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Will Allah Ever Forgive Me After I Repeatedly Sin?

Answered by Ustadha Raidah Shah Idil

Question: Assalam alaikum,

Is there any hope for me to repent to Allah after all of these sins I committed? My sins have increased so much. I’m scared of asking Allah for forgiveness and I’m shy and ashamed.

Answer: Assalamualaykum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh,

I pray this finds you well. May Allah make things easier for you.

Hope

“And seek the Forgiveness of Allah, certainly, Allah is Ever Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful.” [Qur’an, 4:106]

There is always hope in Allah’s forgiveness. Feeling ashamed of your sin is a good sign. Focus on Allah’s Mercy and don’t dwell on your sins. Plan to do better next time.

I pray that Allah grants you the ability to make good on your repentance.

Please refer to the following link:

A Reader on Repentance

Wassalam,
Raidah

Checked & Approved by Shaykh Faraz Rabbani

Afraid to get groceries? Ustadha Anse Tamara Gray on being a Muslim woman in today’s turbulent climate

Each time a high profile act of violence is committed by a Muslim or in the name of Islam, the fear of reprisal attacks rises acutely in Muslim communities. It has become almost par for the course, and the statistics prove the threat is real. Often, women who are visibly Muslim find themselves the primary soft target. Ustadha Anse Tamara Gray has been inundated with concerned messages from many who are directly and indirectly affected. From being afraid to leave the home to do basic, every day errands to fearing for their lives – this has become the sad reality for many. Ustadha Anse has some much needed advice.

Resources for seekers:

“Come, come, whoever you are” – Imam Khalid Latif on feeling estranged from the Muslim community

Growing up, I didn’t really have a sense of ownership over my religion. To make matters worse, it seemed like I always was doing things that were wrong. There weren’t many that made me think I could be anything better and I felt quite low at times after interacting with some who made me feel I didn’t have a place to belong. The worst part about it all? I believed it. I believed every look of perceived condescension, I believed every murmur and whisper, I believed every glare and judgmental comment and never thought twice about it. It was easier not to. People who “looked” religious thought I was bad and I thought they must have known what they were talking about since they looked the part so well.

In retrospect, there were definitely people who treated me poorly. But I myself also played a role in how I felt by already presuming that I wouldn’t fit in and that people wouldn’t accept me.

It can be quite daunting to walk into a room where you either are different from everyone, or you believe you are different, you know no one, and you are also embarrassed that most of the people there have probably been there for years while you are still trying to figure out the basics. Where most people were in the wrong wasn’t because they were being jerks and making me feel like I shouldn’t have come. The only mistake that most made was not making a concerted effort to realize that there were people like me who were nervous being there and understanding that they could alleviate a lot of that fear just by smiling at me and saying welcome.

The Prophet Muhammad, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “Allah is kind and loves kindness and gives for gentleness what he does not give for harshness nor for anything else.”

The well-known Muslim poet Rumi wrote:

Come, come, whoever you are.
Wanderer, worshipper, lover of leaving — it doesn’t matter,
Ours is not a caravan of despair.
Come, even if you have broken your vow a hundred times,
Come, come again, come. ~ rumi

Not everyone knows everything about their faith, nor are they meant to. But everyone is entitled to being encouraged to do their very best. It’s simple things that keep us together. A kind word or smile can do a lot for someone who is just trying to figure out for themselves where they fit in and belong. It was the kindness of a couple of people that made me believe I could be more than what I thought of myself to be. Let’s start being the reason that someone feels like they can stick around, not the reason that they feel like they should never come back.

Imam Khalid LatifImam Khalid Latif is a University Chaplain for New York University, Executive Director of the Islamic Center at NYU, and a Chaplain for the NYPD. He is also the co-founder of Honest Chops, the first-ever all-natural/organic halal butcher in NYC, the Muslim Wedding Service, an agency specializing in providing charismatic and inspirational marriage officiants for wedding ceremonies.

 

Resources for Seekers:

Is There a Prophetic Supplication to Relieve My Hopelessness?
On Humility and being gentle with the believers
How Do You Know If Your Repentance is Sincere?
The Dowdy Muslim
The Door of Repentance and Return to Allah is Always Open
Having Hatred for a Sinful Person
Is Repentance Always Accepted?
My Husband Doesnt Pray: How Do I Advise Him?
Lesson on the Secrets of Seeking Repentance
Prayer of Repentance: Salat al-Tawba
Is Regret a Blessing from Allah?

Hopelessness, Despair & the Abundance of Good, by Ustadh Amjad Tarsin

“There is no room for the believer to harbor feelings of hopelessness and despair, and God the Exalted has given us abundant paths to be involved in goodness” – this and other pearls from Ustadh Amjad Tarsin’s Friday sermon at the University of Toronto.

Support the Muslim Chaplaincy at the University of Toronto by donating today and subscribe to Ustadh Amjad’s SoulFood podcast.

 

More from Ustadh Amjad Tarsin and other SeekersHub teachers

Bringing Certainty to the Heart: A Step-by-Step Guide
Why Do We Serve? What is Prophetic Concern?
“A night worth 80 years in worship and 80 years in sins forgiven”
Becoming A Man: A Comprehensive Guide to Coming of Age in Islam
Is There a Prophetic Supplication to Relieve My Hopelessness?My Inability to Escape My Desires Fills Me With Despair

Can I Turn to Allah Even if I Can’t Stop Sinning?

Answered by Ustadh Tabraze Azam

Question: Can I turn sincerely to God if I’m stuck in sin and really find it hard to come out of it? Is there any point in me turning to God and saying ‘I’m sorry’ even if I can’t find it in me to leave the sin?

Answer: Assalamu alaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh,

I pray that you are in the best of health and faith, insha’Allah.

Yes, however, keep repenting and keep returning back to Allah. Ask Allah to remove the sin from your life, and then take the active means to get the sin out. This is true sincerity. Otherwise, you are just kidding yourself.

Allah Most High says: “Say: My servants who have wronged yourselves, never despair of God’s mercy. God forgives all sins: He is truly the Most Forgiving, the Most Merciful.” [39.53]

And He Most High says, “Celebrate the praise of your Lord and ask His forgiveness: He is always ready to accept repentance.” [110.3]

Abu Hurayra said, “I heard the Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, say, ‘By Allah, I ask Allah’s forgiveness and turn towards Him in repentance more than seventy times a day.”

Abu Hamza Anas ibn Malik al-Ansari, the servant of the Messenger of Allah reported that the Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, said, “Allah is happier about the repentance of one His slaves than one of you would be about finding your camel which had strayed away from you in the middle of the desert.”[Agreed upon]
In the variant of Muslim, “Allah has greater joy at the repentance of one His slaves when he turns towards Him than one of you would have over his mount, which, having escaped from him with his food and drink in the middle of the desert so that he has despaired of finding it and gone to a tree to lie down in its shade, suddenly appears standing by him while he is in that state, so that he takes its reins and then says out of the intensity of his joy, ‘O Allah, You are my slave and I am Your Lord!’ getting confused because of his intense joy.'”

Please also see: A Reader on Tawba (Repentance) and: Leaving sin, outward & inward – Shaykh Faraz Rabbani at SeekersHub (www.SeekersHub.org)

And Allah alone gives success.

wassalam,

Tabraze Azam

Checked and Approved by Shaykh Faraz Rabbani

How Can I Increase My Iman and My Sincerity By Doing Things For the Sake of Allah?

Answered by Ustadh Abdullah Anik Misra

Question: Assalam Alaikum.

 

Hello I am a teenage girl and my iman is at an all time low. I worry about this, yet I still can’t get up to pray. I feel myself falling more and more into the darkness. I also made a promise to Allah that I would read Quran for 45 minutes a day. But now it is so hard to do that.  Must I fulfill my promise?  Also, please help me find some way to do things just for the sake of Allah and not for the sake of others.  I think I have done good actions in the past, but a  lot of them were because people were around me.

Answer: In the Name of Allah, Most Merciful and Compassionate,

Wa alaikum assalam Sister-in-Islam,

Thank you for your question.  If we could see the love and mercy of Allah Most High surrounding us and carrying us through each moment, even when we are at the lowest point in faith, we would never lose hope that Allah wants good for us.

Even when outwardly, things seem to be going wrong, yet inside, you are filled with regret, and inspired to nothing more than longing for change in yourself, then know that Allah is trying to bring you closer to Him by making you realize your neediness to Him.  He’s showing you how to come to Him, so seek refuge in His mercy from your mistakes, admit your dependency on Him, ask Him for His aid- and then take baby steps towards Him.

Do not despair of Allah’s mercy.  Allah Most High says in the Qur’an, “Oh My servants who have transgressed upon their own souls!  Do not despair of the Mercy of Allah!  Indeed Allah forgives all sins.   Truly, He is the Oft-Forgiving and Compassionate.” [Qur’an 39:53]

Despair is how Shaytan tricks good believers into thinking they can’t come up.  Although making a promise and breaking it is wrong, you’re intention was to improve.  Return to Allah in repentance sincerely, but do not focus on “things” and “acts” to do.  Focus on the state of your heart with Allah in fulfilling your basic duties such as prayer first.  Take on small extra worships as you feel grounded, and if you falter, don’t lose hope.  Reflect on Allah’s love for you, and make remembrance of Him in gratitude.

Shaytan will also say that you only did good things in the past to show-off, so your acts are all nullified.  Don’t listen to this, rather commit yourself to sincerity from today.  Try to do things in private if you can, and do not increase or decrease your regular worship whether people see it or not.  If good company encourages you to seek Allah more, this is not shirk or hypocrisy, rather the blessings of community, so seek out practicing, believing sisters to be around.  Seek knowledge to promote your inner growth.

Wasalam,

Abdullah Anik Misra

Checked & Approved by Faraz Rabbani

My Inability to Escape My Desires Fills Me With Despair – Is There Any Hope for Me?

Answered by Ustadha Rukayat Yakub

Question: I am unable to escape my desires. Every time I have finished satisfying myself I want to kill myself. What is the point of living if not in obedience? There is no human I hate more than myself. I know of no pain in this world worse than this: knowing right from wrong and being unable to stop oneself from wrong. It doesn’t even satisfy. The desire itself is just a lie. It’s just replaced by an emptiness, a sickness spreading from an empty, black, encrusted qalb to the rest of the body.

Should I wish for death? Would I be one of those who just beg to get sent back to work righteousness? And yet here I am and I can’t? Am I destined for the fire then either way? Do I have more than an earthful of sins? Yet even if I were forgiven, could I be happy knowing about the ranks of the foremost and knowing that I’m not amongst them?

Do you have any guidance to offer this seeker?

Answer: Bismillah

Dear Questioner Assalaamu alaikum wa rahmatullah,

Having a good opinion of our Lord and turning to Him in repentance

Never give up on the mercy of Allah, iblis actually means to despair, and despair is in his bag of tricks, He tries different things on different people seeking to convince people that they are not worthy of forgiveness or of leading a righteous life.  When these thoughts come to your head seek refuge in Allah, glorified is He.

Allah, glorified is He, tells us: “Tell them (O Muhammad ): ‘O My slaves who have wronged their souls, do not despair of Allah’s mercy, for Allah will forgive all the sins. He is indeed very Forgiving, very Compassionate, Turn to Him then, and obey Him (in all your affairs).'” (Al-Zumar:53,54).

Dear seeker, please do not waste any more time dwelling on your current state or the state you believe you have, rush to Allah ta’ala in repentance immediately, with no doubt in His mercy.  Commit to repenting from the acts you need to seek repentance of and be steadfast in your turning to the Lord of the Worlds.

Wishing for Death

Narrated Abu Hurairah: Allah’s Messenger, Allah bless him and grant him peace said, “None of you should wish for death. If he is a righteous man, perhaps he may add to (his) good works, and if he is a sinner, possibly he may be repentant (in case he is given a longer life).” (Al-Bukhari)

Allah ta’ala has blessed you with life, so seek repentance and get busy.  Do you know your mission in life?  Your particular mission, I am not talking about our collective mission on earth, but what way you are can serve the creation with the unique gifts the Creator granted you.  If you do not know the you need to identify your mission and live it,  Are you serving your local community?  If you aren’t, this needs to change.  Do you have regular devotional practices you do to nourish your heart? If you haven’t you must start,  Do you have good company that remind you of Allah ta’ala and His messenger,Allah bless him and grant him peace?  If you do not you need to seek them out, by first of all being the kind of company you would want for yourself, this attracts like-minded people who can be your companions in the journey of life, in sha Allah.

Learning about the heart and the ego (nafs)

In order to equip yourself, you need to understand the heart and the lower-self.  So i would recommend you take a class that teaches you the true nature of these.  Marvels of the Heart and Purification of the Heart & Praiseworthy Character are two excellent options.  An excellent resource for repentance in addition to these classes is A Poor Man’s Book of Assistance, which is a CD set by Shaykh Hamza Yusuf, which goes over a book on Repentance by the Moroccan Scholar Sidi Ahmad Zarruq, who was a man who really understood the way the ego works, and his writings are so relevant even though he lived in a different era from us.

Be steadfast, have a good opinion of your Lord, equip yourself, work towards your goal and never ever give up on yourself.

May Allah ta’ala strengthen you and fill your heart with light and love of Him.

Checked & Approved by Faraz Rabbani