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I Lied to My Family About Law School, What Should I Do?

Answered by Shaykh Jamir Meah

Question: Assalamu alaykum

I grew up with plans of going to law school but after I finished my undergrad, I didn’t end up applying for a law program. Fearing my family’s reaction, I lied to them by telling that I passed the LSAT, and was admitted into a law program. I am currently studying for the LSAT and plan on attending law school this winter.

They gave me gifts for this false success.

What should I do with them?

Answer: Wa’alaykum assalam. Thank you for writing in. May Allah make your affairs easy.

Your predicament is certainly a delicate one. Given all that has been said, the solution seems to be a case of choosing between two evils; telling the truth and risking serious mistrust and bad feelings from close family members, or continuing to leave the family in ignorance and then fulfilling the lie by completing your studies. Although not ideal, considering your limited options and the negative repercussions, it may be best in this situation to not say anything and finish the LSAT and law course. thereby keeping the ties of kinship close and harmonious.

Lying and Repentance

A’isha (may Allah be pleased with her) said, ‘There was no behaviour more hated to the Messenger of Allah than lying. A man would lie in narrating something in the presence of the Prophet, and he would not be content until he knew that he had repented.’ [al Tirmidhi]

Lying has many consequences, one of them is destroying the trust of others. Take this situation as a lesson to be learnt from. You mentioned you have prayed tawba (this means praying two cycles of the prayer of repentance in this case). If you can, give some charity as further way of atonement.

In a normal situation, the advice would be to tell the family the truth. However, this will cause a lot of disappointment, possibly anger, and most likely mistrust between you and them, as well as break your grandmother’s heart. Therefore, finish your course as soon as you can and finish it with excellence. At least this way, the lie will cease and no long term harm will be done to the family relationships.

Gifts

Again, the normal recourse would have been to return these gifts, as their offering was based on a lie. However, to avoid repercussions and family discord, it may best to not return them directly. I would highly recommend buying generous gifts for those people who gifted you those presents with that money or if this is not possible, then give in charity on behalf of the people who gave you the gifts.

In regards your grandmother’s necklace, whose sentimental value is invaluable, finish the law course as soon as possible, thereby deserving the gift for the same reason it was given to you in the first place.

And Allah knows best.

Warmest salams,
[Shaykh] Jamir Meah

Shaykh Jamir Meah grew up in Hampstead, London. In 2007, he traveled to Tarim, Yemen, where he spent nine years studying the Islamic sciences on a one-to-one basis under the foremost scholars of the Ribaat, Tarim, with a main specialization and focus on Shafi’i fiqh. In early 2016, he moved to Amman, Jordan, where he continues advanced studies in a range of Islamic sciences, as well as teaching. Jamir is a qualified homeopath.

Could You Give Me a Supplication to Increase My Chances of Entering a Nursing Program?

Answered by Ustadh Tabraze Azam

Question: As salam alaykum,

It has been two years since I started trying to get onto a nursing program, but to no avail. Is there a prayer or dua for increasing my chances of getting in?

Answer: Assalamu alaikum wa rahmatullah,

May Allah Most High facilitate your affairs. Consider praying the Prayer of Need (salat al-hajah) too: How Does One Perform The Prayer Of Need (salat al-haja)?

And please see the following resources:

Struggling to Have Children: Ten Key Etiquettes of Du’a

Some Prophetic Supplications for Difficulty and Distress

Why Doesn’t Allah Answer My Supplications?

A Reader on Patience and Reliance on Allah

And Allah alone gives success.

wassalam,

Tabraze Azam

Checked & Approved by Shaykh Faraz Rabbani

Photo: Wayne MacPhail

Is It Permissible for My Mother to Finance My Studies Through Her Zakat?

Answered by Ustadh Tabraze Azam

Question: Assalam ‘aleykum.

Is it permissible for my mother to finance my studies through her Zakat?

Answer: Wa alaikum assalam wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh,

I pray that this message finds you well, insha’Allah.

The basis in the Hanafi school is that a person cannot give their zakat funds to their parents or children because the benefits between them are normally shared. [Ibn `Abidin, Radd al-Muhtar]

However, there is a dispensation in the Maliki school which allows for your scenario. it would be permitted to follow it, but on condition you do so taking into account all conditions of validity and soundness which you can confirm with your local Maliki scholar.

Please also see: Zakat: How to Calculate & Whom to Give and: Is Your Zakat Due? – A Reader and Resources on Giving Zakat and: Why Is Mixing Between Madhabs (Talfiq) Impermissible When The Earlier Generations Seem To Have Done It?

And Allah alone knows best.

Wassalam,

Tabraze Azam

Checked & Approved by Shaykh Faraz Rabbani

Is It Permissible for a Woman to Pursue Her Studies in a Foreign Country Without a Mahram?

Answered by SeekersHub Answers Service

Question: Assalam Alaikum,

Does the Hanafi school deem permissible for a woman to pursue higher education in a foreign country without a mahram?

Answer: Wa alaikum assalam wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh,

I pray that you are in the best of health and faith, insha’Allah.

According to the Maliki school, a woman may travel by herself without a mahram as long as the trip is not longer than 24 hours.

Please see: Can a Women Travel Alone for Islamic Educational Purposes? [Maliki School]

It is permitted to take a dispensation from another school in the presence of a need or benefit.

Please see: Do I Have to Follow Every Single Ruling of My School of Thought?

And Allah alone gives success.

wassalam,

SeekersHub Answers Service

Checked & Approved by Shaykh Faraz Rabbani

Is the Hostel Life Foreign to the Sunna?

Answered by Ustadh Tabraze Azam

Question: As salam alaykum,

I read somewhere in an article on this site that the concept of a hostel life in not from the Sunnah. Is this correct?
I am planning to send my daughter for her undergraduate studies overseas where she will have to live in a hostel, and I am very keen to have a clarification on the above.

Answer: Wa alaikum assalam wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh,

I pray that this message finds you well, insha’Allah.

I’m not sure which article you are referring to, but in and of itself, it would be permitted for your daughter to stay in a safe and dignified place.

As for communal living, we have the practice of the People of the Lodge (suffa) where some of the poverty-stricken believers would stay, and the Messenger of Allah (Allah bless him and give him peace) did not admonish them for it.

Abu Huraira (may Allah be pleased with him) said, “I saw seventy of the people of the Suffa and not a man among them had a cloak. They either had a waist wrapper or a sheet (kisa’) which they tied round their necks, some reaching to the middle of their legs and some reaching to the ankles. They would gather them in their hands, not wanting their private parts to be seen.” [Bukhari]

And Allah alone knows best.

wassalam,

Tabraze Azam

Checked & Approved by Shaykh Faraz Rabbani

Should I Keep Studying Fiqh With a Teacher Who Doesn’t Follow One Single School of Law?

Answered by Shaykh Shuaib Ally

Question: Assalam alaykum,

I really like my teacher who is a learned person who has studied in Al Azhar but in teaching Fiqh he sometimes mix the opinions of different schools. Should I continue to study with him even if he doesn’t follow one school?

Answer: Wa alaikum assalam wa rahmatullah,

Studying with a Teacher who does not follow a Single School of Law

It is better to stick with a teacher one trusts, even if this teacher does not necessarily follow a single school of thought in all legal issues. Normally, a layperson would simply do this, as they likely would not have the tools (or time) to adequately assess this teacher’s rationale for choosing an opinion.

Choosing Opinions from without one’s Chosen School

It is, generally speaking, permissible to prefer non-authoritative positions from within one’s own school, or valid positions based on sound scholarship from other schools.
A scholar might do so for any number of academic or personal reasons. He might feel, for example, that another opinion more closely accords to modern or situational circumstances; or that it is truer to the available evidence; or that another’s legal methodology on a certain matter is sounder. Alternatively, he might simply find it easier to implement.

Studying one School before Delving into Others

A student of knowledge would normally seek grounding in one school of thought before branching out into others. This prevents one from getting confused between schools and conflicting opinions, and allows one to reasonably ensure that their practice is logically sound and internally consistent. It is not uncommon, however, for a person to come across other opinions during one’s course of study, and it is not, generally speaking, blameworthy to follow them.

Shuaib Ally

What is Required in Order to Become a Teacher in Islam?

Answered by Ustadh Tabraze Azam
Question: Assalaamu ‘alaykum
What does it take to be an Ustadh? I am interested in teaching Islamic classes one day inshallah.
Answer: Assalamu alaikum wa rahmatullah,
I pray this finds you in the best of health and faith, insha’Allah.
Titles are irrelevant. What matters is ​gaining ​mastery over the material, taking it with complete understanding, and then passing it on as you received it​, with sincerity, humility, proper manners, and gratitude. ​
Knowledge is a light and sustenance granted by Allah​, and its primary purpose is to fix your relationship with your Creator.
​​The true scholar knows that the next life is better, weightier, and of far greater importance than this life. ​​The one who truly knows is the person who acts according to his knowledge.
Ghazali said, “the reality of deep understanding is what falls upon the heart, then manifests upon the tongue, which leads to action bequeathing awe (khashya) and Godfearingness (taqwa).”
As such, make Allah your point, begin with the knowledge which is personally obligatory (fard `ayn) upon you to know, and build from there, seeking counsel and guidance from living heirs of the Holy Prophet (Allah bless him and give him peace).
The Messenger of Allah (Allah bless him and give him peace) said, “Allah does not look at your forms and wealth, rather He looks at your hearts and actions.” [Muslim]
Allah looks to hearts to see what is in them of certainty, genuineness, sincerity, and all praiseworthy traits.
And Ibn `Ata’illah al-Iskandari, one of the masters of the inward sciences, wrote, “Knowledge, if coupled with reverential awe, is for you; otherwise it is against you.” ​
Please see: Can I Become a Scholar By Studying With SeekersGuidance? and: Advice Regarding Being a Student of Knowledge and Taking Notes
And Allah alone gives success.
wassalam,
Tabraze Azam
Checked & Approved by Shaykh Faraz Rabbani.