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How Can I Help Non-Practising Family and Friends?

Answered by Ustadha Raidah Shah Idil Question: Assalamu alaykum, I have friends who I’ve known for almost a decade, who don’t practice unfortunately. I try my best to drag them to Islamic events, talk to them about Islam. This is the same case with my siblings.I try my hardest, but there’s only so much I […]

In-Laws Leaving Me No Privacy: What is the Proper Response?

Answered by Ustadha Raidah Shah Idil Question:Aslaamu’alaikum, I have been happily married to my husband for 2 years now but the fact that we live next to my in-laws makes things really difficult. My brothers in law enter my house whenever they want leaving me no privacy and my mother in law is extremly cold […]

Should the Decision for Marriage Be Taken Only Considering Somebody’s Caste?

Answered by Ustadh Tabraze Azam Question: Assalamualikum. My parents are searching rishta for me, we like a family but the problem is that we belong to sheikh family and they belong to Ansari. We like the family but the only problem is their caste and my mother is not at all ready for this alliance. […]

How Can I Be a Dutiful Son While Maintaining Independence from Controlling Parents?

Answered by Ustadha Jameela Jafri Question: I wish to be a good son and fulfill my responsibilities. However I feel overwhelmed by my parents approach towards me. I feel I cannot be independent and live my own life and that my parents expect too much from me. How can I be a good son yet […]

Should I Cut Off Relations With Family Who Fed Me Haram Food?

Answered by Ustadha Zaynab Ansari Question: Asalamualaykum, My father fed me food which was haram. I only found out once I saw the take out box.  While I was eating it I felt strange but I disregarded the feeling as he is obviously my father. Once I found out the food was haram I walked […]

Do I Have to Live With My Parents If I’m Not Married?

Answered by Ustadha Zaynab Ansari Question: I’m a divorced professional sister. I moved back home after my divorce. My father has been abusive to my family since I was a child.  I have a good job, so I give him thousands of dollars for many things. I have had enough I want to give up. […]

Dealing With a Dysfunctional Relationship With Parents

Answered by Ustadha Zaynab Ansari Question: Assalamu alaykum, I am a Muslim female in my 20s. I live alone away from my mother.  I, for most of my life, have spoken to my mother everyday. As I have grown older, however, I have found it to be difficult to speak with my mother everyday, as […]

Hoarding and Giving Away Others’ Possessions

Answered by Sidi Wasim Shiliwala Question: If someone in your family has the habit of holding on to things (i.e. hoarding), is it permissible to dispose/donate their things without their permission? Answer: Walaikum As-salaam wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuhu, May Allah reward you for your concern regarding your relative. However, disposing of or donating others’ property […]

Keeping Good News From Parents Due to Abuse and Disrespect

Answered by Ustadh Abdullah Anik Misra Question: I recently passed my degree and I had told everyone except my parents because of how they’ve treated me and my wife.  My mother disrespects my wife and my father threatens to hit me.  Due to this, I did not tell them, but another family member did.  Have […]

Do I Have to Marry Someone Within My Caste to Please My Family?

Answered by Ustadh Tabraze Azam Question: Asalaamu alaikum I have a problem regarding marriage. I am in my early twenties and my family wants me to get married soon.  There are a number of families asking for my hand in marriage through my parents, but  I personally do not know any of them. I’m being pressured […]