he asked him why he didn’t come, the uncle said the boy isn’t a good person and my father shouldn’t give out his daughter to him. So my dad didn’t accept the proposal. Was my prayer accepted? Now my mom started saying that his uncle is envying him. I am scared now I can’t accept the proposal again.

Answer:

Assalamu alaykum,

Istikhara and its signs

Thank you for your question. When it comes to istikhara, one thing that is the most important is your gut feeling.  I feel that you knew, deep down, that he was not right for you, so I commend you for following your heart. See these links:
https://seekersguidance.org/articles/general-artices/the-reality-of-istikhara/
https://seekersguidance.org/articles/prophetic-guidance/the-reality-of-istikhara-2/

Your prayer was answered

I feel that this situation gave you two signs that you should not marry him. First, your gut was right to tell you no, from what you know about his temper, and secondly, your father was given sound, fair, and honest advice from his uncle. This only confirms what you were feeling before. Assuming the worst of his uncle is not right or fair.

Don’t obey

As for the future, please understand that you don’t need to obey your parents if they force you to accept a proposal. You are free to say yes or no, and you cannot be compelled to marry someone of their choosing, even if it upsets them. This is a God-given right and no one can take it away from you. Although children are expected to obey their parents and be good to them, it is not unconditional, especially if their choice of spouse is questionable.

May you continue to put your trust in Allah, as you did, and may you find the best spouse suited for you, where you dwell together in peace, tranquility with iman and taqwa.

[Ustadha] Shazia Ahmad

Checked and Approved by Shaykh Faraz Rabbani

Ustadha Shazia Ahmad lived in Damascus, Syria for two years where she studied aqidah, fiqh, tajweed, tafseer, and Arabic. She then attended the University of Texas at Austin, where she completed her Masters in Arabic. Afterward, she moved to Amman, Jordan where she studied fiqh, Arabic, and other sciences. She recently moved back to Mississauga, Canada, where she lives with her family.

My Husband Impregnated Another Woman

Question: I have been married for three and a half years and have no children. My husband has committed zina behind my back for over 2 years. Now the woman has said that she is pregnant with his child. He is slightly doubtful as we don’t have children and are not using contraception. He has asked for DNA testing and is getting himself tested too to ensure everything is OK with his fertility. What is the ruling in Islam? Should he marry the woman?

Answer:

Assalamu alaykum,

Thank you for your question. Your husband is not fit to be a husband or father because he committed adultery and has done it for so long.

His marriage to her will make the child legitimate

There is no obligation on your husband to marry this girl. However, if he decides to, the child will be called his and will grow up with a father and not as an illegitimate child. It says in the Reliance of the Traveller, “The husband of a woman who bears a child (0: no matter whether his marriage to her is valid or invalid) is considered to be the child’s father whenever it is (N: legally) possible that the child could be his, meaning that:
(a) the woman gave birth to the child six months plus a moment after the marriage agreement;…“[n10.2].

This means that your husband should marry her immediately, so that they are married for at least 6 months of her pregnancy, in order to be called the father of the child. Your husband would have been wise to do a nikah with this woman before he slept with her.

If he doesn’t marry her

If he does not marry her, then he should provide financial support for the illegitimate child, just out of moral principle. Regardless, you must decide whether to stay with a non-Godfearing man or leave him for his unfaithfulness which is valid grounds for divorce.

I pray that this situation is resolved and that you grow closer to Allah through this painful experience. It may be a blessing that you did not have a child with him, perhaps you are destined to have a family with someone else. Please pray istikhara and talk to your husband about the future of your relationship. I pray for success for both of you.

[Ustadha] Shazia Ahmad

Checked and Approved by Shaykh Faraz Rabbani

Ustadha Shazia Ahmad lived in Damascus, Syria for two years where she studied aqidah, fiqh, tajweed, tafseer, and Arabic. She then attended the University of Texas at Austin, where she completed her Masters in Arabic. Afterward, she moved to Amman, Jordan where she studied fiqh, Arabic, and other sciences. She recently moved back to Mississauga, Canada, where she lives with her family.

 

Hijab and Abaya In Hot Weather

Question: In hot weather being fully covered in abaya and scarf gets too hot. It is difficult to find thin material sometimes, and sometimes thin material may be thin but isn’t cool. So what can we Muslim sisters wear? Can we reveal forearms or dip our legs up to our calves at the beach and then lower our garments again? Can we expose our ankles so we can go in the water?

Answer:

Assalamu alaykum,

Keeping cool in the summer

Sister, thank you for your important question.  The best advice that I can offer you on keeping cool is here:
https://medium.com/modern-hijab-life/8-ways-to-survive-summer-in-hijab-8f16359d2a0b

Exposing nakedness

As for your other questions, it is not permissible for a woman to expose her ankles, calves, or forearms where a non-mahram can see her. As such, most women I know would walk straight into the ocean at the beach and let their clothes get wet up to the knees, whether in abaya or in loose pants. Wet clothing cools one better than simply wetting the skin. Also, a handful of water poured on the top of your head and forehead does wonders to catch a breeze.

I pray that you can find the right method to keep cool. Also, be mindful of the time of day that you go out. A woman covered in thick clothing at midday in the summer at the beach will probably get dehydrated or unwell, so choose an evening stroll or a day activity where there is shelter from the sun.

Please see these links on modest clothing:
https://seekersguidance.org/podcast-feeds/family-society/modest-clothing-for-men-and-women/
https://seekersguidance.org/tag/dressing-modestly/

May Allah reward you for your efforts.

[Ustadha] Shazia Ahmad

Ustadha Shazia Ahmad lived in Damascus, Syria for two years where she studied aqidah, fiqh, tajweed, tafseer, and Arabic. She then attended the University of Texas at Austin, where she completed her Masters in Arabic. Afterward, she moved to Amman, Jordan where she studied fiqh, Arabic, and other sciences. She recently moved back to Mississauga, Canada, where she lives with her family.

 

Can I Ask My Brother to Help My Non-Muslim Girlfriends?

Question: Would it be sinful for me to ask male relatives to interact with my non-hijabi or non-Muslim female friends? An example would be to ask them to drive my friend around to an event that’s not necessary (such as a party). They’d be in a situation of sin if they were to look at my friends’ hair and it’s not hard to do so being in the same car with them or to assist them in some chore.

Answer:

Assalamu alaykum,

Thank you for your question. I think that by the nature of your question, you already seem to know the answer to this.

Gender interaction

Islam has placed rules of gender interaction for Muslim society in order to protect people and prevent them from succumbing to their desires and end up with pain and suffering. These include lowering one’s gaze, being alone with or touching the opposite sex, and having unnecessary interaction with them. Please see the rules of gender interaction here:
https://seekersguidance.org/answers/general-counsel/guidelines-for-interacting-with-the-opposite-sex/

Conventional wisdom

As such, I would recommend that you not ask your brother or relative to engage in social matters with your friends, unless it is for a genuine need, especially where her safety is concerned, like picking her up from the airport at night, etc. Even in such a case, I would recommend that he take another lady along, who is his mahram, in order to protect all parties and dissuade any whisperings of the devil.

When dealing with non-Muslims, it’s good to show them kindness and service, but also teach them about Islamic culture and the respectful boundaries that Islam places between the genders. This ultimately leads to great respect for another and perhaps even deeper contemplation about our religion by everyone.

May Allah reward you for striving to do what is right.

[Ustadha] Shazia Ahmad

Checked and Approved by Shaykh Faraz Rabbani

Ustadha Shazia Ahmad lived in Damascus, Syria for two years where she studied aqidah, fiqh, tajweed, tafseer, and Arabic. She then attended the University of Texas at Austin, where she completed her Masters in Arabic. Afterward, she moved to Amman, Jordan where she studied fiqh, Arabic, and other sciences. She recently moved back to Mississauga, Canada, where she lives with her family

How Can My Husband and I Should Split Time Between His Parents and Mine?

Question: When we visit our parents we spend half the time at his parents and half the time at mine. That upsets his parents. They want us to spend the entire time at their place, and that I just visit my parents during the day. Can you please advise us?

Answer: Assalamu alaykum,

Thank you for your question. This is not a question of shari`ah, but a question of giving everybody what they want with the least pain and conflict.

I suggest that you sit down with your husband and ask him the following:

1) Is he happy with the current arrangement?

2) Does he want to change this arrangement to make his mother happier or should he just talk to her to accept it as it is?

3) What does he think of spending more time with his parents alone while you go and see your parents? There is no harm in splitting for a few days.

There are many solutions to this problem, you just have to sit down and make sure that you are both happy with it. Your husband’s happiness is more important than your mother-in-law’s. Once you and your husband feel that you have given his mother what is fair, then ask her to accept the time she has and cherish every moment together. Complaining only takes away from the blessings of the time together and dampens the mood.

You may also wish to pray istikhara about how to split the time. As it seems to me, it is already fair. Another thing you may want to consider is doing more special things with your mother-in-law. Maybe the time feels short to her because you didn’t do anything special together. Eat out with her, go shopping together, throw a dinner party together, surprise her with gifts. May Allah reward you for thinking about her wishes and trying to make her happy. May Allah send you a similar daughter-in-law who is kind and compassionate.

[Ustadha] Shazia Ahmad

Checked and Approved by Shaykh Faraz Rabbani

Ustadha Shazia Ahmad lived in Damascus, Syria for two years where she studied aqidah, fiqh, tajweed, tafseer, and Arabic. She then attended the University of Texas at Austin, where she completed her Masters in Arabic. Afterward, she moved to Amman, Jordan where she studied fiqh, Arabic, and other sciences. She recently moved back to Mississauga, Canada, where she lives with her family.

Confused After Breaking-up With My Boyfriend

Question: I am a 24-year-old girl who was in a haram relationship with a boy for a year and then broke up with him. There is much guilt inside me, how can I move on? I know I wronged my future spouse. I want to break all attachment to this fellow because he is not good for me but Shaytaan gives me waswasa that I must marry him because we sinned together. What can I do?

Answer:

Assalamu alaykum,

Thank you for your question. I am sorry that you fell into this trap of giving into your desires without a nikkah, but I am certain that your repentance will be accepted and that you will be able to move on.

Repentance

The Prophet, may Allah bless him and give him peace, said, “When half of the night or two-third of it is over, Allah, the Blessed and the Exalted, descends to the lowest heaven and says: Is there any beggar so that he be given? Is there any supplicator so that he be answered? Is there any beggar of forgiveness so that he be forgiven? (And Allah continues it saying) till it is daybreak”[Muslim].

Please see the conditions of repentance here:
https://seekersguidance.org/articles/featured-articles/what-are-the-conditions-of-making-tawba-transcript-ustadh-abdullah-misra/

Marrying him

Do not marry him unless he will make a good life-partner for you. Your previous relationship with him does NOT necessarily make him suitable to marry you. It seems to me that you already know that he is not right for you, so try to move on and pray that Allah sends you a pious spouse. Ignore this waswasa and know that these are the things that you should be looking for in a spouse:
https://seekersguidance.org/answers/marriage-and-divorce/look-marrying-somone-deen/

Moving on

Here are a few steps that you can take:

  • Make tawba for being in an unlawful relationship and resolve never to repeat this
  • Attach your heart to Allah and His Messenger and strive to fulfill your duties to Him. Accept what comes to you from Him with humility, servitude, and submission to His will.
  • See this article about detaching yourself: https://seekersguidance.org/answers/general-counsel/any-advice-for-detaching-my-heart-from-someone/
  • Keep the company of good religious people who have a positive influence on you and don’t spend too much time alone idly.
  • Keep yourself busy with worship and beneficial activities, hobbies, or acquire a new skill.
  • Don’t ever mention this illicit relationship to your future husband and trust that Allah will place love in your hearts for each other.

https://seekersguidance.org/answers/general-counsel/should-i-tell-my-spouse-about-my-relationships-before-i-got-married/

May Allah help you transform and grow from this experience with guidance and taqwa to become the better you.

Please see this article and video as well:
https://seekersguidance.org/answers/general-counsel/i-am-in-an-impermissible-but-healthy-relationship-what-should-i-do/
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=15XyOUnjzPI

[Ustadha] Shazia Ahmad

Checked and Approved by Shaykh Faraz Rabbani

Ustadha Shazia Ahmad lived in Damascus, Syria for two years where she studied aqidah, fiqh, tajweed, tafseer, and Arabic. She then attended the University of Texas at Austin, where she completed her Masters in Arabic. Afterward, she moved to Amman, Jordan where she studied fiqh, Arabic, and other sciences. She recently moved back to Mississauga, Canada, where she lives with her family.

My Husband Is Too Strict About My Clothing

Question: I had a nikah recently and we have not moved in together because we are finishing school as we are both relatively young. When we first met, my husband was laid back, but with time, he became stricter and controlling. My clothing and hijab did need improvement and my husband forced me to change without much kindness or love. I am happy that I dress modestly now, however, he is still unhappy with my shoe color, wearing a watch, not wearing an abaya, and not having a thicker sole on boots! Should I suppress my feelings and obey or is he unjust? He says he is the authority, he will never change and makes me feel like an ill-charactered woman. We are not on good terms because I can’t ignore the pain and it’s impacting my mental health. His treatment of me belittles me. I feel pushed beyond my limits. It’s like I married a stranger, who puts his desires first. I love him and want this to work. 

Answer: Assalamu alaykum,

Thank you for your question.

I am sorry that you are going through so much pain and suffering from your husband’s demands and lack of tact. I pray that you can come to a solution and strengthen your relationship through this conflict.

Minor details

I feel that the things that your husband is asking from you are not far-fetched, as I know many women who personally follow those protocols, but they are minor details. Covering your watch is not necessary, for example, and shoes other than black are still modest. If one chooses to take steps like these toward modesty, they will ultimately be rewarded, as nothing is lost on Allah.

Living apart

I want you to know that the basis of your problem is that you are not living together. Once you live with a person, one truly gets to know them and experiences them as a whole, rather than seeing them on a few outings or having some phone calls here and there. I know many families who refuse to elongate a nikah or engagement for the mere fact that disputes can arise and be exaggerated and end up in a couple breaking up. Please try to arrange to live with him soon, as the intimacy and time spent together result in a bond that can overshadow problems and soften hearts toward one another. Only then, one can see the big picture.

Patience

As for his demands, if I were in your shoes, I would acquiesce and be patient. Ask him to treat you with kindness and know that arguing back will just cause more tension, as he doesn’t seem ready to listen. Try to keep the tension low until you live together. Then you can take a different approach and he might slow down, too. Regardless, your reward is with Allah for He said, “Today I have rewarded them for their patience: it is they who will succeed” [Qur’an 23:111].

Gain knowledge to deal with any problem

As usual, the best weapon against any problem in life is knowledge and applying it in your life. Then you will start to measure your actions against the standard of the shari`ah and not your own or your husband’s criteria. This makes it easier to reconcile and compromise with him.

Please see these articles for excellent advice on the topic:
https://seekersguidance.org/answers/general-counsel/what-are-the-requirements-of-hijab/
https://seekersguidance.org/answers/general-counsel/can-demand-wife-dresses-modestly-work-less-outside-home-stop-meeting-irreligious-friends-change-baby-daughters-diapers/

Please see this article about marriage in Islam and the rank of the husband:
https://seekersguidance.org/answers/general-counsel/im-fearful-islam-causing-depression-can/

Also, I highly encourage both of you to take a course on the spirit of an Islamic Marriage so that you don’t let resentment grow and harm your relationship. You will find countless other benefits by learning your rights and responsibilities:
https://seekersguidance.org/courses/keys-to-successful-muslim-marriages-practical-lessons-that-explain-the-prophetic-spirit-of-marriage/

May Allah give you success, happiness in this life, and the hereafter.

[Ustadha] Shazia Ahmad

Checked and Approved by Shaykh Faraz Rabbani

Ustadha Shazia Ahmad lived in Damascus, Syria for two years where she studied aqidah, fiqh, tajweed, tafseer, and Arabic. She then attended the University of Texas at Austin, where she completed her Masters in Arabic. Afterward, she moved to Amman, Jordan where she studied fiqh, Arabic, and other sciences. She recently moved back to Mississauga, Canada, where she lives with her family.

Sorrow Over Sexual Misdeeds

Question: When I was about 7, I visited overseas on my yearly vacation, there my male cousin, showed me a video and told me to imitate it. After that, every summer, we ended up having oral and anal intercourse, not sex. This Ramadan my Lord guided me and I repented.  I thought I had committed adultery, but I realized that it was sodomy. I am now 16 and have faith Allah will forgive me but my regret is not the same anymore. Has Allah forgiven me already for repenting for adultery or do I need to repent again? I also used to disobey my parents and steal and lie, but am unable to feel guilty about it. I fear Allah’s wrath or to be called amongst the people of Lut. I read that if one doesn’t repent from sodomy, the Earth will swallow one up from the grave and one will be annihilated.

Answer: 

Assalamu alaykum,
Thank you for your question. I am very sorry to hear that you were made to commit such acts during your innocent youth. I want you to understand that when you were seven, your cousin sexually abused you and you were a victim. I pray that he doesn’t prey on anyone else the way he did on you and he will be accountable for this enormity on the Day of Judgment. If you are ever in his presence again, try to keep any other possible victims away from him.
Tawba

It seems from your question that you committed these acts voluntarily as you grew older and I pray that Allah accepts your repentance. There is no need for you to repent again. Even if you labeled it wrongfully, saying “adultery“, you still intended to repent for what you did and that is enough. It is not a problem that you don’t feel a pang of fresh, deep guilt about it, because you felt guilt at the time of repentance.Looking forward, do keep away from your cousin and make sure that you are never in khalwa (isolation) with someone of the opposite gender. I can’t tell you if Allah has forgiven you, but we know this: The Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and give him peace, said, “The one who repents from sin is like one who did not sin’” [Ibn Majah].
Feeling regret

As for feeling regret about stealing and lying, you must feel some regret about these actions, knowing that Allah has forbidden them, which has incited you to repent. That is sufficient for your repentance. See the conditions of repentance here:  https://seekersguidance.org/articles/featured-articles/what-are-the-conditions-of-making-tawba-transcript-ustadh-abdullah-misra/
Look ahead

The best thing for you now is to travel the path of light and knowledge and try to better yourself in every aspect. Learn about our beautiful religion, the halal and haram of everyday and basic fiqh. Read the seerah and strive to fulfill your obligations to the One who created you. Don’t let the devil keep you busy in futile things. I pray that your past feels like another lifetime to you and that Allah gives you high rank and closeness to Him.[Ustadha] Shazia Ahmad

Checked and Approved by Shaykh Faraz Rabbani

Ustadha Shazia Ahmad lived in Damascus, Syria for two years where she studied aqidah, fiqh, tajweed, tafseer, and Arabic. She then attended the University of Texas at Austin, where she completed her Masters in Arabic. Afterward, she moved to Amman, Jordan where she studied fiqh, Arabic, and other sciences. She recently moved back to Mississauga, Canada, where she lives with her family.