My Husband and I Argue a Lot in Front of Our Small Daughter and It Scares Her. What Should I Do?

Answered by Ustadha Raidah Shah Idil Question: My husband and I argue a lot in front of our 3 year old daughter. She often gets scared seeing this. Many times my husband has called me names or told me to shut up in front of her. I am very worried about the impact this will […]

I Regret Leaving My Well-Paid Job to Raise My Small Children. What Do I Do?

Answered by Ustadha Raidah Shah Idil Question: I regret leaving my well-paid job to stay home to raise my small children, and I am angry at my husband for encouraging my decision. I don’t like depending on him to provide for me. I don’t always agree with his decisions and as he brings the money […]

How Do I Get Rid of Intense Hate Towards Someone in My Workplace?

Answered by Ustadha Raidah Shah Idil Question: I work in proximity to an individual who is very selfish and spreads toxicity. He insists on micromanaging our work simply because of his prestige in the community. I am consumed by anger and hatred. How can I deal with this? Answer: Assalamualaykum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh, I […]

Does a Marriage without Repentance Count?

Answered by Shaykh Shuaib Ally Question: I have commited fornication with a girl. We didn’t repent from it and we married in front of a islamic with witnesses but no guardians. I have divorced her three times after that. Can I marry her again due to the fact that our first marriage was without guardians […]

Am I Still Married Despite My Wife Claiming That I Have Divorced Her?

Answered by Ustadha Raidah Shah Idil Question: I have separated from my wife for over a year after I walked out on her after an argument. We have recently started talking on the phone and she forgave me, but does not want to continue our marriage. I am not sure if we are still married. […]

How Do I Deal With Anger?

“Treatment for Anger” by Moulana Hakeem Muhammed Akhtar Sahib Dâmat Barakâtuhum Question: Assalam’aleykum, I have an uncontrollable anger. When I get angry, I get mad. I lose total control. As if Shaytan lives in me. I hit things, and go totally crazy. What do I do? Answer: Walaikum assalam, The way and guidance of our […]

Is Anger Sinful?

Answered by Shaykh Faraz Rabbani Question: Is Anger Sinful? Answer:In the Name of Allah, Most Merciful and Compassionate May Allah’s peace and blessings be upon His Messenger Muhammad, his folk, companions, and followers Assalamu alaikum wa rahmatullah, The Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) said repeatedly to the one who asked him […]

I Can’t Stop Misbehaving With my Mother. What Can I Do?

Answered by Ustadha Raidah Shah Idil Question: I have never been close to my mother.I always thought she is not good. She hurts my feelings and if she hits me I would hit her back.But now I have come to realize how bad it is to misbehave with my mother. I want to be a […]

Explanation of Hadith Regarding How the Prophet Restrained His Anger

Answered by Ustadh Tabraze Azam Question: I read this in the book ‘My Master Muhammad’ (Sal Allahu alaih) in Volume 2 under the section concerning his great fear of Allah. I think because the way it has been translated and due to the lack of context, this hadith comes across has very harsh and I […]

A Reader on Anger Management and Good Character

  Anger Management A Little Fiqh on Controlling One’s Anger Is Anger Sinful? How Do I Deal With Anger? Interview with Habib Ali – Anger, Restraint, Wisdom and the Prophetic Message in Our Times Habib Ali al-Jifri – Lessons on Anger, Forbearance, and Disciplining the Soul Through Prophetic Wisdom – from the RIS Knowledge Retreat […]