Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad  Question I have been married for over six years and my in-laws have never liked me. They live two hours away and when we stay with them every weekend, they always criticize my diet, my having a job, my parenting, and my housekeeping. We had an argument recently when I […]

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question I slept with my fiance. We will get married when he is able to come to my country. I had tried to get his visa so that we could get married, but now I am 8 months pregnant. I want to repent for all the Zina. I have thoughts […]

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question I and my husband are living distantly right now. My question is while being distant does the same rule apply to us in case of discharge and ghusl? Kindly elaborate. Answer Thank you for your question. In the Shafi’i school, the only type of discharge that requires a ritual […]

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question My parents accept the man I love but his parents are opposed because I am elder than him. My parents are old and they want to see me married soon, so what can I do? I don’t want to marry without their consent. Answer Thank you for your question. […]

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question If someone touches more than one type of excused filth, can one consider one’s hand still pure? If at 11 am, there’s a little water splash on one’s clothes while washing filth but it is less than 5 cm, then at 11:30 am, the same thing happens again. If […]

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question The man I wish to marry has told me his family won’t agree to our marriage based on the fact they had an issue with one of my family members which offended them. We both want to get married regardless of the issue, how can I make this situation […]

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question My husband said the following to me on three separate occasions without explicitly saying, “I divorce you.” 1) We argued while I was pregnant, and he said I could take my child and go away after the child was born. 2) Another time, he told me that if I […]

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question In the Shafi‘i school, how do I purify something that had najas fall on it if flowing water destroys it? For example, electronics, especially with exposed circuit boards, which can be quite expensive, thin paper, etc. Especially if I need to handle these items regularly with non-dry hands or […]

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question I know masturbation is haram. However, all the discourse on sex toys only mentions non-penetrative ones like a vibrator. So, are dildos before marriage the equivalent of actual Zina (fornication)? Does it take away virginity? Answer Thank you for your question. Virginity Using dildos does not take away virginity. […]

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question I met this boy online & after a year he wants to get serious and marry me. But since we live in different cities, he wants me to visit him and spend a day with him in a hotel room. He swears that he wants to pursue marriage with […]

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question I have been hiding my hijab from my whole family for over two years. Only my younger sister knows. My parents are Muslims but don’t believe in the hijab. Once they saw a picture of me with the hijab outside and they were devastated for days and begged me […]

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question My husband travels for work many times a year, each time for a month or two. We live in his parents’ house, and he often leaves me with his parents and brother. He lets me visit my parents when he’s away but expects me to spend most of the […]

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question Children born of fornication are related to the mother, but isn’t it unfair when both have committed fornication that the mother bears the only burden when fathers can live free? These innocent children suffer from growing up without a father. Beyond the fiqh, isn’t it more in line with […]

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question I am a 29-year-old Muslim woman who has been searching for a spouse for a little less than 2 years. I am so confused. I am a practicing Muslim. I pray, fast, read Quran, etc. I grew up in a conservative Muslim community in America. I attended halaqaat, led […]

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question My husband and I live in the USA and my husband’s family is in another country. Recently, my mother-in-law had a stroke, and her left side is paralyzed, so she needs help with everything, including going to the restroom. Some people at home can help her, but they are […]

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question Is it considered disobeying my parents if they told me to never go on Discord again and they hid my phone and I still found it and use it? They mean for good. I use it to ask Islamic questions, refute others about Islam, learn the duas and Quran, […]

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question What are my rights as a woman when seeking a spouse, and what should my preferences be? Obviously, piety is non-negotiable; however, can I consider other things? I feel my parents are discarding my preferences, such as which country I will be living in, what school of fiqh my […]

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question I’m 24 years old; I have a fiance I will marry in a few months. We were having an inappropriate conversation a few days ago, which I admit was wrong, and my fiance said she wanted to make love with a Hollywood celebrity. I scolded her and told her […]

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question I had intimacy when my menses ended but before the ritual bath. It was unintentional and my husband stopped immediately after I told him I’m impure. I had a ghusl at 9 pm but noticed blood shortly after. So in actuality, we were intimate mistakenly because it was not […]

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question I’m a female and I have a constant feeling that maniyy is being discharged based on some thoughts. I have pain near the private area so I’m unsure if I ejaculated so I continue going to the toilet to check if I did release maniyy by inserting tissue and […]

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question Can you motivate me to do good deeds? I want to improve my relationship with Allah Most High to attain a high level of Paradise. But then I get very unmotivated because it feels pointless. After all, it feels like no matter what level of paradise a woman has, […]

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question I have two friends who insulted each other’s mothers and also engaged in a fight. I chose to be neutral, but both friends who no longer speak to each other, consider me disloyal. Is it disloyal for me to stay neutral and how should I try to mend their […]

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question I have two friends who insulted each other’s mothers and also engaged in a fight. I chose to be neutral, but both friends who no longer speak to each other, consider me disloyal. Is it disloyal for me to stay neutral and how should I try to mend their […]

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question My sister told me she has been in a relationship with a guy for a year, and I’m the only one she trusts with this information. I made it clear that I disapproved of this relationship due to obvious religious and cultural beliefs, but I told her that I […]