Is Asking for Twins Being Ungrateful?

Answered by Shaykh Shuaib Ally

Question: As salam alaykum,

I really want to fall pregnant to twins. There is medication to help increase eggs for a female to increase the chances of falling pregnant to twins. I want to find out if it is permissible to ask for such a thing from Allah. Is it selfish? Am I playing with fate?

Answer:Assalamu ‘alaykum,

I pray that you are well.

It is permissible, and recommended, to ask Allah for any good thing in this life and the next. The Qur’an speaks highly of those who pray, ‘Our Lord, give us good in this world and in the Hereafter, and protect us from the torment of the Fire’ [Qur’an; 2.201].
Supplicating to God for the good things of this world, such as children, is not considered selfish, or playing with fate. Believers are recommended in the Qur’an to pray, ‘Our Lord, give us joy in our spouses and offspring’ [Qur’an; 25.74].

Moreover, one of our role models, the Prophet Zakariyya – may God shower him with peace – is quoted in the Qur’an as praying for offspring, saying, ‘My Lord, do not leave me childless, though You are the best of heirs’ [Qur’an; 21.89].

Using such pills, if considered medically safe, is permissible.

Please see these related resources:

Infertility: Why does Allah Not Bless Some With Children?

Struggling to Have Children: Ten Key Etiquettes of Du’a

May Allah facilitate for you all good.

Shuaib Ally

Photo: Jeremy Miles

Is There Such A Thing as Islamic Fatalism?

A lot of people get confused between the idea of relying on God and taking the means. Sometimes, this can even lead to “Islamic fatalism,” and a sense of “if Allah knows everything, why should I do anything?”

Islamic Fatalism?

“You don’t know where your life will end, but you do know that it will end somewhere.”

In this clip, Shaykh Walead Mosaad explains how misunderstanding the Divine Decree can lead to a sense of desperation, while a true perspective will lead to liberation.

Cover photo by Tina Lapointe.

Resources for Seekers

What’s the Point in Supplicating?

Answered by Ustadh Tabraze Azam
Question: Assalaamu alaikum,
I understand the importance of praying for those who are in need, in tumultuous or oppressive situations, but lately I’ve been thinking about what exact purpose our supplications serve. How can we make du’a for others so that it is not in vain, especially in situations when all we can do is pray?
Answer: Wa alaikum assalam wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh,
I pray that you are in the best of health and faith, insha’Allah.
The best thing that one can do is to work on your relationship with Allah, avoid the unlawful (haram), and strive to fill your life with worship. The greater the taqwa, the greater the baraka, and the greater the success in lifting the harm affecting the community (umma) of believers.
We are responsible for our responses. The believer hates oppression and does what is in his capacity to lift it– if that entails supplication, in his current state, then he rushes to the good in sincere faith and in wishing for others what he wishes for himself.
What’s the Point in Supplicating?
Firstly, supplications can change relative destiny (al-qadar al-mu`allaq) in a manner that is of great benefit to the oppressed, as well as the entire Muslim community. [see:Can Supplication Change Destiny?]
Secondly, it is established from the Holy Prophet (Allah bless him and give him peace) that he prayed for the believers, specifically when distressful events occurred; an example being the occasion of the martyrdom of tens of reciters (qurra’) of the Qur’an in which he prayed against the killers for a month.
Thirdly, it is also an opportunity to increase in gratitude (shukr) for the blessings that one enjoys, and a reminder of the temporal and fleeting nature of this life.
Supplication as an Expression of Sincere Concern
Supplication is a sign of the genuineness of one’s concern for other believers. If we put ourselves in the shoes of the oppressed for a moment, wouldn’t we wish for other believers to be praying for us?
An-Nu’man ibn Bashir reported that the Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, said, “Supplication is worship itself.” [Abu Dawud and at-Tirmidhi]
Abu Ruqayya Tamim ibn Aws ad-Dari reported the Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, said, “The deen is good counsel.” We said, “For whom?” He said, “For Allah, His Book, His Messenger, the Imams of the Muslims and their common people.”
Striving to remove harm, in whatever manner is possible, is from wishing well and from sincere concern for one’s fellow believers.
The Supplication for Another is his Absence
Abu’d-Darda’ reported that the Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, used to say, “A supplication which a Muslim man makes secretly for his brother is answered. At his head is a guardian angel. Whenever he makes supplication for good for his brother, the angel who guards him says, ‘Amen, and for you the same.'” [Muslim]
The commentator, Ibn `Allan, quotes from Nawawi saying, “If he prays for a group of Muslims, he gets the virtue mentioned in the tradition (hadith), and likewise if he prays for the entire community (umma) of Muslims.” [Ibn `Allan, Dalil al-Falihin]
Abu Umama said, “The Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, was asked, ‘What supplication is the most likely to be heard?’ He said, ‘That in the last part of the middle of the night and after the obligatory prayers.” [at-Tirmidhi]
Ibn `Allan comments, with respect to supplicating at night, it is the best time “due to the perfection of his directing himself towards his Lord, and the absence of relations [= with others] and distractions, because it is a time of divine theophanies and descent of Lordly outpourings.” [ibid.]
Please also see: Struggling to Have Children: Ten Key Etiquettes of Du’a and: Suffering and Divine Wisdom
And Allah alone gives success.
Tabraze Azam
Checked & Approved by Shaykh Faraz Rabbani.

Things Inconsistent With Accepting Fate – Imam Ghazali

Accepting Fate:
“Complaining, no matter what the circumstances, is inconsistent with accepting fate. Criticizing food and finding fault with it is a rejection of what Allah Most High has destined, since blaming what is made is blaming the maker, and everything is Allah’s work.
For a person to say that ‘poverty is an affliction and trial,’ or ‘having a family to support is worry and fatigue,’ or ‘working for a living is a
burden and hardship’ – all this is inconsistent with accepting fate.
One should rather leave the plan to its planner, the kingdom to its king, and say, as ‘Umar did (Allah be well pleased with him), ‘I do not care whether I become rich or poor, for I don’t know which is better for me.’” [Reliance of the Traveller, w59.1]

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Reliance of the Traveller:
Relevant Resources:
Trust in Allah and Provisions for Seekers of Knowledge
Divine Decree, Contentment, and Lessons From the Prophet’s Life
Affirming Free Will and the Divine Decree
Belief in Destiny, It’s Good and Evil – Shaykh Nuh Keller – Sea without Shore
Can Supplication Change Destiny?
IslamCast Daily Hadith – 8. The Muslim as a Source of Safety and Trust
Faith in Divine Unity & Trust in Divine Providence with Shaykh Yahya Rhodus

Can Supplication Change Destiny?

Answered by Shaykh Faraz Rabbani

Question : Can du’a change qadr?


[1] There is no doubt that the Divine Decree is eternal–beyond time–and therefore not subject to “change.”

[2] Du`a’ “changes” destiny in the relative sense: it is a means (like other means) towards the good, so it turns to flow of one’s life towards the good, by Divine facilitation, in accordance with the eternal Decree (qada’) of Allah.

[3] To understand this, one must appreciate that there are two types of decree (qada’):

(a) The absolute decree (al-qada’ al-mubram), which is what Allah willed in eternity. This isn’t subject to change, by definition; and

(b) The relative or conditional decree (al-qada’ al-mu`allaq), which is the direction in which the flow of life events seems to be going. This is what can change. This could be referred to as “apparent destiny.”
And Allah alone gives success.

Faraz Rabbani.