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My Mother Rejects Suitors Even Before I Meet Them. What Do I Do?

Answered by Ustadha Raidah Shah Idil Question: Assalam aleykum, If a marriage proposal comes from someone out of state, my mom automatically rejects it. I’ve never even had the opportunity to sit down with a single person that has asked for my hand. I won’t even find out a person has asked until days if […]

My Family Members Financially Exploit Me. Do I Need to Get Married to Improve My Circumstances?

Answered by Ustadha Raidah Shah Idil Question: Assalam aleykum, My father passed away recently. Lately, I feel so frustrated because I think I need someone to make me feel I am special, someone who will help me with my business, and someone who will marry me, to be my mahram. I feel this because I […]

My Friend’s Mother Pushes Him to Get Married to Her Niece. What Should He Do?

Answered by Ustadha Raidah Shah Idil Question: Assalam aleykum, My friend is in love with a young woman and wants to marry her. Unfortunately, against his wishes, his mother has arranged a marriage to his cousin. His mother said that if he is a good son who wants her duas, then he must obey her. […]

My Mother Refuses to Let Me Marry Until I Buy Her a House. What Do I Do?

Answered by Ustadha Raidah Shah Idil Question: Assalam aleykum, My mother made it very clear that I am not allowed to marry until I buy her a house. This distresses me deeply. I feel so terrible, have moved out of home, and have fallen into the sin of pornography. My mother has also threatened to […]

My Mother Abuses Her Children. What Do I Do?

Answered by Ustadha Raidah Shah Idil Question: Assalam aleykum, My mother yells at everyone around her. Everyone just agrees with what she says to avoid conflicts. She treats all of my siblings badly, except for my youngest who is allowed to insult us. I fear being a mum if it means hurting my children the […]