Ustadha Shazia Ahmad

April 4, 2025 3 mins

Can I Stay Friends with People Who Curse, Backbite, and Sin?

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question Can I remain friends with those who swear, backbite, or engage in sinful entertainment if leaving them would harm my mental health? I’ve done istikhara and feel inclined to keep them for da’wah, but making new friends is difficult. Answer Thank you for your question. I empathize with your […]
April 4, 2025 4 mins

Can I Stay in Contact with My Beloved Until We Marry?

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question I am a 15-year-old girl in a serious relationship who plans to marry at 19. I know dating is haram, and my parents are strict and won’t consider marriage for me now. We feel guilty but struggle to let go. Is there any ruling that permits staying in contact […]
April 4, 2025 2 mins

Can I Take My Daughter to a Church for a Family Activity?

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question Is it permissible in Islam to take my 2-year-old daughter to a church for family stay-and-play activities? Answer Thank you for your question. No, this would be impermissible and goes against Islamic principles and the proper upbringing of your daughter in the eyes of your Lord. Entering a Church […]
March 30, 2025 3 mins

What to Do When I Saw My Husband Had Indecent Photos of My Sister?

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question I discovered that my husband secretly saved a private image of my sister from my phone, and this is the second time he has done so. He also appears to view indecent images online despite praying regularly and being otherwise kind. I have not confronted him because he will […]
March 30, 2025 2 mins

How Can I Guide My Teen Back to Islam When She Lives a Double Life?

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question How can we guide our teenage daughter back to Islam when she lives a double life, breaks family rules, and engages in harmful activities despite our efforts? Answer Thank you for your question. I empathize with your pain, and you are not alone in this. Patience, bonding, dua, and […]
March 30, 2025 3 mins

Is It Permissible to Become the Godmother of a Christian Child?

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question I am a recent revert to Islam, and my family is Christian and Islamophobic; they recently found out about me accepting Islam. A couple of months ago, when I was still new to everything and didn’t have much knowledge, a relative asked me to become the Christian godmother of […]
March 30, 2025 3 mins

Why Do I Keep Getting Sabotaged Despite My Commitment to Allah?

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question Why do important moments in my life keep getting sabotaged despite me praying and fasting? How can I break this cycle and move forward? Answer Thank you for your question. Allah’s wisdom is greater than our understanding, and these moments of sabotage may carry hidden blessings. Test It was […]
March 26, 2025 2 mins

Can I Cut Ties with a Sexually Abusive Father?

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question Can a daughter permanently cut ties with a father who sexually abused her and caused severe trauma? Under what conditions is breaking ties with kinship permissible? Answer Thank you for your question. You can and should cut ties with your father for now, but please focus on your healing […]
March 16, 2025 3 mins

Should a Wife Obey Her Husband or Care for Her Sick and Poor Mother?

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question Should a wife prioritize obeying her husband or caring for her sick and poor mother, who has no one else to help her, when she cannot provide financial support but wishes to serve her? Answer Thank you for your question. Obedience to the husband and caring for your mother […]
March 8, 2025 3 mins

Is It UnIslamic to Refuse to Hug Grandparents?

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question How should children be taught to balance respect for their personal space while still honoring elders in an Islamic manner? Does allowing them to refuse physical greetings, such as hugs from grandparents, encourage disrespect? Answer Thank you for your question. Yes, it is generally unIslamic and disrespectful to encourage […]
March 7, 2025 4 mins

How Can A Marriage Be Dissolved Islamically After a Civil Divorce and Rejection ...

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question The wife initiated a legal divorce under Ontario law, and a divorce certificate has been issued. Mehr and gifts were returned and acknowledged by the ex-husband’s father. The ex-husband previously refused to sign Khul‘a papers. Is his signature required for the Khul‘a to be valid, and are there other […]
March 7, 2025 4 mins

How Can I Convince My Wife to Pray as She Gets Upset When I Bring It Up?

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question How can I encourage my wife to establish her prayer without triggering anger or resistance, given that she reacts negatively whenever I bring up the topic? Answer Thank you for your question. You can do so with wisdom, patience, and gentleness; in sha Allah, you will find much good […]
March 2, 2025 4 mins

How Can I Set Limits on My Teen Daughter’s Screen Time?

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question How can I set boundaries on my 17-year-old daughter’s screen use if it is affecting her mental health, responsibilities, and daily well-being? Answer Thank you for your question. Many parents and I empathize with this issue, and may Allah give you ease and wisdom in rectifying the problem. Five […]
March 1, 2025 3 mins

Should I Consult a Scholar About My Past Family Issues or Forget Them?

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question I grew up in a family with frequent disputes, which even concerned our neighbors. Should I consult a scholar about these issues, or should I move on and focus on my life? Answer Thank you for your question. Simply by seeing your question, I know that you have unresolved […]
March 1, 2025 2 mins

Is It Permissible to Wear a Necklace over One’s Hijab?

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question Is it permissible for women to wear necklaces over their hijab, considering the Quran’s mention of “except what ordinarily appears”? Answer Thank you for your question. Necklaces do not count as what normally appears, but the type of necklace is also a factor. Quranic Injunction Allah commands the believing […]
March 1, 2025 4 mins

Is It Unjust That My Husband Issued Me a Divorce Without Notice?

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question My husband left for Germany to repay his father’s loan with an agreement to return in two years. After repaying the loan, he changed his behavior, shared our private matters with his friends, and issued a divorce letter without notifying me. Given that he knew I was waiting for […]
February 28, 2025 3 mins

Should I Marry My Practicing Ex-Boyfriend?

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question Should I marry a practicing Muslim I had a past haram relationship with, despite my mother’s concerns, or wait for another suitable match? Answer I can’t tell you what to do, but your decision must be based on changing yourselves into righteous people, repenting from your past and not […]
February 23, 2025 3 mins

How Can a Woman Grow Spiritually in This Modern Society?

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question What is the role of women in moral and spiritual growth, and how can they maintain spirituality despite modern societal challenges? Answer Thank you for your question. Growing spiritually is a challenge for anyone in this modern society and more so for women who have a multitude of expectations […]
February 22, 2025 1 min

Is It Haram That the Shape of My Ears Show with My Hijab?

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question I wear a tight hijab to cover my neck and hair, but the shape of my ears is visible despite my efforts to hide them. Is this permissible? Answer Thank you for your question. It is permissible that the shape of your ears show. Modesty Islam is a religion […]
February 16, 2025 2 mins

Is It Haram to Give Information to the Animist Father of a Prospective Bride?

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question Can a Muslim couple provide the suitor’s parents’ names to the woman’s animist father, who wants to consult ancestors for guidance before approving their marriage? Answer Thank you for your question. It would be impermissible to assist in the sin of animism, so please avoid giving their names. Parents […]
February 14, 2025 4 mins

How Can I Balance Family, Work, and Caregiving Without Sacrificing My Well-Being...

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question I am overwhelmed with the responsibilities of supporting my elderly, financially unstable parents, managing my job, and caring for my children and home. My husband cannot assist financially or with childcare, and I am struggling with stress and health issues. How can I balance these obligations while preserving my […]
February 9, 2025 2 mins

How Can I Convince My Husband to Let Me Spend Time with His Son?

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question My husband has a 4-year-old son from a previous marriage and wants to have him overnight every other weekend. However, he prefers to take him to his sister’s house instead of ours to spare his ex-wife’s feelings. I feel excluded and believe this sets a bad precedent for our […]
February 9, 2025 3 mins

Should I Tell a Mother What Her Teenager Is Doing Behind Her Back?

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question A 13-year-old boy lies to his mother, secretly uses a phone, spends large sums on clothing, sells gift cards, and keeps bad company. His mother is unaware of the full extent of his behavior due to his convincing lies. Should I tell her the truth or suggest sending him […]
February 3, 2025 2 mins

Is It Permissible to Restrict a Masjid Lecture to Women Only?

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question Our mosque’s girls’ committee plans to organize a religious lecture by a sister trained in Islamic theology. Is it permissible to restrict the masjid to women only during the lecture, likely held after Maghrib or Isha? Answer Thank you for your question. It is permissible to do so but […]
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