Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question Today I performed ghusl. I was just thinking a few days ago that when I perform ghusl, I’d make the niyya that I’d be performing it for all reasons that require ghusl, not knowing which ones. But when I was performing the ghusl, I was so focused on doing […]

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question I’m a Muslim woman who lives with her parents and was raised by a toxic and abusive mother. My parents have been fighting for as long as I can remember. I’ve tried to swallow my pain and tolerate her, simply because she is my mother, but I can’t take […]

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question I’m a married Muslim woman. I have sexually chatted online with two random men. It happened twice. I deeply regret what I have done, and I can’t believe that I have done this. I feel so guilty I can’t sleep properly. I think about it daily. I cry during […]

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question I’ve been married for nine years, alhamdulillah. For the first eight years, I was not very sexually active, but later in the ninth year, I developed so much desire that I needed it daily. However, my husband married a second wife, meaning he cannot satisfy me daily, and I […]

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question I want to get to Paradise with my parents. I love them very much even though they have faults. I want to help my mom improve her relationships. It’s hard for her to forgive someone until they apologize. When she’s upset with someone, she uses mean facial expressions or […]

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question What are the sunnah prayers of Juma according to the Shafi’i madhhab? And can I also ask if I have to make up the prayers I used to pray with following the Salafi position? I used to say duas in English during the salah without knowing that it made […]

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question Things have been difficult for months with my fiancé and her family. They are trying to take complete control over my decisions and life, my job, the time I spend, daily decisions, etc. I never disrespect or harm them, but I don’t want to be their toy either, so […]

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question I get attacked and persecuted by Arab ethnic nationalists here in Germany and on the internet. I’m a Muslim Arab from an Arab family with relatives who see themselves as Berbers, which is quite normal for an Arab. Due to Islam, we, in the Arab world, mixed with other […]

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question I have been in a relationship for two years and then got engaged. Weeks before, he canceled the wedding. I was devastated, and I had a nervous breakdown. I love him and can’t see myself with anyone else. He contacted me after a while to apologize. He told me […]

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question For a few months, I went through waswasa, but now I cannot distinguish between my thoughts and Satanic whispers. My connection with Allah Most High is constantly wavering; I don’t feel connected and cannot concentrate on prayer due to bad thoughts. I get evil thoughts about people when I […]

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question I am a repentant Muslima that has committed Zina in the past, and I have kept it secret. Now everyone seems to think highly of me and sees me as someone righteous, including the brother that’s going to marry me soon. I know disclosing a sin is not encouraged […]

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question My father has always been emotionally abusive. Our family always waited patiently for him to change, especially since he had a heart attack. We believed that it was a sign from Allah to make him realize he needs to change, but he isn’t seeing and listening to obvious signs. […]

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question I know a Muslim must be good to parents, but what if, for over 15 years, on and off, your mother curses you? My mother taunts my work and my looks and calls me incompetent. This has caused psychological problems and low self-esteem. I sometimes reply, but this only […]

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question An impurity of one dirham is pardoned in the Hanafi madhab. Can I follow this if I am a Shafi’i madhhab follower? Answer If you are a Shafi’i, it is better to follow your school. I assume that you are talking about purity during prayer. The Reliance of the […]

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question How do I stop crying when my mother and siblings ridicule my weight and insult me? Answer I am very sorry that you have to deal with painful criticism from your family. Your self-worth as a believer is far beyond what you know, and the Prophet (may Allah bless […]

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question Is it sufficient that I pray three prayers in the mosque daily? Answer May Allah reward you abundantly for praying three prayers in the mosque daily, and may He ever increase you. Emphasized Sunna The Prophet (Allah bless him and give him peace) said, “He who purifies (performs wudu) […]

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question What information does a potential spouse have the right to know about one’s previous relationship if that relationship was not within marriage? What benefits or harms are there in sharing such information? Should we ask each other about this information? Answer May Allah reward you for seeking clarification on […]

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question The nature of Shari’a is modesty. Therefore, Muslims lower their gaze, and women cover. Why did Islam allow slave women to uncover? Doesn’t this contradict creating a modest society? Why force a slave woman to reveal even if she wanted to cover? Muslim liberals and modern scholars say Islam […]

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question I am a mom to a 3-year-old with another baby on the way, alhamdulillah. I want to be a merciful, kind, loving, and compassionate mom and wife. But sometimes I’m tired beyond belief, and I want to laugh and play with my child since she is looking for my […]

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question Is there a duty to tell the spouse all previous sins before or even after marriage? Can the partner insist on being told, or should previous sins remain between Allah and the sinner alone? Is it better to keep quiet about them? Does the partner have the right to […]

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question I was wondering, as a female, would I be allowed to wear joggers and a hoodie, or would this be for males only and classed as imitating them? Also, is it still acceptable to buy from fast fashion shops that might exploit their workers even if you have the […]

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question I want to say the supplication, “O Allah, You are my Lord. None has the right to be worshipped but You. You created me, and I am Your slave, and I am faithful to my covenant and my promise (to You) as much as I can. I seek refuge […]

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question I am having a hard time dealing with my sexual desires. I am still in school, two years behind in my education, as I had to repeat when I was a little kid. I can’t make friends due to insecurities. I opened up to my family about my issues, […]

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question From a young age, I was promised to my cousin, but now I am practicing and want a more practicing man. My cousin does obligations as far as I can see, and he has good character, but I want someone involved in dawah. My mother says I’ll be able […]