Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question My teenage son is 15 years old. He is involved in vaping, smoking, taking weed and selling it to underage children. We have spoken to him about the harms, admonished him and regularly check his bedroom. Despite taking those steps he is still obtaining the above items. We are […]

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question I am 19 years old and my cousin is 21. We wish to get married within a few years. We would like to tell our parents about our feelings for each other but we cannot as they would say we are too young and we should finish our studies […]

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question If someone has told me a secret or I know a fault or sin of theirs, and I disclose it to others, then how should I go about repenting from it? I know that sins that include the rights of others need the rights to be returned as a […]

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question It has been only been 13 months since I married, but during this period, my husband and I went through an emotional roller coaster. I have stayed with him for 6 months as we were separated the rest of the time. It bothers me that he is way too […]

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question Can “Abdul Hamid” be registered or used as “Hamid” only? We like the name “Hammad” but our elders are insisting that we keep “Abdul Hamid”. People usually call only by one name; we are confused. Answer Thank you for your question. It is permissible to call your son Hameed […]

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question Whenever I am confused or lose my hope in dua, I see signs.  For example, I lost hope, then I picked up my phone, opened Youtube and the title of the first video was “Never give up on dua,” or “Trust in Allah!” Many things like this happen to […]

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question I have been unsuccessful with marriage in London for five years using all the usual means. Can you advise me on approaching a woman I find attractive in a public area to get her father’s number? This can be done with adab and taqwa. I would prefer an honorable […]

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question I am a stay-at-home mom of two boys, 4 and 5 years old, one of whom is non-verbal autistic) and I am pregnant with my third. My husband is a good hard-working man, but he doesn’t listen to me or speak to me. I moved away from my entire […]

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question I often find rulings of Islam difficult. Due to this, I start believing that Islam is a difficult religion. Allah could have made urine and other discharges pure so that we could have avoided many hardships. Does this thinking make me a kafir? I don’t suffer from waswasa. I […]

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question I have wanted to marry a guy I’ve known since childhood, and he likes me as well. But the problem is that we are not ready for marriage at all. Yesterday I made istikhara and asked if I should marry this guy in the future or not, right after […]

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question Due to some terrible times when I was younger, I don’t really have the emotional ability to ever get married. Alhamdulillah, lust is not an issue either for me. But marriage is an emphasized sunna, and I do not want to lose the immense reward it may bring. What […]

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question Is following models and actors on social media platforms like Instagram haram? Answer Thank you for your question. May Allah reward you for your important question, for this is an all too common phenomenon. Why? My first question is why would someone want to follow a famous Hollywood actor […]

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question I’m overthinking my intentions when I worship. Why am I doing this anyway? Do I really want to be Muslim or is it just because of the trend or my friends are looking so pious? Do I even really love or fear Allah? And it’s immobilizing. I’m overthinking to […]

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question My dad currently doesn’t provide for us, and never did, because he believes the government benefits suffice. He said my brother got £1000 a week, but he really gets £67. My dad doesn’t listen when I tell him we need him to provide, or that it is his obligation. […]

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question I’m 25 years old. When I was 15, I was married to my cousin in an arranged marriage. I never felt loved nor did I really love him. We have 3 kids now, and my husband recently took a second wife which I’m very hurt about. Over the years […]

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question My husband is physically and verbally abusive towards me and my grown-up daughters. Due to his constant taunting and insult, I have started hating him and don’t feel any intimacy towards him although I never refused him in bed. I want to get rid of this painful relationship but […]

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question I am suffering from digestive issues and lately after using the restroom a little bit of stool comes out no matter how hard I try to clean. But this is just a little that I usually need to check with toilet paper if it has come out. This usually […]

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question I started practicing this year but recently I feel as though Allah doesn’t like me, even though I pray now. I try my best but I still sin and I can’t stop. Now when I make dua to Allah I fear He will ignore me and not answer me. […]

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question Unfortunately, my faith just keeps on decreasing because all I see is that Islam judges something that is beyond our control. For example, men who will go to heaven know there is hoor al-‘ayn waiting for them and are eager to meet them while women only get one husband. […]

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question I am 27 years old. I have found my way back to Islam and want to become closer to Allah. I have been with a man for six years, and I am no longer a virgin, and I’ve lived with him for the last 3 years. I know I […]

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question Some clothes are completely wearable but visibly used and/or old so I don’t use them as I have better clothes for the context in which I would wear them (going out, salah, etc.). I dislike donating these to the poor as they’re in a condition that is disrespectful to […]

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question Can a Muslim feel sorry for a non-muslim’s hardship or is it a sin? Answer Thank you for your question. It is permissible to feel compassion for the hardships that any human goes through, otherwise, it would be inhumane. The Prophet (Allah bless him and give him peace) was […]

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question How do we deal with relatives who are not pious? They verbally abuse us, make us angry and trouble our minds. They are too close to us but they behave horribly. They are dominating and prefer money over people. They are selfish, greedy, and do nothing good for us. […]

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question Does one sibling have a right to physically abuse, derogate, and insult the other sibling on their private affairs? Parents are alive. Both are adults with the abuser younger in age than the abused. Can the abuser leave the family on the lines of “moral duty” to do a […]