What Should I Do About My Converted Husband Who Doesn’t Practice Isam?
Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad
Question
I married 11 years ago to a man who converted to Islam before the wedding. For some years, he has said that he can’t feel Islam in his heart and that it is too difficult. We have three children who I raised as Muslim, and he helps me take them to the mosque for lessons; he doesn’t hinder me.
I am getting closer to my religion; I pray, I fast, and I live my life as a Muslim. But I feel bad seeing my husband moving further away from it despite his promises. I make du’a so that he can change, but I am afraid that his state could affect my relationship with Allah Most High. What can I do?
Answer
I empathize with your frustration and pain at seeing your husband far away from Islam. You should continue to make du`a for his transformation. Don’t worry about your relationship with Allah being affected by Him. As long as you actively increase your religious knowledge and practice, you should be fine, in sha Allah.
Du’a
Please make this dua from the Quran daily:
رَبَّنَا هَبْ لَنَا مِنْ أَزْوَاجِنَا وَذُرِّيَّاتِنَا قُرَّةَ أَعْيُنٍ وَاجْعَلْنَا لِلْمُتَّقِينَ إِمَامًا
“Our Lord! Bless us with ˹pious˺ spouses and offspring who will be the joy of our hearts and make us models for the righteous.” [Quran, 25:74]
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May Allah give you the best of this world and the next.
[Ustadha] Shazia Ahmad
Checked and Approved by Shaykh Faraz Rabbani
Ustadha Shazia Ahmad lived in Damascus, Syria for two years where she studied aqida, fiqh, tajweed, tafsir, and Arabic. She then attended the University of Texas at Austin, where she completed her Masters in Arabic. Afterward, she moved to Amman, Jordan where she studied fiqh, Arabic, and other sciences. She later moved back to Mississauga, Canada, where she lives with her family.
