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Ustadha Shazia Ahmad

April 17, 2024 3 mins

Can My Life Take a Turn for the Better Because I Practice Islam Now?

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question I’m desperate. The last four years things seem to be going downhill for me, my OCD got worse and I started failing at school because I was occupied with intrusive thoughts. Alhamdulillah, I gained Islamic knowledge, and now I’m at home after failing a college course. I’m taking a […]
April 16, 2024 3 mins

Should I Break Off My Engagement Because I Don’t Want to Live with His Parents...

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question I am 23 years old and from Pakistan. I got engaged to my parents’ satisfaction, to a simple man, financially stable, and didn’t have an issue with my veil. I was very concerned about getting married as I was sexually abused, so I have trust issues. Living in a […]
April 13, 2024 4 mins

How Can I Sponsor My Mother and Still Fulfill My Duties to My Wife?

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question My wife is from the US and I am from Pakistan. Prior to marriage, I had asked her that my widowed mom stay with us and she consented. But soon, she started fights over my mom and used that as a threat to our marriage. We had a big […]
April 10, 2024 3 mins

How Can I Get My Ex-boyfriend To Delete My Pictures After I Got Religious?

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question I have recently ended my relationship with a non-Muslim guy and repented. He still messages me and also posted a video of us on his private TikTok account. I had to lie to him about moving out of the country as he wouldn’t let me go and said he […]
April 9, 2024 3 mins

How Can I Convince My Husband to Sleep in Our Bedroom?

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question How should I handle the situation when my husband chooses to sleep in a separate room due to difficulty sleeping with our crying children, leaving me feeling lonely with two young kids? Answer Thank you for your question. May Allah reward your patience and for wanting to stay connected […]
April 6, 2024 2 mins

How Can I Break the Cycle of Sin as a Teenager?

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question As a teenager, I struggle with recurring sins despite seeking forgiveness. How can I break this cycle and find Allah’s forgiveness? Answer Thank you for your question. I pray that you can find the strength to overcome this temptation and choose Allah over your lusts. By Allah’s grace, you […]
April 6, 2024 4 mins

Should I Secretly Marry My Ex-fiance despite My Father’s Rejection?

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question Can I proceed with a nikah despite my father’s objections due to cultural reasons, even though he initially agreed to the marriage proposal? Answer Thank you for your question. I empathize with your frustration, and I pray that you communicate and compromise with your father. A secret nikah is […]
April 6, 2024 3 mins

What Do You Recommend for a Couple Married Two Years Who Can’t Get Along?

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question My marriage is deteriorating rapidly due to constant arguing, lack of respect, and financial instability. My husband belittles me for not working despite my efforts to contribute and his financial struggles. How can we address these issues and salvage our relationship? Answer Thank you for your question. I commend […]
April 6, 2024 2 mins

Should I Marry a Man Who Converted to Marry Me?

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question Can I marry my fiancé, who converted to Islam for our marriage but hasn’t learned about Islam properly yet? He’s unwilling to pray or fast but says he’s open to learning with a teacher. I’m worried if choosing him as a husband is a sin. Can I marry him […]
April 5, 2024 2 mins

How Can I Tell My Mother I Want to Raise a Family Instead of Having a Career?

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question How can I express my desire to pursue marriage and a simple life to my mom without upsetting her? Considering my mom’s sacrifices for my future, is it reasonable to prioritize marriage and family over a career? Answer Mother Allah Most High has told us in the Quran, “And […]
April 5, 2024 1 min

Can You Recommend a Du’a to Find Ease in Practicing Religion?

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question Can You Recommend a Du’a to Find Ease in Practicing Religion? Answer Thank you for your question. I commend you for your sincere intention to live a religious lifestyle and I pray that Allah gives you that ease tenfold, such that you would not know or desire anything else. […]
April 5, 2024 4 mins

How Can I Convince My Parents to Let Me Marry Someone Who Is Not of Our Sufi Ord...

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question How Can I Convince My Parents to Let Me Marry Someone Who Is Not of Our Sufi Order? Answer Thank you for your question. I empathize with your suffering, and I pray that you can convince your parents that there is nothing wrong with your choice and that you […]
April 4, 2024 4 mins

How Do I Deal with the Guilt of My Extramarital Affair?

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question As a Muslim woman, I committed zina 4.5 years ago, but postpartum depression intensified my guilt. Despite sincere repentance and daily prayers, the guilt persists, causing suicidal thoughts. Should I confess to my husband, and how do I cope? Answer Thank you for your question. May Allah reward you […]
March 31, 2024 3 mins

Should I Marry a Woman I Met Online Who Is Homeless and Has Herpes?

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question Should I marry a revert with genital herpes? If yes, normal or asexual marriage? Can Istikhara be done for these decisions? Answer Thank you for your question. May Allah reward you for wanting to help another in need and putting her needs before yours. Risky Although your intentions are […]
March 31, 2024 2 mins

What Should I Do Now That I Told My Potential Bride about My Past?

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question I am not married, and unfortunately, I committed fornication. It was not intentionally done. I met a religious girl for marriage, and I told her about my sin. She said she didn’t want to give me a second chance because although I am a true believer, I don’t match […]
March 30, 2024 1 min

Is It Permissible to Wear Beautiful, Fashionable Abayas?

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question Is it allowed to wear a fashionable abaya in Islam? Answer Thank you for your question. It is permissible to wear anything loose, long, and not transparent while keeping in mind the cultural clothing and traditions of one’s area. Always err on the side of modesty; consult other religious […]
March 30, 2024 3 mins

Did My Relationship End Because Allah Is Forsaking Me?

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question I’ve always sought true love, but after a two-year relationship, we broke up today. I long for someone who loves me genuinely. Will I ever find someone who won’t hurt me? Today, I sobbed so much during my prayers that I couldn’t finish my dua. Has Allah forsaken me? […]
March 30, 2024 2 mins

Should I Marry a Boy Who Insists That He Will Kill Himself I Don’t?

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question Should I marry the boy in my area who threatens suicide if I refuse, despite his history of attempts, doctors suggesting marriage or hospitalization, and his family’s proposal, considering the mental distress and fear I face? Answer Thank you for your question. May Allah reward you for worrying about […]
March 30, 2024 3 mins

Should I Be Worried about Proposing to a Girl Who Might Not Be a Virgin?

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question My mother found a potential spouse for me who wears hijab, prays, and has good morals. However, before becoming more religious, she had a past meeting with a man, details of which she’s reluctant to disclose due to embarrassment. I’m concerned about potential fornication. How should I approach this […]
March 30, 2024 1 min

Is It Right to Make Du’a to Attain Overly Ambitious Goals?

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question Is it permissible for Muslims to pray for ambitious goals, like wealth to help the umma or a profession to save lives? Though I aim to assist the umma, I wonder if praying for goals beyond my capabilities is appropriate. Answer Thank you for your question. May Allah reward […]
March 30, 2024 1 min

Will I Be Responsible for the Fights between the Man I Love and His Wife?

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question I was emotionally involved with a married man but ended things and repented to Allah. However, I worry about the potential consequences, like fights or divorce in his marriage, due to our past actions. Will Allah hold me accountable for these despite repentance? Answer Thank you for your question. […]
March 30, 2024 3 mins

Am I Sinful for Not Deleting My Siblings’ TikTok Accounts?

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question I have preteen siblings whose social media I monitor, and I allow them an hour every day only on those apps, but I know full well they don’t use it for good in an Islamic sense. They are exposed to music, opposite-gender content, pop culture, celebrity worship, movies and […]
March 30, 2024 2 mins

How Can I Go Through a Forced Engagement Ceremony?

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question I’m 33, divorced without kids. Recently my parents talked to me about a 22-year-old man, and I refused as I did Istikhara. I don’t like him physically and my heart doesn’t accept him for some reason. I don’t know why my dad accepted their proposal. I don’t want this. […]
March 20, 2024 3 mins

How Do I Deal with a Husband Who Gives Little and Takes Much?

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question How should I address the imbalance in my marriage where I provide financially and emotionally while my husband contributes minimally and demands intimacy on his terms, including demanding oral sex, making me feel uncomfortable? Answer Thank you for your question. Your husband is not fulfilling your basic rights, and […]