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Purity And Gas Issues

Answered by Ustadh Farid Dingle

Question: Gas sometimes exits my vagina and it really troubles me. Should I make wudu every time I think may have happened?

Answer: Dear questioner, Thank you for your valued and important question.

May Allah make your situation easier and give you clarity in your worship of Him.

You should only make wudu when you are absolutely certain that gas has come out of your vagina. Otherwise, you should completely ignore it.

It is normal to occasionally get a little OCD about religious practice. You should just ask a scholar about it, and ignore the thoughts.

Certainty and doubt

The Prophet (Allah bless him and give him peace) was asked about someone with uncertain sensations of passing wind in the prayer. He replied, ‘Let him not leave the prayer unless he hears something or smells something.’ (Bukhari and Muslim)

The ulema had deduced from this hadith, among countless others, a very important and useful principle: ‘Doubt shall not remove certainty.’ (al Ashbah wa al Nadhair, Suyuti) As long as you are certain about something, just ignore doubts about it.

So, if you think that you pass gas, but are not sure, you just assume that it was nothing and ignore it.

Going Overboard

In another version of the hadith above, these thoughts are actually ascribed to the Devil. (Talkhis al Habir, Ibn Hajar al Asqalani). This tells us that not only are these thoughts wrong, but they are actually sent by the very one who is trying to ruin us.

This is very useful to know because it means that just ignore them completely and go on applying Islam as we have properly learned to do so. It also tells us that our iman must be quite high because otherwise, the Devil wouldn’t occupy himself with us so much.

So we should just thank Allah for faith in Him, and for knowledge of how to apply Islam properly, and just completely ignore these thoughts.

Please also see: A Reader on Waswasa (Baseless Misgivings)

I pray this helps.

[Ustadh] Farid Dingle

Checked and Approved by Shaykh Faraz Rabbani

Ustadh Farid Dingle has completed extensive years of study in the sciences of the Arabic language and the various Islamic Sciences. During his studies he also earned a CIFE Certificate in Islamic Finance. Over the years he has developed a masterful ability to craft lessons that help non-Arabic speakers gain a deep understanding of the language. He currently teaches courses in the Arabic Language.

Doubts About Marriage

Answered by Ustadh Farid Dingle

Question: I want to marry a man and he wants to marry me. The problem is that his mother wants him to marry someone else. What can we do?

Answer: Bismillahi al-Rahman al-Rahim.

Your suitor should make a wise decision based on advice from outside his family and the guidelines of the Sacred Law. Whoever he sees fit, he should marry. His mother is not his guardian, and he has to make decisions for himself.

Obeying One’s Parents

Our moral debt to our parents, and especially our mothers is something great indeed, and seldom we do really grasp what respect, reverence, and gratitude are due to them.

Allah Most High says:

‘And We have enjoined upon man [care] for his parents. His mother carried him, [increasing her] in weakness upon weakness, and his weaning is in two years. Be grateful to Me and to your parents; to Me is the [final] destination.’ (Qur’an, 31: 14)

That said, respect and reverence, and care and financial support do not entail allowing them to ruin one’s life. The Prophet (Allah bless him and give him peace) said, ‘Let there be no harm or any harming back.’ (Malik, al-Muwatta)

So as long as there is no harm, he should obey his mother. For more detail please from the Hanafi school, please see: When May Parents Be Disobeyed, and How?

In the Shafi’i school, it would not be obligatory to obey one’s mother or father in such a request. (Bulqini, al-Fatawa)

A wise and grateful son would navigate his way through such a problem taking both positions into consideration, and being respectful, loving, and polite to his mother. But he would not marry someone he knows he cannot ever live with.

Please also see: Obeying Parents in Matters of Marriage 

Mama’s Boy

Many modern scholars of different schools of thought have warned of the over-involvement and control of parents, and particularly mothers, in their sons’ marriages. Sometimes, there is an all too close attachment between mother and son that is really not healthy. At a certain point, people have to realize that the married couple area new and independent family, and that the son is no longer a baby sitting on his mother’s lap filling her eyes with joy: he has moved on and has a life of his own.

Mothers may not take well to this realization, and it can sometimes require the son/husband to take the initiative and distance himself from his mother in order for the relationships to assume their proper mold.

Conclusion

Your husband-to-be should make his independent decision while being polite, caring, and respectful. He should also look at which of the two brides-to-be have the best character and religious practice.

I pray this helps.

[Ustadh] Farid DingleFarid

Checked and Approved by Shaykh Faraz Rabbani

Ustadh Farid Dingle has completed extensive years of study in the sciences of the Arabic language and the various Islamic Sciences. During his studies, he also earned a CIFE Certificate in Islamic Finance. Over the years he has developed a masterful ability to crafts lessons that help non-Arabic speakers gain a deep understanding of the language. He currently teaches courses in the Arabic Language.

Lost My Faith Due To Doubting About God And Holy Quran

Answered by Shaykh Abdul Rahim Reasat

Question: Recently i was reading the last verse of Surah Baqarah and started to have lot of doubts. Now i have lost my faith [iman] and i am questioning God and i absolutely hate it. I feel empty inside, feeling that i don´t have a purpose and constantly confused and crying. I feel like Allah doesn’t like me and i keep on thinking I am going to hell. Can you please advise me on what to do?

Answer: Wa ‘alaykum as-salam wa rahmatullah wa barakatuh

I pray you are well.

Turn to Allah

First and foremost, it seems to me that you are a believer who is undergoing a very difficult trial. Your dislike of the matter is proof of this. I advise you to turn to Allah and to ask for help. Say, “O Allah, I believe in You, and all you command me to believe in, in the way you want me to believe it.”

The pain of your situation must be immense, and the confusion must be making the matter worse. Affirm your faith in Allah as I mentioned and know that the doubts will not do anything to you. You question evinces the existence of true faith; otherwise, why would you feel empty?

Problems Do Not Appear From a Vacuum

The doubts and questions you have certainly did not appear out of the blue, or simply because you happened to read a verse on a given afternoon. Although your question does not give us the details of your issues – let alone the causes.

I cannot tell what they are, but generally there are causes which need to be addressed. From dealing with a number of cases on this matter, it has become clear that two issues usually play a role in scenarios like this.

The first is a lack of requisite knowledge of Islam. People grow up with a cultural understanding of God and His religion, and this understanding is occasionally used by people to manipulate others. Sometimes people do not understand the wisdom and purpose of tests. We found that in places where the masses had a healthy relationship with the ulema, such as Syria, and where the majority of people were literate in Islam; its worldview, teachings, and wisdom; in such places the the laymen were like rocks when tested.

This is what is missing from the Muslims today. The benefits of Islamic education stretch far beyond knowing the obligatory actions of wudu, and knowing how to pay you zakat. When properly in place, they allow one to see that we are all under the care and protection of Allah.

Trials of the Messenger of Allah

Feeling that Allah hates you is an indication of the second issue: trauma. But before moving on to that let us look at the beloved Messenger of Allah, Allah blessed him and give him peace. We know that Allah loved him more than anyone, and that ʿAʾisha noticed that his prayers would swiftly be answered. Does this, however, mean that he wasn’t tested with difficulty? No.

He grew up without his parents. He went from being the most respected member of Quraysh to being someone the idolaters publicly mocked and insulted daily for years on end. They threw rubbish on him. They threw entails of animals on him. Blamed him for the problems they experienced. Blamed him for families being split. Made nasty rumours about him and spraed them amongst all the tribes in the Hajj season.

His life was threatened multiple times. He was chased out of a city by slaves and children. Stoned until his clothes were bloody. His friends and close relatives were killed and mutilated before him. The list goes on and on. Perhaps the greatest trial a person can endure in this life is to watch one’s own child die. Of the seven children he had, he lived through the deaths of six of them, Allah bless him and give him peace.

Having problems doesn’t mean Allah does not like you. On the contrary, it means that He loves you (Bukhari), and that through these problems He is taking raising your rank in a way which would not have happened otherwise.

The second issue is trauma. People go through difficulties and struggle to understand what is happening. Sometimes the unresolved emotional trauma leads to developing certain symptoms which cause a lot of pain and difficulty.

Seek Help

I suggest you speak to a local scholar who has experience is helping people. Get answers to your doubts if answering them helps. If it just brings more doubts then don’t try to answer them.

Seek out some form of therapy which is helpful, and, if Allah wills, the doubts will disappear and their oppressive persistence will lost its power over you.

If you keep in mind that Allah loves you, and that He will always bring about that is best for you – that is what you will find. “I am as my servant thinks me to be – and I am with him when he remembers me.” (Bukhari). Disregard the doubts, disregard the thoughts; turn to Allah, and ask. You’ll find that He responds – even if it takes some time to manifest. And you’ll find He was with you all along.

May Allah bring the best end to your difficulties in the shortest time. Amin.

[Shaykh] Abdul-Rahim Reasat

Checked and Approved by Shaykh Faraz Rabbani

Shaykh Abdul Rahim Reasat began his studies in Arabic Grammar and Morphology in 2005. He moved to Damascus in 2007 to study and sit at the feet of some of the most erudite scholars of our time, such as Shaykh Adnan Darwish, Shaykh Abdurrahman Arjan, Shaykh Hussain Darwish and Shaykh Muhammad Darwish. In late 2008 he moved to Amman, Jordan, where he continued his studies in Fiqh, Usul al Fiqh, Theology, Hadith Methodology and Commentary, Shama’il, and Logic with teachers such as Dr Ashraf Muneeb, Dr Salah Abu’l Hajj, Dr Hamza al-Bakri, Shaykh Ahmad Hasanat, Dr Mansur Abu Zina amongst others. He was also given two licences of mastery in the science of Qur’anic recital by Shakh Samir Jabr and Shaykh Yahya Qandil. In the presence of Shaykh Ali Hani, he was able to study an extensive curriculum of Qur’anic Sciences, Tafsir, Arabic Grammar, and Rhetoric.

How to Deal with Doubts About the Intention in Wudu? (Shafi’i)

Answered by Shaykh Jamir Meah

Question: Assalamu alaykum

When I make wudu, I have the intention of making the whole wudu (sunnan and fard aspects) in mind without necessarily utter the itention. Then before I wash my hands as a sunnah I say the basmalla or during washing the hands. But then before or during washing my face I don´t say anything.

Does it suffice that I say the basmalla before or during making the sunnah of washing the hands and that I know that I doing the fard after washing the hands and rinsing mouth and nose?

Answer: Wa’alaykum assalam, thank you for your question.

The Basmalah

It is a sunna to say the Basmalah at the beginning of wudu, but not obligatory. The minimal is to say ‘Bismillah’, while the optimal is to say ‘Bismillah al Rahman al Rahim’.

One says the Basmalah when starting wudu, so if one is starts with the sunna act of washing the hands, then one says it then, or if starting with the integral of washing the face, then one first says the Basmalah and then makes the intention of wudu while simultaneously beginning to wash the face.

If one does not say the Basmalah at the beginning of wudu, they can say it anytime during the wudu. When one says it during wudu, one may say, بِسْمِ اللهِ فِي أَوَّلِهِ وَآخِرِهِ, meaning, ‘In the name of Allah in its beginning and end.’

Intention in the Shafi’i school

Intentions are obligatory to intend in the heart and sunna to say with the tongue. Typical forms of the intention for someone in a state of minor ritual impurity are:

I intend to lift minor ritual impurity
I intend obligatory wudu
I intend purification for prayer

One of the general conditions of intentions is that it’s time occurs simultaneously with the act. In wudu, the intention is made simultaneously with the first obligatory act of wudu, which is washing the face.

If one ‘knows’ in their mind that they are making obligatory wudu, or lifting minor ritual impurity at the point of washing the face, then the intention is valid.

However, if one intended at the point of washing the face simply ‘I intend a fard act of wudu’ or one simply ‘knows’ one is doing a fard act, then according to our school this would not be a valid intention and therefore, the wudu and any acts performed with it would not be valid. Unfortunately, this seems to be the case in the situation you have described.

[Hashiyat al Bajuri, Bushra al Karim]

Waswasa

There is a fine line between not practicing correctly and suffering from waswasa. If this is a recurring theme and you are constantly having doubts about intentions, then you may be suffering from waswasa. If this is the case, then ignore the doubts and try your best to move on and not dwell on whether your intentions are valid or not. Please also refer to this article:

A Reader on Waswasa (Baseless Misgivings)

Taking an opinion outside of the school

If you are convinced that your wudu and worship have not been valid, and it will be too difficult for you to make up those prayers, then you can take the opinion of the Hanafi school that intention is not obligatory to make for wudu and ghusl. [Quduri]

If you are suffering from waswasa, then take this valid opinion from the Hanafi school, as it will put a stop to it insha’Allah. However, please do check with a Hanafi scholar in regards the integrals of wudu in their school.

Training yourself to make the intention

In the meantime, train yourself to make the intention according to our school. You may do this by writing and sticking a note on the door or place where you make wudu to remind you, or by going very slowly when making the first steps of wudu, until it becomes second nature.

Warmest salams,
[Shaykh] Jamir Meah

Shaykh Jamir Meah grew up in Hampstead, London. In 2007, he traveled to Tarim, Yemen, where he spent nine years studying the Islamic sciences on a one-to-one basis under the foremost scholars of the Ribaat, Tarim, with a main specialization and focus on Shafi’i fiqh. In early 2016, he moved to Amman, Jordan, where he continues advanced studies in a range of Islamic sciences, as well as teaching. Jamir is a qualified homeopath.

Can I Eat Questionable Meat at a Muslim’s House?

Answered by Shaykh Jamir Meah

Question: Assalamu alaykum

I was invited for iftar at a Muslim family’s house. I know they eat unlawful meat when they go out to eat (fast food etc), but I don’t know if the meat they use at home is lawful or not. I don’t want to ask them where the meat is from because they will be offended. What should I do?

Answer: Assalam ‘alaykum. Jazakum Allah khayr for your question.

Generally speaking, if one does not have any doubts about another Muslim’s practice and has no reason to believe that the meat they buy is unlawful, then it is permissible to eat their meat.

However, if one is in doubt about the above, then it would be disliked to eat the meat, and precaution entails to avoid it. The more likely it is that their meat is not lawful, the more severe the dislike.

Eating meat at an invite

If the family is not particular about the meat they consume, and especially given the issues within the halal meat industry, then there is a good chance that the meat they buy for home is not halal either. As such, you should avoid eating the meat at their house until you are confident that the food is lawful.

To avoid awkward situations, you could do one of the following:

1. Tell them beforehand, or in general conversation before they even invite you, that you have generally stopped eating any meat unless from certified halal regulating bodies or specific brands. This way they won’t feel it is particular to them, and will know you apply it to your own home and eating out.

2. Tell them beforehand that fish and/or vegetables are a good substitute for you.

3. Simply explain that you are trying to be more careful of the meat you eat, and ask them where they buy their meat. If they get offended, then unfortunately there is nothing you can do about it, and hopefully they’ll get over it. A temporary fall out would be better than eating doubtful foods regularly. It may also make them think twice about their own food choices. If offense is taken, avoid argumentation, and invite them over to your house soon after and pretend as if nothing has happened.

May Allah makes things easy for you and grant you every good.

Warmest salams,
[Shaykh] Jamir Meah

Shaykh Jamir Meah grew up in Hampstead, London. In 2007, he traveled to Tarim, Yemen, where he spent nine years studying the Islamic sciences on a one-to-one basis under the foremost scholars of the Ribaat, Tarim, with a main specialization and focus on Shafi’i fiqh. In early 2016, he moved to Amman, Jordan, where he continues advanced studies in a range of Islamic sciences, as well as teaching. Jamir is a qualified homeopath.

What Should I Do When in Doubt Regarding the Number of Prostrations?

Answered by Ustadh Tabraze Azam

Question: Assalam alaykum

Today, I was doing the prostrations of forgetfulness, and forgot how many times I had bowed down. I ignored the doubts, and ended the prayer. Was I correct?

Also, I have been told one should pause for 1-2 seconds after every action, otherwise, the prostrations of forgetfulness is mandatory. Is this correct?

Answer: Wa alaikum assalam wa rahmatullah,

No, you don’t need to repeat the prostrations of forgetfulness (sajda al-sahw) if you forget the number of prostrations you performed in it.

The basis is that you need to remain motionless for a moment within all actions of the prayer. This is very straightforward and you need not count seconds and the like. Moreover, this only practically applies to the rising from the bowing and the prostration as they are the only two places in which there is no sunna supplication.

In any case, you are doing the right thing by ignoring the doubts in your prayer. Ask Allah Most High for success, facilitation and right guidance.

[Shurunbulali, Maraqi al-Falah, with Tahtawi’s Gloss]

Please also see: A Reader on Waswasa (Baseless Misgivings) and: Can the Forgetfulness Prostration Be Done in Every Prayer Just to Be Sure it is Valid?

And Allah Most High alone knows best.

wassalam,
[Ustadh] Tabraze Azam

Checked and Approved by Shaykh Faraz Rabbani

Ustadh Tabraze Azam holds a BSc in Computer Science from the University of Leicester, where he also served as the President of the Islamic Society. He memorised the entire Qur’an in his hometown of Ipswich at the tender age of sixteen, and has since studied the Islamic Sciences in traditional settings in the UK, Jordan and Turkey. He is currently pursuing advanced studies in Jordan, where he is presently based with his family.

Is It Acceptable to Wear Clothes With Allah’s Name on It?

Answered by Ustadh Salman Younas

Question: I am a football player. I would love to see my name “Habibullah” written on my jersey.

1. Is it acceptable for me to wear my jersey into the toilet since it has Allah’s name on it?

2. Will I be responsible if others who buys my jersey wear it into the toilet?

Answer: Assalamu alaykum

1. The basic rule is that it would be disliked to enter the toilet, which is defined here specifically as the area where one relieves himself, while wearing something with the name “Allah” or a Qur’anic verse and the like.

This dislikedness is lifted though when one covers the name or verse before entering the toilet. Yet, even here it would be best to avoid entering with such names/verses if reasonably possible.

2. You will not be responsible and such a possibility does not render it impermissible for you to put your full name on a jersey but what you mention is certainly something to keep in mind as any Muslim would not wish to see the name of Allah disrespected.

You can always, for example, choose to simply have the name “Habib” on your jersey as opposed to “Habib Allah.”

[Ibn Nujaym, Bahr al-Ra’iq (1:256); Ibn Abidin, Hashiya (6:361); Ibn Qudama, al-Mughni (1:109)]

[Ustadh] Salman Younas

Checked and approved by Shaykh Faraz Rabbani

Ustadh Salman Younas   graduated from Stony Brook University with a degree in Political Science and Religious Studies. After studying the Islamic sciences online and with local scholars in New York, Ustadh Salman moved to Amman where he spent five years studying Islamic law, legal methodology, belief, hadith methodology, logic, Arabic, and tafsir. He is currently a PhD candidate at the University of Oxford and continues his traditional studies with scholars in the United Kingdom.

How Do I Overcome Doubts About My Religious Practice and Past Sins?

Answered by Shaykh Jamir Meah

Question: Assalamu alaykum

If a muslim does not fulfill the five pillars of Islam, does his practice just becomes vain?

I never ever gave zakat, I pray sometimes and never completed a Ramadan. I have done so much sins that I doubt about deserving Allah’s forgiveness.

Answer: Assalam ‘alaykum. Thank you for your question. May Allah reward you for courageously overcoming the life challenges you have been facing and striving towards the religion. That takes a lot of sincerity and determination.

The 5 Pillars

While the 5 Pillars of Islam are the cornerstones of the religion, each pillar is still an individual pillar and act of worship. Therefore, neglect of one pillar of the religion does not vitiate the validity or reward of performing another pillar.

What it does mean however, is that that the person’s overall religious practice is wanting and needs to be worked on. As the Prophet ﷺ said, ‘The strong believer is more beloved to Allah than the weak believer, but there is goodness in both of them.’ [Sahih Muslim]

Have no doubt in your mind that Allah Most High knows everything about the journey that you have been through and are still on. Allah loves those who make mistakes and yet continuously comes back to Him, just so He can forgive them.

The Prophet ﷺ said, ‘Were you not to commit sins, Allah would replace you with a people who would commit sins and then seek forgiveness from Allah; and Allah would forgive them.’ [Sahih Muslim]

And Allah Most High says, ‘And despair not of Allah’s Mercy; surely none despairs of Allah’s Mercy except the unbelieving people.’ [12:87].

Therefore, there is no one or no sin that Allah will not forgive if the person repents with sincerity. Do not think you are beyond forgiveness, for Allah’s Mercy, Gentle Kindness, and Compassionate Love is greater and vaster than we can fathom.

Take refuge in Him, and seek out His Love and Protection by slowly but steadily performing the basics of the religion.

Practical Steps

– Pray the Prayer of Repentance (Tawba) for any sins and make sincere du’a to Allah to forgive you, and resolve to not return to them. Once done, do not look back, nor carry on praying Tawba for the same sins. Rather, considerate it finished and move on.

– Read Qu’ran a little bit each day, even with an English translation alongside if need be.

– Keep good company and avoid any company that have a negative influence on you.

– If you are not working, try to get steady and regular employment.

– Seek out recreational outlets such as sports, art, or anything else that interests you.

– Consider doing some occasional community work, whether it’s with other people, animals, or environmental. Helping others and caring for the community and environment has tremendous therapeutic effects, and on many levels.

– Consider taking some basic courses in Islamic studies. If there are local classes or a teacher available this would be best. However, if not, then consider taking one of our free, beginners online courses, found here.

You may also find the following answers helpful:

Struggling to Maintain Faith and Practice
Why Does Islam Seem So Difficult to Follow?
Overwhelmed by Guilt?

I wish you success in your affairs. May Allah increase you in faith and in every good.

Warmest salams,
[Shaykh] Jamir Meah

Shaykh Jamir Meah grew up in Hampstead, London. In 2007, he traveled to Tarim, Yemen, where he spent nine years studying the Islamic sciences on a one-to-one basis under the foremost scholars of the Ribaat, Tarim, with a main specialization and focus on Shafi’i fiqh. In early 2016, he moved to Amman, Jordan, where he continues advanced studies in a range of Islamic sciences, as well as teaching. Jamir is a qualified homeopath.

How To Handle Doubts About Islam And Being Muslim? (Video)

Answered by Shaykh Faraz Rabbani

Question: Assalamu alaykum

How to handle doubts about Islam and being muslim?

Answer:  Wa’leykum Salam,

Here is a video answer by Shaykh Faraz Rabbani to this question:

Shaykh Faraz Rabbani is a scholar and researcher of Islamic law and Executive Director of SeekersHub Global After ten years overseas, Shaykh Faraz returned to Canada in the Summer of 2007. In May 2008 he founded SeekersHub Global to deal with the urgent need to spread Islamic knowledge—both online and on the ground—in a reliable, relevant, inspiring, and accessible manner. He has been repeatedly listed as one of the world’s 500 most influential Muslims (The Muslim500).

I Have So Many Doubts That I Am Afraid to Loose My Faith. What Can I Do?

Answered by Ustadh Tabraze Azam

Question: Assalam alaykum

I have some many doubts that I am afraid to loose my faith. What can I do?

Answer: Assalamu alaikum wa rahmatullah,

You are a Muslim, and the thoughts you are experiencing are mere doubts which do not affect your faith, nor are you responsible for them. Please seek out some religious company, and gatherings of knowledge or remembrance.

Please also see: What is the Ruling For Someone Who Has Thoughts of Disbelief Without Saying Them Aloud?

And Allah Most High alone grants facilitation and success.

wassalam,
[Ustadh] Tabraze Azam

Checked and Approved by Shaykh Faraz Rabbani

Ustadh Tabraze Azam was born and raised in Ipswich, England, a quiet town close to the east coast of England. His journey for seeking sacred knowledge began when he privately memorized the entire Qur’an in his hometown at the age of 16. He also had his first experience in leading the tarawih (nightly-Ramadan) prayers at his local mosque. Year after year he would continue this unique return to reciting the entire Quran in one blessed month both in his homeland, the UK, and also in the blessed lands of Shaam, where he now lives, studies and teaches.