Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad
I am in a relationship with a guy with a Hindu background. We want to move forward with our relationship, however, as far as I know, a Muslim woman can only be married to a Muslim guy. My knowledge of this is very limited, and I am asking for advice on how to proceed. Are there actually any possibilities for us to move on? Or should we give up even though we respect each other’s religion?
Thank you for your question. May Allah reward you for putting your feelings for your religion and your Lord first before making any hasty decision.
Given the considerations in such cases, we urge you to please consult reliable local scholars or Muslim counselors about the specifics of the situation. May Allah facilitate all ease and good for you.
Allah Most High said in the Quran, “Do not marry idolatresses until they believe: a believing slave woman is certainly better than an idolatress, even though she may please you. And do not give your women in marriage to idolaters until they believe: a believing slave is certainly better than an idolater, even though he may please you. Such people call (you) to the Fire, while God calls (you) to the Garden and forgiveness by His leave. He makes His messages clear to people, so that they may bear them in mind.” [Quran, 2:221]
There is absolutely no possible way whatsoever that you can marry a Hindu man in Islam. Any so-called marriage with him would be invalid in the sight of Allah, and you would be living in sin and your children would be illegitimate. Please see your options below.
Please see this link: Does Islam Allow Muslims to Get Married to a Christian Man or Woman?
An easy and surefire way to get what you want is that he converts. It’s very simple to believe in God and that Muhammad is God’s Messenger. I’m sure that if he loves you enough, he will at least research Islam, ask God for guidance, search his heart, and convert. Remind him that even non-Muslims have deemed the Prophet (Allah bless him and give him peace) the most influential man in all human history. [Michael Hart, The 100: A Ranking of the Most Influential Persons in History]
Please see these links as well:
Can I Marry a Man Who Converted to Islam for Me?
Can I Marry Someone Who Is Ready to Accept Islam for Marriage?
If this man in your life is not willing to go this far, even though it will save him for all eternity, I urge you to leave him and not waste any more time. Look for love in the way that Allah has permitted and you will find much good from it, by the grace of Allah.
Always keep this hadith in mind: Abu Qatada (Allah be pleased with him) reported that the Prophet (Allah bless him and give him peace) said, “Verily, you will never leave anything for the sake of Allah Most High but that Allah will replace it with something better for you.” [Musnad]
Please see these links as well:
Can a Muslim Woman Marry a Non-Muslim Man?
Can You Suggest Me a Supplication to Avoid for My Daughter to Marry a Non-Muslim Man?
Can a Muslim Woman Marry a Non-Muslim Man if Their Children Are Raised as Muslims?
May Allah give you the best of this world and the next.
[Ustadha] Shazia Ahmad
Checked and Approved by Shaykh Faraz Rabbani
Ustadha Shazia Ahmad lived in Damascus, Syria, for two years, where she studied aqidah, fiqh, tajweed, tafsir, and Arabic. She then attended the University of Texas at Austin and completed her Master’s in Arabic. Afterward, she moved to Amman, Jordan, where she studied fiqh, Arabic, and other sciences. She later moved back to Mississauga, Canada, where she lives with her family.