Posts

What Are a Wife’s Rights and Responsibilities in a Difficult Marriage?

Answered by Shaykh Jamir Meah Question: Assalamu alaykum 1. If a woman marries a convert, what are the responsibilities of the wife towards the husband’s Islamic education? 2. If a sinful Muslim husband demands his rights to be fulfilled (respect, etc.), what would be the wife’s rights? 3. Is it right to advise that respect […]

Who Can I Vent to About My Abusive Husband?

Answered by Ustadha Raidah Shah Idil Question: Assalam alaykum, I have been married for a long time, endured verbal and physical abuse, and have children. We walk on eggshells around my husband, who has been violent in the past. My eldest daughter wants me to divorce him, but it will destroy him. Can I vent […]

Is It Permissible to Give My Zakat to My Daughter? (Shafi’i)

Answered by Shaykh Jamir Meah Question: Assalamu alaykum I am an unemployed housewife. My husband is stingy. I have been using my savings to buy food and other necessities. I also pay my daughter’s Islamic School fee. I spend around $800 a month. Now my savings had left $22 500. This year, I feel heavy […]

Should I Get Back to A Cold Husband?

Answered by Ustadha Raidah Shah Idil Question: Assalam aleykum, I married a good man, but due to our emotional distance, we have not been intimate for a year. We have separated, but he wants me back. What do I do? Answer: Assalamualaykum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh, I pray this finds you well. May Allah reward […]

The Husband of My Friend Threatens to Reveal Her Infidelity. What Can She Do?

Answered by Ustadha Raidah Shah Idil Question: Assalam aleykum, My friend, a mother, had an affair with a married man. Her husband found out, recorded their private conversation, and threatens to reveal it to their family members. What should she do? Answer: Assalamualaykum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh, I pray this finds you well. May Allah […]

My Husband Has Cut Everything out of My Life. What Can I Do?

Answered by Shaykh Jamir Meah Question: Assalamu alaykum After marriage my husband has cut everything out of my life, I do not visit my friends, I don’t visit my family and parents often and if I do then I have to fight to be allowed to go. I have become nothing more than a maid […]

I Am in a Long-Distance Marriage and I Find Solace in My Facebook Male Friends. Is That Sinful?

Answered by Ustadha Raidah Shah Idil Question: Assalam aleykum, I am in long distance marriage, and my husband and I have children. My husband lives overseas and is emotionally absent. I asked him to divorce me. Is it sinful for me to seek solace in Facebook, especially my male high school friends who have the […]

My Husband Is So Controlling. What Do I Do?

Answered by Ustadha Raidah Shah Idil Question: Assalam aleykum, Before marriage, I was working full-time, attending circles of knowledge and had an active social life. Now my husband has become very controlling, and has made me the maid of the house. He shouts and swears at me, becomes very abusive, and says that I have […]

How Can I Fix My Empty Marriage?

Answered by Ustadha Shireen Ahmed Question: Assalam alaykum, My husband never attempted to understand the pain and difficulty I was going through after leaving my family and my lifestyle behind. He claims he is too stressed to spend time with me and he spends this time playing games. Whenever I try to speak to him […]

My Husband Does Not Want Marital Relations. What Do I Do?

Answered by Ustadha Raidah Shah Idil Question: My husband is not interested in having marital intimacy with me no matter how much I beautify myself for him. When I try to talk to him about this, he becomes aggressive. But He spends a lot of money on me. Am I being ungrateful? I left my […]