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My Father Will Disown Me If I Marry the Man I Choose. What Do I Do?

Answered by Ustadha Raidah Shah Idil Question: Assalam aleykum, I met someone at university who is a practicing Muslim. We both come from the same cultural background and we don’t have any valid Islamic reason as to why this marriage cannot go ahead. My mother told me that I could find my own spouse in […]

My Father Verbally Abuses My Mother and Siblings. Is It Sinful for Me to Move Out?

Answered by Ustadha Raidah Shah Idil Question: Assalam aleykum, I am a 33 year old unmarried woman who lives with my parents and siblings. My father has always been strict since we were children e.g. he would beat us over school work. My mother is afraid of my father divorcing her. That’s why she never […]

My Father Stares at My Body. What Do I Do?

Answered by Ustadha Raidah Shah Idil Question: Assalam aleykum, I am unmarried, live with my parents, but feel uncomfortable because my father stares at my body. What do I do? Answer: Assalamualaykum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh, I pray this finds you well. May Allah reward you for reaching out to us. Hijab May Allah reward […]

How Do I Deal With an Abusive Father?

Answered by Ustadha Raidah Shah Idil Question: Assalam aleykum, My father is abusive towards my siblings, myself, my mother, and even his workers. He works so hard to give us the best material wealth, but abuses us. He destroyed the life of our big brother. He makes our mother work from morning to evening. His […]

My Father Is Emotionally Blackmailing Me to Get Married. What Do I Do?

Answered by Ustadha Raidah Shah Idil Question: Assalam aleykum, My father is blackmailing me to get married against my will. I had someone else in mind, but my father rejected him. Should I just accept his orders so this torture ends, and trust in Allah? Or should I fight for my God-given rights? Answer: Assalamualaykum […]

How to Deal With a Verbally Abusive Father?

Answered by Ustadha Raidah Shah Idil Question: Assalam alaykum, Throughout my childhood, I witnessed my father beat my mother. I have reach the point of hitting him. I regret this so much and have asked him for forgiveness, but he continues to verbally abuse me to the point where I want to commit suicide. What […]

My Father Assaulted My Mother and Me. Can I Move Out?

Answered by Ustadha Raidah Shah Idil Question: Assalam alaykum, I am unmarried and support my family financially. Unfortunately, my father has a temper, and he recently hit my mother and me. I no longer feel safe. Is it permissible for me to move out? Answer: Assalam alaykum wa rahmat Allah wa barakatuh, I pray this […]

Am I Sinful for Not Answering the Phone Calls of My Abusive Father?

Answered by Shaykh Salim Ahmad Mauladdawila Question: Assalamu alaykum I have recently converted to Islam. My atheist father has been abusive towards me and my mother since my childhood. He has left us for another family but he keeps calling me while being drunk. It scares me a lot. I have stopped answering his phone […]

How Can I Help My Mother Despite My Abusive Father?

Answered by Shaykh Jamir Meah Question: Asaalam alaykum My father is being unjust towards my mother and directing his anger at me. He calls her names and tries to control what she does and where she goes. My dad threatened to never want to see me again if I defend her. It pains me to […]

My Father Emotionally Abuses Us and I Have Sinned With Someone of the Same Gender. What Should I Do?

Answered by Ustadha Raidah Shah Idil Question: My father emotionally abuses my mother and my family. This makes me so sad. Also, I have sinned with someone of the same gender. What do I do about all the prayers I missed? Answer: Assalamualaykum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh, I pray this finds you well. I pray […]