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Ustadha Shazia Ahmad

August 20, 2023 3 mins

Can I Pray to Allah That I Marry My Classmate from University?

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question I am a university student, 23 years old, and all my life, I have had low confidence and been an introvert. I had many childhood crushes in the past, but now in my class, I have started to like this girl so much that I have started praying five […]
August 20, 2023 3 mins

Should I Continue to Wait for a Boy Who Says He Will Propose to Me?

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question I’m unsure if I should continue waiting for a boy who claims to want to marry me. I prayed istikhara many times and received signs that were too hard to ignore, so I decided to go through with everything. We cannot marry right now due to family and personal […]
August 18, 2023 3 mins

Is It Haram for Me to Reject My Parent’s Decision to Force Me to Marry Someone...

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question My parents are forcing me to get married to someone I don’t want to marry. They say they’ll not pay for my education if I don’t get married and a whole year of my course is left! They are also going to cut off all ties with me if […]
August 18, 2023 4 mins

What Should I Do If My Husband Is Leaving Me Due to Infertility?

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question I’ve been married for almost six years now. My husband and I are trying to conceive. We had a miscarriage at the beginning of our marriage but no success afterward. I was diagnosed with a hormonal disorder two years ago, making it hard to conceive. Now, my husband wants […]
August 18, 2023 3 mins

Can You Advise Me in My Desperation to Get Married?

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question I want to get married. Sorry, I’m ashamed to say this, but I am tormented by dreams of intimacy. I’m a 27-year-old girl (this age is like the end of life for me), and suitors are not coming. The same ones are not coming back, and my situation is […]
August 18, 2023 4 mins

How Do I Deal with Controlling Parents Who Want to Choose My Career?

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question My parents are Muslim, but they’re kind of Islamophobic. They oppose my avoiding the haram, such as not listening to music and wearing a niqab & burqa, and they oppose anything that’s commonly not considered haram by others. They want me to study medicine which I hate. I got […]
August 18, 2023 2 mins

Can I Marry a Man After He Converts or Must He Practice?

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question I am in love with someone who isn’t Muslim. We want to get married, and I would only marry him if he became Muslim. Is his taking the Shahada enough, or must he also commit to practicing the religion? I have done research but I am getting very confused […]
August 17, 2023 2 mins

Why Did Allah Make Me Fall in Love with Someone I Wasn’t Meant to Be With?

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question I loved someone very truly, I started to pray tahajjud for him. Yet after a year, I fell in love with someone else. That the decision was not in my control and I believe that Allah’s plan is the best. Why did Allah have to bring the first man […]
August 17, 2023 3 mins

Can My Father Stop Seeing My Sister Because She Moved In With a Man?

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question My sister has moved out and has moved in with a man when she told my father it was a woman. She has a boyfriend who is not the man she lives with. When we found out, my father told her to move back home, as he never approved […]
August 13, 2023 2 mins

What Should I Do Now That I Told a Girl I Want to Marry Her?

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question I confessed my love to a girl yesterday, and my intentions are to marry her. I talked to her for a few months, but I’m not ready for marriage because I’m still a student. I wanted to lay the foundation so I could speak to her father when I’m […]
August 13, 2023 3 mins

What Can I Do To Have My Mom Pray 5 Times a Day?

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question I want my mom to pray, she started to pray, but she is lazy, doesn’t pray regularly, and watches TV. It makes me angry when I tell her about prayer, and I explain to her about the torment of the grave. I tell her that she will be asked […]
August 13, 2023 1 min

Can I Name My Child Arham?

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question Can I name my child “Arham”? Answer Thank you for your question. May Allah bless you with a healthy and God-fearing child, and may He be the coolness of your eyes and pleasing to Allah Most High. The word Arham (أرحم) is famously known for describing Allah Most High. […]
August 12, 2023 2 mins

How Do I Stop Getting Distracted by How Imperfect My Duas Are?

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question I know we should concentrate on our duas while making them. But what if our mind gets diverted while making dua (especially to thoughts about how my dua is imperfect)? Sometimes I remain mentally stuck on my previous dua while reciting the current one; then, I get anxious about […]
August 8, 2023 4 mins

What Should I Do after Catching My Newlywed Husband Chatting on a Dating App?

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question I am a 26-year-old Muslim woman who has been married for two months. It was hard in the first month of living together because of leaving my mom’s house. I have been very depressed, and I sometimes neglected my husband because of frustration and anger. Now, I discovered that, […]
August 8, 2023 2 mins

Can I Be White in Paradise Instead of Black?

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question I really hope there is no race in heaven because if I get there, I hope I won’t be black again. I don’t want to be black. In Paradise, we get whatever the soul could ever desire, so of course, I would want all my good and honorable desires […]
August 8, 2023 2 mins

Do I Need My Parents’ Permission to Marry, as They Disapprove?

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question I am a 31-year-old Muslim male, and two years ago, I got to know a girl who is practicing Muslim alhamdulillah. We got engaged but then broke it off three months ago. We got in contact again, and we wish to get our nikah done. However, my parents are […]
August 6, 2023 4 mins

How Can I Deal with Verbally Abusive Parents without Showing Disrespect?

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question My parents, my mother, in particular, do not treat me well and try to find ways to abuse me verbally daily. I am a 20-year-old man, and I also have some dignity, but she always tries to find reasons to shout at me and use abusive language with me […]
August 6, 2023 3 mins

Can You Advise Me on the Pain of Still Being Unmarried at 33 Years Old?

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question I am an unmarried 33-year-old sister, which is affecting me a lot. I met two good brothers who were serious, but it didn’t work out with either of them for various reasons. My mind sometimes wanders to the past, and I think about them both, and this bothers me, […]
August 6, 2023 2 mins

Is It Obligatory for Me to Take Care of My In-Laws or Parents?

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question I’m a Muslim woman, a wife, mother of 3, and live in a joint family with my in-laws. I’m trying my best to fulfill my duties, but still, I’m not perfect. Is it fard for me to take care of my in-laws or my parents? Answer Thank you for […]
August 6, 2023 4 mins

How Can I Go On When My Beloved Was Forced to Marry Someone Else?

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question A girl and I want to get married. We met her 18 months ago, and we were serious. Her family, however, was on her case for over a year to marry someone else until she gave in and said yes because of the torment. I am now left distraught, […]
August 6, 2023 2 mins

Is It Permissible to Register at Andrew Tate’s Hustler’s University?

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question Are Shafi‘is allowed to join and make money from Andrew Tate’s The Real World/Hustler’s University organization? If yes, which of the courses that are provided there can we learn/make money from? Answer Thank you for your question. May Allah reward you for wanting to acquire sustenance (rizq) that is […]
August 6, 2023 3 mins

Must I Proceed with Marrying My Fiance Whom I Slept with Even When He Hits Me?

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question Please don’t judge that I have committed the sin of zina with my fiancé. He is all good but short-tempered and hit me in the face when I found out he was cheating on me and making out with another girl. He broke my phone and hit me. We […]
August 6, 2023 2 mins

When Does the Prayer Ends?

Answered by Ustadh Sufyan Qufi Question Recently I prayed Fajr, and I know that when it comes to Fajr, one must complete the whole prayer before Sunrise. Once I had made my second salam, I looked at the clock, and Sunrise had just passed by around 3 seconds. Note this clock was a digital, synced […]
August 5, 2023 2 mins

Is It Permissible for My Teenage Daughter to Learn Martial Arts with a Male?

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question My 14-year-old daughter is learning martial arts from a male instructor in a group class with other young students at school. She is doing this as she has weak muscles and very poor fitness. She wears modest clothing, and there is no touching involved at all. Is this permitted? […]