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Ustadha Shazia Ahmad

July 3, 2024 3 mins

Has My Husband Divorced Me Unintentionally?

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question My husband and I are good at the moment, but I still worry occasionally because we have argued many times. He has said many words in anger that could mean separation. He said he did not intend to divorce. But I don’t know if I should believe him as […]
June 15, 2024 4 mins

What Should I Do with a Husband Who Refuses to Work and Provide?

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question My husband of 15 years has never supported us financially except for three paychecks. For ten years, I gave him the excuse that he had to serve Allah, but in the end, he just spent all these years on the net, watching movies, social media, and playing games. He […]
June 15, 2024 3 mins

How Can I Have Good Relationships with My Siblings?

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question I’ve noticed narcissistic traits in my family, especially my brother. Despite the abuse, I desire a relationship with him. However, he avoided me after I called the police, and he was caught. He is manipulative, so I confronted him, and he still tries to manipulate and gaslight and then […]
June 14, 2024 4 mins

What Should I Do If I Feel Work Interferes with Raising My Kids?

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question Before marriage, my husband reassured me that I wouldn’t be expected to work, and his family said they were well off. I married him on this premise as I wanted to spend quality time with my children and bring them up as best I could. However, this did not […]
May 9, 2024 2 mins

Is It Backbiting to Tell Your Friend That Your Teacher Is Unfair?

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question I think my teacher hates me and he always asks other students if they need help, except me. Is it considered backbiting if you tell your friend about how the teacher ignores you? Answer Thank you for your question. Yes, it is backbiting to tell your friend this, unless […]
May 7, 2024 2 mins

What Should I Do About My Converted Husband Who Doesn’t Practice Isam?

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question I married 11 years ago to a man who converted to Islam before the wedding. For some years, he has said that he can’t feel Islam in his heart and that it is too difficult. We have three children who I raised as Muslim, and he helps me take […]
May 6, 2024 3 mins

What Is the Point of Being Religious Outside and Horrible at Home?

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question Why be outwardly religious if one can’t be just? Religious individuals supporting my father’s unjust actions are making me question myself. I’d rather abandon the hijab than be religious and corrupt. Answer Thank you for your question. I empathize with how you feel, and you are right to want […]
April 29, 2024 1 min

Is It Permissible to Wear a Jacket over an Abaya or Must It Be under the Khimar?

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question Is it permissible to wear a jacket or coat over an abaya and khimar, or should we wear the khimar over the jacket to cover the shoulders? I heard that it isn’t permissible to show the shoulders’ shape. Answer Thank you for your question. Either way is fine, as […]
April 28, 2024 3 mins

How Do I Leave My Christian Girlfriend Now That We Have Dated So Long?

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question I sinned with a Christian woman. It took us a year before we started what I wish I had never started, and it weighed heavy on my heart when I introduced her to this. I wanted to break up after 2.5 years in the relationship, but she was devastated. […]
April 21, 2024 2 mins

Should I Marry a Man with Children Because I Am Almost 40 Years Old?

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question I’m almost 40, never married. My family is concerned about my age. They suggested a suitor with two children, but I don’t feel comfortable with this. He’s respectful, but I’m confused and feel pressured to get to know him. I’m doing istikhara but feel lost. Answer Thank you for […]
April 21, 2024 3 mins

Should I Have a Child with My Husband If We Disagree about How to Live Islam?

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question My husband and I have been married for almost two years. Before marriage, I was a student of hifz and tafsir for years. Initially, my husband used to pray five times a day and attend halaqas, but he stopped after marriage. He tells me that I follow a different […]
April 21, 2024 1 min

Can I Ask Allah to Make Me More Beautiful?

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question Can I Ask Allah to Make Me More Beautiful? Answer Thank you for your question. Yes, you can make such a du`a, but I encourage you to also ask Allah Most High for light (nur) and to beautify your inward. Please say this prophetic du`a when you look in […]
April 21, 2024 3 mins

How Do I Stop Spewing Lies When I Get Angry?

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question I married a pious girl last July. She’s devout, but we sometimes argue. In anger, I accused her of being non-virgin, which isn’t true. Now, she’s disconnected from communication. How can I make our marriage happy? Answer Thank you for your question. I empathize with your anger and frustration, […]
April 21, 2024 2 mins

If I Immediately Covered My Awra, Is My Prayer Valid?

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question If a part of my awra was exposed during salah, but I covered it immediately, do I have to repeat the salah? Is the area under the chin considered awra, and if it is, and I did not know, would I have to repeat all my salahs wherein it […]
April 21, 2024 2 mins

Is Flattery Permissible?

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question Is flattery permissible? Answer Flattery is defined as expressing gratifying respect or admiration or as excessive and insincere praise given primarily to further one’s interests. This is not permissible. Flattery Hammam ibn al-Harith reported that a person began to praise ‘Uthman and Miqdad sat upon his knee, and he […]
April 20, 2024 2 mins

Is Picking Up My Sibling’s Clothes Considered Assisting Her in Dressing Sinful...

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question Would it be haram to tidy up the haram clothes of my siblings if my parents asked me to tidy my room? And is it haram for someone who does cover their `awra to take care of their looks by brushing their hair? Answer Thank you for your question. […]
April 20, 2024 3 mins

How Do I Get Over the Regret of Having a Girlfriend and Then Lying to Her?

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question I was in a haram relationship and lied in Allah’s name about talking to other girls when we weren’t together. Now, the relationship has ended, and I deeply regret the haram relationship and the lies. What should I do? Answer Thank you for your question. I empathize with your […]
April 17, 2024 3 mins

Can My Life Take a Turn for the Better Because I Practice Islam Now?

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question I’m desperate. The last four years things seem to be going downhill for me, my OCD got worse and I started failing at school because I was occupied with intrusive thoughts. Alhamdulillah, I gained Islamic knowledge, and now I’m at home after failing a college course. I’m taking a […]
April 16, 2024 3 mins

Should I Break Off My Engagement Because I Don’t Want to Live with His Parents...

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question I am 23 years old and from Pakistan. I got engaged to my parents’ satisfaction, to a simple man, financially stable, and didn’t have an issue with my veil. I was very concerned about getting married as I was sexually abused, so I have trust issues. Living in a […]
April 13, 2024 4 mins

How Can I Sponsor My Mother and Still Fulfill My Duties to My Wife?

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question My wife is from the US and I am from Pakistan. Prior to marriage, I had asked her that my widowed mom stay with us and she consented. But soon, she started fights over my mom and used that as a threat to our marriage. We had a big […]
April 10, 2024 3 mins

How Can I Get My Ex-boyfriend To Delete My Pictures After I Got Religious?

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question I have recently ended my relationship with a non-Muslim guy and repented. He still messages me and also posted a video of us on his private TikTok account. I had to lie to him about moving out of the country as he wouldn’t let me go and said he […]
April 9, 2024 3 mins

How Can I Convince My Husband to Sleep in Our Bedroom?

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question How should I handle the situation when my husband chooses to sleep in a separate room due to difficulty sleeping with our crying children, leaving me feeling lonely with two young kids? Answer Thank you for your question. May Allah reward your patience and for wanting to stay connected […]
April 6, 2024 2 mins

How Can I Break the Cycle of Sin as a Teenager?

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question As a teenager, I struggle with recurring sins despite seeking forgiveness. How can I break this cycle and find Allah’s forgiveness? Answer Thank you for your question. I pray that you can find the strength to overcome this temptation and choose Allah over your lusts. By Allah’s grace, you […]
April 6, 2024 4 mins

Should I Secretly Marry My Ex-fiance despite My Father’s Rejection?

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question Can I proceed with a nikah despite my father’s objections due to cultural reasons, even though he initially agreed to the marriage proposal? Answer Thank you for your question. I empathize with your frustration, and I pray that you communicate and compromise with your father. A secret nikah is […]