Ustadha Shazia Ahmad

April 26, 2025 2 mins

What Should We Do Until I Convert and We Can Get Married?

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question We stopped talking to preserve our relationship for marriage in the future. I intend to convert, but my family does not know, and we are not ready for a nikah. What should we do now? Answer Thank you for your question. You have done a wonderful thing by putting […]
April 26, 2025 2 mins

Is Showing Off One’s Beauty (Tabarruj) a Major or Minor Sin?

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question Is tabarruj considered a major or minor sin? I do not engage in it, but I struggle with severe waswasa and find it hard to seek forgiveness when unsure about the level of sin. Answer Thank you for your question. Tabarruj means to show one’s beauty, and it is […]
April 20, 2025 2 mins

How Can I Handle My Father’s Accusations When I Am Misrepresented?

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question How should I handle my father’s anger and accusations when I am unable to help my uncle and aunt, given that they misrepresent my refusal to help? Answer Thank you for your question. I empathize with the frustration of being misrepresented, and I pray that you find patience, open […]
April 20, 2025 2 mins

Should My Wife and Children Sleep Where I Am Not Welcome?

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question Would it be wrong to expect my wife and children to decline to stay overnight at my in-laws’ home if I am not welcome to stay? Answer Thank you for your question. They absolutely should not sleep there if you are not welcome, as the harmony of your family […]
April 20, 2025 3 mins

How Can I Help My Brother Who Is Depressed and Aggressive?

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question How can I help my older brother, who isolates himself, refuses treatment for depression, and is aggressive toward our family? He uses religion to manipulate my parents, who feel guilty about his past. He doesn’t work or study and only stays with us for his needs. He refuses advice […]
April 20, 2025 4 mins

How Can I Get My Husband to Soften His Heart to My Family?

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question How can I help my husband soften his heart toward my family without directly addressing the issue, as he sees it as siding with them? I make dua, but I see no change. Answer Thank you for your question. I pray that you can ease the tension between your […]
April 20, 2025 2 mins

Can I Use Social Media After My Parents Have Forbidden Me from It?

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question My parents have forbidden me from using social media, and at 16, I still don’t have permission. Given my isolation as a homeschooler, can I use social media for permissible purposes without disobeying them? Answer Thank you for your question. I can’t tell you that it is fine to […]
April 20, 2025 3 mins

How to Deal with an Unjust Parent Who Hates, Curses and Insults Us?

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question How should we deal with an unjust parent who insults and curses us? Despite our efforts to support her, she remains dissatisfied, spends excessively, and often refuses to speak to us for months. When we reach out, she responds with insults. Apart from making dua, I feel helpless. Answer […]
April 20, 2025 3 mins

Is It Permissible to Join a Social Club That Has Sports, Dining and a Bar?

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question Is it permissible to be a member of a social club that offers halal facilities like sports and dining, but also has a bar and hosts prohibited activities? The membership fee contributes to the club’s overall revenue, including haram sources. Would using the permissible facilities and avoiding the haram […]
April 13, 2025 3 mins

How Can I Co-Parent with an Abusive Ex-Husband?

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question What is the ruling on co-parenting with an abusive ex-husband who has threatened my life? Police say not to contact him, but imams say I have to. I am afraid he will steal our child or hurt me, and whenever we communicate, he just curses me. I have no […]
April 13, 2025 3 mins

How Can I Convince My Mother to Accept My Marriage to a Converted Brother?

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question Is my marriage valid if my fiancé recently reverted to Islam? How can I convince my mother to consider the marriage? Answer Thank you for your question. Yes, your marriage to him is valid if he converts to Islam. Please pray istikhara on this before making your decision. Convincing […]
April 12, 2025 3 mins

Am I Sinful for Being Distant from My Father Who Has Cut Me Off?

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question My wealthy father neglects our needs while spending on land. He cut ties with me after I asked for financial support. Am I sinful for keeping my distance, and what is the minimum I must do to avoid disobedience in Islam? Answer Thank you for your question. He is […]
April 12, 2025 4 mins

What Are My Rights Regarding My Siblings as a Single Woman Taking Care of The Pa...

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question What are my rights and responsibilities as a daughter and single woman caring for my elderly father, and what are my siblings’ obligations toward him? How can I ensure my future security, especially with inheritance concerns and no will in place? Answer Thank you for your question. Parents What […]
April 12, 2025 2 mins

Am I Obliged to Check In and Offer Support to My Illegitimate Child?

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question As a recent convert, I worry about severing family ties and its impact on my Hereafter. Fifteen years ago, I fathered a child out of wedlock and legally accepted responsibility, though the child’s family did not want a relationship with me. Am I obligated to check in and offer […]
April 12, 2025 3 mins

Why Is Marriage Encouraged When My Single Life Was So Much Better?

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question Why is marriage so emphasized in Islam? I did istikhara, and my husband is kind and a strong believer, but I hate being married. I also struggle with motherhood and feel my life was better when I was single. I regret my decision and don’t see any benefits. How […]
April 11, 2025 4 mins

How to Handle Frustration and Embarrassment During the Prayer?

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question Is my prayer valid if my baby hair shows due to my prayer gown’s fit? I feel frustrated and embarrassed when praying—how should I handle this? Answer Thank you for your question. You should look inwards and figure out why you feel frustrated and embarrassed during prayer and strive […]
April 11, 2025 3 mins

Should a Pubescent Child Tell His Parents About Same-Sex Attraction and Doubts A...

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question How should a child experiencing same-sex attractions handle their feelings, especially if they are pre-pubescent or going through puberty? Should they inform their parents? How should parents respond? Can an adult struggling with these urges confide in trusted individuals for support? Is it appropriate to share their experiences (even […]
April 11, 2025 4 mins

How Can Our Marriage Survive Now That My Husband Discovered My Past?

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question After eight years of marriage, my husband recently learned about my past related to my purity before we met. Although I had repented, he is now fixated on it, and our marriage has lost its happiness. I love him deeply, but he is distant and struggling to cope. How […]
April 11, 2025 3 mins

How Can I Live With In-Laws Who Insult My Family?

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question My in-laws insulted my family twice, and my husband did not intervene, only apologizing to me afterward. I struggle to forget the disrespect, and seeing them reminds me of the incident. How can I continue living with them while maintaining peace, without separating my husband from his parents? Answer […]
April 11, 2025 5 mins

How Can I Help My Sick Child Beat His Gaming Addiction?

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question My son has Marfan Syndrome and has undergone several major surgeries, impacting his confidence and ability to integrate into the community. He also lacks a strong paternal presence. We found escapism in online gaming, but while I turned to faith, he is struggling with gaming addiction. How can I […]
April 11, 2025 4 mins

How Can I Cope with My Father’s Neglect and Mother’s Pain?

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question I struggle with my father’s neglect and feel it’s making me bitter. Seeing my mother in pain and my sister’s divorce adds to my distress. I fear I’ll never marry and often feel hopeless and lost. Is Allah punishing me or teaching me? How can I cope with these […]
April 6, 2025 4 mins

Can I Nurse My Child While Praying?

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question As a mother of young children, I often face challenges in prayer. If my child with a soiled diaper touches me, does it invalidate my prayer? How can I manage distractions from concern for their safety? Is it permissible to watch them through a monitoring app while praying? If […]
April 6, 2025 3 mins

What Is the Best Way to Discipline a Child Who Hits His Parents?

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question What is the best non-violent way to discipline a child who hits their parents, considering differing views on punishment and its effectiveness? Answer Thank you for your question. A child who hits their parents should be dealt with kindness, patience, and Islamic guidance. Mercy and Gentleness The Prophet (Allah […]
April 4, 2025 3 mins

How Can I Have a Nikah Without Announcing My Conversion to Family?

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question How can we proceed with our nikah if I cannot announce my reversion or involve family and mutual friends as witnesses? Answer Thank you for your question. Having a nikah without involving family or friends contradicts the sunna of the Prophet (Allah bless him and give him peace) and […]
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