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My Husband Married Me for My Visa and Abuses Me. What Do I Do?

Answered by Ustadha Raidah Shah Idil Question: Assalam aleykum, I realise that now my husband married me for my visa, less than a year ago. He has now broken every single agreement made for the marriage, some of which includes that he will support and help me finish my studies, yet from the second day […]

Should I Leave My Husband Because of Religious Incompatibility?

Answered by Ustadha Raidah Shah Idil Question: Assalam aleykum, 1) My husband works at his father’s restaurant, which sells alcohol. Is that permissible? 2) I live with my in laws. My husband does give his father money to roughly cover our costs and to contribute to the household but this is not an exact and […]

Is a Khulu’ the Solution to Leave an Abusive Husband? (Shafi’i)

Answered by Shaykh Abdurragmaan Khan Question: Assalam alaykum, Since the beginning of our marriage my husband has been disrespectful by calling me derogatory names and does not stop until I breakdown or cry. He repeats to me almost everyday that he will do what he wants and will not grant me a divorce out of […]

My Husband Doesn’t Sleep Next to Me. What Can I Do?

Answered by Ustadha Raidah Shah Idil Question: Assalam aleykum, I have three small children under the age of 5. Less than a year ago, my mother-in-law passed away, and from that day until now, he sleeps in his father’s room. My father-in-law is not sick. I sleep in a separate room with our three children. […]

My Husband Neglects Me. What Do I Do?

Answered by Ustadha Raidah Shah Idil Question: Assalam aleykum, I sometimes feel neglected by my husband. He is a good man who works hard, but does not reciprocate my acts of love for him. I greet him lovingly when he is home, I shower him with sweet words and compliments, I buy him gifts… I […]

My Husband Refuses to Spend Time With Me. What Do I Do?

Answered by Ustadha Raidah Shah Idil Question: Assalam aleykum, I keep wanting to spend time with my husband, but he is not keen. He’s always okay to go out with others, but when it comes to me, he says no or makes a face or tells me to go. It’s difficult to spend alone time […]

My Husband Doesn’t Want to Have Kids. What Can I Do?

Answered by Ustadh Salman Younas Question: Assalam alaykum My husband has changed his mind about having kids. It has been a very traumatic experience for me as I love him dearly and I want to have a family with him. 1. My husband argues that there is nothing in Islam that says that a married […]

How to Deal With a Husband Who Doesn’t Practice?

Answered by Shaykh Jamir Meah Question: Assalamu alaykum My husband is not fasting this year citing work as reason. But even on holidays, he refuses to fast saying that it will alter his routine. He is not regular in prayer’s as well. He just prays on friday. Sometimes he eats non-halal. I am losing my […]

My Husband Let Us Starve. What Do I Do?

Answered by Ustadha Raidah Shah Idil Question: Assalam Alaykum, I am the second wife and have two small children. My husband has not given me or my co-wife enough money to even buy clothes in years. Every time I ask him for money, he says there isn’t any, yet he gives so much to community […]

My Husband Wants Marital Relations Every Day, and Washing My Hair So Often Makes It Fall Out. What Do I Do?

Answered by Ustadha Raidah Shah Idil Question: Assalam alaykum, I used to pray before I got married, and even performed tahajjud daily. However, my husband wants to make love daily, and I am unable to wash my hair every day because my hair falls out. I cannot say no to him, but I want to […]